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[Horseticuffs]

So, Dating-gaf, I find myself puzzled. Now, perhaps I'm not the smoothest dude in the world on reading cues. I'm just getting back from my impromptu midnight coffee date which was her idea. So, this is our second date, and we've been talking about a week and a half.

We spend all day texting, we've friended each other on Facebook, we get along really well and have all these great conversations. Thing is that we haven't kissed yet. We've kissed each other on the cheek, and I've had my arm around her, but no actual lip-to-lip contact.

Should I be concerned that perhaps she isn't interested in me in that way? If I felt like there was an obvious opening, or implied invitation, I'd make a move but it just doesn't seem like it's there yet.At the end of this date I went in for a hug and she kissed me on the cheek, which was nice and all, but I'm just wondering if it's alright to have not actually kissed yet.

Is it a sign of a larger problem that maybe she doesn't think of me that way? She's told me she thinks I'm a handsome dude, and she's told me how comfortable I make her feel. Perhaps that's the issue? Or is the timescale fine and 2 dates in without a kiss a pretty acceptable state of affairs?

 

[stn]

@Mistah

If you're into her, ask her to meet in a public place for coffee to discuss the coitus. That way you can "see" her first.

@Oblivion
Same thing I wrote above. If you have the ability to meet the girl, do it, instead of sending dick pics. If she resists, move on. You never know what kind of a person is on the other side. She could just be trolling.

 

[No_Style]

So, Dating-gaf, I find myself puzzled. Now, perhaps I'm not the smoothest dude in the world on reading cues. I'm just getting back from my impromptu midnight coffee date which was her idea. So, this is our second date, and we've been talking about a week and a half.

We spend all day texting, we've friended each other on Facebook, we get along really well and have all these great conversations. Thing is that we haven't kissed yet. We've kissed each other on the cheek, and I've had my arm around her, but no actual lip-to-lip contact.

Should I be concerned that perhaps she isn't interested in me in that way? If I felt like there was an obvious opening, or implied invitation, I'd make a move but it just doesn't seem like it's there yet.At the end of this date I went in for a hug and she kissed me on the cheek, which was nice and all, but I'm just wondering if it's alright to have not actually kissed yet.

Is it a sign of a larger problem that maybe she doesn't think of me that way? She's told me she thinks I'm a handsome dude, and she's told me how comfortable I make her feel. Perhaps that's the issue? Or is the timescale fine and 2 dates in without a kiss a pretty acceptable state of affairs?

I was in your shoes with the lady I'm seeing. We just exchanged our first real kiss the other morning after numerous dates and nights over at my place. We actually talked about the direction of the relationship and came to the conclusion that she just needs time. I actually snuck in a kiss on our second date on Valentine's Day and made it awkward for like 30 seconds or so. LOL so don't do that.

Bottom line, from my experience, take your time, communicate your intent for a real relationship and see if she feels the same. The kiss will come naturally.

 

[electricshake]

So, Dating-gaf, I find myself puzzled. Now, perhaps I'm not the smoothest dude in the world on reading cues. I'm just getting back from my impromptu midnight coffee date which was her idea. So, this is our second date, and we've been talking about a week and a half.

We spend all day texting, we've friended each other on Facebook, we get along really well and have all these great conversations. Thing is that we haven't kissed yet. We've kissed each other on the cheek, and I've had my arm around her, but no actual lip-to-lip contact.

Should I be concerned that perhaps she isn't interested in me in that way? If I felt like there was an obvious opening, or implied invitation, I'd make a move but it just doesn't seem like it's there yet.At the end of this date I went in for a hug and she kissed me on the cheek, which was nice and all, but I'm just wondering if it's alright to have not actually kissed yet.

Is it a sign of a larger problem that maybe she doesn't think of me that way? She's told me she thinks I'm a handsome dude, and she's told me how comfortable I make her feel. Perhaps that's the issue? Or is the timescale fine and 2 dates in without a kiss a pretty acceptable state of affairs?

