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[Granadier]

@The Last Wizard
Sure, why not?

Should I tell here before we meet up, or immediately before getting to the action. There is a very high chance that sex will come up this week, because she told me how horny she is and how she can't wait that here exam is over so we can meet up.

You've known her for a year and a half. She seems really into you. Stop worrying about it and just let it happen.

I let the girl I lost my virginity to know while we were taking our clothes off. No biggie. It was just what happened and it didn't effect the evening one bit.

 

[bcl0328]

Been wondering about this, I went on a date with this girl on Saturday night and we both had a good time. She texted me the next day to check up on me cause I had said my head was spinning on the way home.

So the question is should I be texting her just for small talk? I was gonna call her about another date eventually.

i wouldn't think of it as 'should i', i would think 'do i want to?' if you like her and want to talk to her, just do it.

 

[Exploding8]

Ok Gaf. I need your advice.

I was always a lonely, nerdy and shy guy throughout high school and the beginning of college. This behaviour resulted in me (21 years old) having only one girlfriend for like two month in high school. No sex happened, so I am still a virgin.

Fast forward to my situation today. In the last semester, I basically changed my whole personality. I dress better, have a better hairstyle, exercise regularly and try to be as outgoing as possible. Today I went with a couple of female friends (including one on whom I always had an extreme crush) from college to a theatrical play.

After the play, we parted ways and went home. At home I get a message from my crush, that she finds me very sexy and attractive and if I feel the same for her. Naturally I agree and we get in long conversation.

To cut a long story short, she basically asked me to have a relationship with her, but specified that she does not want it to be something completely serious, because she just had a breakup from a 4 year relationship. I agreed (who wouldn't) and we agreed to meet tomorrow before her class and talk in person about this whole thing.

Here is my question:
Should I tell her that I am still a virgin or should I just hide this fact? I fear that she will soon realize it herself. I really do not want to fuck this up gaf

Being a virgin is not a big deal at all unless you make it one. Its not even worth bringing up unless it comes up naturally in conversation. Its not like you're hiding some giant secret from her that would completely change her opinion of you; just be casual about it. And if you end up having sex and you're not sure what you're doing just be humorous about it; my first time I basically straight up said "Full disclosure, Idk wtf I'm doing" and she just laughed and took the lead.

 

[Granadier]

Make sure to keep us in the loop from the bathroom though.

 

[The Last Wizard]

i wouldn't think of it as 'should i', i would think 'do i want to?' if you like her and want to talk to her, just do it.

I do like her, but I'm not really much for texting.

 

[HerrPalomar]

Make sure to keep us in the loop from the bathroom though.

I hope it does not end up this way.

 

[Granadier]

I hope it does not end up this way.

It's a joke from the OT title, nothing more.

 

[Coda]

Just went on an okc date. It was really awkward and I probably should've known. She just kept apologizing and saying that I was making small talk. It was a bit weird. I feel bad cold turkeying because we were texting a good deal before this date. Once we met though it all went out the window. What is your advice here, should I just completely stop communication or just be honest. I usually don't have a problem with the latter but it's weird in this case because I felt so awkward that I couldn't say that on the date.

 

[PlayALLtheGames]

Just went on an okc date. It was really awkward and I probably should've known. She just kept apologizing and saying that I was making small talk. It was a bit weird. I feel bad cold turkeying because we were texting a good deal before this date. Once we met though it all went out the window. What is your advice here, should I just completely stop communication or just be honest. I usually don't have a problem with the latter but it's weird in this case because I felt so awkward that I couldn't say that on the date.

What was she apologizing for? That does sound weird.

If she doesn't text, I probably wouldn't either. If she does, you can go from there.

 

[...Scatter...]

I do like her, but I'm not really much for texting.

Shit isn't that hard. "Hey there, yes I'm feeling better. Had fun the other day. Should do it again sometime".

 

[...Scatter...]

Should I tell here before we meet up, or immediately before getting to the action. There is a very high chance that sex will come up this week, because she told me how horny she is and how she can't wait that here exam is over so we can meet up.

Let a freak be a freak, don't complicate it. If you bring it up and the convo turns awkward you may well still be a virgin.

 

[The Last Wizard]

Shit isn't that hard. "Hey there, yes I'm feeling better. Had fun the other day. Should do it again sometime".

