GAF, I've made a huge mistake. (Job related.)

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KevinRo

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I didn't really want this job. I loved my old one working at a small business and working with video games. I didn't actively search it. My mom hooked me up and kinda made me do it because if I said no then I never would've heard the end of it. But now I'm really not hearing the end of it from her because she keeps calling me, telling me that I fucked up my future, yelling at me over the phone, saying "how hard she worked" to get me this job, etc.. It's not really helping my mood and I just want to kill her or myself.

Calm down.

You have to understand that many people don't get to be in your position or have the ability to be able to just quit after being bored for 2.5 hours.

Learn from it and move on.
 

Cake Boss

Banned
Lol yeah that evil corporate world really abused you there with there 2.5 hours of no working. Oh the horror, won't somebody please think of the children.

Lmaoo wtf am I reading here?
 

Pastry

Banned
I didn't really want this job. I loved my old one working at a small business and working with video games. I didn't actively search it. My mom hooked me up and kinda made me do it because if I said no then I never would've heard the end of it. But now I'm really not hearing the end of it from her because she keeps calling me, telling me that I fucked up my future, yelling at me over the phone, saying "how hard she worked" to get me this job, etc.. It's not really helping my mood and I just want to kill her or myself.

Was your last job retail at a video game store or something?
 

GaimeGuy

Volunteer Deputy Campaign Director, Obama for America '16
Is this a joke?

I feel that you literally did the worst possible thing in that situation (aside from stripping naked and running through the halls i guess).

Wow. Last time I started a new job I literally just sat around for 2 weeks and read standard operating procedures, did some half-arsed training sessions and twiddled my thumbs. This is normal.
I did ladder training. I'm a software engineer. LADDER. TRAINING.
 

Ban Puncher

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"Hey Pam, where's the new kid? We were all going to take him out for lunch on his first day."

"Darnedest thing, Steve..."


And then OP forever became office legend.
 

Akuun

Looking for meaning in GAF
The interview was only a half-hour. I didn't think I got it anyway since I wasn't getting a good perception of the interviewers, they didn't show me around, and they wanted to get me out as fast as possible. So I was really surprised that I got it. But, damn, I don't think I could've handled that. I feel like I'm at a point in my life where I can't just be sitting around and bored anymore.
Interviews are like that. They're often done on a schedule (which is why they sometimes need to move things along and get you out before the next candidate) and a lot of interviewers are good at hiding what they think of you until later. I've been ignored from tons of interviews that I thought I did well in, and I've gotten offers from interviews where I thought I messed up.
 
I didn't really want this job. I loved my old one working at a small business and working with video games. I didn't actively search it. My mom hooked me up and kinda made me do it because if I said no then I never would've heard the end of it. But now I'm really not hearing the end of it from her because she keeps calling me, telling me that I fucked up my future, yelling at me over the phone, saying "how hard she worked" to get me this job, etc.. It's not really helping my mood and I just want to kill her or myself.
This situation is far more complex than just "I quit my job after three hours because I was bored". Go find some help from someone who can help talk you through these dark emotions and get yourself to a better place. Because killing yourself or your mother solves absolutely nothing.
 

jblank83

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I didn't really want this job. I loved my old one working at a small business and working with video games. I didn't actively search it. My mom hooked me up and kinda made me do it because if I said no then I never would've heard the end of it. But now I'm really not hearing the end of it from her because she keeps calling me, telling me that I fucked up my future, yelling at me over the phone, saying "how hard she worked" to get me this job, etc.. It's not really helping my mood and I just want to kill her or myself.

Suicidal and homicidal thoughts should always be treated seriously.

If you're truly having such thoughts, I highly suggest you reach out to someone for help. That doesn't mean a video game message board. Emergency rooms at hospitals can deal with a crisis, if you have no social service or therapeutic contacts.
 

GaimeGuy

Volunteer Deputy Campaign Director, Obama for America '16
I didn't really want this job. I loved my old one working at a small business and working with video games. I didn't actively search it. My mom hooked me up and kinda made me do it because if I said no then I never would've heard the end of it. But now I'm really not hearing the end of it from her because she keeps calling me, telling me that I fucked up my future, yelling at me over the phone, saying "how hard she worked" to get me this job, etc.. It's not really helping my mood and I just want to kill her or myself.
You need to get help. Please see someone.
 
You did good OP, if it feels like they don't have their shit together, they probably don't.
You don't need to be a corporate wage slave.
 
Okay, it sounds like you sabotaged yourself on purpose because you didn't really want the job, but can't stand up to your mother.
 

