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Damnit GAF, I need to vent.
About a month ago, my GF broke up with me after a relationship of 5 months, and I met her about 2 months before that. This might not seem like a long time for a lot of you, but she was my first girlfriend (I'm 22) and it's still kind of messing with my head.
I registered on a dating site, and stumbled upon a girl who I've been chatting with for some time now. We share a lot of similar interests ranging from music to traveling and she only lives about 30 minutes away.
But my gut feeling says I'm doing something wrong, like I'm cheating or something. Which is obviously bollocks, because I'm single and I was the one who got dumped, I'm fairly sure this is because my ex was my first girlfriend.
Is this situation recognizable for anyone? Could use some advice from someone who was in the same boat.
About a month ago, my GF broke up with me after a relationship of 5 months, and I met her about 2 months before that. This might not seem like a long time for a lot of you, but she was my first girlfriend (I'm 22) and it's still kind of messing with my head.
I registered on a dating site, and stumbled upon a girl who I've been chatting with for some time now. We share a lot of similar interests ranging from music to traveling and she only lives about 30 minutes away.
But my gut feeling says I'm doing something wrong, like I'm cheating or something. Which is obviously bollocks, because I'm single and I was the one who got dumped, I'm fairly sure this is because my ex was my first girlfriend.
Is this situation recognizable for anyone? Could use some advice from someone who was in the same boat.
Hmm my ex broke up with me about half a year ago. She was my first gf too (technically my second but that's a different story). I was in a denial phase for a while but suddenly something just changed in me and I got over it.
I've had the same gut feeling though. You're kind of in the phase of still thinking you might get her back or whatever and thus think seeing other girls is bad and lowering your chances of getting her back. Just be real to yourself; she broke up with you and there's a slim chance you'll be in a relationship with her again. She had feelings for you but not anymore. Well maybe some but not enough to be in a relationship anymore. Realize it's unhealthy for you if you stick to such ideas of still having hope. You'll get paranoid if you know she is dating guys again for example.
It's good for you to see other girls. Or focus yourself on a hobby. I've been focussing on Airsofting since the breakup and I met some new friends. That got me over it.
Yeah, I know we're not getting back together and I've broke off most contact with her but the conscious and unconscious mind are 2 different things I guess.
Focusing myself on my hobbies and reshifting my goals was the first thing I started doing after she broke up with me and it definitely helped.
It's fucking amazing how a girl can fuck with your mind.
ClosingADoor
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Just give it time. You were very emotionally invested, so you can't expect those feelings to disappear in a month. Keep focusing on hobbies, work and/or school like you're doing and you'll come out of it just fine.
I feel ya, I just gotta relax and see if she wants me. I shouldn't get bent out of shape over this type of stuff.
Another success story. Congrats!
Holla' if anything.
Thank you!
I didn't thought that i could do it, but i did! However we are taking things very slowly, as she still is kinda scared of Relationships. But i did convince her that i'll do my best to make this a great relationship. She even cried a little when i said that, but she believed me, and i never felt better then
Starting to think I have some issues when it comes to dating. Some combination of lack of experience and self-doubt has me questioning if the girl I'm going out with is really into me. Even though all the signs that she is are there. Tonight we had our third date. Went very nicely. At the end, we kissed and she did that touchy-squeezy thing on my arm/leg (can't remember). And I know she wouldn't be spending what little free time she has with me if she didn't like me. But still that doubt persists.
after reading everything in this thread it seems like everyone has doubts even when the girl is clearly into them. funny how that is...
Maybe she's into punching.
Nope, sadly. Just got another, far less friendly message and turns out she is in fact a bitch. Ah well.
Nice. She's already got an idea for the first date.
damn, what does your profile say?
Hey everyone, I need some advice.
Little bit of background, I'm 18 and have never had a serious relationship or really any relationship period. There have been "things" here and there, but they never amounted to anything. I just never really could commit to anything, even I it was a dumb high school fling, due to my family situation. But lately, I've started to really want some, I don't know, companionship is the word I'd use I guess. The only problem is, I really don't know anyone who I'm interested in, save for one. But there's some reasons why I'm really hesitant to get into anything:
For one, I've been best friends with her and her brother for quite a long time, and they are really my only two very close friends. If it didn't work out between me and her, I'd lose them both. Second, I'm 18 almost 19, she's 21. Normally, the age gap would deter me, but I've been told by some mutual friends that she liked me at one point and still may. But third, and this is what I need you guys to help me with, I don't find her that attractive. Now, I actually think she's a fairly pretty girl, and she's fantastic company, we get along great...
