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My aunt has this. I have never seen her without a wig. Would you ever consider one?
If I'm honest, no. At 25, I want to try and avoid going down the road of wearing a wig or toupee, you know? It just feels...belittling. As stupid as it sounds, such drastic hair loss at my age is, in a way, like being less a man than others.
 
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I like to re-post this every once in a while, as it can help me keep things in perspective, regardless or how I'm feeling. Molehills seem less like mountains, etc.

I'm terrible for expecting perfection from myself, or "better" constantly, instead of accepting what I am and where I am at now, and going from there.

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Thank you so much for this post. This is the main thing I'm working on right now, with the help of mindfulness exercises: accepting me for who I am right now, not who I was in the past or who I want to be in the future. It's a struggle for sure. I am my own worst critic.
 
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I like to re-post this every once in a while, as it can help me keep things in perspective, regardless or how I'm feeling. Molehills seem less like mountains, etc.

I'm terrible for expecting perfection from myself, or "better" constantly, instead of accepting what I am and where I am at now, and going from there.

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I think this is a great reminder.

I really kind of like this sentiment too:
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No one can ever COMPLETELY understand you. Know your every wish and weakness and potential and despair. Because they are not you. You're the only one who can completely understand because you're the only one who lives your life.

This is not to say that wanting or expecting support from others is a bad thing. It's a good thing if you can trust others for some support and some understanding and help. But it also helps a bunch if you don't actively try to beat yourself down further when you know you are already hurting.

Knowing the depth of your own anguish or struggles as real for you (even if you don't fully understand where it all comes from, which only further adds to your confusion and frustration), be good and kind to yourself.
 
After the particularly bad idea of doing mushrooms over the weekend, I've decided to go back on my meds, and so far I feel pretty good. I'm not feeling the myriad of side effects yet, so it's nice to live in what will probably be a short period of mental peace. I know in the long term I will probably get frustrated and stop taking my meds again, but now I can see that it's all an awful cycle of stopping and starting, and when I'm not in this glow, either side, the taking meds side or the not taking meds side, turns bad quickly. The good feelings, in some sort of middle, are always fleeting, and I don't really know which is better, but for now I can enjoy how I feel.

Is it the side effects of taking the meds that makes them frustrating, or the schedule? Sorry if that's a stupid question. I've never been put on meds so I'm a little ignorant to that whole process.
 
I went back to the doctor today, after being on 100mg of Zoloft for a month. I've never felt like it's done anything for me, whether on 50mg or 100mg. I switched to Pristiq today. We'll see how that goes.
 
hello... hopefully this isn't the wrong place to be asking this, but I have a friend of mine who is 18 years old and suffers from depression and anxiety and I have been trying to support him through this whole thing. His situation is a bit complex, and he refuses to reach out for help from his parents and is reluctant to see a doctor because it would have to involve his parents. I'm gonna try my best to lay out this whole thing, because there's a lot to it

so my friend (let's call him Kyle) has been suffering from this for a while, i don't exactly know when it all started for him but i know he was starting to have a tougher time after he had graduated from high school and pretty much all of his friends had moved away. so he started feeling sad because for a long time he didn't really get to hang out with anyone and spent a lot of his time at home. eventually he started to tell me about what he had been feeling, and so of course i started inviting him over to my house so it wasn't so bad for him (first time he had ever come over, we were pretty casual friends in high school, like i would only really talk to him at school and online sometimes), and whenever he would come over it would help him feel better temporarily, but his mood would just drop down the next day.

Last year he struggled with his sexuality a lot, he had feelings for guys to an extent and was confused if he was gay, and two years ago, one of his closer friends had revealed to him that he liked him and then Kyle acted out of fear and started pushing away from his friend, telling him that he didn't want to talk to him anymore. They didn't really start talking again until this year, but Kyle was still a little confused about his sexuality, so around October 2013 i had him explain to me exactly everything he felt about people, and i had a gut feeling that he could be asexual, so i basically told him to look everything up about it, and he said that the way he felt was exactly as how it was described on the internet. he also now didn't care if he was gay or not and was not afraid of those feelings, and had told me that he had feelings for his friend who had come out to him, and was feeling extreme regret over the whole thing especially now that said friend had acquired a girlfriend in the meantime.

