Why are you so boring? (to Tabris)

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I don't think some of you get the point, or are deflecting.

These are people that had these same kind of interests, and now don't do much and don't have much to talk about anymore after becoming new parents.

Not doing the same things, does not mean they "don't do much"
 
I don't think some of you get the point, or are deflecting.

These are people that had these same kind of interests, and now don't do much and don't have much to talk about anymore after becoming new parents.

They grew up
 
I mean I don't give a shit if he does tourist stuff. He can do that all he wants and have a great vacation and that's great. Glad he had fun, I really am, Tokyo is a great city.

But if you're gonna shit on people for being boring because they are parents, you gotta expect some blowback when your idea of an exciting story is just, well, a vacation.

You're really not, though. You're belittling his experiences because they don't have with your knowledge of the city.

It's really everybody accusing everybody of the same thing. He thinks parents are boring. You think he's boring. I think you stole my car.
 
Tabris would not know this.

That was more just me making a random comment, not directed at anybody.

I'm too hype for Creed anyway to bother with this anymore, tbh.

You're really not, though. You're belittling his experiences because they don't have with your knowledge of the city.

It's really everybody accusing everybody of the same thing. He thinks parents are boring. You think he's boring. I think you stole my car.

I'm not saying he has to have knowledge of anything to do anything. I said those things because I think he'd have a more personally interesting experience if he just went places and tried things that weren't in a tourist book. Wandering around randomly always makes for a better vacation because those places aren't designed to be just "fun for tourists" (read: Built to take white folk's money).

I don't think he's boring, I think he's a bad storyteller and his trip sounds hella dull, though.
 
I don't think some of you get the point, or are deflecting.

These are people that had these same kind of interests, and now don't do much and don't have much to talk about anymore after becoming new parents.

man after 10 pages of admonishment, who is deflecting now?
 
Japan is awesome. Took my 2-year old there last year!

(Didn't go sake drinking with strangers though - at least on THAT trip)
 
I don't think some of you get the point, or are deflecting.

These are people that had these same kind of interests, and now don't do much and don't have much to talk about anymore after becoming new parents.

You seem to either entirely lack the ability to consider a matter beyond your own perspective or are being deliberately obtuse. Your friends have changed and their interests have changed. The fact that they no longer have the same interests as you does not make them boring. The fact that you now find them boring does not make them boring. The fact that they likely now find you boring does not mean you are boring. What is interesting/boring is subjective and unique to each person.
 
My buddy and me were heavily debating going to Jiro, but ultimately opted to just use that budget to eat a lot of fatty tuna and Kobe beef throughout the trip instead D: I don't have the Michelin street cred.

One of the unique experiences I enjoyed in Japan was that tavern that has monkey waiters. They'd serve you the wet cloths and bring you beer, and you'd tip them with soy beans. The owner would pass by the tables and have the monkeys sit on your shoulder too (during which it started stealing from our soy bean bowl). One of them spilled a glass of OJ on the table and started licking it too. Good thing we were done eating by then! A fun anecdocte, but not really a life-changing experience.

*edit: Thinking about my past trip to Japan with my partner.. while the Michelin places we went were really good, the unexpected highlight of our trip is NOT "omigod the food here was so good," but rather when we were attacked by deer at Nara. That is our favorite thing to reminisce about, and what we laugh about together now. The memory that makes me smile the most isn't specific meals (though we do talk about how good the food was in general), but rather the image of a bunch of deer eating my boyfriend's shirt. If you ask me, the most interesting parts of all my trips, the things that make me the happiest when remembering them, have been those little moments you share with the ones you love. & you know me, I'm like you materialistically :p, so it's not a matter of not having those same experiences.

That's one of my favorite memories of my solo trip too. I went during Golden Week so there were a ton of people. Selfie with a deer. A group of 4 deer surrounding a high school girl for deer crackers. A completely random parade I happened upon. So much fun.
We rented electric bikes and had fun dodging deer while passing through the park :D Nara was good fun.
 
See, I don't think this applies to everyone. I would absolutely HATE going to the middle of nowhere and not have the creature comforts that I expect.

Intentionally leaving your comfort zone behind is an extremely important part of life experience and the expansion of your overall perspective. You intrinsically hate it until it forces you to grow as a person.
 
It doesn't matter how interesting or exciting I am, the point is new parents are boring.

Stop deflecting ;)

But you're boring all the time or at least you seem like it.

Parents have an excuse because of an obligations.

