Basically, I'm in a ridiculously tough spot and the last few days have been horrible.
Quick background story: I'm dating a 19-year-old girl, we're both in uni, I'm 21-years-old and she's the last person I'd expect to hear something like this from. She's sweet, smart, a family girl and cat lover, shy, and timid. Unfortunately, this means a bit vulnerable, and she can't handle alcohol well. She has had no sexual experiences or any relationships before me. We've been dating for about 4 months now.
She called me on Saturday to tell me that after going out with 3 of her friends from uni to the student bar on campus, there were a group of guys there, one of them asked to be signed in as a guest for the uni bar and she did it, she doesn't know them. Anyway, she tells me she spent the entire night there at the student bar, and when she was walking home (a few mins away) with her friends, she came across the same guys, asking if they knew any flat parties going around.
They followed her and her friends, and they walked back to her flat, my girl didn't refuse to let them in, and wanted to find them a flat party apparently (she is too nice to say no).
Basically what happened was they made a big mess in her kitchen, and people were constantly moving all over the place and they were all drunk, and one of them asked to use the bathroom, so she let him use the one in her bedroom. The other two guys looked like they were going to take a piss outside or inside the flat, so she let them in as well and she was laying on the bed because she was tired.
Apparently at some point, while her friend was in the room with her, three of the five guys whipped out their dicks and she tells me she told them to put it away, she has a bf, but they allegedly jumped on the bed, and stuffed their cocks down her mouth, one by one, and she was closing her eyes the whole time, and she was too scared to say no.
I really don't know what the fuck to think. Her friend seems a bit of a slut, and apparently they were a bit "adamant" with her as well, and she blew two of them. Apparently one of them jammed his ass on my girl's face and made her lick it...
This just basically completely fucked me over and made me so unbelievably bummed and disappointed and disgusted, I haven't eaten in 3 days, and I initially blocked her and cut her off completely, but made the "mistake" of unblocking her.
She's crying hysterically and telling me she didn't want to do it, they were forceful, and she was too scared to say no because of what might happened, but how the fuck am I supposed to react to that? She did it, and she is the last girl I'd EVER imagine to do something like that, she's the most innocent girl in the world, I thought.
She didn't say no, she says she unwillingly took it and closed her eyes just hoping for it to be over, meanwhile her friend did the same thing to the two other guys, and she doesn't seem to think it was that big of a deal for her.
I'm really pissed off and disgusted because we had a great relationship up to this point, and I know my girl is weak with alcohol, and just a weak person overall and can't say no, she's too nice, but I really don't know what to believe. A part of me says she was drunk, but she still did it and didn't say no, and did it willingly, and the other part of me says she was forced like she said.
I had her over for the past two days and talking about this, she was on the verge of a nervous breakdown and crying hysterically, saying she was forced, drunk, they took advantage, and she was stupid and weak and such.
Anyway I've told her we're not going to be dating anymore but I still care about her, and I'm sitting here hugging her and kissing her again, trying to calm her down, and trying to restrain myself but I can't.
The thing that makes me angry and not believing her story as much is that it's the usual drunk excuse, and her friend was fine with it, but apparently she wasn't, but didn't say anything (and I like to think I know her). She found their names from one of her friends who was there and msged them to return their belt but she was only just a bit 'angry', and they were being mean to her. She didn't say she was raped and based on my memory, only just mentioned that they were forceful or aggressive, I don't remember.
Anyway, I don't even know my point here, I don't know what to do with her and this has pissed me off so much it's unbelievable. To hear that my girl who seemed like the perfect princess to do something so uncharacteristic of her, even if drunk.... what the hell am I supposed to think?
What would you think? Sorry for the wall of text.
Quick background story: I'm dating a 19-year-old girl, we're both in uni, I'm 21-years-old and she's the last person I'd expect to hear something like this from. She's sweet, smart, a family girl and cat lover, shy, and timid. Unfortunately, this means a bit vulnerable, and she can't handle alcohol well. She has had no sexual experiences or any relationships before me. We've been dating for about 4 months now.
She called me on Saturday to tell me that after going out with 3 of her friends from uni to the student bar on campus, there were a group of guys there, one of them asked to be signed in as a guest for the uni bar and she did it, she doesn't know them. Anyway, she tells me she spent the entire night there at the student bar, and when she was walking home (a few mins away) with her friends, she came across the same guys, asking if they knew any flat parties going around.
They followed her and her friends, and they walked back to her flat, my girl didn't refuse to let them in, and wanted to find them a flat party apparently (she is too nice to say no).
Basically what happened was they made a big mess in her kitchen, and people were constantly moving all over the place and they were all drunk, and one of them asked to use the bathroom, so she let him use the one in her bedroom. The other two guys looked like they were going to take a piss outside or inside the flat, so she let them in as well and she was laying on the bed because she was tired.
Apparently at some point, while her friend was in the room with her, three of the five guys whipped out their dicks and she tells me she told them to put it away, she has a bf, but they allegedly jumped on the bed, and stuffed their cocks down her mouth, one by one, and she was closing her eyes the whole time, and she was too scared to say no.
I really don't know what the fuck to think. Her friend seems a bit of a slut, and apparently they were a bit "adamant" with her as well, and she blew two of them. Apparently one of them jammed his ass on my girl's face and made her lick it...
This just basically completely fucked me over and made me so unbelievably bummed and disappointed and disgusted, I haven't eaten in 3 days, and I initially blocked her and cut her off completely, but made the "mistake" of unblocking her.
She's crying hysterically and telling me she didn't want to do it, they were forceful, and she was too scared to say no because of what might happened, but how the fuck am I supposed to react to that? She did it, and she is the last girl I'd EVER imagine to do something like that, she's the most innocent girl in the world, I thought.
She didn't say no, she says she unwillingly took it and closed her eyes just hoping for it to be over, meanwhile her friend did the same thing to the two other guys, and she doesn't seem to think it was that big of a deal for her.
I'm really pissed off and disgusted because we had a great relationship up to this point, and I know my girl is weak with alcohol, and just a weak person overall and can't say no, she's too nice, but I really don't know what to believe. A part of me says she was drunk, but she still did it and didn't say no, and did it willingly, and the other part of me says she was forced like she said.
I had her over for the past two days and talking about this, she was on the verge of a nervous breakdown and crying hysterically, saying she was forced, drunk, they took advantage, and she was stupid and weak and such.
Anyway I've told her we're not going to be dating anymore but I still care about her, and I'm sitting here hugging her and kissing her again, trying to calm her down, and trying to restrain myself but I can't.
The thing that makes me angry and not believing her story as much is that it's the usual drunk excuse, and her friend was fine with it, but apparently she wasn't, but didn't say anything (and I like to think I know her). She found their names from one of her friends who was there and msged them to return their belt but she was only just a bit 'angry', and they were being mean to her. She didn't say she was raped and based on my memory, only just mentioned that they were forceful or aggressive, I don't remember.
Anyway, I don't even know my point here, I don't know what to do with her and this has pissed me off so much it's unbelievable. To hear that my girl who seemed like the perfect princess to do something so uncharacteristic of her, even if drunk.... what the hell am I supposed to think?
What would you think? Sorry for the wall of text.