Oh you mean like start by talking to random strangers and building confidence, that kind of advice? You need to work on yourself first and foremost, build confidence, figure out how to talk to people, and then start going on dates. It's not to say that you can't skip a few steps and build confidence by going on dates, but to each his own.
Ask questions about the other person that I assume you're generally interested in, if not; fake interest
Yeah. Im not going to play her game. When my coworker told her she shouldnt be bringing a guy there when im working her response was "i cant help that he likes coffee"... Before she was trying to avoid having me stop talking with her and trying to stay friends. I cut her off cuz i was only unhappy and now shes closing the space ive been forced to create.
Oh I will.
I can talk about nothing, I'm like an episode of Seinfeld. The issue is just that I have a quiet nature, which alcohol greatly amplifies. So when I start drinking I stop talking, it's something people I know have remarked on.
I'm just as frustrated with the thread as you must all be with me. The bolded is what I've wanted to know how to do - no one will tell me anything than to ask people for directions. I can do that. I'm sorry for wanting to interact with other human beings. I think you people are being purposely obtuse because you enjoy watching me suffer with this over the years. I'm sure you're all going to suggest that I'm just looking for pity. Just ban me instead. I do try and stay out of the thread because it never goes well when I reach out...
Quit playing a victim and man the fuck up. We aren't here to hurt you. You just aren't lsitening to any of the advice here. I looked at the first few pages and it was the same thing, you haven't done anything to better yourself.
This. Grape, there's a reason why people here tell you do things such as greeting random people. Its a way to work up the courage to proceed to the next step. Here's an example of meeting people using the above suggestion.
Indeed, go with the basics. Just smile at everyone whose eyes meet yours. Basic greetings (with no follow-up required) like the quoted suggestion is a good start. Once you get comfortable with that, you can then go for more directed one-liners. "Nice dog!" to someone walking one. Or, "it's so humid" in exasperation on a hot day. Also, try not sounding like an emotionless robot when saying things.
Dude, stopping being a goddamn asshole when you ask for help. Stop pretending to be done martyr and screw you that everyone just enjoyed seeing you suffer. All the years of your bullshit people have put up with and yet again you resort to insulting others. You want to know how to interact? Stop being an asshole to everyone when they go out of their way to help you when they have no obligation to. You can't be more condescending when you talk to people.
People see through you. They see through you here and in real life. You've always come off as entitled, weak, argumentative, and like you're always throwing a pity party for yourself, and everyone has constantly called you out on that, and you've consistently responded with the same deflections, excuses, finger pointing, and negative attitude that you've always been called on.
I think the biggest slap in the face is how he always says we did it without effort when you can see all the struggles, myself included, have gone through over the years. It wasn't easy and it sure as shit took effort, just like everything I accomplished in life and yet he just loves to hand wave it away like I didn't even have to think about it. He needs to fix his poisonous mindset. You grow by trying to learn from others, not by trying to knock them down. People want to learn from someone else when they're impressed, not tell others how easy they have it. It's just the complete opposite mindset and he has to fix that first and foremost.
Yep, he's consistently insulting to everyone else's effort. Like we all got lucky or had coincidence shine upon us, and he wants it himself. It seems like he can't mentally picture people putting hard work into dating and then that hard work paying off, and he now may never get it because of his own self-limiting behavior. It's the same lack of self-awareness and respect for others that causes people to fail in all sorts of things.
Well, I'd have to say "I'm Charmander Shepard, Char Char!" I certainly won't be doing that.
