We're both virgins yeah. I'm not sure if we got those brands here in The Netherlands but I'll look it up. Think we got Durex condoms here. And lubricated condoms are recommended? Or at least lubricant I guess?
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We're both virgins yeah. I'm not sure if we got those brands here in The Netherlands but I'll look it up. Think we got Durex condoms here. And lubricated condoms are recommended? Or at least lubricant I guess?
Liu Kang Baking A Pie
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This is both gross and hilarious.
Go with the flow.
Milly Osworth
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Haha yeah, he seems very delusional.
you're right, there really isn't an issue. it was mostly just me getting my undies in a bunch over something small. I felt that she wasn't taking what I wanted to do into consideration because she told me "it doesn't make sense" to drive to me, go there and then leave early the next morning. I just felt like I wanted a little bit more effort put into seeing me since it's been a hard weeks time with a few big ups and downs. I should have just squashed it in the beginning and moved on.
Maybe doesn't really belong in this thread but whatever.
Girl I've been friends with for many years was in town and wanted to meet to catch up since she's been away for a year. She's super hot, like a 9 at least (if you want it on a scale). Through texts when deciding meet-up I mentioned I recently got my own apartment. So we meet for coffee -> drinks and then she suggests that she wants to see my place, so I invite her over. I play guitar for her which I have many times in the past, and we have a good time. She's just a friend, but I mean she is really really hot and we're alone at my place, and she's swooning. What could go wrong?
After a while she gets a few texts, apparently this friend of hers wants to meet at a place close to mine. She says she's leaving to say hi and then come back to my place, so I'm like alright. One hour later she calls me asking if I want to join them for drinks. Got nothing better to do so I tag along.
What I find is four girls, one of which is my friend. My friend apparently doesn't know the other two girls. We go to a bar and have some drinks. At some point the topic of where to go next comes up, and everyone wants to go to the city's popular gay club. So since not everyone knows eachother, the topic of sexual preference comes up (very casually I might add). I'm straight, one of the girls are straight, one is gay, my friend's friend is bi, my friend is... gay?
Well that's a banger: known her for seven years and I didn't know she was gay. The girl she was meeting was actually a hookup, and I was there to decide if she was alright or not. In the end my friend decided not to go to the gay club, and when we parted from the rest I brought this fact up and she was very surprised - she thought she had told me ages ago.
Actually this is pretty interesting to me, since I don't have any gay female friends. The dynamic will be interesting since there is absolutely zero chance of a hookup, which I feel (perhaps errornously) is always a possibility with other female friends.
Anyway, that's a story which has little to do with dating, just funny I guess.
Girl I've been friends with for many years was in town and wanted to meet to catch up since she's been away for a year. She's super hot, like a 9 at least (if you want it on a scale). Through texts when deciding meet-up I mentioned I recently got my own apartment. So we meet for coffee -> drinks and then she suggests that she wants to see my place, so I invite her over. I play guitar for her which I have many times in the past, and we have a good time. She's just a friend, but I mean she is really really hot and we're alone at my place, and she's swooning. What could go wrong?
After a while she gets a few texts, apparently this friend of hers wants to meet at a place close to mine. She says she's leaving to say hi and then come back to my place, so I'm like alright. One hour later she calls me asking if I want to join them for drinks. Got nothing better to do so I tag along.
What I find is four girls, one of which is my friend. My friend apparently doesn't know the other two girls. We go to a bar and have some drinks. At some point the topic of where to go next comes up, and everyone wants to go to the city's popular gay club. So since not everyone knows eachother, the topic of sexual preference comes up (very casually I might add). I'm straight, one of the girls are straight, one is gay, my friend's friend is bi, my friend is... gay?
Well that's a banger: known her for seven years and I didn't know she was gay. The girl she was meeting was actually a hookup, and I was there to decide if she was alright or not. In the end my friend decided not to go to the gay club, and when we parted from the rest I brought this fact up and she was very surprised - she thought she had told me ages ago.