If I was her I'd be wondering why you hadn't made a move yet and be worrying that you weren't interested. Of course I'd also just kiss you at the end of the first date (or maybe in the middle) but apparently I'm a lot more forward than other ladies.

 

[Septimius]

So, Dating-gaf, I find myself puzzled. Now, perhaps I'm not the smoothest dude in the world on reading cues. I'm just getting back from my impromptu midnight coffee date which was her idea. So, this is our second date, and we've been talking about a week and a half.

We spend all day texting, we've friended each other on Facebook, we get along really well and have all these great conversations. Thing is that we haven't kissed yet. We've kissed each other on the cheek, and I've had my arm around her, but no actual lip-to-lip contact.

Should I be concerned that perhaps she isn't interested in me in that way? If I felt like there was an obvious opening, or implied invitation, I'd make a move but it just doesn't seem like it's there yet.At the end of this date I went in for a hug and she kissed me on the cheek, which was nice and all, but I'm just wondering if it's alright to have not actually kissed yet.

Is it a sign of a larger problem that maybe she doesn't think of me that way? She's told me she thinks I'm a handsome dude, and she's told me how comfortable I make her feel. Perhaps that's the issue? Or is the timescale fine and 2 dates in without a kiss a pretty acceptable state of affairs?

Basically been said, but why do you need an invitation? What if she's thinking the exact same thing as you? You've been saying how great things have been. Seems fair that you put your lips where your mouth is and go for it. There's been no signs that you shouldn't, and there's nothing bad about a girl being comfortable around you, so there's no point in thinking about that. You just sound like two kind of shy persons that both have a hard time making the next move.

All sounds right to just go for it

I was in your shoes with the lady I'm seeing. We just exchanged our first real kiss the other morning after numerous dates and nights over at my place. We actually talked about the direction of the relationship and came to the conclusion that she just needs time. I actually snuck in a kiss on our second date on Valentine's Day and made it awkward for like 30 seconds or so. LOL so don't do that.

Bottom line, from my experience, take your time, communicate your intent for a real relationship and see if she feels the same. The kiss will come naturally.

There seems to be no indication that this girl needs time like your does. It's great that you communicate, but you can even see that when you snuck in a kiss, it didn't ruin anything. If the girl Horseticuffs is seeing needs more time for some reason, perhaps it would've been good if she'd already expressed that, but she will get the opportunity to do so if he goes for the kiss. It can ruin the momentum of the relationship that's building if you have to say "so, can I kiss you?"

 

[Stiflers Mom]

I am not so sure about the girl I meet this evening.

Met her at the party I organize every two months (she is a regular visitor there), introduced myself to her, had a very short conversation with her, and then went on with my business that evening.

Next day, she added me on facebook, and immediately after that started a chat session with me. Which was kind of funny and playful, I'd say we had a good chemistry on that chat, and at the end we concluded we'd contact each other in future and have a visit to our favourite italian restaurant (which is both our fav italian place).

Well, after a week of nothing coming from her side, I contacted her again on fb, telling her I still would like to go having some pizza.

After two days she replies, we are having a short chat again, and decide to date the upcoming monday (today) in front of the italian restaurant.


I had the situation a couple of times, that girls added and contacted me on facebook, and that usually was a clear indicator that they were interested in me a lot, but this time I am not so sure, because she wasn't contacting me again after our first chat, and she is always ending our chats so abruptly and says she has something else to do (visitors arriving at her place, etc)

I wonder if she is just playing "hard to get" and is really interested in me, or if she just wants to meet me as a friend.

 

[stn]

No need to dwell on what she wants. When you end up going to the Italian place, make your intentions clear. Act based off of what you want, not off what you think she may or may not want.

 

[Stiflers Mom]

No need to dwell on what she wants. When you end up going to the Italian place, make your intentions clear. Act based off of what you want, not off what you think she may or may not want.