Rockandrollclown

lookwhatyou'vedone
I didn't really want this job. I loved my old one working at a small business and working with video games. I didn't actively search it. My mom hooked me up and kinda made me do it because if I said no then I never would've heard the end of it. But now I'm really not hearing the end of it from her because she keeps calling me, telling me that I fucked up my future, yelling at me over the phone, saying "how hard she worked" to get me this job, etc.. It's not really helping my mood and I just want to kill her or myself.

Any chance to get your old job back? In the future, you gotta get some spine and say no. If you're happy where you are don't mess it up. You'll also get it a lot worse for someone when they vouch for you to get you a job and you make them look foolish than if you held firm in the first place. Again, nothing is so bad you need to do anything drastic. Your mom will recover eventually, but she will be pissed for a while about this.
 
I didn't really want this job. I loved my old one working at a small business and working with video games. I didn't actively search it. My mom hooked me up and kinda made me do it because if I said no then I never would've heard the end of it. But now I'm really not hearing the end of it from her because she keeps calling me, telling me that I fucked up my future, yelling at me over the phone, saying "how hard she worked" to get me this job, etc.. It's not really helping my mood and I just want to kill her or myself.
I see. Thanks for replying, this gives me a lot more insight into why you did things the way you did.

I would advise against killing your mother, you might get in trouble for that.

I assume you don't need the money right now because you didn't want to take the job, so you should have stood your ground and tell your mother to not force you into things you don't want. After you took the offer you should have at least been there for a while to appease your mother if you wanted her off your back and didn't want to have the "get off my back" talk.

In any case, hopefully you've learned something from this whole deal: don't take jobs you don't want (unless you really need the money, and then try and keep the job until you find something better). Don't let your mother dictate the course of your life (unless you think that's a good idea, I guess).

Anyway, best of luck and sorry I've been a bit harsh in my previous posts.
 

BumRush

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Threatening to kill yourself or your mother over this - even in jest - is incredibly stupid. Calm down, think about next steps, react reasonably.

A solid corporate job is something that 90% of the world would kill to have. You may not know it now (since your last job was fun) but as you continue to grow up, if you plan on having a family, stability and money can be more important than office fun. Also, who knows, you might grow to love your new job (I love mine).

Just trying to add some perspective for you.
 

Ecto311

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I feel like I'm at a point in my life where I can't just be sitting around and bored anymore.

How old can you be with that mentality? I used to be like that I guess but ANY time spent at work is paid (or should be right?) so who cares. Sit there and stare at the floor. What better things do you have to do at home and not be paid? If you left for something better then ok but you just walked out because you were bored? Of a corporate job? I would imagine that pays well. If they just let you sit in your cube and play on your phone that sounds fucking magical to me.
 

Stumpokapow

listen to the mad man
I didn't really want this job. I loved my old one working at a small business and working with video games. I didn't actively search it. My mom hooked me up and kinda made me do it because if I said no then I never would've heard the end of it. But now I'm really not hearing the end of it from her because she keeps calling me, telling me that I fucked up my future, yelling at me over the phone, saying "how hard she worked" to get me this job, etc.. It's not really helping my mood and I just want to kill her or myself.

Grow up.
 

Jezbollah

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I spent five days doing jack shit with no computer, twiddling my thumbs at my desk until the corporate machine got its act together and got me settled in. Like others have said, this is pretty par for the course for a corporate job. I just saw it as getting paid to laze around and read.

Indeed. One of my friends had to wait three days for any kind of PC to be built and the relevant access provided to him.

NOW. For anyone who is reading this thread who might be in the same position going forwards, a little advice.

In the corporate world, do not assume the company has their shit together when it comes to "onboarding". You will most certainly need for the following to happen:

1 - your contract, payment and other HR details will need to be sorted out
2 - your PC will need to be built and hooked up (if it isnt a laptop)
3 - your basic Network login + email account mailbox will need to be created and configured
4 - any applications core to your work will need to be configured for your login, and in some cases software deployed onto your new PC
5 - building security will need to see you so you can get your pass to get in and out of the facility (and maybe other facilities, should you need to).

That is a pretty core list, and there is probably other items that you need to consider (for example, local facilities (canteen, gym etc) and actual training by HR (health and safety, compliance etc).

The gist of this is, the larger the company, the more likely it is to take longer given the onboarding of new employers, there might be more than you starting on that day.

It is entirely normal, and acceptable for your boss and your team to understand that your first few days are most certainly going to be unproductive while you get yourself sorted.