Actually this is pretty interesting to me, since I don't have any gay female friends. The dynamic will be interesting since there is absolutely zero chance of a hookup, which I feel (perhaps errornously) is always a possibility with other female friends.
Anyway, that's a story which has little to do with dating, just funny I guess.
ZackieChan
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Apparently you do. Not sure why this is "funny," though. She's just a friend now.
direct_quote
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Welp date gaf went on a date with someone from online and they must of had pictures up from like 8 years ago or something... Yah.. Here I was worrying my pics from 6 months ago were old...
I think their eager availability must have been a sign..
I think their eager availability must have been a sign..
NeOak
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I second this.
Jeez yeah, apparently I do. It's that I found out in such a weird way.
yeah i'm definitely not pushing. there hasn't really been any flirting or anything after 3 meet ups so might just leave it as friends.
Lubricated is usually good, yes. We have Durex in the States, and I assume they're good (they're a common brand like Trojan here), but I haven't tried them.
Sorry, my experience with condoms is actually a bit limited, due to my allergy.
Just buy the ones that look good, say 'lubricated', and don't say some silly word for large 
And you don't fit in the normal ones when you try them out, then go buy the large ones :3ZackieChan
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Yes, get lubricated unless you want covered oral. Then you want something unlubricated or possibly flavored?
Get a 3-pack and try one on to make sure it fits. You don't want anything funny - just whatever is normal.
Get a 3-pack and try one on to make sure it fits. You don't want anything funny - just whatever is normal.
Shit man, this is weird as fuck. This girl I asked out, she agreed to go on a date with me. I suggested some coffee. She said ok. Today she sent me a message saying she had a suggestion for our date. She wants to meetup lend me a deck and play magic the gathering.
I don't even. Seriously, magic? Is that good for dates?
I don't even. Seriously, magic? Is that good for dates?
davepoobond
you can't put a price on sparks
She's getting straight to the point. Better being a black lotus flower as a gift
(That's the only card I know in magic)
Hahahahaha, that sounds hilarious and amazing.
I mean, regardless of your opinion of Magic. It's a game where the two of you will interact, so you can crack jokes, talk, etc while playing.
Maybe by the end of the night, her resources won't be the only thing that's been tapped
Really though, she's just sharing her hobby with you.
Advocatus Diaboli
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It's the perfect opportunity for her to show you how far gaming has come.
ZackieChan
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Yep. Bring your Netrunner decks. Break through her ICE and access her servers.
MonorailCat
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that feeling when you have a second date at your place, after some time you both find yourself half naked on the bed and then she says she can't have sex because it's her time of the month.
"NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO"
Luckily we found some other way to have fun (ok, it was mainly me having fun).
We cooked together and watched Nightcraweler (great movie). I like her.
Conversation is easy and natural. She is sensual and sexual (the first girl I met who is good at cuddling. As in caressing back, and not just lying there while I do all the caressing). And no stupid text-waiting-games. She writes back soon after I text her. Even texted me first after our first date and said she liked it.
Let's see where it goes.
"NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO"
Luckily we found some other way to have fun (ok, it was mainly me having fun).
We cooked together and watched Nightcraweler (great movie). I like her.
Conversation is easy and natural. She is sensual and sexual (the first girl I met who is good at cuddling. As in caressing back, and not just lying there while I do all the caressing). And no stupid text-waiting-games. She writes back soon after I text her. Even texted me first after our first date and said she liked it.
Let's see where it goes.
ZackieChan
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Match with cute girl on Tinder.
She's a prostitute.
Fml
She's a prostitute.
Fml
NeOak
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I hope to God you took the deck and played with her.