You're seem like a boring guy with no style and visual flare. You remind me of Ed Norton's character from the Italian Job. Collecting/visiting stuff because you've seen other people buy it or saw it in a movie. Just because you want to fit in. You have no real interest in the culture or history behind it. Or at least have never shown you can appreciate what you're experiencing beyond the surface level.

Your list of things you did is boring. Don't just say you went somewhere. Explain why you enjoyed it.

What was your favorite piece of MOMA's permanent collection?

Why do you consider the French Laundry to be great?

Honestly the person you present yourself as on GAF is someone I would never want to be around.
 
Intentionally leaving your comfort zone behind is an extremely important part of life experience and the expansion of your overall perspective. You intrinsically hate it until it forces you to grow as a person.

Pretty much.

Life is about challenging yourself. Some people don't like doing that, that's fine, but you're missing out on a lot if you just live in a constrained, controlled bubble carefully prepared to be palatable for you.
 
Kind of a side tangent of this thread, but people who bitch about their Facebook friends posting too many pictures of their kids are... embarrassing. There is 0 reason to get pissed off that someone is sharing shit that their close friends and family clearly enjoy.

They just aren't your friends. It's weird you added them on FB to start with if you hate their joy so much. No one is stopping you from posting pictures of your food or links to political articles you didn't read or cat videos or selfies holding a beer or whatever brings joy to your empty existence.

Best case scenario you are what? Worried about a babies online privacy?

Sorry. We've had a few of these lately, and as a new parent it makes me feel unnecessarily self consious about sharing candid pics of my daughter in a place where her grandparents and great-grandparents have easy access. Then I remember that my friends actually like me.
 
Where do I fall where I just can't stand children and want to stay away from them at all costs? I've ended up distancing myself from my friends with kids because kids are loud headache factories. I don't even like being around my sister's kids either. I have zero patience for them. Am I a bad person?
 
Intentionally leaving your comfort zone behind is an extremely important part of life experience and the expansion of your overall perspective. You intrinsically hate it until it forces you to grow as a person.
Truth. I hate hiking/camping, and one of my best travel experiences ever was a hiking/camping trip.
 
Damn everyone hating on Tabris.

He seems like a cool dude. Would love to go party with him, granted he foots the whole bill.

Im on your side, don't let the haters get you down, though I know you're not.
 
Yikes. Tragic.

Eh, I don't buy into that. If it's the way he wants to live, more power to him, do you.

But don't presume yourself being more interesting than other people because they stopped doing some of the things you all used to like doing together because they have a child now.

That's my main problem with this thread, TBH. You can be a 30 something or 40 something trawling the bars and stuff, if that's what you like doing and makes you feel fulfilled, do it up.
 
Where do I fall where I just can't stand children and want to stay away from them at all costs? I've ended up distancing myself from my friends with kids because kids are loud headache factories. I don't even like being around my sister's kids either. I have zero patience for them. Am I a bad person?

No. Other people's kids were really annoying to me until I had one. Now suddenly I think they are funny/cute, but I get it. They are NOT (and should not) be for everyone.

You don't have to like anything. It's just comical to act like you are inherently superior to anyone feels otherwise.
 
Eh, I don't buy into that. If it's the way he wants to live, more power to him, do you.

More power to him, but being 30 years old an not understanding why new parents aren't 'as interesting' anymore is just...well tragic really.

If he's having fun, good for him. Just don't shit on other people enjoying their lives in a different way.

Live and let live, not live and you're boring.
 
I have a friend, he 30, in a relationship for 5 years now, and he is RELUCTANTLY planning on getting married next year.

He hates the idea of it, and also having children and moving to the suburbs. But he tells me what choice do I have?

He makes decent money, but I think if he made alot more he wouldnt even entertain the idea.
 
No. Other people's kids were really annoying to me until I had one. Now suddenly I think they are funny/cute, but I get it. They are NOT (and should not) be for everyone.

You don't have to like anything. It's just comical to act like you are inherently superior to anyone feels otherwise.

I know, but it feels like I'm a really shitty friend and uncle, but I just can't help it. Any time I'm stuck in an area with a screaming baby its just flat out torture.
 
I know, but it feels like I'm a really shitty friend and uncle, but I just can't help it. Any time I'm stuck in an area with a screaming baby its just flat out torture.

I feel the opposite. I can play with other friends and familys kid and enjoy it, but after an hour or 2 when you get tired of them you can just get up and jet.

With your own kid, once they annoy you, you are stuck, for the rest of your life.
 
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