so to wrap things up a bit quicker, most of Kyle's depression and anxiety seem to stem from his fear about the future, how he feels like he will never find a partner who would be happy being with him (he's disgusted by the penis and vagina, only attracted to what's "above the waist"), scared about his future because he hasn't been doing very well in his community college (but after he had reached out to me about that i've recently been trying to help him get his assignments finished), he hates himself because he feels like he isn't interesting in the slightest, and that so many people in his life seem to have a problem with the way he walks or about how he is so quiet/awkward and introverted. he tells me that he has like an existential crisis, how sometimes he can't even tell if he's in a dream or that he even is actually real.

he had recently come out to his parents about being asexual and though his dad was totally indifferent about it, his mother was totally bewildered and ended up getting into a huge fight with his father, and she basically told him that she can understand being straight or gay but thought he was just not being true to himself. She even initially contemplated about getting his hormone levels checked out but for some reason that didn't pan out and told Kyle to just focus on getting a career and his future instead of his sexuality, which i thought was pretty silly advice. kyle also gets extremely stressed out at his work (jack in the box) and has sometimes been harassed by his manager by telling him to "act like a man," "don't be such a pussy" etc. and asked often about why he doesnt have a girlfriend of if he is gay and whatnot, which i found to be extremely surprising and i told him that he should report him for harassment, but he refuses to because he says that he doesn't care about it and that it doesn't get to him, which i know is not true :(

the combination of work and school and his depression just creates a messy situation and he broke down last week because he was afraid that he wasn't going to pass one of his classes and that he'd be placed in academic probation, and his parents want him to get through everything as quickly as possible because they have told him that they want to get him out of the house, and when he broke down he basically told me that he hated me and didnt want to talk to me ever again, which stumped me and i tried my best to figure out exactly what had happened to him, and eventually i got through to him and he told me that he didn't feel like he deserved anything. he said he didn't deserve to have food, water, shelter, or my help, and it was completely heartbreaking so i wanted to help him as best as i could by helping him complete his old assignments which he had 0 points for. it gave him great hope and he seemed to be feeling better, but then work brought him back down again, so it's been a real rollercoaster

i guess what i'm asking is, what would be the best possible way for me to get him some help? i'm 18 as well and we both lack driver's licenses, and i don't have a job either so I don't really have the financial means or ways of getting him somewhere to get help. i've asked if I should try to get my parents to help and he really doesn't want that because then he'd be betraying his parents trust for not asking them, but yet he doesn't want to ask them because he feels that they've been struggling enough with their own issues and doesn't want to get them to worry about anything else. should i refer to him the resources on the OP? i really want to help him out the best that i can, and i've been trying to be as understanding and aware of the feelings associated with depression, i just don't really know if what i'm doing is helping... any advice would be greatly appreciated, thank you gaf
 
Whelp, given that it's now the 5th in Eastern time (which some would argue is the best of them all but I'll fight them) and in other places that don't matter (like the Netherlands), I'd like to wish a happy birthday to our very own Bagels! He's a poophead but we all love him anyway.
 
Whelp, given that it's now the 5th in the Netherlands (which some would argue is the best of them all and I agree) and in other places that don't matter (like Seattle), I'd like to wish a happy birthday to our very own Bagels! He's a poophead but we all love him anyway.

FTFY. And gefeliciteerd Bagels. To many, many more years.
 
hello... hopefully this isn't the wrong place to be asking this, but I have a friend of mine who is 18 years old and suffers from depression and anxiety and I have been trying to support him through this whole thing. His situation is a bit complex, and he refuses to reach out for help from his parents and is reluctant to see a doctor because it would have to involve his parents. I'm gonna try my best to lay out this whole thing, because there's a lot to it

so my friend (let's call him Kyle) has been suffering from this for a while, i don't exactly know when it all started for him but i know he was starting to have a tougher time after he had graduated from high school and pretty much all of his friends had moved away. so he started feeling sad because for a long time he didn't really get to hang out with anyone and spent a lot of his time at home. eventually he started to tell me about what he had been feeling, and so of course i started inviting him over to my house so it wasn't so bad for him (first time he had ever come over, we were pretty casual friends in high school, like i would only really talk to him at school and online sometimes), and whenever he would come over it would help him feel better temporarily, but his mood would just drop down the next day.