BUT (I hate the way I'm going to phrase this but it's the only way) I don't find her body attractive. She isn't fucking massive or anything, but she is a tiny bit overweight. Not a ton, but just enough to give me pause. I feel like an asshole just typing that.
So am I being too critical? Are these reasons enough to not even think about pursuing her, or should I just go for it? And is it shallow to want to date someone because of their personality and the relationship you already have, but also not want to because you don't find them as attractive as you'd like to? 
Edit: having said all that, I do think we could have something really good. Everything I wrote sounds like a definite "don't do it" situation when I read it again, but it's not like that. Sorry, it's just really hard to put into words.
Little bit of background, I'm 18 and have never had a serious relationship or really any relationship period. There have been "things" here and there, but they never amounted to anything. I just never really could commit to anything, even I it was a dumb high school fling, due to my family situation. But lately, I've started to really want some, I don't know, companionship is the word I'd use I guess. The only problem is, I really don't know anyone who I'm interested in, save for one. But there's some reasons why I'm really hesitant to get into anything:
For one, I've been best friends with her and her brother for quite a long time, and they are really my only two very close friends. If it didn't work out between me and her, I'd lose them both. Second, I'm 18 almost 19, she's 21. Normally, the age gap would deter me, but I've been told by some mutual friends that she liked me at one point and still may. But third, and this is what I need you guys to help me with, I don't find her that attractive. Now, I actually think she's a fairly pretty girl, and she's fantastic company, we get along great...
BUT (I hate the way I'm going to phrase this but it's the only way) I don't find her body attractive. She isn't fucking massive or anything, but she is a tiny bit overweight. Not a ton, but just enough to give me pause. I feel like an asshole just typing that.
So am I being too critical? Are these reasons enough to not even think about pursuing her, or should I just go for it? And is it shallow to want to date someone because of their personality and the relationship you already have, but also not want to because you don't find them as attractive as you'd like to? 
Edit: having said all that, I do think we could have something really good. Everything I wrote sounds like a definite "don't do it" situation when I read it again, but it's not like that. Sorry, it's just really hard to put into words.
1) Do not get or pursue a relationship for the sake of being in a relationship.
2) If you don't find someone attractive, then you don't find them attractive. Nothing you can do.
3) Don't worry about not being in a serious relationship. Again, you are young. Not like there is a rule that you have to have at least one before you turn 20 or something.
4) It sounds you like you looking in your circle of friends to find someone. Go out into the dating world.
5) Age shouldn't stop you from trying to date someone (18 and older anyway).
2) If you don't find someone attractive, then you don't find them attractive. Nothing you can do.
3) Don't worry about not being in a serious relationship. Again, you are young. Not like there is a rule that you have to have at least one before you turn 20 or something.
4) It sounds you like you looking in your circle of friends to find someone. Go out into the dating world.
5) Age shouldn't stop you from trying to date someone (18 and older anyway).
Huh, I didn't think I was pursuing it for the sake of it, but now that you say it I guess I am. And I guess I probably should look beyond my circle of friends. I've just found it hard to meet new people lately, for a variety of reasons (mostly my family situation and a little bit of social anxiety I've been feeling lately, combined with being stressed a lot of the time.) I'm probably just going to have to get over those things and get out there though.
I dunno. You're probably right, I should look elsewhere or just wait for something to come along. I love being around her, we're super alike and just kind of "get it", but the more I talk about it, the worse it makes the whole idea sound. It's just too risky, theres too many variables, and if I don't find her attractive, you're right, that's not going to change. It's not even like I think she's ugly, it's just that I don't find her as attractive as I'd like to. And I can't talk to any of my friends about it, because the only people I can talk to is her brother, or our friend who I KNOW would say something. It's probably best to just move along.
NeOak
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This is a case of learning by getting fucked in the ass.
Nothing you can do about it. She has to get burned on her own. IF you try to do anything, she will resent you because she really believes he is her happiness. So just GTFO and get back.
Could use some advice/encouragement.
A few months ago I met a girl. Long story short I was running meets in my city for the National Novel Writing Month and we seemed to get on well and I enjoyed chatting to her - we shared interests beyond writing novels (though we each talked enthusiastically about our own novels too).
After that ended I sent her a message over the NaNo forums saying that I'd like to arrange something with my friends (which largely included people she had met during NaNo meets) over Xmas and invite her along and asked if she would be interested, and she said she'd love to. I asked for and got her Facebook and added her.