After taking some time to think about OP's astonishing lack of proactiveness (to put it kindly), yes, it is a mistake and certainly something OP will remember and learn from. But it's also evident that the OP didn't go through an intensive interview/candidacy experience for the position. Someone who did wouldn't have just walked out in less than three hours on their first day. As such, I would speculate the OP didn't appreciate the opportunity they really had.

I really hope there are people here who read this thread and now know how NOT to act on their first day of what could be a lengthy and successful career.


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I didn't really want this job. I loved my old one working at a small business and working with video games. I didn't actively search it. My mom hooked me up and kinda made me do it because if I said no then I never would've heard the end of it. But now I'm really not hearing the end of it from her because she keeps calling me, telling me that I fucked up my future, yelling at me over the phone, saying "how hard she worked" to get me this job, etc.. It's not really helping my mood and I just want to kill her or myself.

Yep. There it is.
 

jmood88

Member
I don't understand how anyone could ever think that it's a good idea to talk shit about the organization to the boss, then just leave after a couple hours. It would never occur to me to do something like that.
 

Couleurs

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Oh yeah, you fucked up. You'll find something else though; just don't use this place on your resume and never mention it.

As an accountant, I tend to be bored most of the time since my assignments are heavily backloaded and can't be done until month/quarter/year ends. So I frequently wind up with days where there is very little to do, until the end of the period rolls around and it turns into OH MY GOD FUUUUCK, SO MANY THINGS DUE RIGHT NOW.

Obviously this will vary since not every accounting job is so backloaded, but it's something to keep in mind. Use your time to get to know others, research various areas that impact your job to have a better understanding of what is required, ask around to see if others need help, etc.
 

SaviourMK2

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It's not uncommon to go weeks without doing something. To say you fucked up is an understatement (You never want to burn bridges over 2 1/2 hours).

Don't let it depress you though, just go back out there and try again, you're going to have two options when it comes to explaining about that position:

1) Don't put it down to begin with
or
2) Be honest, admit you acted a bit irrationally and you've learned your lesson and if they hire you, it will never happen at that company.
 

Jenov

Member
That's pretty odd behavior. Perhaps talking to a therapist would help you, especially with these posts of suicide/murder. Also to gauge why you reacted the way you did and how you can adjust for the future. Your life isn't ruined, but you need to step back and analyze how you're going to approach new situations from here on out so you can avoid similar gaffes. Definitely talk to someone about it, OP.
 

DJ88

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I didn't really want this job. I loved my old one working at a small business and working with video games. I didn't actively search it. My mom hooked me up and kinda made me do it because if I said no then I never would've heard the end of it. But now I'm really not hearing the end of it from her because she keeps calling me, telling me that I fucked up my future, yelling at me over the phone, saying "how hard she worked" to get me this job, etc.. It's not really helping my mood and I just want to kill her or myself.

Uh please don't kill anyone. Your future is not fucked up.

But after answering nothing but softball questions, at least you finally come out with the real reason you quit so fast. Just own up to it though. This was all on you for not wanting to be there, they didn't do anything wrong. You were searching for the first excuse, no matter how small, to fly out of there.
 

entremet

Member
OP, this may sound strange, but your mother is really only reacting in love.

She cares for and wants you to succeed. She's more upset of the lost opportunity than her reputation right now.

Don't take her attacks personal. Many people cope with emotions of sadness in anger or lashing out.
 

Sethista

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The interview was only a half-hour. I didn't think I got it anyway since I wasn't getting a good perception of the interviewers, they didn't show me around, and they wanted to get me out as fast as possible. So I was really surprised that I got it. But, damn, I don't think I could've handled that. I feel like I'm at a point in my life where I can't just be sitting around and bored anymore.

I didn't really want this job. I loved my old one working at a small business and working with video games. I didn't actively search it. My mom hooked me up and kinda made me do it because if I said no then I never would've heard the end of it. But now I'm really not hearing the end of it from her because she keeps calling me, telling me that I fucked up my future, yelling at me over the phone, saying "how hard she worked" to get me this job, etc.. It's not really helping my mood and I just want to kill her or myself.

I almost think you are trolling. and if you are, masterful job.

I dont really think you are tho, so statements like the bolded again have me believe you have the biggest feeling of entitlement I have ever seen.

Maturity is learn how to handle your life suring the sucky parts. based on what you are saying, you have negative maturity right now. Again, reassess what you want in life. even if you get a dream job, your most ideal job ever, you will be bored by it sometimes. And do sucky but necessary things. If you cant handle 2 hours of boredness and has no initiative to try and be productive, you are going to have problems with your carrer.

So just relax, take a day or two, go clear your head, and think about what do you want.
 