Last year he struggled with his sexuality a lot, he had feelings for guys to an extent and was confused if he was gay, and two years ago, one of his closer friends had revealed to him that he liked him and then Kyle acted out of fear and started pushing away from his friend, telling him that he didn't want to talk to him anymore. They didn't really start talking again until this year, but Kyle was still a little confused about his sexuality, so around October 2013 i had him explain to me exactly everything he felt about people, and i had a gut feeling that he could be asexual, so i basically told him to look everything up about it, and he said that the way he felt was exactly as how it was described on the internet. he also now didn't care if he was gay or not and was not afraid of those feelings, and had told me that he had feelings for his friend who had come out to him, and was feeling extreme regret over the whole thing especially now that said friend had acquired a girlfriend in the meantime.

so to wrap things up a bit quicker, most of Kyle's depression and anxiety seem to stem from his fear about the future, how he feels like he will never find a partner who would be happy being with him (he's disgusted by the penis and vagina, only attracted to what's "above the waist"), scared about his future because he hasn't been doing very well in his community college (but after he had reached out to me about that i've recently been trying to help him get his assignments finished), he hates himself because he feels like he isn't interesting in the slightest, and that so many people in his life seem to have a problem with the way he walks or about how he is so quiet/awkward and introverted. he tells me that he has like an existential crisis, how sometimes he can't even tell if he's in a dream or that he even is actually real.

he had recently come out to his parents about being asexual and though his dad was totally indifferent about it, his mother was totally bewildered and ended up getting into a huge fight with his father, and she basically told him that she can understand being straight or gay but thought he was just not being true to himself. She even initially contemplated about getting his hormone levels checked out but for some reason that didn't pan out and told Kyle to just focus on getting a career and his future instead of his sexuality, which i thought was pretty silly advice. kyle also gets extremely stressed out at his work (jack in the box) and has sometimes been harassed by his manager by telling him to "act like a man," "don't be such a pussy" etc. and asked often about why he doesnt have a girlfriend of if he is gay and whatnot, which i found to be extremely surprising and i told him that he should report him for harassment, but he refuses to because he says that he doesn't care about it and that it doesn't get to him, which i know is not true :(

the combination of work and school and his depression just creates a messy situation and he broke down last week because he was afraid that he wasn't going to pass one of his classes and that he'd be placed in academic probation, and his parents want him to get through everything as quickly as possible because they have told him that they want to get him out of the house, and when he broke down he basically told me that he hated me and didnt want to talk to me ever again, which stumped me and i tried my best to figure out exactly what had happened to him, and eventually i got through to him and he told me that he didn't feel like he deserved anything. he said he didn't deserve to have food, water, shelter, or my help, and it was completely heartbreaking so i wanted to help him as best as i could by helping him complete his old assignments which he had 0 points for. it gave him great hope and he seemed to be feeling better, but then work brought him back down again, so it's been a real rollercoaster

i guess what i'm asking is, what would be the best possible way for me to get him some help? i'm 18 as well and we both lack driver's licenses, and i don't have a job either so I don't really have the financial means or ways of getting him somewhere to get help. i've asked if I should try to get my parents to help and he really doesn't want that because then he'd be betraying his parents trust for not asking them, but yet he doesn't want to ask them because he feels that they've been struggling enough with their own issues and doesn't want to get them to worry about anything else. should i refer to him the resources on the OP? i really want to help him out the best that i can, and i've been trying to be as understanding and aware of the feelings associated with depression, i just don't really know if what i'm doing is helping... any advice would be greatly appreciated, thank you gaf
I don't really have time to type much, but it sounds like you have been just an awesome and true friend to him.
The things he said to push you away were likely yes, his own feelings of not "deserving" good things in his life and not wanting to burden you. This will be a recurring thing throughout your relationship probably, but I hope you understand that it's nothing specifically personal with you that he'd ever have an issue with. It just sounds like he's finding it hard to accept his own illness and needs.

I'd say the best solution at this point which is low cost is to see if he can get hooked up with university/college/campus resources for mental health. There should be something in place there! It's confidential and doesn't have to go back to his parents. They may focus more on his academic side and strategies to cope and improve in that area, but at least that will handle one aspect. And they might be able to refer him to other resources that are possibly free or low cost.