Oh, I forgot to include that I did text her. We texted back and forth a bit after. I was talking about me just starting small talk, as th eject time I'll most likely talk to her is to plan the next date later this week.

 

[ameratsu]

First tinder date in a little while. We had pretty good rapport leading up to the date, cracking jokes and generally having fun with it. Drinks were fun and interesting. The thing is I feel like I am just plain bad at reading things, because apart from formalities (was great meeting you, etc) there's been no back and forth like before our date. Too bad :/

 

[Etrian Oddity]

Yay, hanging out with a little hottie who was my coworker (I just got a new job). In the back of my mind I think I'm already friendzoned but I'm not gonna go into it with a defeatist attitude, lol.

 

[jadedm17]

I've been following the advice of Coach Corey Wayne and it has really helped me. He really opened my eyes to how I used to be pushy and approval seeking, without even knowing it.

He says to use the phone only for setting dates, which I have been doing. He also says too much contact kills anticipation and that women need to wonder about you. However, this girl I'm seeing says she wants me to communicate with her more between dates. I guess I should start texting her more, but I am worried about that. Anyone have thoughts on this? We've been out 3 times so far.

As said, it depends on the person. The funny thing of dating advice is that it's good as a general rule but means nothing to the individual; Much like how Scrubs mentions statistics are great for generalizing but 1/100 means you could meet that 1. Use them as a guide not rules. If she says she wants to talk more then go for it.

Yay, hanging out with a little hottie who was my coworker (I just got a new job). In the back of my mind I think I'm already friendzoned but I'm not gonna go into it with a defeatist attitude, lol.

Not a thing, I still stand firmly in that; Sometimes it's just a change in approach. Best of luck.

First tinder date in a little while. We had pretty good rapport leading up to the date, cracking jokes and generally having fun with it. Drinks were fun and interesting. The thing is I feel like I am just plain bad at reading things, because apart from formalities (was great meeting you, etc) there's been no back and forth like before our date. Too bad :/

First date, don't read too much, especially if you get a second. As for reading things just look for the basic signs - feet toward you, playing with hair, eyes gravitating towards your lips, etc. - while occasionally touching her playfully; I enjoy taking things slow so first dates are usually just getting to know each other and feeling out comfort zones for me.

 

[Oblivion]

I really, really hope not, as I said above he did have a girlfriend he lived with. I have honestly been with way too many guys that have either been virgins or lacked much sexual/relationship experience(like 5/6 different guys). I promised myself that wouldn't happen again, as it's always become an issue in the relationship.

Also thanks so much guys for all the advice. Ive had people I can talk to about this, but they know me too well and don't give me too much of their opinion. Or they have crushes on me (both female and male)and so they let that get in the way and think its impossible for anyone to not be interested in me. I know that sounds crazy, but I've found out the last two years that I give off a very sexual/sexy vibe. That's not a bragging thing, its probably because I'm a scorpio.

But anyways, I really like him, so I think he's worth the wait. I invited him to a screening of one of my film colleagues thesis works. He has a bar meeting with a coworker (male), but if he can, we will come, which means he will meet some of my friends for the first time. He met my roommates and briefly one of my friends, but meeting a larger group of friends makes me super nervous.

What are you gonna do if your new boyfriend is in fact a virgin?

 

[Arsenic Yellow]

What are you gonna do if your new boyfriend is in fact a virgin?

I mean, it's not the end of the world, right? So far I'm impressed enough with him that I could handle some inexperience. I'd prefer that he'd tell me and communicate with me rather than not. I find a lot of guys I've dated in the past that were virgins or lacked experience also often suffered with communication skills. I like openness and find honestly to be the most important thing. That's really what bothered me with guys who were virgins, it certainly wasnt their skills in bed, but rather our issues would often leak into the bedroom and a lack of any sort of resolution would continually sour our sex lives.

 

[Symphonia]

I got my first date through Tinder last night. I know I've only just come out of a 'relationship' but whatever, no point in hanging around. Anyway, going for a couple of drinks with this stunner of a woman. Nothing serious, just a chance to talk, drink, and get to know each other and see where it goes from there.

 

[Zaraki_Kenpachi]

Should I tell here before we meet up, or immediately before getting to the action. There is a very high chance that sex will come up this week, because she told me how horny she is and how she can't wait that here exam is over so we can meet up.

Why would you even tell her? Unless things are going bad or you just don't know what to do then I can kind of understand but otherwise I think it would make it more awkward. You're a virgin, not an AIDs victim. There's no disclosure needed.


