What is one of your biggest regrets?

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This one time me and a friend went to KFC after lighting up since we were getting the munchies. So we go there and they told us that they were out of biscuits. But instead of getting a biscuit, they would give me an entire chocolate cake! I declined it for some stupid reason (multiple times, they just kept on making sure that I didn't want it) and immediately after, when we were sitting down to eat, I realized I should've gotten that cake. But it was too late. It's really my only regret and I still regret it to this day.
 
Dated the same girl for 4 1/2 years. I knew it was fucked up somewhere in year 1, but we still dated for four more years after that. Never cheated on each other or anything, but the relationship was just busted. I should have broken up with her in the first six months. And then after two years I just assumed 'she was the one,' even though we had issues. Finally, years later, she broke up with me and I was crushed for months. I was way too stupid. Sometimes I justify it or explain it away saying, eh, worse things could have happened, I could have hooked up with some girls who gave me STDs or that I could have got somebody pregnant or something, but, alas, it's still my #1 regret... really my only major regret.

Oh, I guess, quitting piano when I was like 12 or 13, with the intent to play guitar, something that I never did. Only to pick up the piano again some 14 years later and suck at it.
 
So far going to university, I figured I'd have a ton of fun but that hasn't really happened at all. I got screwed out of the fresher activities so I wasn't able to make any friends apart from the people at my course, I'm stuck in mismanaged accommodation and all four of my room mates are complete druggies and I've recently been fined because my rent was late, complete with a ton of typos such as "oustanding" "yur" in the letter they sent me.

My course is okay, but if I'm miserable the entire time I'm not at uni then there doesn't really seem like there's much of a point being here.
 
-Moving back home to America after 5 years in Japan.
-Living with my Step-mom and Step-sister for 6 months.
-Moving into my late-Grandmother's house instead of selling it.
-Accepting my current job instead of looking for something else (when I first got it).

I've basically been on a downward spiral since I got back in the US and I'm desperately trying to claw my way out.
I've been applying to better jobs and as soon as I land something decent with a stable income (not the commission-based bullshit I deal with at my current job), I'll be okay.
 
Gameboy415 said:
-Moving back home to America after 5 years in Japan.
-Living with my Step-mom and Step-sister for 6 months.
-Moving into my late-Grandmother's house instead of selling it.
-Accepting my current job instead of looking for something else (when I first got it).

I've basically been on a downward spiral since I got back in the US and I'm desperately trying to claw my way out.
I've been applying to better jobs and as soon as I land something decent with a stable income (not the commission-based bullshit I deal with at my current job), I'll be okay.
Can't you go back to teaching in Japan?
 
Going to college.

I have an BA and JD but enjoy my life much more when I'm building/fixing things and working on my house (framing, electric, plumbing, etc.).

Growing up, it was suggested that trades are for the dumb kids and smart kids should go to college.

Fuck that noise.
 
Topics like this makes me glad I had a slightly less exaggerated version of Asian dad meme as parents.

I still have have plenty of regrets since I still wished I tried harder in school and was more prepared but I can't even imagine what my life would be like if my parents didn't push me non-stop. I would probably be some bum living at home working at gamestop playing video games non-stop.

Girls there's endless amount but I have a long term gf I love (whose been "not so discreetly" hinting at me to be more than that) so don't really care to much about that anymore.

One thing I do regret is not studying abroad for a semester in college. A lot of my friends and relatives did and all had fantastic memories and experiences from it.
 
purplestingray said:
Getting married. Stupidest decision ever.

Thanks; getting married next Saturday.

Anyway, I have had plenty of regrets but one that sticks out to me was buying a brand new car without having stability at the job I was in. I was only 22 and had a nice gig at the local mill making good money. Turned out I got fired 2 weeks before getting into the union. I had no way of making the money I was making again, so my car was repossesed and I filed for bankruptcy.
 
As far as things that are ultimately unimportant, I had a chance to sing a song with my second favorite band (Local H) and chickened out
 
  • Not looking for a job earlier in life
  • Not learning any useful or marketable skills
  • Fucking up a semester of college
  • Not planning for the future
  • Probably something related to women
 
Lack of confidence in myself when I was younger.

