How is that true though? Rey is someone who is strong and independent because her situation forced her to be in order to survive. But deep down she was clearly just hoping for her parents to come back and make it all okay, basically telling herself that if she just hung on, one day everything is will magically fixed.
After meeting Finn, she is forced to confront that false hope she was clinging to, several characters interact with her specifically to move her along that path. First Han offers her a job with him, then Maz tells her about the saber calling to her and the ways of the force, and even Ren contributes by reading her emotions and putting them in context as a stranger, telling her that she knows deep down that what she wants is not going to happen. All of this happens over the course of the film, and in the end when she finally accepts her destiny, it leads her to Luke. Whatever happens after this, I don't think we can say that she didn't have that sort of journey where others influenced her and eventually she made a choice that put her on a new path in her life.
This isn't deep stuff or whatever, but it is clearly there.