I agree with others, if it comes up then obviously don't lie about it but don't go out of your way to proclaim it to her.

 

[retrogamer84]

I don't want to be harsh, but that doesn't sound like emotional baggage. It sounds like she's just not into you.

Perhaps you both are right, but we both also have a hard time expressing/explaining our feelings (Autistic). Also, her idea of hanging out sounds like a date with a different name. I guess I will see tomorrow night. We had a good talk last night and are both excited to see each other again tomorrow.

 

[Etrian Oddity]

I mean, it's not the end of the world, right? So far I'm impressed enough with him that I could handle some inexperience. I'd prefer that he'd tell me and communicate with me rather than not. I find a lot of guys I've dated in the past that were virgins or lacked experience also often suffered with communication skills. I like openness and find honestly to be the most important thing. That's really what bothered me with guys who were virgins, it certainly wasnt their skills in bed, but rather our issues would often leak into the bedroom and a lack of any sort of resolution would continually sour our sex lives.

Guys revealing to girls pre-coitus that they're virgins is suicide, good luck.

 

[Symphonia]

I don't see why being a virgin is a big deal. I was a virgin (18) when I slept with my ex. Mind you, so was she. It didn't bother either of us. It just meant awkward, bumpy sex.

 

[Arsenic Yellow]

Guys revealing to girls pre-coitus that they're virgins is suicide, good luck.

hahaha maybe. I mean he lived with his last girlfriend and he's turning 30 in may, so unless its he's waiting until marriage, I seriously doubt he's a virgin.

 

[Valus]

I don't see why being a virgin is a big deal. I was a virgin (18) when I slept with my ex. Mind you, so was she. It didn't bother either of us. It just meant awkward, bumpy sex.

It's a big deal for some because the older you get, the more you have to wonder "why?" I was seeing this girl who was 31 years old and still a virgin. She was attractive, kind, and not religious. So it begs the question, why? Why is she a virgin? So I prodded a bit. Oh, it turns out she's never had a boyfriend before. Well that's strange. Why has this 31 year old attractive woman never had a boyfriend before? So I prodded a bit. Oh, it turns out that she had this Disney-inspired view of romance that in reality simply does not exist. And as Yellow mentioned, this unrealistic view leaked into all aspects of her life.

So yeah, at my age...virgin = yellow flag.

 

[Dragon]

I don't see why being a virgin is a big deal. I was a virgin (18) when I slept with my ex. Mind you, so was she. It didn't bother either of us. It just meant awkward, bumpy sex.

The difference between a virgin at 18 and a virgin at 31 is big. People can understand the former and want to know what's up with the latter.

On another note: I've been dating this girl from okcupid for about three weeks. I'm incredibly into her, we talk/text every night until midnight at the very earliest. We've went out four times, she's gonna come to this small get together for the SB (she's a Pats fan like me!). I know relationships move at their own speed, but she showed me her okcupid profile and she had a billion messages. I just worry it's going to be hard to wade through all that noise. And I also feel weird about liking her this much so soon. So I've just been kinda neurotic about it. Thankfully on our dates there's been at least a bit of alcohol involved which made me loosen up.

 

[Coda]

hahaha maybe. I mean he lived with his last girlfriend and he's turning 30 in may, so unless its he's waiting until marriage, I seriously doubt he's a virgin.

I think it's clear that he really likes you because he wants to spend the time with you and probably knows how he's slept with girls too soon in the past and how it went sour after. At least that is what I've experienced. Anytime I'm legit into a lady I feel that I have to progress the relationship further mentally before physically. Whether that's a week or a month it doesn't really matter. It changes every time but that's how sex works, when it feels right for the two of you, you will both know.

 

[Mistake]

What is everyone's opinion on breaking up over text? I thought it was really disrespectful. I understand being afraid or something, but I don't know. Me and my ex texted a little more finally, so I feel better that things just didn't leave off terribly.

 

[Coda]

What is everyone's opinion on breaking up over text? I thought it was really disrespectful. I understand being afraid or something, but I don't know. Me and my ex texted a little more finally, so I feel better that things just didn't leave off terribly.

Yeah I don't think breaking up over texting is ever okay unless you just started seeing someone, like a couple dates and just aren't feeling it. If you were in a relationship it's not the right thing to do. Either a phone call or in person at that point.