You are right...

Thanks stn...

 

[Mistah]

@Mistah

If you're into her, ask her to meet in a public place for coffee to discuss the coitus. That way you can "see" her first.

@Oblivion
Same thing I wrote above. If you have the ability to meet the girl, do it, instead of sending dick pics. If she resists, move on. You never know what kind of a person is on the other side. She could just be trolling.

Hmm ok maybe I will ask to go to the starbucks.

 

[csquared587]

So I have been dating this Catholic woman for about a month a half, going on two months relatively soon. I am an atheist, and she told me before that it didn't bother her at all when we first started talking. However, she did mention that she wanted her man to accompany her to church one day, so I figured I would make an effort to go at least one time. This move has proven to be a mistake, as she started questioning me about why I want to go all of the sudden, and I just said I wanted to go to accompany her and have a better understanding of something important to her.

Needless to say, she said church isn't some fun game to just go hangout, and she doesn't want to take me if I am not taking it seriously. Ive never been religious and will never convert, so I backed off and told her I'm ok with not going at all(Id actually prefer this). She asked me if I have ever even prayed(this should have been an obvious answer), and when I said no she simply said.

"We are very different, and it makes me sad."

Shes been a bit cold since, and to be honest I'm very turned off by this entire thing. If I ever date a christian woman again, I am never mentioning church. Im just backing off for a bit and not texting her. I plan on dropping the entire thing unless she brings it back up. What do you guys think about this?

 

[Septimius]

So I have been dating this Catholic woman for about a month a half, going on two months relatively soon. I am an atheist, and she told me before that it didn't bother her at all when we first started talking. However, she did mention that she wanted her man to accompany her to church one day, so I figured I would make an effort to go at least one time. This move has proven to be a mistake, as she started questioning me about why I want to go all of the sudden, and I just said I wanted to go to accompany her and have a better understanding of something important to her.

Needless to say, she said church isn't some fun game to just go hangout, and she doesn't want to take me if I am not taking it seriously. Ive never been religious and will never convert, so I backed off and told her I'm ok with not going at all(Id actually prefer this). She asked me if I have ever even prayed(this should have been an obvious answer), and when I said no she simply said.

"We are very different, and it makes me sad."

Shes been a bit cold since, and to be honest I'm very turned off by this entire thing. If I ever date a christian woman again, I am never mentioning church. Im just backing off for a bit and not texting her. I plan on dropping the entire thing unless she brings it back up. What do you guys think about this?

Don't let this person put a damper on your willingness to communicate and take an active interest. I think you did a very admirable thing by getting to know more about something that's obviously important to her. Her saying it's not 'a fun game' would've spawned all types of Alan Watts responses in me, but that's besides the point.

It seems she's of a type of shielded community, and the questions she asked you seems to stem from a lack of understanding why 'have you prayed?' is a flawed premiss to come in with. It's like she thought you could be converted, or "just hadn't seen God yet", or something like that. It's not really what a respect of each other's belief should be. So please don't let this woman's poor way of treating this be a stopper for the way you communicate in the future. Unless you were in any way mocking what they were doing, it seems you've done your part in taking an active interest, so keep it up, rather.

 

[The Artful Dodger]

So I have been dating this Catholic woman for about a month a half, going on two months relatively soon. I am an atheist, and she told me before that it didn't bother her at all when we first started talking. However, she did mention that she wanted her man to accompany her to church one day, so I figured I would make an effort to go at least one time. This move has proven to be a mistake, as she started questioning me about why I want to go all of the sudden, and I just said I wanted to go to accompany her and have a better understanding of something important to her.

Needless to say, she said church isn't some fun game to just go hangout, and she doesn't want to take me if I am not taking it seriously. Ive never been religious and will never convert, so I backed off and told her I'm ok with not going at all(Id actually prefer this). She asked me if I have ever even prayed(this should have been an obvious answer), and when I said no she simply said.

