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I'm 30 and have never moved out

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Hale-XF11 said:
Different strokes. I have a friend whose parents couldn't wait to get rid of him, whereas my parents would have me live with them forever if they had their way.
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My mom would have loved for me to stay at home, I personally just feel like if I had I would be a completely different person than I am today and probably for the worse.

edit: I don't know, I guess I just think that being out of your parent's house in your 20s is a good way to get a feel for how the world works. I totally understand if people are having a hard time with work/money/culture and all that. I am just speaking personally.
 
Nothing wrong with living at home in your mid to late 20s if your parents are ok with it and your helping out. By helping out I mean paying them money or buying food and doing work around the house. If your not helping out or if your parents want you gone then your a creepy ass fuck boi.
 
I moved out at 18 and then again at 22 after college. I kind of wish had the option to live with my parents for the cost savings but at the same time know I would loathe even being at home after a few weeks. I mean, at this point I cap my vacations to visit family to about two weeks out of the year because sometimes dealing with family can be infuriating.
 
Spanx McFranks said:
Even if your budget is tight, move out. There is nothing better than living alone.
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Idk. It depends on your situation. I live in the Bay Area where housing costs are so expensive that wages for many jobs have yet to catch up, so I have friends living with their family in their late 20s to save up. If your living situation is supportive and healthy with your family, and they don't mind having you there, I don't really see a problem with it. Then again, I personally don't live at home with my boyfriend and o love it.
 
I didn't move out until I was 25, didn't really mind it. Not having to pay rent or utilities allowed me to pay off my new car and some college loans super fast. So there are obvious perks to staying with your parents. That being said, being fully independent is awesome.
 
Its tough but you have to look out for your own best interests. Take this time to try to improve your skills and find a better paying job. It all really depends on your living situation at home with your parents. It is super tough out there and there is no reason to give yourself an undue hardship with financial stress if you can get by without it.

I would say stay with your parents, move out when you are financially safe to do so. Even after getting a better paying job, I would stay there (if your parents support it) for 6 months or maybe even a year to build up a little nest egg just in case you need it later.

I moved out when I was 25 or 26... Looking back I kind of wish I stayed for a little bit longer to get a bigger downpayment on the house. Would have saved me a ton of money in the long run. Living on your own is expensive as fuck.
 
Been financially independent and living alone for about 3 years. I'm 24 ish. Wouldn't have it any other way. I can't imagine living with my folks full time. Even staying for the holidays kinda blows.
 
Miles Quaritch said:
Better to live at home and save up to buy rather than leave and spend money renting. If his parents are cool with him being at home, I don't see what the problem is.
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It was hindering my dating life. I couldn't invite 30 year olds back to my mom's place.

I did invite ladies to my mom's house, but I felt weird about it.
 
cereal_killerxx said:
Yes indeed. I also hate the idea of dumping money into an apartment rather than a house. It's just wasted money.

And I actually get along with my parents quite a bit. It's been a good opportunity to bond with my Dad, seeing as he and I never got along when I was kid/teenager. I guess it's just that idea that was planted in my brain that if you don't move out by age XX you are a loser/not a man. Would also be nice to learn some more responsibility.
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I lived with my parents until my late 20s, I am close with them and had no issues living with them. Once I moved out my life got better in every way. Money was tight for a bit, but I matured, became more responsible, more proud of myself and had greater self-confidence. It was hard for sure, but it one of the best decisions of my life.
 
Not having to pay bills/rent for a few years after graduating makes it super easy to buy a home after. Though most people staying at home do it for the wrong reasons.
 
23, gonna be here at least until I'm 24. Missing credits so I won't graduate until this year.

There's not a day where I don't hate myself for it.
 
It largely depends which state your from, moving out on your own in my state NYC is borderline impossible unless you making 2000 dollars and up monthly. However, other states should be more affordable and more easier to move out.

Another thing to take into consideration is being close to your home state in case a family emergency pops up and you're like on the other side of the map. Granted being close to family if possible is always ideal.
 
I am comfortable with living with my parents.

It's a nice location and nice neighborhood.

I live in a big room by myself with a nice view of the rising sun and a cool breeze through my windows.

Usually nice and quiet.

Recently upgraded internet at cheap prices.

There's food prepared.

