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[Rich!]

So uh

You know how when working in an office, occasionally there's a birthday card passed around? Everyone signs it, some silly things are written and such.

There's been lots of birthdays where I am recently. Lots of cards. So when I got handed one last week I didn't think twice. I wrote, from memory here, "have a great day, you have plenty of time to enjoy!"

I found out today it wasn't a birthday card. It was a commiserations/sorry for your loss card as someone's relative had died.

I only found out from someone mentioning it today and me putting two and two together. What the fuck do I do? I wrote it in red pen too

 

[xxracerxx]

Please understand.

 

[Enco]

I shouldn't have but your last line made me crack up.

Oh man that sucks.

 

[Cudder]

Ask whoever started that card if they can start another one.

 

[Escape Goat]

Did you sign your name?

 

[Husker86]

Are you the only Rich in your office?

 

[freenudemacusers]

unless you're good at coverup tattoos...

Ask whoever started that card if they can start another one.

yep

 

[Salsa]

RED PEN!?

you're screwed

 

[CarpeDeezNutz]

Same thing happened at my job. There were like three congratulatory cards and one death card, someone wrote something like "congrats!" On the death card.

Is there anyway you can get it to mark it out?

 

[Rapstah]

Have a great day, you have plenty of time to enjoy!

 

[super-heated plasma]

I swear I saw this same exact thing on a TV show a while ago.

 

[Rich!]

Ask whoever started that card if they can start another one.

unless you're good at coverup tattoos...

yep

They sent it to her last week with her payslip.

I knew she was off for a week. I thought it was for a holiday, how was I supposed to know, I was busy manipulating spreadsheets and shit

 

[moojito]

This seems like the description of a Seinfeld episode. I think it's going to end up with you chasing Newman down the street after the envelope.

 

[Orbis]

Speak to them in person and apologise. Adjust the tone of the apology in real time according to their reaction. As someone who recently lost a close relative I can say that something like this would probably make me laugh, but it really depends on the person and your relationship with them.

 

[JinjoUnchained]

Oh snap! Has the card been sealed and presented yet? If not, I'd get it back and blot out the whole message with white out. Then write something else. Seems the cleanest way.

 

[Roo]

Who writes a birthday card using a red pen?

 

[Dominator]

Did they give the card yet? If not, you run to the store right now.

 

[Rich!]

Who writes a birthday card with red pen?

I use a red pen at work for financial corrections. Its literally what I had in my hand at the time.

 

[AkuMifune]

I laughed. I'm sorry. If it were me I'd find out who it was and go explain in person.

 

[Hasney]

Yup, that's pretty bad. I'd just grab it and tipex it out.

Worst I've ever done is writing "Apologies for any incontinence" in an email.

 

[Steamlord]

Couldn't have happened to a better person!

 

[Kathian]

I never read them honestly.

 

[Air Zombie Meat]

Apologise and explain? They may realise what happened anyway and honestly I think they'll be more preoccupied with their loss than a weird message on a card.

 

[| Praxis |]

Just act like it wasn't a mistake, and death is a positive thing.

Tell them you're glad they died.

 

[norm9]

Just write "Remember the beautiful moments of so and so..." above first part, and "...the memories and joy y'all shared because love lasts an eternity." after the end part.

Easy peasy.

Edited- Oh.

 

[Rich!]

Apologise and explain? They may realise what happened anyway and honestly I think they'll be more preoccupied with their loss than a weird message on a card.

I hope they actually realize what kind of fuck up it is.

It would be strikingly obvious if I saw it myself.

 

[freenudemacusers]

They sent it to her last week with her payslip.

I knew she was off for a week. I thought it was for a holiday, how was I supposed to know, I was busy manipulating spreadsheets and shit

let the chattiest cathy in the office know your error, and be more forwardly empathetic to the person when they return while pretending it didn't happen. eventually chatty cathy and the person will come into contact and the information will be transferred.

 

[MIMIC]

You just wasted precious time asking us what to do

 

[Delta Assault]

Just write "Remember the beautiful moments of so and so..." above first part, and "...the memories and joy y'all shared because love lasts an eternity."

Easy peasy.

Yeah. Just hope that he left enough room on the sides to fit the additions in.

 

[FullMetaltech]

Shit. Thats the worse thing than can happen. Maybe theres a chance they'll bypass the message.

 

[speculawyer]

I'm sorry but I bust out laughing.

It was mistake. People will understand.

 

[Any Questions]

That's a dilemma. Best advice is already posted. Explanation in person. All will be fine. Am interested in what happens so subbed.

 

[Ladekabel]

Why hasn't someone avatarquoted the OP?

I'm sorry I laughed. Best is probably to give the person a new card on your own and explain it.

 

[Kaladin]

You weren't wrong......

the living relative does have plenty of time to enjoy life.

 

[Fury451]

Basically send her an email or talk to her personally when you can and inform her of your mistake, apologize profusely, and I would imagine that if they are a reasonable person they understand that mistakes happen.

 

[Gemüsepizza]

"have a great day, you have plenty of time to enjoy!"

Who writes such a sentence on a birthday card? "You have plenty of time to enjoy"? To me it sounds like something someone would make up to make a joke about a mix-up.

Spoiler

Sorry lol.

 

[Rich!]

Who writes such a sentence on a birthday card? "You have plenty of time to enjoy"? Maybe someone who wants to make a joke about a mix-up?

Spoiler

Sorry lol.

It was basically to the effect of enjoy your time off.

She was on a week off. I assumed it was holiday leave. I don't remember exactly what I wrote word for word as I was busy as hell

 

[Nightbird]

This sounds like a Sketch hahaha

But seriously OP, it's not a big deal. Explain yourself and apologize, ans it should be good.

 

[SmithnCo]

Holy shit, lol.

 

[Griss]

 

[Quick]

When that person comes back, just clear up any possible confusion.

 

[Enco]

lmao

 

[Fracas]

It's no big deal, just talk to the person and explain. They'll be fine.

 

[Caronte]

Just act like it wasn't a mistake, and death is a positive thing.

Tell them you're glad they died.

I love this post.

 

[RELAYER]

So uh

You know how when working in an office, occasionally there's a birthday card passed around? Everyone signs it, some silly things are written and such.

There's been lots of birthdays where I am recently. Lots of cards. So when I got handed one last week I didn't think twice. I wrote, from memory here, "have a great day, you have plenty of time to enjoy!"

I found out today it wasn't a birthday card. It was a commiserations/sorry for your loss card as someone's relative had died.

I only found out from someone mentioning it today and me putting two and two together. What the fuck do I do? I wrote it in red pen too

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_V2sBURgUBI

 

[Rich!]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_V2sBURgUBI

I've never seen Seinfeld, I'm guessing I've done something that happened in an episode?

 

[Paracelsus]

Imagine had he written "many happy returns".

 

[NateDrake]

Didn't this happen in an episode of Frasier?

Close enough to OPs situation. https://youtu.be/9WVlEXaKiss?t=12m36s

 

[daveo42]

I'll make sure to write "Congrats!" on your Sorry For Your Loss card when you lose face next week.

 

[Robdraggoo]

eh, I wouldnt worry about it. Ive gotten plelnty of those cards myself and honestly never read the comments.

This is why I just simply write happy birthday on them. becuase if its not there birthday I can at least look dumb instead of insensitive.

but as previously mentioned, your remark can easily be turned from an F to a B with some careful wordsmithing.