If he's the type that does read (and seems like the online definitions for sexuality did help him come to terms, so good on you for that!), then yeah, definitely refer him to some of the resources here as well.
And getting his hormone levels checked would also help, since his sexual drive and depression in general can be due to hormonal imbalances. Really urge him to just go and have that cleared up.
 
Welp, went to AA on Sunday. Small meeting space with like 20 people shoved in there.

It wasn't too bad, I guess. People were talking about shit like dreams they had, and there were a couple of people who basically had that air about them when talking like they were in yoga, or armchair psychologists, or something. You know, like, "well that's interesting with what you said there, your identity is reflected by the yaddayaddayadda."

I raised my hand at one point and said my piece, threw in a joke or two, and that was it. Got a little coin that said I was sober for 24 hours. Someone there received her 6 year coin.

Afterwards they were all very friendly. One guy was a bit too friendly and I had to try to wedge myself out of the conversation so I could get on with my day, though.

It was all right, I guess. I suppose I can go back. I don't expect to be really involving myself in the strange psychological guessing games going on though.
 
Aw crap, I'm running low on my antidepressant and I don't think I will be able to get in to see my psychiatrist in time. I missed my last appointment and hadn't scheduled a new one.
 
I have ADHD so I usually get test extensions on quantitative stuff because even if I know the material it takes me a while to work through it. This semester I forgot to renew my extensions in time for my first physics test of the semester. That kinda sucks, but it's on me.

Anyway, I studied hard last night and knew the material like the back of my hand. So I go in there and, firstly, the test is a couple problems too long -- almost everyone in the class was working until we were kicked out by the next class using the room. Besides that, the professor kept interrupting my concentration by going on loud rants to everyone about good test taking strategies, and occasionally irrelevant shit, while I'm trying to work problems. On top of that, there's no clock in the room so someone asked for him to update us on the time remaining; good idea because I will bomb a test if I don't know how much time is left. He agrees, but the first time he tells us the time remaining is 2/3 into the allotted time.

I didn't bomb it, but I probably got a letter grade lower than I could have. I know how to solve all of the problems I didn't finish, but it was just the worst possible test-taking environment and I'm kind of pissed about it. Especially because none of the problems had any point values indicated, so I don't know how the test is graded. Sorry for the diatribe. Just had to vent somewhere.
 
My depression is flickering on and off lately instead of being constant. Does that mean it's getting better or worse?

Edit: happy birthday to Bagels
 
Does anyone else have experience with Abilify? I've been put on it relatively recently in addition to Lexapro (generic) and one side effect seems to be that I sleep less. Quite a bit less, albeit still feeling mostly rested. Or if not less overall, it's hard to sleep in long blocks of time - so I might sleep 4 hours twice a day rather than 8 hours once.

I don't currently have a job and am not in school at the moment for a couple reasons, partially related to depression, so it can be hard finding things to do to fill up the day.

Was just wondering if anyone else experienced something similar (either with the same medicine or not).
 
Does anyone else have experience with Abilify? I've been put on it relatively recently in addition to Lexapro (generic) and one side effect seems to be that I sleep less. Quite a bit less, albeit still feeling mostly rested. Or if not less overall, it's hard to sleep in long blocks of time - so I might sleep 4 hours twice a day rather than 8 hours once.

I don't currently have a job and am not in school at the moment for a couple reasons, partially related to depression, so it can be hard finding things to do to fill up the day.

Was just wondering if anyone else experienced something similar (either with the same medicine or not).

I took Abilify for two weeks so I don't know if you'll find what you're looking for in my experience.
However, I did remember sleeping less but the most prominent thing was my nervous system overreacted and even the slightest touch to anything caused me great pain. I didn't like it, so I gradually weened myself off of it. However no experience is the same, so keep that in mind.
 
Does anyone else have experience with Abilify? I've been put on it relatively recently in addition to Lexapro (generic) and one side effect seems to be that I sleep less. Quite a bit less, albeit still feeling mostly rested. Or if not less overall, it's hard to sleep in long blocks of time - so I might sleep 4 hours twice a day rather than 8 hours once.