Edit: Over the past few years I've had girls tell me I could have gotten pretty far with them if I just had the initiative and made the moves that I had in my head. I was too gentlemanly much of a coward then to do so.
 
Screwed up in university and ended up back in a community college...loved it and went to finish the BA eventually. Realized the BA wouldn't get me anywhere so now I'm pursuing a Masters of Science in Cybersecurity.

Also studying for the CCENT and Security+ exam.

I regret screwing up and didn't to a technical field like engineering.
 
I regret not telling my dad that I wanted to play goalie in hockey and not left wing. I liked playing hockey, of course, but I didn't really excel at playing a winger. I couldn't skate terribly fast, and I didn't have a good shot. Every year I was put on the "B" team and was never once called up to play on the "A" team. I played hockey on the driveway at my parents place with my brother and I was usually playing goalie, and I loved it and was pretty good at it. After my first season, I wish I told my dad "I wanna try being a goalie instead". I'm very positive that if I had done that, my life would've went down a completely different route than it did.

Later things in life I regret:
- Not keeping myself in proper shape during high school
- Not being more social in high school
- Taking programming instead of marketing in college
 
J Tourettes said:
I can't believe so many people are regretting not trying harder in school. Fuck that noise.

I dunno. I could certainly list that as one of my regrets, being 28 now and having no degree in anything other than making pizza.

I think for me, if I had to pick one regret where my life really went off the fucking rails, I'd have to say it would be physical inactivity in my teens. Looking back on it, I think I thought that anyone who played sports or went to the gym was inherently stupid. Like, you couldn't be in good shape and not be an "idiot jock" or whatever the hell I thought. I must have had my head so far up my ass I was seeing my lungs.

I didn't realize that all that shit tied in together. If I had learned discipline from playing a competitive sport or just working out in general, my will wouldn't have failed so hard in college. I absolutely did everything but hold myself to a schedule in a way that would've allowed me to succeed. So now I'm broke, hopeless, and developing a serious drinking problem which I also lack the conviction to combat. Oh well.

I could be completely wrong on that tho. In an alternate world, maybe i'm still sitting here unemployed but with some six pack abs. Maybe some lives are just supposed to go wrong. I'm going to go make some bacon, this thread is depressing.
 
I regret losing contact with every friend I have ever had. I know why each situation came about, but 10-15 years later and I have nothing I realize how great a mistake it was.
 
The two big ones now are gaining weight in college and not learning the piano, or any kind of musical instrument, when I was young. I'm in the process of correcting the weight gain so that isn't a big deal, though losing any amount of time to the baggage that comes with being overweight is deeply regrettable.

I've just begun intensive piano studies now so I expect I'll be able to play competently for fun in a few years but after starting, I sorely wish I had the foresight to turn music into a career; I'm having a blast doing even the hand exercises. Now I'm stuck going into some area of policy studies in law school just as my enthusiasm for that has totally evaporated; I feel sick just thinking about the years I spent grooming myself to achieve that goal. I think I'm more introspective and reclusive than I previously thought so I'm very apprehensive about how I'm going to feel about my upcoming occupation decades later.
 
Going for sports when I was younger instead of developing an artistic skill. Wish I could draw portraits or play violin, but instead I've done sports (tennis, table tennis and martial arts) I wasn't even good at and which I kept practicing over the years just for the sake to have extracurricular activities.

My school career is also somewhat chaotic, yet that one remains a much bigger regret.
 
let's see here

1. Having never held a single job in my life thanks to living overseas
2. My first serious relationship
3. Sucking at keeping in contact with people
4. Getting 2 out of 3 clicker questions wrong in Econ today-fucking HELL
5. Letting TF2 fuck with my academics first year of university
6. Barely being able to focus on one thing at a time without my perscription
7. Failing a chem course and now having a sub-3.0 gpa
 
Having spent several grands on erotic massages and escort girls.

Thankfully I just got my STD results and all tests are negative.
 
I'm 33.. I have no "big" regrets. I was married and divorced over the course of a few years.. I still don't really "regret" any of it.. it was a learning experience, one that will end up costing me over 100k, but money is just money.

