Tinfoilhatsron
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Is refusing to date people of certain races racist?
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Have you attempted to engage with those people and explained at some point that you're unable to drive?
I don't live in a city where having a car is a necessity but I could understand wanting a potential partner to be able to get themselves around if I lived in an area/city where it was more required.
I'm not defending it, I just wonder if that stems from ableism, living in a wide-spread town/city, or even something super vain like thinking owning a car is a symbol of status.
But while race governs a lot of our appearance, 'race' is also a construct of our society and 'latino' people can look like fucking anything, almost. If I had a dollar for every time I was mistaken for Indian, Chinese, Japanese, arab, Filipino, the list goes on...I'd be fucking rich.
Being a certain race does not mean you are going to look a certain way 100% of the time. That's why saying "I would never date a black girl because she's black" is dumb as fuck, because black women are an insanely huge spectrum of appearances in almost every aspect.
Coconut water is the worst.Where are you sexy picture poster?
This threads a garbage fire at this point. It blows my mind that this question warranted 20 pages of "discussion". Sorry Black Girl Gaf we don't deserve you.
Gotdatmoney
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We were cool but this shit? I dunno man
Like what?
Earthbound64
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Yup - in general the type of people who put something like that in their profile (sorry for generalizing - just my experiences) don't particularly care what your reasons are.
As far as why people put it, I have a feeling it's more of a "I want someone who's not a lazy useless bum" than any sort of logistical reason.
Because, you know, having a beat-up junker car really tells the world that someone isn't a lazy useless bum.
And they're not interested in any other examples of you not being a lazy, useless bum - the fact that you don't have a car means you are, no discussion.
But again, in general, the people who put that kind of thing I find aren't really worth my time anyway (again, sorry for generalizing, but just what I've encountered)
You know it bby
mckmas8808
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Honest question for the thread. Why does it matter if certain people don't want to date someone that's the same gender, or certain hair color, or certain height, etc?
Shouldn't the thing that actually matters is if they respect those people and treat them with kindness? Like is it really a bad thing that their preference is narrower than yours?
Because it is a prejudice based SPECIFICALLY ON RACE.
If you're going to claim it's all about the physical attributes, then the attributes. Don't make a dumb blanket statement about a race of billion people that don't even all share those physical attributes.
WaffleTaco
Wants to outlaw technological innovation.
More like...how are they going to pick up the children or drive the children places when I cannot? Unless you live in a big city, then it's just not feasible for me to date someone who does not drive a car.
How do people drink that stuff? It just tastes like bitter water.
Earthbound64
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You mean *won't date anyone [...]
And, why?
Because that's what this thread is about.
I know what you're trying to do here. Facial and bodily features differ between races. That's just common sense.
QuantumZebra
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Earthbound64
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Also, glad someone else started with the picture posting, because I had found this picture last night and wanted to post it.
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And are also shared through different races, so why use race to define aesthetic characteristics?
You know, not all Asians look like Yellow Peril or WW2 propaganda.
That was the question idk. I just think it's different for a person to say they aren't attracted to a certain race and hating an entire race.
I have never found a red-headed woman attractive. I don't think less of people with red hair. That's the real me.
So you are prejudiced against red hair or haven't looked hard enough/seen enough women
Deadly Cyclone
Pride of Iowa State
Anyone that says this is full of shit, anyways. Whatever their reason, there will always be at least one person of that race that doesn't fit into the reason.
Wowfunhappy
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How is it fundamentally different from saying "I'm not attracted to people shorter/taller than me?" Everyone has their own standards of beauty/attractiveness.
Gotdatmoney
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What bodily differences exiat between races. Even though facial differences are very limited bodily is literally a new one.
coconut water is not good but sometimes u gotta bite the bullet and switch to coconut water for a girl
Maybe you're right. Just hasn't happened yet. Always open to looking.
Vincent Grayson
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But "I'm not attracted to people shorter/taller than me" is fucking stupid too. If your attraction to people isn't based on each individual you meet, I don't know what the fuck you're up to, because I just can't fathom how it can be any other way.
Sure, you might notice a pattern like "I tend to be attracted to skinny people" or shit like that, but when you state it in a prescriptive manner, you come off like an asshole.
entremet
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I think the pictures of attractive women of color misses the point here. As a dude who has dated women from the entire rainbow sometimes the issue is cultural--parents don't approve and it's internalized. Heck, it happens with religions as well. Even some more secular Jews, who don't practice their religion conventionally, show a preference for in-group dating.
So yes refusing based on race is racists. However, looking at it from a physical attractive perspective is only small part of the issue.
So yes refusing based on race is racists. However, looking at it from a physical attractive perspective is only small part of the issue.
Fudgepuppy
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I meant it in the sense that preferences are common, but also a slippery slope since they can be very much based on institutionalized racism.
I'm not really calling anyone out on having preferences.