I don't currently have a job and am not in school at the moment for a couple reasons, partially related to depression, so it can be hard finding things to do to fill up the day.

Was just wondering if anyone else experienced something similar (either with the same medicine or not).
It didn't do that for me. It primarily made made me fidgity to the point where I would sit on my hands.
 
I started taking Citalopram for anxiety a few weeks ago. I feel way better, but as a side effect, it's really taken a toll on my sex drive. I don't see my psych until the 20th for an update, but does anyone know of another anti anxiety med that won't have that particular affliction that I can bring up?
 
I started taking Citalopram for anxiety a few weeks ago. I feel way better, but as a side effect, it's really taken a toll on my sex drive. I don't see my psych until the 20th for an update, but does anyone know of another anti anxiety med that won't have that particular affliction that I can bring up?

Nearly all SSRI's/SNRI's will have that particular side-effects, it's extremely common. So if that's a big dealbreaker for you, tell that to your doc and they might suggest another kind. (e.g. Wellbutrin)
 
I started taking Citalopram for anxiety a few weeks ago. I feel way better, but as a side effect, it's really taken a toll on my sex drive. I don't see my psych until the 20th for an update, but does anyone know of another anti anxiety med that won't have that particular affliction that I can bring up?
Reducing or giving up masturbation might help. Of course I'm assuming you have sex with other people.
 
Wednesday's art...Still Wednesday on CT anyways. (Which is where I'm at...Sorry Europeans and Asians reading this.)


Thank You

Experimenting with drawing faces and other brushes. Needs some work.
 
I don't really have time to type much, but it sounds like you have been just an awesome and true friend to him.
The things he said to push you away were likely yes, his own feelings of not "deserving" good things in his life and not wanting to burden you. This will be a recurring thing throughout your relationship probably, but I hope you understand that it's nothing specifically personal with you that he'd ever have an issue with. It just sounds like he's finding it hard to accept his own illness and needs.

I'd say the best solution at this point which is low cost is to see if he can get hooked up with university/college/campus resources for mental health. There should be something in place there! It's confidential and doesn't have to go back to his parents. They may focus more on his academic side and strategies to cope and improve in that area, but at least that will handle one aspect. And they might be able to refer him to other resources that are possibly free or low cost.

If he's the type that does read (and seems like the online definitions for sexuality did help him come to terms, so good on you for that!), then yeah, definitely refer him to some of the resources here as well.
And getting his hormone levels checked would also help, since his sexual drive and depression in general can be due to hormonal imbalances. Really urge him to just go and have that cleared up.

thank you so much! it is much appreciated, i did look up the website for his community college and it does seem to offer such a program, i will let him know about it and see what that can do for him, and i will also talk to him more about getting his hormone levels checked out, i think this is a good place to start, thank you again <3

p.s. ^^^ love the drawing by the way!
 
Wednesday's art...Still Wednesday on CT anyways. (Which is where I'm at...Sorry Europeans and Asians reading this.)

Thank You

Experimenting with drawing faces and other brushes. Needs some work.
Awesome. I especially love the the tree's appearance in the background.
 
I hate feeling like a charity case. My friend bought me food in exchange for helping him with program. I told him I didn't want food, I kept telling him that but he wouldn't listen lol. I wish he didn't buy me food because I felt that I didn't help him. In terms of explaining the functions of these methods, statements, and objects. I felt useless. I just showed him my coding and he began to understand it. He, just like me, wants to know how the project works.

Same with my family when I told them to not buy me food when I didn't want any, and they did exactly the opposite. I believe they perceive me as a charity case since I'm cheap and I don't have a job. I have money, but I don't buy food or other things for myself. Because I'm cheap...
 
My only friend is moving and my life is reverting back to what it used to be. When I first met him I was on the lowest end of low, I actually was planning on killing myself (secretly, I'm not one to go bitch about it). But I was also physically sick.

Now it's like whatever, that was a pointless diversion, now back to self destructing.
 
Time to get really depressed about my shortened life span and lack of professional accomplishments for my age and compared to my peers. At least I'm going to sleep soon.
 