"We are very different, and it makes me sad."

Shes been a bit cold since, and to be honest I'm very turned off by this entire thing. If I ever date a christian woman again, I am never mentioning church. Im just backing off for a bit and not texting her. I plan on dropping the entire thing unless she brings it back up. What do you guys think about this?

There are a number of ways to go on this.
1. Call it off. If you don't see it going anywhere it may not. If it's not worth it, then break it off sooner rather than later.

2. You may want to read more about the faith or books by Catholic writers (PM me and I can recommend literature that isn't necessarily evangelical) and try to find more commonalities, I've known Catholics that have dated atheists, it's not like there is some giant gap. You don't need to convert, you can just express an interest and say it's just that, if it's important to her, you're willing to learn more but you don't see a conversion happening. You two can both read books like that to understand each other, and just because you two are different in that way doesn't mean there isn't going to be common ground or the like.

I'm actually a practicing Catholic, and If you have any questions or books you want or anything else feel free to PM me.

 

[TheExodu5]

Different religious beliefs don't mix. I'd never go out with anyone that wasn't on the same page as me as far as religion is concerned.

If she's Christian and devout, then she'd be of the belief that you're going to go to Hell when you die. Of course she's going to try to change you.

If you believed that your loved ones were to suffer eternal suffering and damnation following their current path, would you not try to change them?

 

[PlayALLtheGames]

So I have been dating this Catholic woman for about a month a half, going on two months relatively soon. I am an atheist, and she told me before that it didn't bother her at all when we first started talking. However, she did mention that she wanted her man to accompany her to church one day, so I figured I would make an effort to go at least one time. This move has proven to be a mistake, as she started questioning me about why I want to go all of the sudden, and I just said I wanted to go to accompany her and have a better understanding of something important to her.

Needless to say, she said church isn't some fun game to just go hangout, and she doesn't want to take me if I am not taking it seriously. Ive never been religious and will never convert, so I backed off and told her I'm ok with not going at all(Id actually prefer this). She asked me if I have ever even prayed(this should have been an obvious answer), and when I said no she simply said.

"We are very different, and it makes me sad."

Shes been a bit cold since, and to be honest I'm very turned off by this entire thing. If I ever date a christian woman again, I am never mentioning church. Im just backing off for a bit and not texting her. I plan on dropping the entire thing unless she brings it back up. What do you guys think about this?

I think you've done, and are doing, everything right. Props to you for the patience. I have no problem dating a religious person but if they ever started hounding me about praying or going to church or said we're "very different" just because of faith, I'd politely exit out of that relationship in a hurry.

If I was you, I wouldn't back off and wait around. I'd text her and just say, "Sorry you feel our beliefs in matters of faith make us very different. I understand if this is an issue for you and in that case I think we should move on." It's only fair that she makes a decision quickly. You shouldn't have to sit around wondering whether this is going to work out or not.

 

[Horseticuffs]

You know, I don't need to tell anyone here it's tough to find someone when you're open about being a nonbeliever.

That being said, I think you did a very thoughtful thing by making that offer. You can date and even love someone without agreeing on everything as long so there is respect. I'd say the issue is with her, dude.

 

[PlayALLtheGames]

You know, I don't need to tell anyone here it's tough to find someone when you're open about being a nonbeliever.
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I think it depends. I live in Arlington, VA. I hardly ever meet people in the DC area who are around my age (late 20's/early 30's) and who are religious to any extent further than maybe, "I believe there is something greater than us" or whatever. Don't remember meeting any when I was in my early 20's, either. Another reason I love living around here.

 

[PflargBlarg]

You know, I don't need to tell anyone here it's tough to find someone when you're open about being a nonbeliever.

That being said, I think you did a very thoughtful thing by making that offer. You can date and even love someone without agreeing on everything as long so there is respect. I'd say the issue is with her, dude.