We haven't communicated since then, Xmas got in the way and was too hectic and a lot of my friends were out of town or had personal issues so, honestly, I didn't get to see them much either. She doesn't use her Facebook very often in general.
So now with the New Year I'm thinking of messaging her and trying to set something up. I'm not sure whether to go the route of trying to organise something with friends though as I originally said I would, or just straight up ask her if she wants to go for coffee sometime or whatever. I asked my housemate (who also did NaNo and has met her) and he said I should probably do the latter, saying that I obviously wanted to see her again and the worst that could happen is that she wouldn't be interested, and I'm unlikely to randomly bump into her as she lives just out of town.
Thoughts? I'm utterly terrible at dating in general to be honest.
A few months ago I met a girl. Long story short I was running meets in my city for the National Novel Writing Month and we seemed to get on well and I enjoyed chatting to her - we shared interests beyond writing novels (though we each talked enthusiastically about our own novels too).
After that ended I sent her a message over the NaNo forums saying that I'd like to arrange something with my friends (which largely included people she had met during NaNo meets) over Xmas and invite her along and asked if she would be interested, and she said she'd love to. I asked for and got her Facebook and added her.
We haven't communicated since then, Xmas got in the way and was too hectic and a lot of my friends were out of town or had personal issues so, honestly, I didn't get to see them much either. She doesn't use her Facebook very often in general.
So now with the New Year I'm thinking of messaging her and trying to set something up. I'm not sure whether to go the route of trying to organise something with friends though as I originally said I would, or just straight up ask her if she wants to go for coffee sometime or whatever. I asked my housemate (who also did NaNo and has met her) and he said I should probably do the latter, saying that I obviously wanted to see her again and the worst that could happen is that she wouldn't be interested, and I'm unlikely to randomly bump into her as she lives just out of town.
Thoughts? I'm utterly terrible at dating in general to be honest.
ClosingADoor
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Your roommate is right. Why would you want other people there if you are interested in her for more then friends? Just ask her out for a drink and go from there. Worst that can happen is she says no and that's that.
SirJackDaniels
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Say "Would love to see you, drinks Friday night to the New Year?"
Don't leave her and yourself in the middle by asking "would you like to go out for drinks?"
This shows a bit of confidence, that you have a plan. Women tend to like that.
Also, if she says no, don't get hung up on it. Rejection is never personal.
I actually have a date next Friday with a lady i met over Christmas.
what do you do when they are busy on the day you ask for a date, while keeping the confidence? like i ask her, "would love to see you, coffee wednesday night for new years?" and she says she can't and she's busy. do i suggest another day or let her decide the day?
NeOak
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If she doesn't an alternative, that's usually a sign that she is trying to decline with an excuse.
malingenie
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Just have to say that this is the most eloquent description of why those approaches are, in a way, repugnant. If the only way you can find a person is by 'negging' or acting a certain, negative, way, you will not find happiness.
PflargBlarg
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If she doesn't follow up the "Oh I can't, I'm busy that day" with another suggestion then she's not interested in you. Move on.
So I'm in a bit of a dilemma.
I'm currently seeing two girls and there are things I like/dislike about both of them. Both are attractive, have expressed interest in me, etc. I'm just getting to the point where I have to choose between them. Here's the scoop:
Girl #1)
Pros: She's very kind and sweet. Very talkative which is a nice change from the interview type dates girls seem to enjoy so much. Messages me regularly, remembers things that I say and refers to them in later conversations, and is overall genuinely a good person.
Cons: She's only been in the US for 5 years and therefore isn't a citizen and will be deported if she can't get her visa. While she does enjoy to talk a lot, we don't particularly have much in common. She speaks English well enough but she does have an accent that sometimes makes it difficult to communicate. I've had to ask her to repeat things on occasion and thankfully she's nice about it. Also...has bad breath. Not heavy duty, but noticeable. Has never had a boyfriend before. Is a virgin.
Girl #2)
Pros: Very stable. Has a solid job, owns a house, is a US citizen. We share many hobbies like gaming, animation, hiking, etc. No language barrier, is kind, and fun to be around.
Cons: Is not as talkative. Can hold a conversation just fine, but is not talkative. Does not message me regularly...only really talks to me when I talk to her. Doesn't seem like she is very emotional, at least so far. Kind of stoic, possibly reserved. Has a crazy ex-boyfriend. Very tomboyish.
