What big ticket items have you tried to sneak by your significant other?

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So right now I am trying to buy a nice watch (Swiss made for all the iWatch thread people :oP) I really don't have a solid plan on how to sneak it buy her except to maybe tell her its a cheap fake but she knows me too well to know I would buy something like that.

Other things I have tried to sneak by her (none of which worked by the way)

A Playstation 3 when Sony was having a promotion for you to get one and save $100 by opening a credit card. I (very dumbly) left my email open on the laptop one morning and as I was sitting there watching TV out of nowhere she exclaims "YOU BOUGHT A PLAYSTATION 3?!?" The only excuse I could muster was "No, I bought three Playstation 1's" Rightfully, she saw through my web of lies and got over it.

A new Onkyo receiver. With the PS3 purchase I just had to have a new receiver to get that lossless HDMI audio out of right? I craftily had it sent to my mothers house during the week. When we both went to visit her during the following weekend I said slyly that I had to go grab an old receiver I had. It didn't take her long to notice that it was brand new in the packaging. In hind sight I should have found the time to open the box at least with out her noticing.

What say you fellow Gaffers? Any funny stories of trying to sneak that purchase that was just a little to expensive by your SO?

Any advice on how I can hide that watch? :)
 
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I built a gaming pc. I kept all the components in my trunk and built it on a holiday I had off and she didn't. I told her that my boss bought a new pc and gave me his old one.

muahahahaha.
 
Wow, the watch is really hard, as you will be wearing it all the time, not really sure how to go about it.

I've actually passed a couple of things by designing fake websites and showing her that I won a contest or something, only really works maybe once or twice a year and you have to constantly remind her that you are entering tons of contests, so that when you say you won she wont suspect anything.

Other than that, stuff that you can get at Wal-Mart is really easy to hide, just say you were shopping for groceries.

I also recently tried to hide a 21:9 monitor but it didnt work, lead to a discussion but its all good now.
 
My wife and I have an agreement that we can spend up to $200 without running it by the other. Last thing I bought that was larger than that without asking was my i7 2600k and my 7950, but that's because I had just gotten a massive bonus from work, so she didn't mind anyways.
 
It's surprisingly easy to get expensive items past a Realdoll without them noticing. A Dakimakura though not so much, Kimiko is quite perceptive and frugal.
 
zephervack said:
Wow, the watch is really hard, as you will be wearing it all the time, not really sure how to go about it.

I've actually passed a couple of things by designing fake websites and showing her that I won a contest or something, only really works maybe once or twice a year and you have to constantly remind her that you are entering tons of contests, so that when you say you won she wont suspect anything.
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Wtf? How do you "receive" your winnings? Fake boxes, etc?
 
My wife handles all of our financials so I'm pretty sure I couldn't get away with buying a stick of gum without her noticing.
That being said, before we were married, I had about $150 in another account that she thought I closed, so I gradually used that money over the length of a year to buy different digital game downloads. I eventually told her about it when there was about $30 left and bought her a nice dinner.
 
Rentahamster said:
Hiding things from your SO? The point is to be open and honest with each other.
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Yeah that would be ideal, but from time to time you feel like splurging on something and dont feel like having to justify it, specially if your SO will want to get a same-priced item just because you got one.
 
Best policy to have is to be honest and not just for the most obvious reason. What if they're also planning on buying something expensive and not telling you about it? Unless you're fairly well off, that can be a real problem.
zephervack said:
Wow, the watch is really hard, as you will be wearing it all the time, not really sure how to go about it.

I've actually passed a couple of things by designing fake websites and showing her that I won a contest or something, only really works maybe once or twice a year and you have to constantly remind her that you are entering tons of contests, so that when you say you won she wont suspect anything.

Other than that, stuff that you can get at Wal-Mart is really easy to hide, just say you were shopping for groceries.

I also recently tried to hide a 21:9 monitor but it didnt work, lead to a discussion but its all good now.
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Jesus, all that effort spent being deceptive over material goods? Not trying to pass judgment. Just, wow.
 
If the person you're with isn't sharing/splitting major financial shit with you, why sneak anything?

If the person you're with IS sharing/splitting major financial shit with you and you're going around trying to sneak expensive crap, well... you're a turd. Womp womp.
 
I don't sneak anything by. We discuss any purchases. That way I get another opinion on it, and I don't have to sneak anything. She lets me buy anything I want though, so it works out well.
 
Incognito said:
Wtf? How do you "receive" your winnings? Fake boxes, etc?
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Part of the "im entering tons of contests" conversation I have with her, I also let her know that I enter some contests multiple times with different names/addresses, (I actually never ever enter contests, waste of tiem), so when I "win", I tell her that it was using my brothers address or my work address. In reality, I have things shipped to some random convenience store that has "ship here" option.
 
I feel sad for you guys. The wife and I each get $300 a month deposited into our own accounts and we can spend that on whatever the Fuck we want. The other can't criticize where that money goes. I don't have to sneak shit by her and that's how it should be.

Anything bigger we will decide on together but if I want a new pc or really anything up to $1500 or so I can just save up for a bit unless there is a compelling reason to get it asap.
 