Just small crap.. like.. "wish I hadn't scraped my rims on the curb that day".. lol
 
Hmmm...I suppose this is a minor regret.

When I was in high school, this girl was always sweet to me regardless of how other treated me and always stuck up for my loser ass.

I went on Google this morning random to see if she if she was on Facebook.

www.jessicayork.com SFW

D'oh.
 
Zwei said:

Its ok, I made more progress in the last 5 years than I did the previous 10, but I regret not caring more about my future in my 20's. I am at 35 where I should have been at 24.

I thought the party would last for ever. :(
 
Living.

But, in all honesty, not standing up to my grandfather and having him dictate my life and which college and graduate school to go to because he manipulated me to believe that I could not make it on my own without his money.
 
I honestly wish I was blue collar, not white collar...I hate corporate life and all its bullshit, 13 years spent climbing the ladder and now I simply want the ladder to crumble under me.

There are union HVAC guys working in my building who make more than me (and I do pretty good), and they don't have the ball and chain of a blackberry and laptop haunting them 24/7...basically, I don't want to deal with ego's anymore, I want a job I just 'do' and 'finish' and 'leave' , not the never ending conveyor belt of shit that is corporate job USA.

...and I regret selling my first car, 2001 Mustang GT, I shoulda garaged her until it was old and cool..and I could tell people, I owned it for 20-30-40-50 years.
 
GodofWine said:
I honestly wish I was blue collar, not white collar...I hate corporate life and all its bullshit, 13 years spent climbing the ladder and now I simply want the ladder to crumble under me.

There are union HVAC guys working in my building who make more than me (and I do pretty good), and they don't have the ball and chain of a blackberry and laptop haunting them 24/7...basically, I don't want to deal with ego's anymore, I want a job I just 'do' and 'finish' and 'leave' , not the never ending conveyor belt of shit that is corporate job USA.

...and I regret selling my first car, 2001 Mustang GT, I shoulda garaged her until it was old and cool..and I could tell people, I owned it for 20-30-40-50 years.

Well, technically, you're not shackled by your Blackberry today much either, right?
 
ChiTownBuffalo said:
Well, technically, you're not shackled by your Blackberry today much either, right?

lol...it came roaring back to life yesterday around 2pm...it vibrated for a good 10 minutes as it digested all the crap it had backed up in its vile system :)
 
-didn't take a career in football seriously when I had the chance
-bad credit
-getting involved in a serious relationship too early
-burning bridges at jobs. Most notably the last one.
-buying a 3D Tv instead of saving to get my car(mitsubishi eclipse)
 
purplestingray said:
Getting married. Stupidest decision ever.
Tell us more! I have avoided marriage for many years and ruined relationships because of my anti-marriage beliefs. I love hearing people admit that they hate their marriage.
 
Gustav said:
1. Being an idiot in school/not going to university
2. Lack of dedication to making music

That's all I have for now.
I'm in the exact same situation as you right now. I love music, and it's all I did in high school. I started university this year but kind of wished I had of pursued music instead. So I'm dropping some courses, but still keeping a couple for my first year, so I can do a bit of both. See where music takes me this year, and if it sucks, then takes more courses next year.
 
I think I have only one regret in life, and it is this:

When I was in college, there were these kittens (and eventually cats) behind the pizza shop where I worked. I would buy a big bag of cat food and keep it in my car and feed them every night after work. If I didn't work that night, I would come back. They would be waiting for me every night at around 11:30.

There was two of them in particular, named Boss and Dewey. There were other cats, and we did rescue a few of them, as well as other cats who would just come and go. But Boss and Dewey were always there, and I had been feeding them since they were little tiny kittens.
I always talked about bringing them home with me, but never did. I was worried about having 3 cats, since I already had one already. One night though, I tried to catch them anyway. They would let me pet them and pick them up, but when I put Dewey in the cat carrier, he panicked. I felt really bad, so I let him out.

A few months or so maybe after that, Dewey was hit by a car. I don't think I ever felt more rage in my entire life... especially because what apparently happened was some asshole in a sports car was flying through the back of the little shopping strip, where he shouldn't have been anyway, since it was restricted to only trucks and employees. What really broke my heart though was one of my co-workers at the time said Boss just sat next to Dewey's body for a while.

