Flying_Phoenix
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We should just have an official "Why facebook sucks" thread.
This is why Facebook sucks
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SlackAdjuster
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I'm pretty much against kids being on facebook period.
Yeah everyone doesn't need to be in everyone's ass all the time. If i make another Facebook account i'm just adding people who do interesting status updates or photos. No family, workmates, school/uni people or people i don't know that well. I kinda doubt i'd go back actually, pretty much everyone i know falls into one of those groups or doesn't use Facebook.
Zaraki_Kenpachi
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Well, I would think one makes the assumption that it makes things a lot more public. The probability of this person actually calling up the children and telling them this is a million times less likely than "accidently" telling them on facebook (at least I would hope). So it sucks that it makes certain private things more public but it's not facebook's fault, it's a "problem" with any social site.
Bomber Bob
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Always-honest
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Yes, people are fucking idiots.
And some of these idiots use Facebook. A social network that can be used for all different things.
And some of these idiots use Facebook. A social network that can be used for all different things.
I used to think like that too.
You probably don't have kids. If you did, you'd want to stay alive, no matter what pain you're in, just to see them another day.
shanshan310
Member
One of the reasons why I dislike facebook as well =/ Some people are really REALLY bad about keeping things on the down low, and facebook provides them an outlet with the biggest possible audience. The amount of times I've been trying to organise some small get together and then someone posts "OMG SO EXCITED FOR SHANSHAN310'S EVENT ON SUNDAY!!" my god, you know how awkward it is, because then people ask ME if they can come. arrrgggh.
Snkfanatic
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This...they just want sympathy and to feel special. Sorry to hear about your sister in law. Hope things get better.
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Deleted member 1235
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I would normally just agree, but this is just a combination of grief and a misunderstanding of technology.
you need to give her quick lessons on the impact of facebook posts OP.
The Elite
BOSS
I don't know why, but this bugged me. I get that it's intensive care and their are precautions but not letting the kids see their mom unless she's about to die seems cold.
schroddycat
Member
Facebook doesn't suck. It's the only thing that sends out birthday reminders to my social acquaintances and how I got a massive flood of birthday wishes.
And hope your sister in law is ok.
And hope your sister in law is ok.
I had a friend in ICU recently and I understand the prohibition, though it seems harsh. Nine times out of ten the patient is in such a bad state that they won't even know you're there. You also want to reduce the chances of infection and any non-essential visitors raises that risk. And also, the ICU is a very noisy and pretty unpleasant place to be. Monitors and life support equipment are beeping and making a lot of noise and that can be frightening to kids. I know it certainly disconcerted me and I'm a lot older than the OP's nephews and nieces. Felt like being in a spaceship that was experiencing major technical issues.
tycoonheart
Member
Maybe it was the sister-in-law's wish that her kids not see or hear about how bad her situation is?
Chuck (Old)
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People take Facebook way too seriously.
aparisi2274
Member
Sorry to hear about your Sister in law, my dad passed away due to Cancer back in Sept, so I know how it feels, but why are you blaming a social media site for the stupidity of your relatives? Facebook did not go and post an update about your SiL, a family member did.
The Albatross
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Yeah, this is a mix of technology enabling idiots and idiots being idiots.
I had a problem at work where I posted a photo of my halloween costume a couple of weeks ago, which I was Zombie Arthur Miller, the playwright. We ended up getting snowed in and couldn't go to this party that we were supposed to go to. I work for a school and the next day after this blizzard (a Sunday), the school had lost electricity, classes were cancelled and the school was closed for Monday. I also lost power and my cell phone had died by the morning, so I didn't receive any of the calls at 9am on Sunday to update our website and make the necessary announcements. By 11am, my street had been plowed and I was able to get to an internet cafe to make the updates and arrange to get announcements out.
Yet, a bunch of idiots losers obsessed with people's private lives, started spreading a rumor that the real reason I didn't get the announcement up at 9am on sunday was that I was hammered the night before (on Saturday) and just slept through it. My boss defended me about these rumors, but still asked about it and told me to be weary what I post to Facebook -- but I defended myself, it was a photo of my halloween costume and that was all, soemthign that really shouldn't imply anything other than that it's a halloween costume. This is something that I consider "Safe for Facebook," yet a bunch of sexless virgin losers who have no lives and are obsessed with gossipping like school girls (these are 30+ year old men we're talking about), go around spreading rumors about alcoholism, all based on a halloween costume.
Now, I've always had those idiots in block groups, but I still didn't think that I'd have to block that particular photo from them. So, when I put them all completely in a block group, they feel vindicated after that -- like they've uncovered some secret about my life, and now that's what they're gossiping about. The thing is, I don't want to de-friend them because, of course, then they'll talk about that, and I DO have to work with them from time to time.
