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I'm 30 and have never moved out

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cereal_killerxx

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It's not that I don't want to. My job doesn't quite make enough money. I've ran the numbers several times. Technically I make enough to get a cheap apartment, but my budget would be extremely tight. Plus, for my first place I would feel more comfortable moving out with someone else. I've tried several times to find a roommate (preferably someone I know) but to no avail. I guess there's no reason to rush these things. It'll happen when it happens.

Anyone else in their late 20's or early 30's that has never moved out?
 
26 and I'm breaking down inside. I'm never at the house, but I live at my parents. I'm planning on moving in a few months though so I can't fucking wait.
 
I didn't move out until I was 28. Worked a shitty restaurant job for wayyy too long. Went to school and landed a job out of town.
 
I'm 20, and I still feel like a loser for not moving out. But it's not because I love this free ride, it's because neither I nor my mom could afford it if I moved out.
 
Nothing like nearing 30 and the idea of owning a home still a pipedream due to CA housing prices.
I'll rent my grave too I guess.
 
Spanx McFranks said:
Even if your budget is tight, move out. There is nothing better than living alone.
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That depends on what one wants, right? Maybe people want peace and a semblance of comfort with family they know that will be dead as fuck in time.

Kas said:
I'm 20, and I still feel like a loser for not moving out. But it's not because I love this free ride, it's because neither I nor my mom could afford it if I moved out.
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Don't let the American culture bullshit you into feeling like that. Feeling like that is like saying "I feel like a failure for not getting my life figured out the millisecond I turned 18."

You let social myths and models rule your wellbeing, when your present state is just whatever it is. Accept whatever it is, first. There's no "less than" way at work, here.
 
I moved out a bit for college, decided I'd rather be home and save money/waste a bit of time driving and parking.

I'm now a home owner myself...a three minute walk from where I grew up. It sometimes feels like I never moved out. My folks need the help and I love where I am so I don't mind. Hell I've considered renting this place out and moving back in if the price was right.
 
Moving in with strangers is sometimes the best way to make new friends.

Do you pay your parents rent?
 
I'd live with my parents if I could. I'd be able to save up and buy a house instead of paying a ton of money every month for this apartment.
 
Spanx McFranks said:
Even if your budget is tight, move out. There is nothing better than living alone.
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Nah.

Better to live at home and save up to buy rather than leave and spend money renting. If his parents are cool with him being at home, I don't see what the problem is.

The idea of having to move out to gain independence seems like an outdated and unreasonable one considering the realities of the job and housing market in most major urban areas.
 
I'm past 30 and haven't moved out yet, though I have a place and am getting ready to move in.

There's nothing wrong with staying home until you're ready. Yes, there are drawbacks, but there are also pros such as having a MUCH easier time saving up because you don't have to pay for rent or mortgage.

Don't move out just for the sake of moving out unless you're ready to do so. I think the pressure to move out is a mostly cultural thing rather than a practical thing. A lot of Asian cultures don't have their kids moving out until they're married, and living with your parents while you're in your twenties is not frowned upon.
 
I didn't move out until 24, and was subsidized by my parents for doing so up until a few months ago (now just halfway through 26 years old) since i was a poor grad student making no money, with the idea being that what difference does it make if my parents pay for my food at their house, or pay for my food at my own house? Though obviously it was very generous of them to buy into that idea.

If you've got a good relationship with your folks and living at home isn't impeding your social life that much, there's no real reason to move out other than personal preference.
 
I was in my mid 20s when I finally did it. I was thinking it was impossible and that my budget would be really tight but once you dive out and adjust you should be fine.

Maybe consider working a second job? I would only say that if you really want to get out of the house.
 
Yeah, move out even if it tight. That will make you find a better job or something. Trust me... Living alone is a whole another thing. So much freedom.
 
I know many people who lived with their parents well into their 30s, despite having the financial means to move out earlier. Generally, they only moved out if and when they got married/engaged. It's actually pretty common outside of North America (and it's becoming increasingly common in NA, too). It makes financial sense and can reinforce family bonds.

Definitely do it, but don't let yourself stagnate because of it.
 
I moved out when I went to university. Then after finishing university I managed to get a job and lived with students for another 2 years. I got my own place last year but it is more expensive.
 
Miles Quaritch said:
Nah.

Better to live at home and save up to buy rather than leave and spend money renting. If his parents are cool with him being at home, I don't see what the problem is.

The idea of having to move out to gain independence seems like an outdated and unreasonable one considering the realities of the job and housing market in most major urban areas.
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Agreed, especially here in NYC. Having your own place and being broke for the sake of saying you have your own spot it's suicide out here.
 
cereal_killerxx said:
It's not that I don't want to. My job doesn't quite make enough money. I've ran the numbers several times. Technically I make enough to get a cheap apartment, but my budget would be extremely tight. Plus, for my first place I would feel more comfortable moving out with someone else. I've tried several times to find a roommate (preferably someone I know) but to no avail. I guess there's no reason to rush these things. It'll happen when it happens.

Anyone else in their late 20's or early 30's that has never moved out?
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I moved out at 31. I live in an efficiency apartment and still cannot make ends meet. My parents give me financial support so I'll survive.

Do it, OP. It changed my life... for the better

Just don't reach into your savings for furnishings. It's addicting

I need a 2nd job so I won't rely on my parents financial support.
 
I feel horrible for being 22 and not move out when all my friends did so already. I hope it gets better once I have a Job.
 