Fiction said:
Or I dunno, you could talk about it like adults? :/

If she's so unresonable that she will never bend on fun purchases (unless she's right and you guys really can't afford it) then you guys need to have a serious discussion.

If your frivolous and spend too much money on stupid shit, then you need to have a serious discussion.
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Fiction, you are always a voice of wisdom here. And you are absolutely correct.

zephervack said:
Yeah that would be ideal, but from time to time you feel like splurging on something and dont feel like having to justify it, specially if your SO will want to get a same-priced item just because you got one.
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The bolded sounds ridiculously selfish.
 
Fiction said:
Or I dunno, you could talk about it like adults? :/

If she's so unresonable that she will never bend on fun purchases (unless she's right and you guys really can't afford it) then you guys need to have a serious discussion.

If your frivolous and spend too much money on stupid shit, then you need to have a serious discussion.
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Exactly. If you are responsible with your money then get what you need, you shouldn't need permission.

The only time I've had a gf ask a few questions was when I bought an Eames chair and it was unplanned. I saw one at the mall here and it has always been my dream piece. I bought it and she kept asking if I "needed it". Fair enough, but I just wanted it.
 
Fiction said:
Or I dunno, you could talk about it like adults? :/

If she's so unresonable that she will never bend on fun purchases (unless she's right and you guys really can't afford it) then you guys need to have a serious discussion.

If your frivolous and spend too much money on stupid shit, then you need to have a serious discussion.
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Sometimes it's easier to ask forgiveness than it is to get permission.
 
bennywhatever said:
My wife handles all of our financials so I'm pretty sure I couldn't get away with buying a stick of gum without her noticing.
That being said, before we were married, I had about $150 in another account that she thought I closed, so I gradually used that money over the length of a year to buy different digital game downloads. I eventually told her about it when there was about $30 left and bought her a nice dinner.
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Im glad you guys have such healthy relationships but get off your high horses, not all relationships are like that, especially if you are the only bread winner in the relationship and dont want to deal with explaining that you want to spend some extra cash from time to time.

If you are spending on tons of frivolous stuff all the time then I would understand, but in my case, I literally do it maybe twice in a year, anything more than that, and she would notice all the "new" stuff around the house.
 
This thread makes me not want to get married. I have a friend who's been slowly saving for a PS4. During this time, he meets a new girl and they fall in love. They're moving pretty quick and he's already engaged to her. He mentioned getting the PS4 and his fiance flipped out and told him that money is for the wedding. Now he's hiding money to save for it.
 
I never do that. I do 'sell' her the stuff I want to buy sometimes. Like when I wanted the PS3 I really emphasized the fact it was an AWESOME blu-ray player / media center and stuff like that.
It kinda worked...she said ok..but with a smile that said: "I know you want it to play games"
 
Saganator said:
This thread makes me not want to get married. I have a friend who's been slowly saving for a PS4. During this time, he meets a new girl and they fall in love. They're moving pretty quick and he's already engaged to her. He mentioned getting the PS4 and his fiance flipped out and told him that money is for the wedding. Now he's hiding money to save for it.
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Yep, that's definitely not a red flag and he should continue with these wedding plans.
 
zephervack said:
Im glad you guys have such healthy relationships but get off your high horses, not all relationships are like that, especially if you are the only bread winner in the relationship and dont want to deal with explaining that you want to spend some extra cash from time to time.

If you are spending on tons of frivolous stuff all the time then I would understand, but in my case, I literally do it maybe twice in a year, anything more than that, and she would notice all the "new" stuff around the house.
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There's nothing high horsey about sticking to a reasonable budget, and discussing finances with your SO as, you know, an adult couple.

The problem comes if you're in a relationship where you feel like you have to sneak around and blatantly lie to the other person just to have a bigger TV. What we're saying is that the real issue within the relationship likely isn't the material stuff.
 
Saganator said:
This thread makes me not want to get married. I have a friend who's been slowly saving for a PS4. During this time, he meets a new girl and they fall in love. They're moving pretty quick and he's already engaged to her. He mentioned getting the PS4 and his fiance flipped out and told him that money is for the wedding. Now he's hiding money to save for it.
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That would not bode well with me at all. I would probably say "what wedding?" and then leave her.
 
We have seperate bank accounts. If I want to drop 1500 bucks on a new rifle, or 15000 on a car, she gets no say just as long as I can cover my bills.
 
zephervack said:
Im glad you guys have such healthy relationships but get off your high horses, not all relationships are like that, especially if you are the only bread winner in the relationship and dont want to deal with explaining that you want to spend some extra cash from time to time.

If you are spending on tons of frivolous stuff all the time then I would understand, but in my case, I literally do it maybe twice in a year, anything more than that, and she would notice all the "new" stuff around the house.
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At least when the divorce comes you'll have this thread in your post history to look back and reflect on.
 
zephervack said:
Im glad you guys have such healthy relationships but get off your high horses, not all relationships are like that, especially if you are the only bread winner in the relationship and dont want to deal with explaining that you want to spend some extra cash from time to time.