There certainly are a lot more problems now with the cohesiveness of social networks. I particularly feel bad for young kids, high school aged kids. Back when I was a kid, if you had a really shitty day at school, got picked on or something embarrassing happened, you could go home and that would pretty much be a 'safe zone' from the bullying from that day. It was before kids had their own cell phones and it was easier to disconnect. Now, with facebook, the cohesion of social networks, and the pervasiveness of mobile connectivity, kids have no ability to escape or disconnect. They could learn skills on how to do that, but it's difficult, and the speed of development in those cohesive, intrusive networks outpaces the speed at which we get accustomed to dealing with the problems that they present. I really feel bad for young people now who have all of these great ways of keeping in touch, but now, have no ability to have private, disconnected lives. Part of me really wonders if it is making a dramatic change in personalities.
I had a problem at work where I posted a photo of my halloween costume a couple of weeks ago, which I was Zombie Arthur Miller, the playwright. We ended up getting snowed in and couldn't go to this party that we were supposed to go to. I work for a school and the next day after this blizzard (a Sunday), the school had lost electricity, classes were cancelled and the school was closed for Monday. I also lost power and my cell phone had died by the morning, so I didn't receive any of the calls at 9am on Sunday to update our website and make the necessary announcements. By 11am, my street had been plowed and I was able to get to an internet cafe to make the updates and arrange to get announcements out.
Yet, a bunch of idiots losers obsessed with people's private lives, started spreading a rumor that the real reason I didn't get the announcement up at 9am on sunday was that I was hammered the night before (on Saturday) and just slept through it. My boss defended me about these rumors, but still asked about it and told me to be weary what I post to Facebook -- but I defended myself, it was a photo of my halloween costume and that was all, soemthign that really shouldn't imply anything other than that it's a halloween costume. This is something that I consider "Safe for Facebook," yet a bunch of sexless virgin losers who have no lives and are obsessed with gossipping like school girls (these are 30+ year old men we're talking about), go around spreading rumors about alcoholism, all based on a halloween costume.
Now, I've always had those idiots in block groups, but I still didn't think that I'd have to block that particular photo from them. So, when I put them all completely in a block group, they feel vindicated after that -- like they've uncovered some secret about my life, and now that's what they're gossiping about. The thing is, I don't want to de-friend them because, of course, then they'll talk about that, and I DO have to work with them from time to time.
There certainly are a lot more problems now with the cohesiveness of social networks. I particularly feel bad for young kids, high school aged kids. Back when I was a kid, if you had a really shitty day at school, got picked on or something embarrassing happened, you could go home and that would pretty much be a 'safe zone' from the bullying from that day. It was before kids had their own cell phones and it was easier to disconnect. Now, with facebook, the cohesion of social networks, and the pervasiveness of mobile connectivity, kids have no ability to escape or disconnect. They could learn skills on how to do that, but it's difficult, and the speed of development in those cohesive, intrusive networks outpaces the speed at which we get accustomed to dealing with the problems that they present. I really feel bad for young people now who have all of these great ways of keeping in touch, but now, have no ability to have private, disconnected lives. Part of me really wonders if it is making a dramatic change in personalities.
I certainly feel for you, OP. I can't imagine what dealing with this is like, especially around the holidays.
I've got one question, though. I was kind of surprised to see that a 10 and 13 year old are using facebook. I've never used facebook, but what I gather from the masses is that it's not an appropriate place for kids. I don't know, maybe I'm just being naive, but my oldest son is 8 and I just can't imagine him having a facebook account in 2 years.
I've got one question, though. I was kind of surprised to see that a 10 and 13 year old are using facebook. I've never used facebook, but what I gather from the masses is that it's not an appropriate place for kids. I don't know, maybe I'm just being naive, but my oldest son is 8 and I just can't imagine him having a facebook account in 2 years.
ReBurn
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Some people I know have it as their home page and they stay logged in. So a child using a shared computer could see it.
sixteen-bit
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Sorry to hear about that situation
Lord_Byron28
Member
I'm sorry about your sister.
I personally don't blame Facebook for the user's fault. I do however really hate how many dumb people/friends I have that literally post and go on rants about a news article from some random place and the news info they have is false. I can't tell you how many incorrect news headlines and articles that people post on their walls. That and the hide feature which basically allows people to rant about their drama/you but makes it so you can't see it but all the other 1000s of people can.
I personally don't blame Facebook for the user's fault. I do however really hate how many dumb people/friends I have that literally post and go on rants about a news article from some random place and the news info they have is false. I can't tell you how many incorrect news headlines and articles that people post on their walls. That and the hide feature which basically allows people to rant about their drama/you but makes it so you can't see it but all the other 1000s of people can.
Ignatz Mouse
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For everybody jumping on the OP for naming Facebook the culprit, cut him a little slack, considering the situation.
Mammoth Jones
Member
The flaw isn't facebook. It's the gossipy Aunt. If she went around making phone calls and someone calls the kids to ask them how they're going with their mom about to die and the kids got hysterical the flaw wouldn't be the phone.
Aunt is a douchebag that should be chewed out. Ironically, I'd do it publicly, on Facebook for all to see.
Aunt is a douchebag that should be chewed out. Ironically, I'd do it publicly, on Facebook for all to see.
BankaiZaraki
Banned
I never post anything important going on in my life besides getting a job or something along those lines. I'll usually text or call the people if it's something I deem important to tell them..like finding out my baby is a boy and things like that.
Brolic Gaoler
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Dropped facebook over a year ago, best decision I've made in a long time.
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