Drencrom

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The interview was only a half-hour. I didn't think I got it anyway since I wasn't getting a good perception of the interviewers, they didn't show me around, and they wanted to get me out as fast as possible. So I was really surprised that I got it. But, damn, I don't think I could've handled that. I feel like I'm at a point in my life where I can't just be sitting around and bored anymore.

Why are you even wasting your time on GAF if you couldn't even chill in your cubicle until your supervisor comes over to help you get set up for training and work?

I didn't really want this job. I loved my old one working at a small business and working with video games. I didn't actively search it. My mom hooked me up and kinda made me do it because if I said no then I never would've heard the end of it. But now I'm really not hearing the end of it from her because she keeps calling me, telling me that I fucked up my future, yelling at me over the phone, saying "how hard she worked" to get me this job, etc.. It's not really helping my mood and I just want to kill her or myself.

You need to calm down and get some help if you're feeling this way. You haven't fucked up your life, but acting on your suicidal feelings and your animosity towards your mother surely will.
 
Christ, you couldn't just suck it up for one fucking day dude?

I mean there's entitled and then there's this. Yea, you fucked up. It's not the end of the world but please learn from this experience and don't do it again.

Welcome to corporate America...the day doesn't revolve around you. I mean you getting paid regardless and you quit on your first day? The fuck were you thinking? Pride fucking with you?
 

Catdaddy

Member
Damn, that’s harsh of you.. most companies aren’t used to getting new employees, especially in Accounting, so you have to cut them some slack to get you set up. They have their normal job functions and also get you up and running and trained. So they are working around YOU and not trying to shut you out. Sounds like you were expecting them to drop everything they were doing to focus all on you so you are happy. Doesn’t work like that… Yes that is corporate life… that said all companies handle things differently and they may been slow on the ball….


It’s been asked, how old are you??
 
The interview was only a half-hour. I didn't think I got it anyway since I wasn't getting a good perception of the interviewers, they didn't show me around, and they wanted to get me out as fast as possible. So I was really surprised that I got it. But, damn, I don't think I could've handled that. I feel like I'm at a point in my life where I can't just be sitting around and bored anymore.

Most places don't take you around a tour of the facilities until you have a job. Big companies may have sensitive information and giving every applicant a tour is a waste of time.

As others have said most jobs are boring and even when you get a full workload you'll eventually be good enough that you can breeze through most responsibilities. Retail and call centers do not prepare you well for careers as those are industries where they constantly burn out employees by severely under staffing so that employees will constantly be doing something and brow beat you if it looks like you're not being productive. Your first job away from those settings will make you feel guilty that you're not being productive right away.
 

JonCha

Member
You should be giving a new job three months really to see what's it like and to decide if you're a "good fit" or not.
 
I didn't really want this job. I loved my old one working at a small business and working with video games. I didn't actively search it. My mom hooked me up and kinda made me do it because if I said no then I never would've heard the end of it. But now I'm really not hearing the end of it from her because she keeps calling me, telling me that I fucked up my future, yelling at me over the phone, saying "how hard she worked" to get me this job, etc.. It's not really helping my mood and I just want to kill her or myself.
I'm out of this thread. Good luck answering the subpoenas, gaf.
 

Skeyser

Member
You quit the solid corporate job because it didn't involve video games and complain that you had to sit and waste time for 2 hours.

Pure gold.
 
I'm out of this thread. Good luck answering the subpoenas, gaf.
I'm in South America, I can't be subpoena'd. Perhaps Sean Penn will interview me?
You quit the solid corporate job because it didn't involve video games and then complain that you had to sit and waste time for 2 hours.
It all makes sense now. He needed his monitor to play games. 2.5 hours waiting for somebody so I can start downloading steam games is bullshit. This changes everything, I agree with OP now. FUCK THE CORPORATE MACHINE THEY TRY TO TAKE OUR SOUL.
 

Kill3r7

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For better or for worse this is corporate life. By the time you retire you will have wasted years of your life attending pointless meetings, workshops or doing nothing. You are either willing to put up with it or you aren't.
 
I did ladder training. I'm a software engineer. LADDER. TRAINING.

haha I've done a number of dumb training/certifications that mean nothing for my job because I think it's funny

10 minutes out of my day to say "yeah I know how to clean up exploded batteries now"
 
"Hey Pam, where's the new kid? We were all going to take him out for lunch on his first day."

"Darnedest thing, Steve..."


And then OP forever became office legend.

Yep, we've got one of those. Part-Timer came in dressed like she was going to a Phish concert. Went to lunch, never returned again.

Didn't hear from her until a month later when she called up asking where her check was for the 4 hours she worked.
 
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