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Which says more? Mouth or eyes?

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Okay, so I had lunch with this guy but he didn't really say much. I've never really wnet on a date where the guy just didnt say anything since when I first started dating. People my age have either learned how to cope with awkward social situations or retreated into their basments. I carried most of the conversation and lunch wasn't too awkward.

But even though he didnt say much when we did talk he maintained eye contact for longer periods than most. So, I would judge he is just shy or maybe its me being hopeful. So, can somene say something with their eyes but not really say much otherwise, either verbal or body language? How do you value this information?
 
Maybe he's just quiet and doesn't have a basement?
 
It's easier to teach the mouth to say lifes than it is to get the eyes to show lies... then again it's not as easy for people to learn how to read the eyes either... christ I'm feeling so mellow and philosphical right now...
 
Teh Hamburglar said:
Okay, so I had lunch with this guy but he didn't really say much. I've never really wnet on a date where the guy just didnt say anything since when I first started dating. People my age have either learned how to cope with awkward social situations or retreated into their basments. I carried most of the conversation and lunch wasn't too awkward.

But even though he didnt say much when we did talk he maintained eye contact for longer periods than most. So, I would judge he is just shy or maybe its me being hopeful. So, can somene say something with their eyes but not really say much otherwise, either verbal or body language? How do you value this information?

Some people are just quiet. I wish more people were like that. Maybe he's shy or nervous or something, too. Take the lad out again and see what happens. After haning out with him for a bit, you should be able to properly diagnose which of the above scenarios you are in.
 
I'm a quiet guy. I let the 'chemistry' do all the work... rarely works though. I suck at knowing what to say at just the right time and.. well, basically I think you shouldn't have to splurt out your life story just to tell if you like each other, cuz I'm really not anything that my life story would depict me as. Of course he could just be a boring closet case.... and is this bizarr.. I mean gayming age? Can't tell.
 
Teh Hamburglar said:
Okay, so I had lunch with this guy but he didn't really say much. I've never really wnet on a date where the guy just didnt say anything since when I first started dating. People my age have either learned how to cope with awkward social situations or retreated into their basments. I carried most of the conversation and lunch wasn't too awkward.

But even though he didnt say much when we did talk he maintained eye contact for longer periods than most. So, I would judge he is just shy or maybe its me being hopeful. So, can somene say something with their eyes but not really say much otherwise, either verbal or body language? How do you value this information?


whatever you do, dont freaking lead him on or vice versa. capice?!
gods, our little ham all grown up and going on dates..... *sniff*.. i'm so proud..... *sniff*
 
I tried to get his # and he just said to IM him so I wasn't sure if it was a denial or just him being shy again. Oh well, time and a second date will tell.
 
I dont want to give the obvious answer, but it depends. I usually go with instinct when it comes to this. You mean to gauge if someone is interested or not, right? Body language can be extremely revealing, and that is what i pay the most attention to, especially after noticing that usually the people i choose as object of my affection almost never say what they mean =/ , they are usually very strange/disfunctional when it comes to affection. And usually proud to boot. im fucked up that way, what can I say. :lol
 
Teh Hamburglar said:
I tried to get his # and he just said to IM him so I wasn't sure if it was a denial or just him being shy again. Oh well, time and a second date will tell.


if you ask him again and he doesnt give you his number, punch him in the throat. you have my blessing.
 
CrisKre said:
I dont want to give the obvious answer, but it depends. I usually go with instinct when it comes to this. You mean to gauge if someone is interested or not, right? Body language can be extremely revealing, and that is what i pay the most attention too, especially after noticing that usually the people i choose as object of my affection almost never say what they mean =/ , they are usually very strange/disfunctional when it comes to affection. And usually proud to boot. im fucked up that way, what can I say. :lol


you aint the only i'll tell you that much. :lol
 
Teh Hamburglar said:
I tried to get his # and he just said to IM him so I wasn't sure if it was a denial or just him being shy again. Oh well, time and a second date will tell.

I actively dislike the telephone. I'd rather people IMed me than call me. I have better control over what I'm trying to say when I'm typing. I'm also one of those extremely shy people when it comes to relationships.

I wouldn't use his response on this as anything to weigh against him. Just look at what he says when you do talk to him, and don't worry about how he wants to communicate. Contrary to what Marshall McLuhan would have you believe, the medium isn't always the message.
 
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