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[Escape Goat]

I am not about to claim I'm as good as Robertsan or that I am the embodiment of Cubsfan's teachings, but I think I am fairly comfortable with approaching and talking to guys I'm interested in. But I've been dating long enough to realize its not worth worrying about because if its meant to be its going to happen and if not, you're no worse off. I'm not a player. When I approach someone its with the full intent to build a meaningful relationship.

But every so often I meet a guy and I feel like I'm approaching a guy for the first time. I feel so small, so clumsy and timid. He's so hot and cute that any misstep could be a fatal one. Anyone else experience this?

 

[Boogie]

I am not about to claim I'm as good as Robertsan or that I am the embodiment of Cubsfan's teachings, but I think I am fairly comfortable with approaching and talking to guys I'm interested in. But I've been dating long enough to realize its not worth worrying about because if its meant to be its going to happen and if not, you're no worse off. I'm not a player. When I approach someone its with the full intent to build a meaningful relationship.

But every so often I meet a guy and I feel like I'm approaching a guy for the first time. I feel so small, so clumsy and timid. He's so hot and cute that any misstep could be a fatal one. Anyone else experience this?

Apart from the Gay Factor, yes, all the damn time.

*Cue Cubsfanbot's laughing smiley reply*

 

[Naked Snake]

I haven't had to deal with that for more than a year now, thanks to my adorable boyfriend I no longer need to approach "potential partners"... Downside of this is that I pay far less attention to staying physically in shape now... Whenever I say something like "I really need to start working out, I'm starting grow some flab!", he'd say "Don't be crazy! You look great, don't do anything!"

 

[teiresias]

Yes, already having a boyfriend keeps me from having to deal with how inadequate I feel.

Though, I find I work harder to keep myself in shape when I'm in a relationship, not the other way around.

 

[White Man]

Yeah, as good a time as any to say, but I'm gay again, btw.

 

[Escape Goat]

Yeah, as good a time as any to say, but I'm gay again, btw.

Whats that supposed to mean?

 

[White Man]

Whats that supposed to mean?

I declared myself un-gay late last year. I am now declaring myself re-gayed.

 

[Boogie]

I declared myself un-gay late last year. I am now declaring myself re-gayed.

OMG HOMOSEXUALITY IS A CHOICE!!!ONE11! ;P

 

[WrathOfOtaibah]

I stopped for a second and thought this was a joke post but I remembered that you are gay.

I don't think we can ever really overcome shyness for all people we are sexually interested in. Especially if you are really attracted to them. Best thing is just to suck it up and go for it. Those missteps feel like daggers but in real life, I highly doubt the other person cares or even notices, unless you do something foolish like grab them inappropriately or some other shit.

 

[lexy]

Fer sure.

I thought I would overcome this as soon as I left high school and, you know, grew up a bit.

I will say that some of your insecurities and nervous behaviors can sometimes be what endears you to a potential mate. At least, that's what I've been told.

 

[Triumph]

I declared myself un-gay late last year. I am now declaring myself re-gayed.

I am taking this opportunity to pronounce myself asexual. I don't want to fucking deal with chicks anymore and sadly men hold no appeal to me.

Back on topic, I'll tell you what it means when you lose your confidence- you go over a year without getting any for the first time since you've been sexually active. And you go a little bit insane.

 

[J2 Cool]

Just know that your looks are never going to get you anywhere in life, and that you constantly have to make up for that with charm. So if the guy's hot and you feel small, it doesn't mean you can't meet him or excel him even, intellectually. Overload on the cocky and funny, and if you are good looking, it's like adding extra points over the hi score. Does you no harm. Either way, if you're unsure of yourself, just say you're average or your good looking and work from there on charm. No point in going back and forth on what he thinks of you before you really get to know him. You either already strike him or he doesn't notice you yet. He's likely not going to be repulsed by you. So as long as he's not repulsed, then you got a starting ground. After you fix all that stuff, rationalize, there should be no insecurities messing up your personality and you can talk easier. Step at a time, just act interested in their what they're doing. Showing interest isn't a bad thing.

From a straight perspective anyway. I dunno [/gay]

 

[kablooey]

I declared myself un-gay late last year. I am now declaring myself re-gayed.

Does this have anything to do with your new tag?

Anyway, J2Cool's advice was surprisingly good...for a straight guy. Though I'm also straight, so what do I know.

 

[Ollie Pooch]

that's me atm - i met this awesome guy while on holiday in london - he's actually from here (perth) and is back here next year. basically went back to his place and yada yada yada - anyway when i email him i rewrite the thing 10 times cos im such a fucking dork for him :lol im like a fucking giggly schoolgirl.. hideous

anyway since then he has said it was good but he probably wouldn't have sex iwth a guy again ... HOPES..SHATTERED