I felt so awful knowing that if I hadn't hesitated, I could have saved Dewey. I made up for it by bringing Boss home that very same night, though. I don't regret that, at least.

That was about 8 years ago, and he's been a really wonderful, super affectionate cat.

But I'll always regret not saving his brother when I had the chance.

This is Boss, by the way:
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Beyond that, I don't really regret anything. There are definitely things I wish I'd have done, but at the same time, I know that if I had made those choices, things wouldn't be as they are today. So... I don't regret it at all, seeing as I am otherwise pretty content with my life.
 
The whole debacle of entering into a relationship that was - and I can't lie to myself here - a bit of a rebound from a relationship that was just all kinds of fucked up; I'm talking sexual mishaps and embarassments and EVERYTHING.

And the girls concerned are really good friends.

Now my current relationship is a week away from hitting 12 months and while it has definitely become a lot more than a rebound, I can't shake those memories and I don't know if I should commit to something I'm not 100% vested in, especially when the other party actually adores me to no end.
 
GodofWine said:
I honestly wish I was blue collar, not white collar...I hate corporate life and all its bullshit, 13 years spent climbing the ladder and now I simply want the ladder to crumble under me.

There are union HVAC guys working in my building who make more than me (and I do pretty good), and they don't have the ball and chain of a blackberry and laptop haunting them 24/7...basically, I don't want to deal with ego's anymore, I want a job I just 'do' and 'finish' and 'leave' , not the never ending conveyor belt of shit that is corporate job USA.

...and I regret selling my first car, 2001 Mustang GT, I shoulda garaged her until it was old and cool..and I could tell people, I owned it for 20-30-40-50 years.

Could you not re-train in a blue collar trade? I currently am a database manager for a charity but in my spare time I'm training to be an electrician.
 
purplestingray said:
Getting married. Stupidest decision ever.
Gonna have to go with this one.

I'm divorced now and if I hadn't wasted 5 years of my life in that relationship and marriage then I'd probably be 5 years ahead of where I am now. Which would be a pretty damn good position.
 
Grinchy said:
Tell us more! I have avoided marriage for many years and ruined relationships because of my anti-marriage beliefs. I love hearing people admit that they hate their marriage.

I got married while still in college; three years down the road we are still very happy. I couldn't imagine trying to do life without her.
 
Roi said:
Remember, It's better to regret something you did than to regret something that you didn't do.
This. =( I'm pretty much only familiar with the latter feeling, though.

Mine is college. I went to an awesome college with an awesome campus and it could have been the best experience of my life, but by the time I was 18 I was a messed up kid with no self-esteem, crap self-confidence, and just no real sense of self. What college ended up being for me was five years of depression, bad grades, not caring about classes, and zero social life. Oh and modding the IGN boards. =/ Now I'm 30 and there's just no way of making up for that lost experience. I guess the real regret is not trying to take control of my life away from my mom years earlier before college. I think that fucked me up more than anything.

Also I regret not getting into reading years earlier than I did.
 
When I was 17 I broke my elbow into pieces in a sports accident.

I gave up ice hockey because I didn't spend enough time rehabilitating my arm and Im pretty sure I could have made it into a career.

The guilt of quitting looms over me every time I watch a hockey game.

If anyone follows hockey, my play style is(was) similar to Keith Ballard's.
 
Falling in love only to wait too long to tell her, then she unknowingly breaks my heart with some fucked up news after we finally do officially get together. We've been married now for several years and I love her to death but the forgiveness part was/ is very hard because there is no answer to "why?". I've come to realize that the saying "everything happens for a reason" is complete and utter bullshit.

Messing up my back by working manual labor jobs for the first 8+ years of my working life. I kept pushing even though I knew my body was breaking down because I felt like I would work my way out of the hard labor positions by being "the best". Went back to school and finally got a good job that doesn't require nearly as much labor, but my back and joints are toast and one day I know I'll need surgery :/



demon said:
Also I regret not getting into reading years earlier than I did.

This for sure. Hated books growing up and now I love any type of good storytelling. love to read screenplays actually. Wish I could work on a film set one day but I fell I am getting too old for change :(
 
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