Well it does depend on where you are. If that's all he's got in the area then he may have to get used to dealing with this. For me, I can't think of anyone that I hang out with regularly that's religious and for the couple people I've met around my age that are religious, it's very much a personal thing that they don't talk about.

 

[stn]

Religion does not mix at all, sadly. If either the girl is religious or her family is religious but she's not, you're in for a ride. And that's either if you're an Atheist or just have a different religion than she does. I learned some lessons from this the really hard way, now religion is a factor for me when I search out girls.

Its just because I want to ensure there are no future headaches down the line if her family has certain "views" about conformity or she does herself. Would I seriously date a girl of a different religion? Sure, provided that she and her family sign a metaphorical contract promising that no future conflicts will arise.

 

[electricshake]

You know, I don't need to tell anyone here it's tough to find someone when you're open about being a nonbeliever.

That being said, I think you did a very thoughtful thing by making that offer. You can date and even love someone without agreeing on everything as long so there is respect. I'd say the issue is with her, dude.

I'm in the UK not US but I don't know anyone outside my extended family who practises religion. And very few of my friends would claim to be anything other than agnostic or atheist.

I couldn't seriously date someone who was religious. I've never seriously thought about marriage but one of the very few things I know for certain is I absolutely could not get married in a church.

 

[hydrophilic attack]

So, I was worried that things were getting awkward with the Internet dating girl who invited me to a party a week ago, because of some complications that arose. I wasn't sure whether she was interested and there wasn't much chemistry when we met, maybe because we didn't really get a chance to speak one-on-one. So I held off on contacting her over the weekend to gauge whether there is still some interest.

She got in touch today, so I set up a date at a jazz club later this week. Wish me luck!

 

[Horseticuffs]

Yeah, I should note I'm in the deep south here in the states. I'm sure there's tons of people out there in more "cosmopolitan" locations.

 

[The Artful Dodger]

It strikes me as off that most of you folks write that off as a deal breaker, I'm religious and I would never write off dating a non-religious girl. The world's too big to dismiss one entire group of people. Diff'rent Strokes, I guess.

So, I was worried that things were getting awkward with the Internet dating girl who invited me to a party a week ago, because of some complications that arose. I wasn't sure whether she was interested and there wasn't much chemistry when we met, maybe because we didn't really get a chance to speak one-on-one. So I held off on contacting her over the weekend to gauge whether there is still some interest.

She got in touch today, so I set up a date at a jazz club later this week. Wish me luck!

Best of Luck man!

 

[stn]

@The Artful Dodger
There's a difference between being religious and being religious, know what I mean? I tried to make it work with a girl of a different religion before and she made it clear that her family would kill her if they found her with a white guy. On my end there are no problems. My family doesn't care, they would accept any girl who "loves" me.

I'm thinking more in the sense of what I would do if a girl was demanding I convert. Well, I wouldn't. I've been raised a certain way and I wouldn't give it up, even for a real relationship. Especially because you never know how long said relationship will last. In my case, I'm cool with any religion as long as I can keep my own.

 

[The Artful Dodger]

@The Artful Dodger
There's a difference between being religious and being religious, know what I mean? I tried to make it work with a girl of a different religion before and she made it clear that her family would kill her if they found her with a white guy. On my end there are no problems. My family doesn't care, they would accept any girl who "loves" me.

I'm thinking more in the sense of what I would do if a girl was demanding I convert. Well, I wouldn't. I've been raised a certain way and I wouldn't give it up, even for a real relationship. Especially because you never know how long said relationship will last. In my case, I'm cool with any religion as long as I can keep my own.

Lol, I get it, and it's cool.

I was more referring to those that have blanket dismissals. Like I said before, to each their own though.

 

[dietertong]

@The Artful Dodger
There's a difference between being religious and being religious, know what I mean? I tried to make it work with a girl of a different religion before and she made it clear that her family would kill her if they found her with a white guy. On my end there are no problems. My family doesn't care, they would accept any girl who "loves" me.