I'm having a hard time with this and could use some advice GAF. How am I supposed to know which one is right? I have a gut wrenching feeling that this choice will determine who I'm spending the rest of my life with...
I'm currently seeing two girls and there are things I like/dislike about both of them. Both are attractive, have expressed interest in me, etc. I'm just getting to the point where I have to choose between them. Here's the scoop:
Girl #1)
Pros: She's very kind and sweet. Very talkative which is a nice change from the interview type dates girls seem to enjoy so much. Messages me regularly, remembers things that I say and refers to them in later conversations, and is overall genuinely a good person.
Cons: She's only been in the US for 5 years and therefore isn't a citizen and will be deported if she can't get her visa. While she does enjoy to talk a lot, we don't particularly have much in common. She speaks English well enough but she does have an accent that sometimes makes it difficult to communicate. I've had to ask her to repeat things on occasion and thankfully she's nice about it. Also...has bad breath. Not heavy duty, but noticeable. Has never had a boyfriend before. Is a virgin.
Girl #2)
Pros: Very stable. Has a solid job, owns a house, is a US citizen. We share many hobbies like gaming, animation, hiking, etc. No language barrier, is kind, and fun to be around.
Cons: Is not as talkative. Can hold a conversation just fine, but is not talkative. Does not message me regularly...only really talks to me when I talk to her. Doesn't seem like she is very emotional, at least so far. Kind of stoic, possibly reserved. Has a crazy ex-boyfriend. Very tomboyish.
I'm having a hard time with this and could use some advice GAF. How am I supposed to know which one is right? I have a gut wrenching feeling that this choice will determine who I'm spending the rest of my life with...
You say she is generally fun to be around with girl #2 but is not very talkative. You need to try to uncover at least why that is if you don't know already. Do you both zone out together when you play video games and kind of coexist in a bad way? It seems like girl #1 you'd never be fully satisfied with. It just also depends on how long you've known the both of them. But I hear you on dilemmas like that, it's always so tough to choose.
NeOak
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The first one: The bad breath can be controlled and even eliminated, so that's something you can work on. As for the having in common thing, usually those kinds of relationships when they work, they make you go out of your comfort zone and experiment new things.
As for the second one, I don't think she is into you. She may be a real introvert and those take effort. Thing is, if she isn't into you from the start, getting her interested is really hard.
See for yourself:
http://www.okcupid.com/profile
Obviously it was tongue in cheek, but seems it was a little too subtle for her.
I wouldn't say it could never change, but yeah, odds are it probably won't. There was this one woman I dated for 3 months. Same deal, I found her to be cute, but I wasn't really attracted to her. After 3 months, it didn't change and I ended it. Looks aren't everything, but there has to be a certain level of attraction between both parties.
Don't stress the dating or trying to find someone. You are young. You have a ton of time to figure things out and to make mistakes. These are the best years to do it. Good luck. And gaf is always here to help.
Horse Detective
Why the long case?
Is the best defense against petty arguments to stay calm? I'm pretty sensitive unfortunately. I get offended easily and snap back towards things that hurt me. I have never found that to be incredibly effective, but somehow it seemed preferable to being submissive. I feel as though feeding into unwelcome anger is not taking me in any direction I want to go.
electricshake
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You need to put your username in. Doesn't link to your profile right now.
stn
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Always. Being able to remain calm in the face of anger is a very important life skill in general.
Has she initiated contact since then? I'd personally go enjoy NYE and contact her afterwards, that's just me. Do what your gut tells you.bcl0328 said:
stn
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I remember my initial advice to you was to take a break from talking everyday. There's a reason for it. When you constantly maintain communication but avoid either dating or escalating sexual tension, you lose the girl's interest. You become the "safe" guy who's just around to talk every day and fill the gap.
I mean, I'm just looking at your whole situation and its a bit odd to me. I remember you mentioned that you told her you like her, that she's aware of it. Yet some how it feels weird because I don't sense progress. Its especially odd that your last meeting was over 2 weeks ago. I could be completely wrong because I'm judging everything from my PC screen. But this is the impression I'm getting.
What do you think about your situation with her at this very moment?