Living on your own is a nice thing, but can also be slightly overrated. Depending on your situation, staying at home might be the better option. I think this idea that everyone has to move out of their parents' house by a certain age or whatever is a pretty outdated concept. Not everyone fits the mold that society seems to expect everyone to fall into. Do what feels right for you. If anything, I think most people probably shouldn't rush into living on their own until they're more than comfortable and financially secure enough to do so.
 
I'm 23 and just moved out last week. So worth it. Honestly I'd rather my budget be a little tight and live on my own then stay with my parents for so long.
 
If you're not paying rent, and your parents don't mind, and you're struggling to afford moving out, stay at home instead of wasting the money. Save up that money and take advantage of the situation.
 
I rather have money and live at home than barely scraping by with my own place. I guess it all depends what you value most.
 
If I were a parent, I am not sure how I would feel if my kid/s still lived at home into their late 20s/30s.
 
I'm 25 going on 26 this May, still at home. Never lived alone before. Frankly a lot worse things in the world than living with my family. These are some of the few people in the world I really care about, I'm also trying taking advantage of being able to live at home to try and get my shit together. I'm done beating myself over it, all that does is make me feel like shit, it's not conducive. I've been struggling with clinical depression, and mental illness my whole adult life. I can't be happier to have the family support I have, because without them I'd be either dead or on the street. I feel shame often sure, who doesn't want to be independent? But I challenge those emotions because shame doesn't help motivate me, just leads to spirals.
 
Rainbowgun said:
I feel horrible for being 22 and not move out when all my friends did so already. I hope it gets better once I have a Job.
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It probably won't. Nothing found in the future is a panacea for the feelings of sorrow you make yourself have.

Question why you must compare yourself to others and what makes the threshold of what you "lack" as genuine as you think to make you feel horrible over it.
 
Chairman Yang said:
I know many people who lived with their parents well into their 30s, despite having the financial means to move out earlier. Generally, they only moved out if and when they got married/engaged. It's actually pretty common outside of North America (and it's becoming increasingly common in NA, too). It makes financial sense and can reinforce family bonds.
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That's pretty much the way I look at it.

If I get married and actually need the space I'd have no problem moving out.

For now I help parents with bills, and in the most likely scenario probably remain at home and transition to a caretaker role as they age.

I did at least live with my uncle during college, so I got my fill of some independence.
 
xxracerxx said:
If I were a parent, I am not sure how I would feel if my kid/s still lived at home into their late 20s/30s.
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I don't think this is something that you can apply a 'vanilla' rule to. I have a really close relationship with my parents—it helps they're closer to my age than most of my generation, so we just get on like good friends anyway.
 
find roommates. it's going to come with its own set of problems but it's better than living at home. when I moved out I had 3 roommates. it was great at first but eventually became a shitshow and exploded. luckily I had a new job and could afford a tiny apartment of my own.
 
xxracerxx said:
If I were a parent, I am not sure how I would feel if my kid/s still lived at home into their late 20s/30s.
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Different strokes. I have a friend whose parents couldn't wait to get rid of him, whereas my parents would have me live with them forever if they had their way.
 
Yeah...chose to go to boarding school from 13 on...only came back for summers and christmas while i was 13-end of college. 28 now married with a kid...moving out is the best decision ever. Still get along with my parents and see them alot but could never live with them.
 
I couldn't wait to get out of the house. When I went away for college, I was still 17 (turned 18 in November). I was basically done at that point. I spent the first two summers living at home and a lived at home for a short time after I graduated but that was it. I realize some people are fine with it because their parents are their friends but my parents are super religious and used to be very judgmental so I couldn't handle being around them for more than a few hours at a time.
 
cereal_killerxx said:
It's not that I don't want to. My job doesn't quite make enough money. I've ran the numbers several times. Technically I make enough to get a cheap apartment, but my budget would be extremely tight. Plus, for my first place I would feel more comfortable moving out with someone else. I've tried several times to find a roommate (preferably someone I know) but to no avail. I guess there's no reason to rush these things. It'll happen when it happens.

Anyone else in their late 20's or early 30's that has never moved out?
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Craigslist roommates are usually fine, in my experience. You might not be best friends with them but usually you can coexist
 
Still living with your parents at 30...? Dude, move out. In my opinion, unless you're going to school or helping your disabled parents or something, there's no reason to be still living at home at 30. Doesn't that have serious ramifications on your social/dating life? How do you bring a girl/guy home?
 
mcrommert said:
Yeah...chose to go to boarding school from 13 on...only came back for summers and christmas while i was 13-end of college. 28 now married with a kid...moving out is the best decision ever. Still get along with my parents and see them alot but could never live with them.
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It really is!

But I do have a fear of losing my job and moving back home. That would suck so much!
 
Miles Quaritch said:
Nah.

Better to live at home and save up to buy rather than leave and spend money renting. If his parents are cool with him being at home, I don't see what the problem is.

The idea of having to move out to gain independence seems like an outdated and unreasonable one considering the realities of the job and housing market in most major urban areas.
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Yes indeed. I also hate the idea of dumping money into an apartment rather than a house. It's just wasted money.

And I actually get along with my parents quite a bit. It's been a good opportunity to bond with my Dad, seeing as he and I never got along when I was kid/teenager. I guess it's just that idea that was planted in my brain that if you don't move out by age XX you are a loser/not a man. Would also be nice to learn some more responsibility.
 
A lot of latinos usually live in the same place as their other family members until they get married but it still feels really shitty being "roommates" with my mom and siblings, no privacy whatsoever.

If i moved out i would only have enough for rent and nothing for food or gas.
 
Where do you live? In the midwest at least, you can get houses for way cheaper than renting. I used to think moving out would be too expensive, but that was because I was looking just at renting apartments.
 
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