Well now I know what a mediocre Tinder date is like. Talked to this girl for a few days, very short responses from both of us. The conversation was breaking down so I asked her out for drinks on a whiff, which she accepted. On the date the conversation was pleasant but she got the check after 1h 15m (lol) to catch the train home (she lives half an hour away...), and she told me earlier that she has tomorrow off. At the end I asked if she wants to meet again and she said yes, but that'll have to be in two weeks since I'm going on vacation. I'm assuming I will never hear from her again.
Also when I asked her why she is on Tinder (is this a bad question to ask on an actual date?), she pretty much said she uses it when she's bored. Like I wasn't expecting her to say she's looking for marriage, but to fuel boredom is as much of a "I'm not interested" answer as it gets.
Also when I asked her why she is on Tinder (is this a bad question to ask on an actual date?), she pretty much said she uses it when she's bored. Like I wasn't expecting her to say she's looking for marriage, but to fuel boredom is as much of a "I'm not interested" answer as it gets.
War Peaceman
You're a big guy.
Board/card games are really good social things so if she suggested it, go for it.
Make sure she doesn't activate her trap card....
stn
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Yeah, don't ask any variation of this question ever. Not on the date or when you're talking over the dating service.
I was on a Tinder date last night, and I was asked the same question. This was the second time she had asked me too (first one was through text). I told her it was an easy way to meet women/people.
Lone_Prodigy
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A totally cheesy answer would be "Well I met you, so it was worth it".
davepoobond
you can't put a price on sparks
I've gotten the "why is a guy like you doing online dating" question a couple times.
I don't really know how to answer it other than truthfully.
I don't really know how to answer it other than truthfully.
so a follow up to my question earlier, i met the girl for coffee, things went well and even though she went back to her city we decided to keep in contact (mainly through messaging)
She never initiates contact though, its always me messaging first and even though we have had some good conversations, i'm unsure on where she really stands. The issue now is that i messaged her on Sunday night and its Tuesday now and have not heard response.
Should i just let this thing die?
She never initiates contact though, its always me messaging first and even though we have had some good conversations, i'm unsure on where she really stands. The issue now is that i messaged her on Sunday night and its Tuesday now and have not heard response.
Should i just let this thing die?
Ethics Gradient
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I'm super curious how this goes, and what type of person she turns out to be.
ZackieChan
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Don't see why this is bad or weird. Seems pretty cool to me.
Seems weird that this is even a question. What else would someone be doing on Tinder but looking to meet people.
ZackieChan
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That's why you meet for coffee.
Definitely not bad. Just weird because something like this never happened to me. Might be really cool. We'll see.
It's a dumb question, yea. It's like asking someone buying food why they are buying food.
ZackieChan
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Probably some weird passive aggressive way to ask if they're just looking for sex. Because Tinder, etc.
So, I've been exchanging texts with this girl I matched with on Tinder. Saturday night she said I was funny and told me she'd let me know when her next day off is so we can go out. I sent her a text today just seeing what she was up to, but she didn't respond. What's an appropriate amount of time before sending another text? Or should I just assume she isn't interested anymore and forget about it?
Online dating is weird.
Online dating is weird.
War Peaceman
You're a big guy.
That's it. Although it doesn't have to be passive aggressive.
Don't send more than one text, wait it out, if nothing happens whatever
I've gotten that a lot in the past. You should try one more time in another day or two (there are no rules so whenever you feel like it) and ask if you're still on for Saturday. If she replies and says she'll let you know, move on. If she doesn't, then move on any way. Generally speaking, if the girl is interested in meeting you, she'll make the time. I had a few girls give me excuses in the past when I suggested meeting up but gave me excuses or said something similar.
She's either busy / a bad texter / or most likely not interested. Either way, do not text her again and if she texts back, text with the same frequency as her.
Online dating is weird, its a game and you have to win by playing it cool.
I met this girl at work three works ago (we're both 20). I'd say we clicked pretty quickly - telling jokes, always having a laugh and generally enjoying each other's company. She started inviting me out to lunch - of course I always said yes.