If you are spending on tons of frivolous stuff all the time then I would understand, but in my case, I literally do it maybe twice in a year, anything more than that, and she would notice all the "new" stuff around the house.
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Yeah, I kind of feel like some people are taking this thread way to seriously when it was supposed to be a hokey "bought myself a new phone and never told my girlfriend" thread.
 
Vyroxis said:
We have seperate bank accounts. If I want to drop 1500 bucks on a new rifle, or 15000 on a car, she gets no say just as long as I can cover my bills.
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If my girlfriend spent $1500 on a new rifle I wouldn't say shit. Mostly because I'd be afraid to.
 
You can have a perfectly healthy relationship and still have your partner get pissed if you go spending money on frivolous stuff. Anyone saying otherwise is basically full of shit.

Anyway, I bought a Sonos Play 5 and two Play 3's for our place. I had to be a little economical with the truth when she asked how much I'd paid, but she soon forgot about it when she heard it all in action and saw what it could do.

Usually my gf is pretty cool with me buying whatever I want, as long as I'm not financially irresponsible and spending money I don't have.

She could easily sneak stuff past me because I don't really pay that much attention to what she's buying.
 
zephervack said:
Im glad you guys have such healthy relationships but get off your high horses, not all relationships are like that, especially if you are the only bread winner in the relationship and dont want to deal with explaining that you want to spend some extra cash from time to time.

If you are spending on tons of frivolous stuff all the time then I would understand, but in my case, I literally do it maybe twice in a year, anything more than that, and she would notice all the "new" stuff around the house.
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No offense or anything, but you should really take your entire comment as a sign that things might not work out. I mean yes, not all relationships are so healthy, but it's something you should be striving for, unless you want to be miserable in the long run.

I'm going to go ahead and hop on that high horse and say that I don't have to hide things like this from my wife. We have no issues communicating with one another.
 
Wtf? Its your money, you work for it, spend it on whatever you want.

The only times this doesn't apply is when kids are involved or they're covering your rent/bills.
 
I can't relate. I've been married for many years and not once has my wife said a single thing about what I spend my money on. Not once. She's always said "It's your money. You work hard for it. Spend it how you like." Of course, everything is within reason. I'm not going to just go spend it on hookers and blow. Well, maybe this weekend. She's out of town.
 
Camwi said:
No offense or anything, but you should really take your entire comment as a sign that things might not work out. I mean yes, not all relationships are so healthy, but it's something you should be striving for, unless you want to be miserable in the long run.

I'm going to go ahead and hop on that high horse and say that I don't have to hide things like this from my wife. We have no issues communicating with one another.
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Yeah I don't think "Not hiding purchases from each other" is that high a threshold to hold as a barometer of the overall relationship.

My SO and I both have different interests and spend our money on stuff the other would consider "pointless", but there's no reason to hide that. We accept we place different values on different things. It also doesn't hurt that neither of us is the "blow $400 on this really nice toaster/perfect handbag I wanted!" level of poor financial decision-making.
 
I'm lucky in that I've never had my "significant other" refuse to sign-off on anything I've bought.

Hell, she payed over half towards my Xbox 360 and she paid three quarters when I built a gaming PC a few couple of years ago.
 
I bought, installed and used a 60 inch Sharp TV for three months before I got busted and even then it was only because a friend pointed it out while we were sitting in the room.
 
Yeah, we don't hide things from each other. There's no happiness down that road. On the other hand, we also don't usually deny things unless it's insane (e.g.. wanting to buy a new iPad or laptop if you just bought a one a year ago) or money needs to be allocated to something else (e.g. knowing you need to pay an annual insurance premium that month).
 
The only thing I try to hide from my spouse, is gifts for my spouse. I seriously can't hide an anniversary present anywhere in my house, or my parents house (!), without it being found - by genuine accident, too.
 
JPizzle84 said:
Yeah, I kind of feel like some people are taking this thread way to seriously when it was supposed to be a hokey "bought myself a new phone and never told my girlfriend" thread.
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Dude, you detailed three scenarios in the OP describing every "web of lies" you've gotten yourself into with this, from sending things to different addresses to trying to pass crap off as prizes.

You kinda set your own tone here beyond hokey :p just sayin'.
 
zephervack said:
Yeah that would be ideal, but from time to time you feel like splurging on something and dont feel like having to justify it, specially if your SO will want to get a same-priced item just because you got one.
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It's my own money, I can do whatever I want with it. If she wants to buy something with her own money, I don't care. As long as our non-critical spending doesn't eat into our pre-agreed plans for paying for essentials and our investment strategy, I don't give a fuck.

If our own individual spending IS detracting from our primary spending/investment strategy, then it's time to rethink our relationship: both with each other and with our dedication to financial responsibility.
 
zephervack said:
Im glad you guys have such healthy relationships but get off your high horses, not all relationships are like that, especially if you are the only bread winner in the relationship and dont want to deal with explaining that you want to spend some extra cash from time to time.

If you are spending on tons of frivolous stuff all the time then I would understand, but in my case, I literally do it maybe twice in a year, anything more than that, and she would notice all the "new" stuff around the house.
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i am not here to play psychologist, but read this post as if a friend has written this to you and than tell me how many red flags you see...
 
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