I'm thinking more in the sense of what I would do if a girl was demanding I convert. Well, I wouldn't. I've been raised a certain way and I wouldn't give it up, even for a real relationship. Especially because you never know how long said relationship will last. In my case, I'm cool with any religion as long as I can keep my own.

I think that's the biggest thing for me as well - just having the tolerance for my own free thought to what I want to believe.

 

[GutsOfThor]

So I have been dating this Catholic woman for about a month a half, going on two months relatively soon. I am an atheist, and she told me before that it didn't bother her at all when we first started talking. However, she did mention that she wanted her man to accompany her to church one day, so I figured I would make an effort to go at least one time. This move has proven to be a mistake, as she started questioning me about why I want to go all of the sudden, and I just said I wanted to go to accompany her and have a better understanding of something important to her.

Needless to say, she said church isn't some fun game to just go hangout, and she doesn't want to take me if I am not taking it seriously. Ive never been religious and will never convert, so I backed off and told her I'm ok with not going at all(Id actually prefer this). She asked me if I have ever even prayed(this should have been an obvious answer), and when I said no she simply said.

"We are very different, and it makes me sad."

Shes been a bit cold since, and to be honest I'm very turned off by this entire thing. If I ever date a christian woman again, I am never mentioning church. Im just backing off for a bit and not texting her. I plan on dropping the entire thing unless she brings it back up. What do you guys think about this?

Break it off and move on. It's not going to work,

 

[tringworldso]

She got in touch today, so I set up a date at a jazz club later this week. Wish me luck!

Good luck!

 

[csquared587]

Break it off and move on. It's not going to work,

I'm starting to think this might be the case. As unfortunate as it is, she seems stuck on the idea that we are "very different", even after I tried to reason with her that it isn't a bad thing at all and can be exciting. Perhaps I should assume that it is something else entirely bothering her and making her want out, but I won't waste time and energy worrying about that. I will just stay calm and reasonable, regardless of how unreasonable she becomes over this.

She did ask me if I would go on a mission trip with her church to Jamaica earlier today, but I have to wonder if that was just a slight test to see what I would say, or even worse, some illusion that if I go, I will want to convert to Catholicism.

 

[Flying Toaster]

I'm starting to think this might be the case. As unfortunate as it is, she seems stuck on the idea that we are "very different", even after I tried to reason with her that it isn't a bad thing at all and can be exciting. Perhaps I should assume that it is something else entirely bothering her and making her want out, but I won't waste time and energy worrying about that. I will just stay calm and reasonable, regardless of how unreasonable she becomes over this.

She did ask me if I would go on a mission trip with her church to Jamaica earlier today, but I have to wonder if that was just a slight test to see what I would say, or even worse, some illusion that if I go, I will want to convert to Catholicism.

Honestly this could be it. I have seen people use blanket reasons as why they want out when it honestly has nothing to do with said reason. If your not feeling it, and she is being weird then end it. Not like you didn't try and were not open minded.

 

[AlexBasch]

Nothing worse as running into that person and she just gives a "excuse me" look and goes out of your way.

Fuck it woman, I'm trying to get things straight but you make me feel horrible.

 

[spuckthew]

We need to clear up what this "take it or leave it" thing was. If it was as it sounds, I don't get why you're surprised that that might scare her off.

I haven't checked the thread for a few days and can't even remember what I said to her, but I overreacted as expected. I found out she has a really fucked up sleeping pattern and I don't think she's overly social (a by-product of her sleeping pattern I suppose). She seems to sleep A LOT. We ended up not meeting on Saturday due to this. I won't get into it too much, but she went for a nap Saturday afternoon and got back to me at around midnight apologising profusely. At the moment this weekend is on the cards for round 2. Hopefully she won't slip into a coma before then.