 

[Arsenic Yellow]

I think it's clear that he really likes you because he wants to spend the time with you and probably knows how he's slept with girls too soon in the past and how it went sour after.

Yeah I'm figuring that's what's up. I'm not too worried about it. I realized I'm sort of enjoying waiting too, its sexually frustrating but I've always rushed sex as well and really want this to work out, so I dont mind waiting as long as it takes to feel right for both of us.

What is everyone's opinion on breaking up over text? I thought it was really disrespectful. I understand being afraid or something, but I don't know. Me and my ex texted a little more finally, so I feel better that things just didn't leave off terribly.

Extremely disrespectful, how long did you two date?

 

[Mistake]

That's what I thought too. We dated for about 6 months. I think I will cut things off completely after I give her her stuff. She wants to stay friends, but I'm just insulted how immature everything went in the end. She's not a bad person, but has some growing up to do, despite being older than me at 27 =/

 

[Symphonia]

It's a big deal for some because the older you get, the more you have to wonder "why?" I was seeing this girl who was 31 years old and still a virgin. She was attractive, kind, and not religious. So it begs the question, why? Why is she a virgin? So I prodded a bit. Oh, it turns out she's never had a boyfriend before. Well that's strange. Why has this 31 year old attractive woman never had a boyfriend before? So I prodded a bit. Oh, it turns out that she had this Disney-inspired view of romance that in reality simply does not exist. And as Yellow mentioned, this unrealistic view leaked into all aspects of her life.

So yeah, at my age...virgin = yellow flag.

The difference between a virgin at 18 and a virgin at 31 is big. People can understand the former and want to know what's up with the latter.

I just don't think being a virgin is a bad thing, regardless of age. It really shouldn't affect your opinion or judgement of someone. If you like them, you'll look past it. Hell, see it as a chance to make their first time incredible. It's what I did.

What is everyone's opinion on breaking up over text? I thought it was really disrespectful. I understand being afraid or something, but I don't know. Me and my ex texted a little more finally, so I feel better that things just didn't leave off terribly.

Breaking up over text is cowardly and immature. Grow a pair and do it face-to-face. Or at least speak to them on the phone.

 

[Christberg]

There's a line where being a virgin would raise some questions. Probably around 30 or so. There's nothing necessarily wrong with it, but it's a sign there's probably some sort of world view or (more commonly) self esteem issue there. Bear in mind, I view the "no sex until marriage" thing as antiquated at best and pretty dumb at worst.

At my age that's a monster size red flag for sure. In fact, not having had a serious relationship is a big problem. (Almost 38)

Some people even view not having kids or having been married as a problem. I get why for sure.

 

[Oblivion]

I mean, it's not the end of the world, right? So far I'm impressed enough with him that I could handle some inexperience. I'd prefer that he'd tell me and communicate with me rather than not. I find a lot of guys I've dated in the past that were virgins or lacked experience also often suffered with communication skills. I like openness and find honestly to be the most important thing. That's really what bothered me with guys who were virgins, it certainly wasnt their skills in bed, but rather our issues would often leak into the bedroom and a lack of any sort of resolution would continually sour our sex lives.

Well that's pretty considerate of you. Not gonna lie, when I was still inexperienced with sex, I tried to delay it by suggesting we cuddle or some such. I definitely wanted to smash during those times but was pretty nervous of messing up and wanted to hold off as long as I could.

Maybe that's actually the case?

 

[PflargBlarg]

Well that's pretty considerate of you. Not gonna lie, when I was still inexperienced with sex, I tried to delay it by suggesting we cuddle or some such. I definitely wanted to smash during those times but was pretty nervous of messing up and wanted to hold off as long as I could.

Maybe that's actually the case?

I remember the first time for me. We had been at a friends place and I was driving us back. She made enough hints that I should just bring her back to my place and that we were going to have sex. I was freaking the hell out in the car and also tried to delay it when we got back.

Ended up being pretty good actually after I calmed down.

 

[Rest]

I need some thoughts on asking out a girl at her workplace. I've bought coffee from her a few times, I think there's some attraction because the last few times she's pretty conspicuously grabbed my fingers as I paid for my purchases, even smiling the last time.

When I try to talk to her though it doesn't seem to go anywhere, she doesn't really respond if I make a joke, and if I ask her a question her answers are really short.