Problem is, she has a boyfriend. They've not been dating long, but she always comes to me to ask about advice. She is worried that he is going to leave her. She's been extremely open with me, which is surprising considering that we didn't know each other a month ago - she explained how this is her longest relationship, and it's clear to me that because she is so new to all of this, she just wants to desperately hold on to what she has. She tells me how she feels that he gives her no attention, how she thinks that he is so much better than her, and how she breaks down often when thinking about it.
On Sunday, I was going to meet my friends who live in her city. She offered for me to crash at hers that night whilst she stayed the night with her boyfriend. She even invited me to meet her boyfriend - naturally, I said yes and went over to his place, and met him along with his friends. I'm a pretty outgoing guy, so I had no problem getting to know her friends, but every so often I would glance up at her and her boyfriend and see that he was giving her no attention. Like, I did not see them speak to each other for the 2 hours or so that I was there. Eventually, she told me she was calling it a night (i.e. heading off to bang her boyfriend). I said my goodbyes and went to hers and fell asleep.
I don't know what it is about this girl, but I am strongly drawn to her. She has spoken of her insecurities and it really upsets me to see that she is madly in love with a guy who I'm pretty sure is just using her for sex. The problem is, she is not going to leave the guy. I'm certain that this is going to end really horribly for her. Deep down, I'm sure she knows it too, but is living in denial.
I'm think she likes me, but I haven't really made it clear to her that I like her. Even if I told her I did I don't think it would make a difference. As I mentioned, its her longest relationship ever (and it really has not been a long one), and it appears that she is desperately holding on for dear life.
So, fellow gaffers. What do I do? Should I tell her that I like her? Do I wait for him to inevitably dump her? Or have I just been friendzoned into orbit? I've been thinking about this for a while and really don't know what to do.
Problem is, she has a boyfriend. They've not been dating long, but she always comes to me to ask about advice. She is worried that he is going to leave her. She's been extremely open with me, which is surprising considering that we didn't know each other a month ago - she explained how this is her longest relationship, and it's clear to me that because she is so new to all of this, she just wants to desperately hold on to what she has. She tells me how she feels that he gives her no attention, how she thinks that he is so much better than her, and how she breaks down often when thinking about it.
On Sunday, I was going to meet my friends who live in her city. She offered for me to crash at hers that night whilst she stayed the night with her boyfriend. She even invited me to meet her boyfriend - naturally, I said yes and went over to his place, and met him along with his friends. I'm a pretty outgoing guy, so I had no problem getting to know her friends, but every so often I would glance up at her and her boyfriend and see that he was giving her no attention. Like, I did not see them speak to each other for the 2 hours or so that I was there. Eventually, she told me she was calling it a night (i.e. heading off to bang her boyfriend). I said my goodbyes and went to hers and fell asleep.
I don't know what it is about this girl, but I am strongly drawn to her. She has spoken of her insecurities and it really upsets me to see that she is madly in love with a guy who I'm pretty sure is just using her for sex. The problem is, she is not going to leave the guy. I'm certain that this is going to end really horribly for her. Deep down, I'm sure she knows it too, but is living in denial.
I'm think she likes me, but I haven't really made it clear to her that I like her. Even if I told her I did I don't think it would make a difference. As I mentioned, its her longest relationship ever (and it really has not been a long one), and it appears that she is desperately holding on for dear life.
So, fellow gaffers. What do I do? Should I tell her that I like her? Do I wait for him to inevitably dump her? Or have I just been friendzoned into orbit? I've been thinking about this for a while and really don't know what to do.
davepoobond
you can't put a price on sparks
doesnt sound like she is going to dump him and is using you (or at least setting you up) as her emotional punching bag since she can't get what she needs from her boyfriend.
don't fall for her, be friends if you want, but don't expect her to "leave him for you." She probably would have left him for you if she felt that strongly about you and will probably actually go to someone else before you if he dumps her.
not saying it isn't possible something works out with you and her but don't get drawn into their relationship.
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