Anyone recieve a gift they loathe from a SO

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Yesterday was my birthday. My girlfriend got me a cashmere scarf and gloves from Roots Canada....The scarf isnt my style and I have no use for Gloves (mittens specifically). Im feeling a type of way, I spent close to 500 getting her Boots and perfume.

She could tell I wasn't happy and asked me if I liked the gift. I told her I didnt and that I was having a pretty good birthday until she got me that gift.

She looked hurt, but tbh the gift was pretty shitty, it doesn't seem like she even put much thought into it.

Iunno she has some family issues that prevent her from having as much disposable income as I do but at the very least. And until now it didnt really bother me but honestly its preventing us from really doing anything worthwhile. It just sucks because I've never imagined having someone who loves me so unconditionally. Other than her money situation shes the perfect girlfriend.

Did I overreact? Its my birthday and I was just being honest.
 

Makki

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Ruined your day with a bad gift huh... unless she truly got you last minute stuff you dont seem to be the kind type. Even if... borderline a-hole attitude
 

xxracerxx

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Jesus, stop being so fucking petty. Sounds like your girlfriend deserves better than you.

Also, how can you say she didn't put effort into the gift?
 
She could tell I wasn't happy and asked me if I liked the gift. I told her I didnt and that I was having a pretty good birthday until she got me that gift.

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What is wrong with you?
 

Shadybiz

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Yes, you overreacted. It's a gift. You say "Thank You honey" and move on. And you know that she has a financial burden, so I'm not sure why you felt it necessary to mention the amount that you spent on her. This is not what giving a gift to a loved one is about.
 

TheOfficeMut

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LMAO paraphrased but more accurately put:

"My girlfriend is poor and her birthday gift made me sad. If she wasn't poor she'd be the perfect girlfriend but as it stands she is the perfect girlfriend with a huge asterisk next to her name that says she's poor."

If you're the same person that complained about a coworker who didn't like that you played only rap in the office without consideration for his opinion, then this OP doesn't surprise me one bit.

You're a crappy dude, my dude.
 

Alexlf

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Yeesh OP. Yeesh. I don't even know what to say to this. Just because it's your birthday doesn't absolve you of the consequences of your action. Saying you didn't like the gift is fine if you do it in a constructive and/or humorous way, but the rest of that.... wow.
 

WolfeTone

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You handled the situation very poorly.

You're aware of your girlfriend's limited financial means yet you still reacted negatively to her gift. That's incredibly rude. When someone gets you a gift, you say thank you.

If it bothers you that you spent $500 on a gift and that her gift was of lesser value when you know she can't afford that, you have only yourself to blame.
 

Fireblend

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Yes, yes you did. I wouldn't say that to any acquaintance who gave me a gift I had no use for, much less someone I value at all. Holy shit dude.

The fact you had to compare it to something you gave her is pretty disgusting too tbh.
 
She could tell I wasn't happy and asked me if I liked the gift. I told her I didnt and that I was having a pretty good birthday until she got me that gift.

Lmao. That was a punch below the belt dude. It's fine to tell someone you don't like the gifts but goddamn. An ex got me a really ugly shirt once and I told her I was going to return it for a different size. Got another color instead and she was fine with it. I would have suggested doing something similar but considering what you said. Whew.
 

studyguy

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My girlfriend gets me random things, some nice some are okay. I never tell her what I like because I have a hard time thinking of shit I actually need that don't break the bank. If I get a bad gift, it's mostly my own fault but it's the thought that counts so w/e.

Also OP's situation is hilarious. Poor girl.
 
What the fuck? Gonna put somebody down like that because they don't have as much disposable income and because it's your "birthday"

Gross
 
Man it is really hard to come up with a charitable response to this post.

It's baffling, honestly. You know she has disposable income issues, she's the perfect girlfriend, and you are blowing it over...what?

Edit: like I can't even tell if you're just having a laugh, here
 

kmfdmpig

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Yuck, what an absolutely shitty attitude and approach to gifts.

I hope she finds someone better to be with that doesn't hold her lack of disposable income against her.
 

Mesoian

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Yesterday was my birthday. My girlfriend got me a cashmere scarf and gloves from Roots Canada....The scarf isnt my style and I have no use for Gloves (mittens specifically). Im feeling a type of way, I spent close to 500 getting her Boots and perfume.

She could tell I wasn't happy and asked me if I liked the gift. I told her I didnt and that I was having a pretty good birthday until she got me that gift.

She looked hurt, but tbh the gift was pretty shitty, it doesn't seem like she even put much thought into it.

Iunno she has some family issues that prevent her from having as much disposable income as I do but at the very least. And until now it didnt really bother me but honestly its preventing us from really doing anything worthwhile. It just sucks because I've never imagined having someone who loves me so unconditionally. Other than her money situation shes the perfect girlfriend.

Did I overreact? Its my birthday and I was just being honest.

GEEZE JOEL!!!

There was certainly a better way of handling that.

Your relationship is likely going to be strained for a minute.
 
Yesterday was my birthday. My girlfriend got me a cashmere scarf and gloves from Roots Canada....The scarf isnt my style and I have no use for Gloves (mittens specifically). Im feeling a type of way, I spent close to 500 getting her Boots and perfume.

She could tell I wasn't happy and asked me if I liked the gift. I told her I didnt and that I was having a pretty good birthday until she got me that gift.

She looked hurt, but tbh the gift was pretty shitty, it doesn't seem like she even put much thought into it.

Iunno she has some family issues that prevent her from having as much disposable income as I do but at the very least. And until now it didnt really bother me but honestly its preventing us from really doing anything worthwhile. It just sucks because I've never imagined having someone who loves me so unconditionally. Other than her money situation shes the perfect girlfriend.

Did I overreact? Its my birthday and I was just being honest.

It is ok not to like a gift and be honest about it, but you are being a drama queen with the bolded
 
Samuel said:
I told her I didnt and that I was having a pretty good birthday until she got me that gift.
Savage

I don't think I could ever bring myself to do that to anyone who spent their time buying me a gift, regardless of my perceived quality of the gift.

I'd be apologizing asap for that because I would never be with someone who said something like that.
 

smokeymicpot

Beat EviLore at pool.
Girlfriend bought me a Blair Walsh jersey last year. She thought it I was a huge fan of his. I am not and he is a kicker. Stupid fantasy team name got me in trouble. Only good thing I used it for was a bet in fantasy this year. Just accept the gift and be happy even though it might not be something you want. They take a lot of thought in those things.
 
Not liking a gift is one thing. If it's not your thing, that's fine.

But just move on. Gifts aren't there for you to enjoy, they're for you to gracefully receive and make the giver feel good.

And they're certainly not meant to be measured against whatever you give the other person.
 
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