Another issue is just that she's at work: in a "customer's always right" kind of job you're subject to whatever the customer is saying or doing, and I've been on the other side when creepy weirdos said inappropriate stuff to my female employees. Seeing it happen as many times as I have just leaves me not wanting to ask a girl out while she's at work at all. I never see her anywhere else though, so I don't really have any other opportunity.

 

[Arsenic Yellow]

Hey guys! Sorry I keep flooding this thread with questions, anxieties and posts about myself. I've felt so guilty about it, but I have another question:

So I've noticed a lot of the times I've been the one inviting him out to things. It's not that I necessarily plan the entire date, it's just there are a lot of things going on that I want to go to so I invite him out to. Our first date happened because he asked me what I was doing during on saturday, I was busy with a show but invited him along. Other examples were movies that I already wanted to see in his area, so I invited him. He's officially planned only two of our dates, but has asked if i'm available during the weekend a couple times now, or has extended the dates by asking if I wanted to go to a birthday party or brunch.

At the same time, part of me wishes he'd ask e out and plan something entirely, but I keep having things going on in my social life that I'd love for him to join me in. This weekend theres another underground show (same place as our first date). He knows about it, but I'm wondering if I should even invite him (as I've invited him out to a thesis film show tomorrow as well). Does it make a difference if the girl is constantly inviting the guy out? What's the best way, if you only see each other once or twice a week, to suggest he take the reigns? I find it a little tiring and discouraging.

I need some thoughts on asking out a girl at her workplace.

Maybe give her a compliment and ask if she's free sometime to grab some dinner or something? Just ask very casually. You dont have to be a creep about it.

 

[A Human Becoming]

Women don't show interest in me often or at least I don't pick up on it, even afterward. On Sunday it seemed that a girl working at a drive thru coffee was especially friendly. I've gone to many coffee shops with cute woman, so I could sense the difference. The week prior I had driven back because I couldn't taste the flavoring in my latte. When I pulled up a couple days ago she remembered me, saying I wanted an espresso, but couldn't recall the flavoring. I suspect her recollection was because not many people come back, not due to my physical features lol Anyway, when she handed me my order she said to taste it first before driving off, in a nice manner. When I told her I couldn't taste it, she apologized and added more. She didn't seem bothered by it, smiling all the while.

Even if I'm reading too much into it (the experience reminded me of this), which is quite possible, she had braces and with no colleges nearby is very likely in high school. Oh well, still nice to think a young lady could find me attractive at my age (26). I know 26 isn't old, but I do look significantly less youthful than I was at 21.

 

[Etrian Oddity]

It's a big deal for some because the older you get, the more you have to wonder "why?" I was seeing this girl who was 31 years old and still a virgin. She was attractive, kind, and not religious. So it begs the question, why? Why is she a virgin? So I prodded a bit. Oh, it turns out she's never had a boyfriend before. Well that's strange. Why has this 31 year old attractive woman never had a boyfriend before? So I prodded a bit. Oh, it turns out that she had this Disney-inspired view of romance that in reality simply does not exist. And as Yellow mentioned, this unrealistic view leaked into all aspects of her life.

So yeah, at my age...virgin = yellow flag.

Yeah. In my case (26) it's probably--err, no doubt--a combination of low self-esteem, lack of physical attractiveness (I've been overweight my whole life) and odd personality traits. Ah well, no point getting hung up on it, all I can do is try.

That said, the girl I hung out with did tell me she only wants us to be friends and doesn't wanna date anyone right now. Ordinarily I'd cut a girl loose, but she is a legitimately cool girl so I'll take the mature road for once and value the friendship. I'm not gonna "wait for her to come around," she's just a genuinely cool person; so I can just go after the other million girls out there.

 

[Rest]

So I've noticed a lot of the times I've been the one inviting him out to things. It's not that I necessarily plan the entire date, it's just there are a lot of things going on that I want to go to so I invite him out to. Our first date happened because he asked me what I was doing during on saturday, I was busy with a show but invited him along. Other examples were movies that I already wanted to see in his area, so I invited him. He's officially planned only two of our dates, but has asked if i'm available during the weekend a couple times now, or has extended the dates by asking if I wanted to go to a birthday party or brunch.

At the same time, part of me wishes he'd ask e out and plan something entirely, but I keep having things going on in my social life that I'd love for him to join me in. This weekend theres another underground show (same place as our first date). He knows about it, but I'm wondering if I should even invite him (as I've invited him out to a thesis film show tomorrow as well). Does it make a difference if the girl is constantly inviting the guy out? What's the best way, if you only see each other once or twice a week, to suggest he take the reigns? I find it a little tiring and discouraging.