So I'm feeling horribly depressed, kinda got lost in a girl i was dating for 2 months no big deal. Things were heating up and we were on the precipice of something more, Then yesterday we were suppose to hangout and one of her friends has some stupid conversation with her drudging up old relationship and she tells me she loves this guy that left her 6 months ago. So naturally i understood but then she told me she didn't want to get in my way of seeing other people. So yeah it was over 2 great months of drinking playing air hockey working out together and now I've got no one. Makes me not want to even try looking for someone new, i really thought we could have something. I have only been with a handful of girls and this one was the most fun, now I don't know what to do I cant even operate right now I feel so stupid.
First, do know that everyone at some point in their life goes through those feelings. It is unavoidable, the quality of your character is what you make of it.
Second, you will find someone else who will give you the affection you deserve, but only if you are proactive about it and emotionally available. Which leads to...
...Third, since she is herself emotionally hung up, she is unable to achieve the happiness she seeks. Do not be like her.
but the thing is, it's not me messaging her. every day after she gets in to work she will hit me up on google chat. i'm not going to just ignore her. am i the "safe" guy already? i mean it's only been a month and we went out the 17th. most advice i've been reading is people not talking to their date for 2-3 weeks. that seems insane.
last week was christmas so i wasn't going to plan anything that week. maybe not even this week since tomorrow is already NYE. it's a tough time right now with so many holidays.
the thing is, she got married to her high school sweetheart from what i know. she's only 22 and has already been divorced. after that she had one other boyfriend earlier this year. i just feel like maybe she's not very trusting and is trying to take it slow? i feel like she's interested but is playing it safe. she's a good church girl. i can definitely feel a connection.
what's your opinion then on how many dates in what time frame? 2 weeks seems fine to me, otherwise it would be once a week?
For sure, thanks dude you would be surprised how much this helps.
I need some advice (although I already know what the advice is probably going to be). I went on a few dates with this girl, they were the best dates I've ever had. I got mad feels for her pretty quickly, but then she said she needed space and some time. I know, I wasn't born yesterday. She was in a relationship till about 2-3 months ago and doesn't want to jump right back into one. She still wants to talk and says she still likes me. I feel like shit, I don't know why I can't just pull the plug like i usually would. I know it's the right thing to do for my sanity, but I've got mad fucking feels for this girl. This might put me in a bad light but outside of her awesome personality, her body is just killer. We hit the sack and she's the first girl I can say stood toe to toe with me. We went an hour and changed positions several times, it was amazing sex. Part of me wants to believe that she'll come back at some point and we'll get right back into dating, but the more realistic part of me is telling me I'll go fucking nuts before that ever happens. I constantly think about her, and I know that feeling isn't mutual. I'm way more into her than she is into me. It sucks, she's a 10 in the looks department, and a fucking 20 in every other department, far as I'm concerned. That isn't just butterflies talking, she makes me laugh like it's the easiest thing to do in the world. Our dates were too fucking good, just too good. I..I don't know. Am I crazy if I allow myself to be used like this? Am I being used?
I don't think you're being used. Many women tend to discover after a breakup what another man can do for them both in and out of the bedroom. She's personally doing the right thing for herself at the moment and that's okay. In my opinion it's essentially a defense mechanism, she's already been hurt probably so she doesn't want that feeling again.
Life is too short to second guess. In this situation if you are super into her then show her in subtle ways over a period of time. Just continue to casually be in contact with her. I know it's tough after spending a big chunk of alone time with a special lady. You keep replaying moments of that time and get bummed that you aren't having more hang out sessions. I see promise in this girl to turn around and want a relationship with you, you just need to give it time. If it doesn't work out that's rough but you need to keep at it to at least find out if it does or not.
Also what would Rick Flair do?
stn
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Are you that "safe" guy already? Well, I'm not entirely sure. All I can say is this: I firmly believe you should strike while the iron is hot. If she knows you like her and is still around, you should set a pace that you are comfortable with. And by that I mean you should be blunt, clear, and reasonable about things. For example: Next time you talk say, "Hey, I realize we're chatting every day. I think you're cute and want to get to know you better. Let's do it in person."
You should fill the gap of texting with actual dating. Keep texting short and sweet, use it only to setup plans. Part of the mental aspect of dating is creating allure for yourself. Its okay to have a girl miss you once in a while and not have you readily available all the time. Texting is one of the worst things when it comes to dating because people become way too comfortable with it. Why I was stressing that you in particular should slow down with talking to her was because you displayed a huge over-eagerness to be around her. I recall you saying you were going nuts and wanted to talk to her all the time. As cute as you might think that is most women will freak out if they find that out.