 

[Septimius]

Nothing worse as running into that person and she just gives a "excuse me" look and goes out of your way.

Fuck it woman, I'm trying to get things straight but you make me feel horrible.

What?

 

[GutsOfThor]

So, I was worried that things were getting awkward with the Internet dating girl who invited me to a party a week ago, because of some complications that arose. I wasn't sure whether she was interested and there wasn't much chemistry when we met, maybe because we didn't really get a chance to speak one-on-one. So I held off on contacting her over the weekend to gauge whether there is still some interest.

She got in touch today, so I set up a date at a jazz club later this week. Wish me luck!

Good luck!

 

[grap3fruitman]

OKC isn't working. No one wants to talk to me. =/

 

[stn]

^Heh, me too! I had a bit of a drought at one point, including a particular stalker who was literally creeping my profile at least twice a day. I actually messaged her with a bit of a "you must really like my profile" tease, she read the message and decided not to reply (lol). Oh, but she DID decide to creep more. Cute girl, just weird and doesn't live in my country. I guess there are no other suitable men in the U.S.A. for her so she looks at my profile? Anyway, I figured it was some kind of sign so I temporarily closed my account.

 

[grap3fruitman]

I'll get approached though but I suck and I never get a response after I write.

 

[Oblivion]

Gots me another question.

Normally before I ask a girl her number, I like to talk to her first, let her get comfortable knowing me, etc. I think that's how the vast majority of people handle it.

But what if you come across someone you want to smash, but don't have much time to strike up a conversation? Ex. just now I come back from the store for my lunch break, and I see this smoking hot babe in a tank top. I want to talk to her, but I only have like 5 minutes (I had 30, but I saw her near the end of my lunch).

How should I approach this? Or should I not approach at all?

 

[BuggyDClown]

Missed out on this series of threads, or never noticed because I've only been single a few months lol.

Loving being single, even more I love Tinder. greatest thing ever made, significantly increases the pool of opportunities to meet new people. I have yet to have a bad date. Saw 14 different girls over 2-3 months and got a bit burned out so I stopped using it. Deleted and took a week or so off of the app.

Started back using it again a few days ago and Ive made plans with a couple more girls. It's super fun, and a great way to go out and do new things.

 

[tringworldso]

Loving being single, even more I love Tinder. greatest thing ever made, significantly increases the pool of opportunities to meet new people. I have yet to have a bad date. Saw 114 different girls over 2-3 months and got a bit burned out so I stopped using it. Deleted and took a week or so off of the app.

Started back using it again a few days ago and Ive made plans with a couple more girls. It's super fun, and a great way to go out and do new things.

2-3 months is like 90-92 days and you had 114 dates. :-O

 

[MogCakes]

You know, I don't need to tell anyone here it's tough to find someone when you're open about being a

atheist
nerd
gamer
transgender

it goes on lol. Lots of close-minded people out there.

Missed out on this series of threads, or never noticed because I've only been single a few months lol.

Loving being single, even more I love Tinder. greatest thing ever made, significantly increases the pool of opportunities to meet new people. I have yet to have a bad date. Saw 114 different girls over 2-3 months and got a bit burned out so I stopped using it. Deleted and took a week or so off of the app.

Started back using it again a few days ago and Ive made plans with a couple more girls. It's super fun, and a great way to go out and do new things.

GAF has some suave dudes.

 

[Horseticuffs]

atheist
nerd
gamer
transgender

it goes on lol. Lots of close-minded people out there.



GAF has some suave dudes.

You know, the rest are choices, but I can't imagine how scary and daunting it must be to use a dating site as a TG individual. Christ, they're complicated enough as is. I see TG ladies on occasion in my OKC feed, but exceedingly rarely.Small town, again.

 

[MogCakes]

There are usually more in urban metros mostly because those areas are more liberal than small towns, but yeah, it's a crapshoot no matter what for them. I have however seen some who are quite attractive and get a lot of attention.

