But that person is specifically mentioning that he feels like he is being painted as a misogynist and nerd by journalists. The only thing I can think of that he would be referring to with that, is stuff like Sarkeesian's work (while of course missing her point entirely). What he is saying sounds very similar to the gamergate brigade, even though he says it in a slightly nicer way.
I think the cure is first of all that the articles posted, like the Rhodes and Keogh ones to contextualize what is going on for the ones who still don't understand why this "movement" is not something you want to be associated with.
But more importantly, we can see this assumed developer as touching upon the topic of education and information on issues that the listeners/readers are mostly unaware or blind to (like privilege and oppression).
How do you tell someone (let's say a privileged White dude) about issues and hurt that they are not exposed to because of their gender/race/sexuality? How do you make them understand that you are being harassed (gender slurs, rape threats), excluded ("you don't agree, therefore you can't get a job"), questioned ("do you even play games?"), denied ("I don't see a sexism, therefore there is none"), tone-policing "(I won't listen to your arguments because they are delivered in an aggressive tone!"), silenced ("men have it hard too you know!"), etc. and that feeds into your perception and understanding of the specific domain that constantly contributes to these different hurtful and marginalizing states? How can you ever hope to make them understand something that is unique solely to you and your identity as a specific gender/race/sexuality? And after voicing your grievances, some people will still be unable to understand and sympathize. So what do you do except feeling hopeless and defeated after all the struggles?
And what do you do when you are still, after all your efforts to educate and inform, being harassed, denied, questioned, etc.? What are the limits to one's patience and durability of being discriminated against on a constant basis in your society, local environment, workplace and in the products you consume? In almost every single human interaction throughout your every day? And how can you ever remain calm and gathered when the topic and conversation always hurt and harm you?
Personally I don't fault anyone who are legitimately oppressed and discriminated in these ways react in an aggressive and short-fused manner. But at the same time I don't know how these people who are blind to other people's oppression can ever understand the situation of others if they simply don't listen at all. I think it is the responsibility of other people who are not targets of harassment or being identified as a marginalized identity, like what Tim Schaefer or Manveer Heir, to speak up and take a stand instead of being silent and implicitly condoning.