The next time she wants to have a long text discussion, tell her you're busy. Wait a day. Then, ask her for a drink/coffee/whatever on a date. As for a time-frame? There is no right answer. I think the best thing for you to do is go with your gut. If you make mistakes at least you directly learn from them and get to "feel" situations better. That's how I figured a lot of stuff out for myself, I made hugeeeee mistakes in the past.
Its always possible but I don't think so. You had sex and now she wants to "still talk because she likes you"? That kind of comment is usually a cover. If you don't like the direction things are heading in, take charge and steer towards the path you want. Next time she wants to just talk you need to make your own needs clear. For example: "Hey [girl], I like you. I understand you want to take things slow but I'm not really in the same boat. Do your thing and let me know if you change your mind. In the meantime, I'm going to see what else is out there."Ric Flair said:
You have to take charge even if it means losing the person. Because that would just mean it wasn't going anywhere, anyway. You never want to allow someone "confused" to dictate the pace of situation. If she wants space and time, give it to her. But let her know that you're not the type of guy who waits around. You never want to be the guy that waits around.
Dorimukyasuto
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I need some help guys.
For the past 3 months, I was really into this girl. She lived far away from me, but we talked everyday on the phone, texting, skype, and in-person when possible. She sends me $150 dollars because she wants me to buy her something that I can only get in my area (lets not get into what, for the sake of anonymity). So at this point, I'm supposed to get what she wants and mail it to her, I've done this before a few times so it wasn't a big deal.
So I had her cash, left it in a safe spot in my university apartment and planned to get what she wanted. Then suddenly some shit comes up in my family life and I have to go home for winter break earlier than usual (yeah, I missed finals and shit too -_-)
Well, I was so distracted by the family problems that I forgot to get her money out of my place before they closed up for winter break. You know the deal, the dorms and apartments at the school close up and everyone goes home for like 3 and a half weeks.
Well, anyway, she thinks I stole her money and refuses to believe that I can't get into to my college place until January 7. Her last text to me was pretty bad. She's basically says I'm a liar, and that I should forget about ever talking to her again and that she refuses to have relationship with me now.
So fuck me bros, I was really into this girl. I thought I'd finally found the greatest girl. And all because of a fucked up family situation, she thinks I stole her cash. She refuses to believe me and she won't talk to me anymore either.
So what the fuck do I do now? Any ideas guys?
Do I just pretend this shit never happened and go on with my life?
For the past 3 months, I was really into this girl. She lived far away from me, but we talked everyday on the phone, texting, skype, and in-person when possible. She sends me $150 dollars because she wants me to buy her something that I can only get in my area (lets not get into what, for the sake of anonymity). So at this point, I'm supposed to get what she wants and mail it to her, I've done this before a few times so it wasn't a big deal.
So I had her cash, left it in a safe spot in my university apartment and planned to get what she wanted. Then suddenly some shit comes up in my family life and I have to go home for winter break earlier than usual (yeah, I missed finals and shit too -_-)
Well, I was so distracted by the family problems that I forgot to get her money out of my place before they closed up for winter break. You know the deal, the dorms and apartments at the school close up and everyone goes home for like 3 and a half weeks.
Well, anyway, she thinks I stole her money and refuses to believe that I can't get into to my college place until January 7. Her last text to me was pretty bad. She's basically says I'm a liar, and that I should forget about ever talking to her again and that she refuses to have relationship with me now.
So fuck me bros, I was really into this girl. I thought I'd finally found the greatest girl. And all because of a fucked up family situation, she thinks I stole her cash. She refuses to believe me and she won't talk to me anymore either.
So what the fuck do I do now? Any ideas guys?
Do I just pretend this shit never happened and go on with my life?
I posted din here the other day, but I'm a little wasted and need to vent. I'm fucking loney. Been this way for way too long. I'm only 18, and I've been told that I should worry but I never really had the typical teen years because my dad has als and I didn't got to a big school. Now I don't have enough confidence to talk to people in collecollege. What the fuck do I do? Am I just going to be alone? I'd give anything to just have somebody who cared. It's not even like I'm fat and a fedora tipping asshole. I just don't approach people, and that smy downgall. What do I do gaf? I feel like I'm stuck in a never ending room of shit and can't get out.
Have you tried online dating or Tinder?
Nope. I feel like I'd be too shy for anything g like that. I have a hard enough time around people I've seen before. And I don't have a photogenic face (moderate acne that I can clear up sometimes, it runs in the fam, I think it's stress related) so I don't know how far id get with that. I just feel like I'm too self consious for that stuff you know.
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