I don't think it's weird that you're the one asking him out most of the time. Dating would be so much easier if girls did more asking...

It sounds like maybe things are a little more balanced than you feel they are. If he's making an extension, like asking if you're available on the weekend, that's him asking you out. That you already have things planned and invite him along is you accepting.

You shouldn't worry too much about it. If you want him to plan something, I'd say just ask. Something like "I really like spending time with you. It would be really nice if you planned something romantic for us to do." Also make sure he's comfortable doing that, because he might be more comfortable with you as the one planning things.

Maybe give her a compliment and ask if she's free sometime to grab some dinner or something? Just ask very casually. You dont have to be a creep about it.

Complements... I'm just not good at giving complements. They feel disingenuous, even if I mean them, and it never feels like the right time to give them...
I guess though that I'll just have to throw my worries out and make a move. There's no point in missing an opportunity.

Even if I'm reading too much into it (the experience reminded me of this), which is quite possible, she had braces and with no colleges nearby is very likely in high school. Oh well, still nice to think a young lady could find me attractive at my age (26). I know 26 isn't old, but I do look significantly less youthful than I was at 21.

If you can, go in during school hours and see if she's ever there. That's actually what I just did with this girl I'm thinking about approaching. She looked rather young and I only ever saw her on the weekends, so I went out of my way to go in during the day every day this week to see if she was working, to make sure she wasn't a child. She was working during the day, so now I'm more comfortable with the idea of asking her out.

 

[Oblivion]

Hey guys! Sorry I keep flooding this thread with questions, anxieties and posts about myself. I've felt so guilty about it, but I have another question:

So I've noticed a lot of the times I've been the one inviting him out to things. It's not that I necessarily plan the entire date, it's just there are a lot of things going on that I want to go to so I invite him out to. Our first date happened because he asked me what I was doing during on saturday, I was busy with a show but invited him along. Other examples were movies that I already wanted to see in his area, so I invited him. He's officially planned only two of our dates, but has asked if i'm available during the weekend a couple times now, or has extended the dates by asking if I wanted to go to a birthday party or brunch.

At the same time, part of me wishes he'd ask e out and plan something entirely, but I keep having things going on in my social life that I'd love for him to join me in. This weekend theres another underground show (same place as our first date). He knows about it, but I'm wondering if I should even invite him (as I've invited him out to a thesis film show tomorrow as well). Does it make a difference if the girl is constantly inviting the guy out? What's the best way, if you only see each other once or twice a week, to suggest he take the reigns? I find it a little tiring and discouraging.

I think you're probably safe. If I never asked a girl out to go somewhere, but I did go with them when they asked me out, it's usually cause I don't have that much interest in them, but just enough that I feel like it's probably better than doing nothing at home. But you said he has asked you out a couple of times so that shows he is interested in you.

 

[Arsenic Yellow]

I don't think it's weird that you're the one asking him out most of the time. Dating would be so much easier if girls did more asking...

It sounds like maybe things are a little more balanced than you feel they are. If he's making an extension, like asking if you're available on the weekend, that's him asking you out. That you already have things planned and invite him along is you accepting.

You shouldn't worry too much about it. If you want him to plan something, I'd say just ask. Something like "I really like spending time with you. It would be really nice if you planned something romantic for us to do." Also make sure he's comfortable doing that, because he might be more comfortable with you as the one planning things.



Complements... I'm just not good at giving complements. They feel disingenuous, even if I mean them, and it never feels like the right time to give them...
I guess though that I'll just have to throw my worries out and make a move. There's no point in missing an opportunity.

I feel the same way about compliments, so I understand. Definitely don't let her position as an employee get in the way. When I was working in retail, I'd have customers i'd be interested in but none would ever ask me out. Though its tough to gauge interest in those situations.

And yeah, you're probably right. I'm going to make a point however to maybe be a little more forward about things. Every weekend he's mentioned/ask if I wanted to do hydotherapy and that it takes a minimum of two, this friday I'll probably ask when he's planning on taking me out to it. I've just been hesitant about it because I believe its fully nude and I dont think he realizes that yet. I also plan on leaving valentines weekend completely up to him (despite already having plans, but they are at midnight). And after this week I don't really have anything else planned in terms of events going on (on our second date we planned on doing a week of David Lynch films at a local theater, but that isn't until the end of February).
Thanks for the reassurance guys. This boston blizzard has left me snowed in and I feel a little like Jack Torrence (the shining).