Housing is expensive.

Other family comes by often.

I got some money in my pocket.
 
cereal_killerxx said:
It's not that I don't want to. My job doesn't quite make enough money. I've ran the numbers several times. Technically I make enough to get a cheap apartment, but my budget would be extremely tight. Plus, for my first place I would feel more comfortable moving out with someone else. I've tried several times to find a roommate (preferably someone I know) but to no avail. I guess there's no reason to rush these things. It'll happen when it happens.

Anyone else in their late 20's or early 30's that has never moved out?
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Have you spoken to your parents about this?
 
I mean. If you can take advantage of it and what I mean is actually saving money. Like a lot of money. If I had stayed till 30 I could have a ton of money. If you are just getting by while living at home I suspect you are terrible with finances. I would also contribute to your family financially in some way while you are working.
 
Afro Samurai said:
I am comfortable with living with my parents.

It's a nice location and nice neighborhood.

Usually nice and quiet.

Recently upgraded internet at cheap prices.

There's food prepared.

Housing is expensive.

Other family comes by often.

I got some money in my pocket.
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This can be dangerous if you stay comfortable too long. How will you ever grow as a person if you don't leave your comfort zone?
 
I moved out of my parent's house in my mid 20s, but did the Army thing living in the barracks so I never really was living on my own until I got out in my early 30s. Can't speak for others, but having to live on my own without my parent's safety net gave me a sense of urgency to graduate from university, get a job and start a career asap. Before when I was living with my parents I was sorta just hanging around waiting for the perfect job to appear.. looking back this wasted years of my life.
 
I'm 29 and if things go right I'll be moving out in a few months, but I'll already be 30. But I'll do it as a homeowner with a very very very small mortgage.

Also, my father has PD so I didn't want to rush things until his care and my mothers well being were assured.
 
I'm in the neat situation where first my dad moved out (divorce) and then my mum. Now me and my sister live in my dads house. I have the upper floor, she has the lower.

I'm nowhere near ready to move out (22, student) and feel really lucky with my situation.
 
Spanx McFranks said:
I lived with my parents until my late 20s, I am close with them and had no issues living with them. Once I moved out my life got better in every way. Money was tight for a bit, but I matured, became more responsible, more proud of myself and had greater self-confidence. It was hard for sure, but it one of the best decisions of my life.
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Thanks man! I think I'm gonna try again for an apartment or something. :)
 
How much money did you all save before moving up? How much more did you wish you save? How costly was the move to your new location and monthly cost after that?
 
Almost 26. I have a lot saved up and it would be possible to live by myself, but it would probably be a shithole apartment and my savings would start to go backward. I either need a new job or get a place with my brother/friends.
 
Miles Quaritch said:
Nah.

Better to live at home and save up to buy rather than leave and spend money renting. If his parents are cool with him being at home, I don't see what the problem is.

The idea of having to move out to gain independence seems like an outdated and unreasonable one considering the realities of the job and housing market in most major urban areas.
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This. And I say that as someone who moved out at 17 and never looked back.
 
I don't think moving out at 30 years old can be considered "rushing into things". I moved out when I was 21 and that still felt really late in my life to me. I guess it's just a matter of how dependent you are on your parents versus how much you strive for independence. I needed my independence, and yeah, it's hard making it on your own, but you're really not even an adult in the eyes of the rest of the world unless you are earning your whole keep. Might be time to grow up, but it's up to you.
 
Ultima_5 said:
Been financially independent and living alone for about 3 years. I'm 24 ish. Wouldn't have it any other way. I can't imagine living with my folks full time. Even staying for the holidays kinda blows.
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There's like a 3-4 day window of good times before everyone gets sick of everyone else.

I timed my trips home around that. I knew when it was time to get the fuck out.
 
I was 30 when I moved out. I only moved out because a job nearly 3 hours from home offered nearly double my salary for fewer hours, and higher benefits.

Don't be ashamed to stay at home after 30, somewhere like the UK it's becoming more and more normal as house prices and rents race away from incomes.
 
I have a great relationship with my parents. But at 19 it was time to go, and it was a great decision. It's hard to describe what living on your own is like until you're doing it, but it's great. And I've never been closer with my parents.
 
I don't know how it is in your country, but around here you're pretty much considered a loser if you still live with your parents past 25 so I'm really glad I moved out at 20.
 
