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Deadly Cyclone said:
Also if she were to go on a racist rant (she never would) it'd have to be about white people or something, as she's half Filipino, half Pakistani. :P
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Does she make lumpia? My girl is half Filipino too. She lumpia'd her way into my heart.
richisawesome said:
I send messages like "hey there, I see you listed haribo as an interest. I wouldn't mind if you bought me a pack. Thats all I need.and a relationship too and stuff.

Also I see you are looking for a man. I happen to be a man, going by the last time I checked.

Message me and we can talk!"
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That's corny as fuck, dude.
 
richisawesome said:
That was a response for someone who said she wouldnt reply to any boring questions or standard messages lol
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Most girls who say they don't like boring messages often have no conversation skills and expect you to pick up the slack. Someone listing that on a profile should be a huge red flag.
 
Met the woman who is now my wife on OK Cupid.

I am almost entirely sure that our paths would never have crosses otherwise.

PS: dated about 8-9 people from OKC before I met my wife.

PPS: dated many people before that but life situations changed (new city, no hook ups, only women I knew in the new city were co-workers.

PPPS: happy still after 3 years of first date, 2.5 years of living together, and 1 year of marriage.
 
I've signed up, after the query of a friend because I barely see anyone here (I live in switzerland, and I don't go out to meet people often, if at all), just to get the bare minimum required of socialization.

LIke someone pointed out, it's kinda more work. Although the difference for me is that I actually get people to reply to me, which is something I don't usually get in real life so I've had at least semblance of conversation. But since it's switzerland I mostly have to talk to french people.

I don't think there's any shame in it though. It's a nice tool, and I did meet a few persons so hey !
 
JBourne said:
Does she make lumpia? My girl is half Filipino too. She lumpia'd her way into my heart.
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Haven't had that yet, but her Mom (the Filipino side) made me Siopao and I am in love with it. Funny thing is, her Dad is the Pakistani half, but her Mom ends up cooking both the Filipino food and the Indian/Pakistani food.

So delicious.

fuzzyreactor said:
online dating is more work than regular dating

you're basically marketing yourself
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Maybe that's why it worked for me. I was a marketing major. :P
 
blame space said:
I'm fat and i have depression
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I'm Victoria, hi.

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Abe Bly said:
Send lots of messages. Seriously. Several per day. Attractive girls get lots of messages per day. My GF says she got around twenty different people messaging her per day. She didn't even look at the people who didn't message her.

You probably won't get a response from most of the girls. That's okay. You can't expect them all to be interested.
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Deadly Cyclone said:
The key is to not get discouraged after messaging one (or 30) women.
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These. Seriously. I met my ex on okc and the ex before her on craigslist (from an ad I placed in personals), as well as a really good woman who is now a close friend. It can be incredibly discouraging when you take the time to read through a profile and carefully write an opening message tailored to her profile and interests and she never even reads it, or does and doesn't respond. Just keep at it and play the numbers game.

I know it sounds pathetic, but I actually recently created a dummy account on okc two days ago and used convincing candid pictures of a very beautiful woman. I only filled out the sidebar and a short paragraph under self summary. Within less than 24 hours I received 21 messages, 94 visitors, and 368 quick matches. I haven't generated that level of interest in years of having profiles up on different sites. I have not and will not respond to any of the poor guys who messaged me, but I just wanted to see what level of interest an attractive woman generates and will close the account soon. It's no wonder the vast majority of women don't respond. They have so many more options to choose from than I realized. Good lord!
 
I can never have the guts to make a dating site profile because I just can't risk anyone who knows me IRL finding pics of me and stuff - something about that makes me unformatable. I've wanted to try it out for a long time though.
 
Goon said:
Did you find your last gf on pof? From what people tell me, PoF is a terrible place
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PoF works out this way.

Good chunk of women are interested in a relationship and a portion are there to fuck.
Most men are there to find someone to fuck and a small portion may be sincere for a relationship.

So women will have a much worse time on the site than men.
 
tookhster said:
I can never have the guts to make a dating site profile because I just can't risk anyone who knows me IRL finding pics of me and stuff - something about that makes me unformatable. I've wanted to try it out for a long time though.
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I don't get this, you typically use the same pics you use on Facebook? Who cares? You're trying to better yourself and find a significant other, people can't fault you for that. :)
 
I just try using neogaf as a dating site. So far my pick up line of "You wanna Skpye?" Has netted zero harlets I mean ladies and 1 guy. O.o
 
I actually met my wife on Match.com. Even if you're not looking to get married, I also met a few nice people on there that I dated for a little while. Some of them are even still friends today.

Of course, be safe and meet people in public areas.
 
Deadly Cyclone said:
I don't get this, you typically use the same pics you use on Facebook? Who cares? You're trying to better yourself and find a significant other, people can't fault you for that. :)
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Yeah, I hate myself for it too. I have tons of pics on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram, but I just feel like putting a pic of myself on OKC is me saying "I've given up", and I have a fear of someone I know from high school/college/work (since it's area-based) stumbling across me and thinking I'm some kind of a loser. I don't know why. But seeing so many people on GAF doing it kinda makes me want to finally give it a try :).
 
Met my last bf on okc. He was a nut job. Also made a good friend from that site.

