Dr. King describes the white moderate as someone who says “”I agree with you in the goal you seek, but I cannot agree with your methods of direct action”; who paternalistically believes he can set the timetable for another man’s freedom; who lives by a mythical concept of time and who constantly advises the Negro to wait for a “more convenient season.” In short, he describes the white moderate as someone who is “more concerned with order than justice.”
This. I obviously don't represent the black community, so please feel free to correct me if I'm wrong, but this is what I believe. He sought justice through non-violence, NOT non-conflict.
Also emphasis on the justice before non-violence.
I think this is the biggest misconception we have of him. People in a relatively comfortable position claim the champions of non-violence and use them to preach "peace". The problem being that they perceive peace as no conflict. But that's not the point. Peace to these people wasn't the lack of conflict or challenge of the status quo, it's the lack of violence. The point was to vehemently challenge injustice loudly and visibly.
We loosely associate MLK with only peace, and in our privileged world peace is a place in order, without tension or blame. We create this image of him somehow silently affecting change without offending anyone and parade him as a non-confrontational sacrificial saint. Which is in stark contrast to the man that created such upheaval that he was murdered out of fear.
The simple and bad logic is
MLK=non-violence non-violence=non-conflict non-conflict=don't offend me on the internet or insult my way of life.
We want to forget/ignore the justice part because justice is still due.
So, I challenge those who want to turn this thread into, "don't label/offend me" to consider this. If you are offended by being grouped into a demographic of people resisting progress and justice why should you identify with that group and take that offense? When the term white society is used, in my mind, it is capturing the general society that has an advantage over blacks and is slow in progress towards equalization and justice. It makes up a large portion of what we are. If you are a person that wants to help or at least empathizes, then don't take offense.
Make no mistake though, telling the black community that they shouldn't be offended, that they shouldn't complain, that they shouldn't demand action from the white community, that they shouldn't be inconvenient, that they shouldn't cause tension, that
they shouldn't offend anyone , and so on, literally puts you in a stance of resistance to progress. When it's more important for you not to be offended, than those experiencing injustice to be heard, I believe perspective is lost. Or there is no empathy there, but I expect/hope that isn't the case.
Also, if your claim is that being offensive is not conducive to progress towards alliance and friendship, consider that this isn't exactly a mission of friendship, it's a mission of justice. How can you expect a relationship to be friendly before equality is established?
Edit: Better said by kswis