I moved out at the ripe old age of 28. No shame in moving out late, it's hard to afford it. Without two wage-earners it's almost more trouble than it's worth.

I'm having a really, really bad month of it myself and just paying the rent is looking like a nightmare at the moment.

I'd really recommend it if you can find a 2-bedroom place and share with a good friend or partner though.
 
i moved away for college at 17 and never looked back

i could have bought a house for 13 years of NYC rent but it was worth every penny
 
Kas said:
I'm 20, and I still feel like a loser for not moving out. But it's not because I love this free ride, it's because neither I nor my mom could afford it if I moved out.
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Dont say that, 20 is young and if your family supports you and you are content/comfortable thats a very good thing. I mean there is nothing wrong with that. Dont feel bad.

Now i wish i could have moved on years ago but it will take a bit more time, teraphy, medicines and counseling, but the problems with my parents and myself have to be resolved before i can move on :/
At least i can say we have been progressing this last year :)
 
MrChom said:
I was 30 when I moved out. I only moved out because a job nearly 3 hours from home offered nearly double my salary for fewer hours, and higher benefits.

Don't be ashamed to stay at home after 30, somewhere like the UK it's becoming more and more normal as house prices and rents race away from incomes.
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I think it is becoming more and more common in the US too. Jobs can be extremely tough to come by, and a lot of companies don't want to pay their employees what they are worth.
 
I'd gladly live at home if the commute was reasonable. Would have saved an obscene amount over the years instead of blowing it on the ridiculous Silicon Valley rents.
 
My father is getting old, 73, and needs assistance so I moved back to my home town last year to help him. I work and do all the cleaning (he has five cats), cooking, and errands, I also plan to go back to school next year. He lost half a leg due to diabetes/gangrene, is half blind, had two brain aneurysms, and has titanium knees... so he can't do too much on his own. He's had a rough life but he's very positive and I don't want him in a home, my great-grand mother died in one from mistreatment. I plan to get a house I can renovate so he has his own area for ease of access and independence.
 
Definitely take advantage and save. Don't be like the yahoos in my town home complex who are in their twenties and living with mom, but are driving a new Lexus.
 
We should probably also consider the parents in this situation. I'd consider having kids to be a 20 year room and board commitment. Anything more and you may be overstaying your welcome.
 
I live in the same house as my grand-grand parents. :S

(Well, terrain, as several buildings have been razed for new ones.)
 
I moved out at 26. Nothing wrong with living at home until you're secure enough.

I know far too many people who left before they were ready and failed badly. The important thing is to remember you will never be as financially secure as you want to, so you'll always be a little hesitant. At some point you just have to take the leap.
 
I had to move back in with my parents for a couple of years after college and the financial crisis. I had just turned 28 when I left for good and moved in with my wife.

Living with your parents shouldn't have the stigma that it does. Yes, there are plenty of ways in which it can restrictive, but it's often the most sensible choice financially. Most cultures around the world have more closely-knit families than the U.S., often with three or more generations under one roof, and the recession has reminded people of the value—economic and social—of having that mutual support.

Move out when it makes sense for all parties. Just don't avoid it because you're fearful.
 
I moved out when I was 25, am 28 now and I really wish I could have stayed and just put money away. I was actually considering the possibility of moving back with the fam, but I just landed a nicer paying job so I think I'm ok... for now.

That said, I do live with a roommate and wouldn't have it any other way. Not because I don't like the idea of having a whole place to myself, but because it's just not affordable even with me making twice what I was making before. Living is fucking expensive in most parts of the world, so I pass zero judgement on people who still live at home.

Unless of course they're just straight up free loading/not working/borrowing money from mom to go out bar crawling every night -- fuck those people.
 
Vault Dweller 111 said:
We should probably also consider the parents in this situation. I'd consider having kids to be a 20 year room and board commitment. Anything more and you may be overstaying your welcome.
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I completely agree. My three year old daughter is my world but there's no way in hell I'd let her live in my home at the age of 30. Partially for me, but mostly for her. You have to foster growth in your children, and letting them live off of you into their 30's is not doing them any favors.
 
Living in seattle is a damn blessing for me that im still living with my parents. the cost of living here is no joke.
 
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