 

[Kopite]

atheist
nerd
gamer
transgender

2.5 ot of 4.

 

[BuggyDClown]

2-3 months is like 90-92 days and you had 114 dates. :-O

FUCK lol.

That was supposed to be 14 hahahaha. I typed it on an iPad. Editing my post now LOL

atheist
nerd
gamer
transgender

it goes on lol. Lots of close-minded people out there.



GAF has some suave dudes.

LOL Fixed my post haha.

Also as for you, being atheist doesn't have to be a deal breaker, we atheists have the choice to be accepting of believers just as they do of us non believers. I'd say it really only cuts prospective dates in half. Being a nerd and being a gamer are not usually deal breakers.. maybe gaming but it depends on how serious it is and if its the center of your life. Women seem to like that I'm a nerd.

As for the last one, well I suppose it's not necessarily fair of you to say people are close minded if that's what you are referring to. I can't pretend to imagine what that makes dating like, but it will definitely limit your potential demographic. Though in the same vain as being a believer or non believer of any faith, it needs to be accepted on both ends of the spectrum.

 

[MogCakes]

People who aren't welcoming of the idea of dating someone who used to be a different gender - eh I'd say it's fair. That doesn't make them bad people, just close minded to the idea of dating a trans person. Much like how someone can be a nice person but be turned off by the fact that their date plays videogames, or identifies as a nerd. Speaking of, women like nerds, but to what extent depends on the girl, since it's a sliding scale.

 

[BuggyDClown]

People who aren't welcoming of the idea of dating someone who used to be a different gender - eh I'd say it's fair. That doesn't make them bad people, just close minded to the idea of dating a trans person. Much like how someone can be a nice person but be turned off by the fact that their date plays videogames, or identifies as a nerd. Speaking of, women like nerds, but to what extent depends on the girl, since it's a sliding scale.

That's really not fair and you know it. Those two things are so wildly different. You're being fairly flippant with your comparison.

I personally wouldn't be interested in dating someone whom used to be a man. It's not as simple as me being close minded.

There is far more to it, the way you say it makes them close minded to the idea of a trans person is just wrong. If thats true you would also be able t argue it is close minded of a straight man not being open to dating another man, or a gay woman not being open to date a man. You must understand this, unfortunately it is a burden the trans community has to bear. It's just never going to change, and I can't see how it can be fair to view non trans people as close minded for it.

I'm trying to eloquently say this, because as I said I don't pretend to understand your particular situation. I just think you need to also consider the other side of the fence and understand there is a difference between men liking women, and men liking transgenderd women. It's the same thing with religion. I used to think I had such a limited pool of prospects out in the wild as an atheist, but the truth is if I don't judge someone and accept them for their belief then there ultimately should be people whom are religious and can do the same.

 

[Amalthea]

I am really afraid of dating being transgender too. On one hand there seem to be no murderings in my country related to transphobia on the other hand my sister thinks it's even hard to find some open guys when you're a born woman around these parts.
Eh, I'm just so lonely.

 

[grap3fruitman]

Missed out on this series of threads, or never noticed because I've only been single a few months lol.

Loving being single, even more I love Tinder. greatest thing ever made, significantly increases the pool of opportunities to meet new people. I have yet to have a bad date. Saw 14 different girls over 2-3 months and got a bit burned out so I stopped using it. Deleted and took a week or so off of the app.

Started back using it again a few days ago and Ive made plans with a couple more girls. It's super fun, and a great way to go out and do new things.

Can I honestly recommend that you drink bleach?

 

[BuggyDClown]

Can I honestly recommend that you drink bleach?

You can, but I probably won't do it anyway. lol, not sure why I got this response haha.

 

[Log4Girlz]

You can, but I probably won't do it anyway. lol, not sure why I got this response haha.

He has a fetish for people drinking random chemicals. Its quite strange honestly.