Was about a foot away from getting hit by a truck tonight. I should have taken the step.
No, you shouldn't, and there's a reason you didn't do it. You yourself know better than anyone else that your problems can be solved eventually, and there's people in your life that love you and want to support you through these rough times. I'm not telling you to get it together fast and start living, just stop thinking ending it is the only option, because it's not an option at all.
 
Was about a foot away from getting hit by a truck tonight. I should have taken the step.

Don't man, don't do that , I don;t know you personally, but you GAFFERS are a bunch of cool people, you guys cheer my days up and your laughs and jokes keep me going, GAF loves our own.
you are one of us, don't end it man you got people here, we your got your back.

it does get better. it will get better it just takes time, it's not easy and some days you may not wanna get out of bed, just take it step by step and a little at a time.

I think I can safely say that we are all here for you..
 
p.s. ^^^ love the drawing by the way!

Awesome. I especially love the the tree's appearance in the background.

Thank you both for the kind compliments. It means a lot, sincerely.

I hate feeling like a charity case. My friend bought me food in exchange for helping him with program. I told him I didn't want food, I kept telling him that but he wouldn't listen lol. I wish he didn't buy me food because I felt that I didn't help him. In terms of explaining the functions of these methods, statements, and objects. I felt useless. I just showed him my coding and he began to understand it. He, just like me, wants to know how the project works.

Same with my family when I told them to not buy me food when I didn't want any, and they did exactly the opposite. I believe they perceive me as a charity case since I'm cheap and I don't have a job. I have money, but I don't buy food or other things for myself. Because I'm cheap...

There's also another possibility...Perhaps they genuinely care about you and worry that you don't buy food so they want to help you.
No one wants to see someone they care about starve because of an illness that can't be seen. I'm not sure how you react if people buy you other things like a video game, so perhaps getting you food seems the most reasonable choice to show they care about you and don't want you to starve.
 
Would any one here at MH GAF be interested me giving one of you the PopCap weekly indie bundle?
Sometimes just being distracted with a puzzle is a good way to keep depression at bay.
 
Would any one here at MH GAF be interested me giving one of you the PopCap weekly indie bundle?
Sometimes just being distracted with a puzzle is a good way to keep depression at bay.

Gah! I already bought it! But no regrets, there's sone great games there.
 
A fight almost broke out at my psychiatrist's office, literally right in front of me no less. Fun times. Apparently the one guy was a schizophrenic. Afterwards, I was talking to another patient and he told he had been coming there for 13 years and never witnessed an incident like that. It was unreal how quickly it escalated over something trivial and with plenty of macho bullshit.
 
Everyone's situation in here seems so much better than mine :"(

No use in comparing others with your own situation. We all have it bad in some form or another and we all struggle in our own way. For instance, Prax, while I don't know her well enough, always seems cheerful here, but she has her own shit to deal with and doesn't let it all out entirely. It's easy to compare however, but don't.
You're struggling with your situation is more than enough to know that you're having a hard time, whether it is simple or not.

Would any one here at MH GAF be interested me giving one of you the PopCap weekly indie bundle?
Sometimes just being distracted with a puzzle is a good way to keep depression at bay.

Also putting this out here one more time if anyone's interested.
 
how do you distract yourself from being depressed? I don't want to focus on it

That's the hard part right?

I got in and out of it, I've been great for awhile, but today I'm just having an awful day. I always try to do or accomplish something everyday, it seems to keep me feeling pretty happy, but today I'm about ready to forfiet and call it a loss haha.

Just feel like I'm sinking atm, gotta get up and go run or go do something so i can get it out you know.
 
That's the hard part right?

I got in and out of it, I've been great for awhile, but today I'm just having an awful day. I always try to do or accomplish something everyday, it seems to keep me feeling pretty happy, but today I'm about ready to forfiet and call it a loss haha.

Just feel like I'm sinking atm, gotta get up and go run or go do something so i can get it out you know.

yeah, usually getting up and doing something helps, which is why I generally push for it - not always successful, though. fortunately it's not a constant thing, but when it hits (and it does fairly often), it sucks.
 
how do you distract yourself from being depressed? I don't want to focus on it
The last couple weeks, running and working out at home. Definitely more stabilizing for me. It helps that I'm in the planning stages of a trip next month as well. Having something to look forward to, and especially going through with it, helps immensely.
 
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