 

[bcl0328]

I feel the same way about compliments, so I understand. Definitely don't let her position as an employee get in the way. When I was working in retail, I'd have customers i'd be interested in but none would ever ask me out.

funny story, and a bit creepy probably. saw this girl yesterday at a gas station, she was the cashier. easily 10/10, i'm talking model level hot. i saw her name tag and decided to look her up on facebook. i even sent a friend request. she denied it obviously. thought i would at least try. would have been better to talk in person first. never done that before so i figured whatever, got nothing to lose, lol.

 

[Coda]

funny story, and a bit creepy probably. saw this girl yesterday at a gas station, she was the cashier. easily 10/10, i'm talking model level hot. i saw her name tag and decided to look her up on facebook. i even sent a friend request. she denied it obviously. thought i would at least try. would have been better to talk in person first. never done that before so i figured whatever, got nothing to lose, lol.

It can't hurt to try. Lots of times finding love is all about timing. But maybe a craiglist missed connection would have been more suitable even though she'd probably never see it.

 

[Arsenic Yellow]

funny story, and a bit creepy probably. saw this girl yesterday at a gas station, she was the cashier. easily 10/10, i'm talking model level hot. i saw her name tag and decided to look her up on facebook. i even sent a friend request. she denied it obviously. thought i would at least try. would have been better to talk in person first. never done that before so i figured whatever, got nothing to lose, lol.

Next time don't add someone on social media before talking to them. You know where she works, so chances are you'd see her again to have a second chance to approach her.

 

[GK86]

What? Sorry, but that is something most would say is creepy. I could maybe understand if you had spoken to her first.

 

[electricshake]

funny story, and a bit creepy probably. saw this girl yesterday at a gas station, she was the cashier. easily 10/10, i'm talking model level hot. i saw her name tag and decided to look her up on facebook. i even sent a friend request. she denied it obviously. thought i would at least try. would have been better to talk in person first. never done that before so i figured whatever, got nothing to lose, lol.

Super creepy.

 

[jasonng]

funny story, and a bit creepy probably. saw this girl yesterday at a gas station, she was the cashier. easily 10/10, i'm talking model level hot. i saw her name tag and decided to look her up on facebook. i even sent a friend request. she denied it obviously. thought i would at least try. would have been better to talk in person first. never done that before so i figured whatever, got nothing to lose, lol.

Dude, no.

 

[Coda]

What? Sorry, but that is something most would say is creepy. I could maybe understand if you had spoken to her first.

I kind of have a problem with people throwing around the word "creepy" in regards to dating nowadays. I think it's overused because of our increasingly connected culture allowing for so many people to get in touch with one another. While I agree that it was a little brash to send a friend request to her I don't think it was necessarily creepy, you were interested and that should never be considered creepy. Now if you went to her house and started stalking her that'd be hella creepy. I just think being genuinely interested in someone versus being legit creepy is something our current generation needs to take a step back and re-evaluate.

 

[jasonng]

I kind of have a problem with people throwing around the word "creepy" in regards to dating nowadays. I think it's overused because of our increasingly connected culture allowing for so many people to get in touch with one another. While I agree that it was a little brash to send a friend request to her I don't think it was necessarily creepy, you were interested and that should never be considered creepy. Now if you went to her house and started stalking her that'd be hella creepy. I just think being genuinely interested in someone versus being legit creepy is something our current generation needs to take a step back and re-evaluate.

Yes, it was creepy. Please don't defend this kind of behavior. He went out of his way to look her up with information he didn't ask for. The worst part is that it was ten times easier to just go up and talk to her and more likely to get a positive response.

I'm all for taking chances but this wasn't taking a chance. Instead of being direct he tries get around her by adding her personal online profile.

 

[Symphonia]

funny story, and a bit creepy probably. saw this girl yesterday at a gas station, she was the cashier. easily 10/10, i'm talking model level hot. i saw her name tag and decided to look her up on facebook. i even sent a friend request. she denied it obviously. thought i would at least try. would have been better to talk in person first. never done that before so i figured whatever, got nothing to lose, lol.

Dude...

No. Just no.