Met my current bf here on gaf (love you bufbaf)

You can find people everywhere but online helps you narrow down specifics I think.
 
tookhster said:
Yeah, I hate myself for it too. I have tons of pics on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram, but I just feel like putting a pic of myself on OKC is me saying "I've given up", and I have a fear of someone I know from high school/college/work (since it's area-based) stumbling across me and thinking I'm some kind of a loser. I don't know why. But seeing so many people on GAF doing it kinda makes me want to finally give it a try :).
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If they stumble across you that means they are browsing the site too, no? :)

If it works, it works. This is 2014. Calling Mary Lou up on the rotary and asking her to a burger and movie isn't how things work anymore.
 
Coming a little late to the convo, campaign life never ends. In regards to Deadly Cyclone, pretty much everything he said. Don't start off by saying I'm hot or I've always wondered, is your slit horizontal." No, just, no. Your first message should show you actually read his or her profile and read what they have to say. DC stood out because of that. He said Paula Dean would be proud because I ate an entire stick of fried butter. That showed he at least read my whole profile.

re: people you know finding you on a site. I found a lot of people I knew and they found me. It actually isn't that bad because we would end up going out for drinks to discuss our dating woes.
 
I have been on OKCupid for 8 years and haven't gotten any dates from it.

Or replies, for that matter.

Eh. I figure it's like playing the lottery. Except the only thing it costs you is your dignity. And self-esteem.
 
Lucian Cat said:
Met my last bf on okc. He was a nut job. Also made a good friend from that site.

Met my current bf here on gaf (love you bufbaf)

You can find people everywhere but online helps you narrow down specifics I think.
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I couldn't imagine dating a gaffer. All the arguments. All the defense forces
 
roxyd43 said:
Coming a little late to the convo, campaign life never ends. In regards to Deadly Cyclone, pretty much everything he said. Don't start off by saying I'm hot or I've always wondered, is your slit horizontal." No, just, no. Your first message should show you actually read his or her profile and read what they have to say. DC stood out because of that. He said Paula Dean would be proud because I ate an entire stick of fried butter. That showed he at least read my whole profile.

re: people you know finding you on a site. I found a lot of people I knew and they found me. It actually isn't that bad because we would end up going out for drinks to discuss our dating woes.
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(Hi babe)
 
Online dating sucks, but I just discovered PoF has more willing people that will look at your profile and sometimes reply. Prettier too. OKCupid is barren trash, paid sites are a scam.
 
It depends entirely on where you are. Dating sites are better the bigger the city you live in. If you live in a small town you'll get like 20 matches total from people who like virtually the same things.

There are places that do better with offline dating, IMO. Not every city/region benefits from having online dating.
 
I find as a guy online dating is harder than just talking to girls in real life.

Sending a message to a girl who gets hundreds of messages from guys a day, waiting to see if she sees your profile or replies, and even if she does chatting long enough to organize a date.. a long process.

To me thats the equivalent of say you walking up to a girl surrounded by too many guys to even get close enough to say hi, but that never really happens. So, you've got a bit more of an intimate encounter and an advantage since you're not talking online, it looks like you've got confidence - and you will increase your confidence.

I'd say these days as a guy, statistically, you have a better chance of talking to random girls irl than you do than talking to girls online. Plus it will benefit you.
 
I made a fake Okcupid account just to add girls to my favorites list for when I finally feel good enough about my life to start dating (the only honest thing on it are my Match questions). I had to sift through like a bazillion women to get a good 50 or so and half of them haven't logged on for months to years. Future-dating is hard.
 
Silphonica said:
I find as a guy online dating is harder than just talking to girls in real life.

Sending a message to a girl who gets hundreds of messages from guys a day, waiting to see if she sees your profile or replies, and even if she does chatting long enough to organize a date.. a long process.

To me thats the equivalent of say you walking up to a girl surrounded by too many guys to even get close enough to say hi, but that never really happens. So, you've got a bit more of an intimate encounter and an advantage since you're not talking online, it looks like you've got confidence - and you will increase your confidence.

I'd say these days as a guy, statistically, you have a better chance of talking to random girls irl than you do than talking to girls online. Plus it will benefit you.
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I think a lot of people use online dating as a supplement to real life encounters. I think the only thing that annoys me about online dating, is how it seems like you have to create this whole facade to even get anywhere.

I guess that can still be present in real life encounters, but it seems like with online you have to present yourself as this really cultured, outgoing interesting person all the time. There's nothing wrong with any of that obviously it just seems hard to be that way all the time, but hey maybe my head's screwed on wrong when it comes to this issue. It seems like a job what with you marketing yourself, though I guess that can be present in real life dating too?
 
TalonJH said:
I actually met my wife on Match.com. Even if you're not looking to get married, I also met a few nice people on there that I dated for a little while. Some of them are even still friends today.

Of course, be safe and meet people in public areas.
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Met my wife online as well. POF as a matter of fact.
 
I've signed up to a few. I lost weight, created a more interesting and quirky profile, made at least semi-interesting first messages. No luck at all, it's been a downer. :(

I did meet one really good looking girl who I hit it off with then when I asked her out she stopped talking to me. That happens a lot it seems as well.
 
Met my wife on POF, been married since 2011 and has been the best three years of my life.

It took messaging a lot of girls and going on a lot of dates before I met her, but the effort was beyond worth it.

Perseverance is key to success in online dating. Don't get discouraged and always put your best foot forward.
 
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