I suppose I dug my own hole here. But im attracted to Asian people. I have heard someone say "I don't find Asians attractive" and while I thought they were fucking crazy, I didn't think they were filled with hate either.
Fbh
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Yeah.
I mean, sure everyone has a type and preferences and stuff like that. But refusing to date a person because of their race just seems wrong.
So you meet this nice, good looking girl/guy that has a lot in common with you and that you enjoy hanging out with but will refuse to date them because they are black/white/asian/etc ?
I mean, sure everyone has a type and preferences and stuff like that. But refusing to date a person because of their race just seems wrong.
So you meet this nice, good looking girl/guy that has a lot in common with you and that you enjoy hanging out with but will refuse to date them because they are black/white/asian/etc ?
Soldiussnaku
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Yep
Earthbound64
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But they were most likely racist
The problem is that far too many people nowadays are equating preference with sexual identity, when they AREN'T the same fucking thing. You might prefer blondes, or red-heads, or whatever, but you can't say that you "don't find X color hair attractive." Like...that's just complete bullshit. There are unequivocally people with that color hair that you'd find attractive, because attraction is more than hair-color, or skin-color, and no matter how much you try to tell yourself that is the case, it's not.
People nowadays keep trying to tell themselves they are in control of their id. They aren't.
People nowadays keep trying to tell themselves they are in control of their id. They aren't.
QuantumZebra
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Yes it is.
Hes also generalizing an entire race of people based off of his narrow viewpoint.
I used to be afraid to date white women. Not because I didnt find them attractive, but I was afraid if what my family would think if I dated a mom-black person.
I ended up marrying a white woman, and weve been together for nearly 14 years now.
I love everyone. Doesnt matter your skin color, background, or religious/lack of religious beliefs (Im Christian, my wife is atheist). If youre a human being that I click with, thats all that matters. I cant even imagine singling out a particular race as not my cup of tea, for nebulous reasons. I also think the reality of beauty standards being so heavily Eurocentric plays a large role into people, even subconsciously, shying away from dating a woman of color.
Black women are gorgeous, from the darkest shade to the brightest. Women are beautiful. It took me a while to recognize bias in beauty standards, but Im glad I did young. Man, Id have missed out on some amazing relationships if I had dismissed those women because of race.
Hes also generalizing an entire race of people based off of his narrow viewpoint.
I used to be afraid to date white women. Not because I didnt find them attractive, but I was afraid if what my family would think if I dated a mom-black person.
I ended up marrying a white woman, and weve been together for nearly 14 years now.
I love everyone. Doesnt matter your skin color, background, or religious/lack of religious beliefs (Im Christian, my wife is atheist). If youre a human being that I click with, thats all that matters. I cant even imagine singling out a particular race as not my cup of tea, for nebulous reasons. I also think the reality of beauty standards being so heavily Eurocentric plays a large role into people, even subconsciously, shying away from dating a woman of color.
Black women are gorgeous, from the darkest shade to the brightest. Women are beautiful. It took me a while to recognize bias in beauty standards, but Im glad I did young. Man, Id have missed out on some amazing relationships if I had dismissed those women because of race.
manfestival
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is it ok to refuse to date someone that has terminal illness or lifelong illness(whether it be HPV or even type 1 diabetes) or even a history or illness(like heart diseases)?
Fudgepuppy
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Preferences are natural to have, yes, but doesn't mean they came naturally.
Blonde girls being so fetishized by many, might be natural, but it might also have been shaped by media, portraying them as innocent, sweet, fun, angels.
I'm Swedish, and when travelling, everyone goes "oh Swedish girls are so beautiful". To other countries, Swedish girls are like perfect unicorns of sexiness, but to me who's born there, I don't have that view at all. To me they're not what a lot of other, non-Swedish people, believe them to be.
The Futurist
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I don't really know what to think of all this.
We all have our preferences and what we are naturally attracted to.
People posting pictures of attractive women of color isn't really getting it.
I can saw objectively say that many of those women are extremely attractive. Just like I can say that a women with blonde hair is extremely attractive. I know they are and neither of those things are a real deal breaker, but it's just not what I am immediately drawn to. So I probably wouldn't pursue it from the start because it's not what my brain finds appealing.
Saying you won't date a specific race is strange and yeah, it probably is racist, but each of us knows where we are coming from. I like tan girls and not extremely pale ones. That's just what I am attracted to.
What am I supposed to do about that?
We all have our preferences and what we are naturally attracted to.
People posting pictures of attractive women of color isn't really getting it.
I can saw objectively say that many of those women are extremely attractive. Just like I can say that a women with blonde hair is extremely attractive. I know they are and neither of those things are a real deal breaker, but it's just not what I am immediately drawn to. So I probably wouldn't pursue it from the start because it's not what my brain finds appealing.
Saying you won't date a specific race is strange and yeah, it probably is racist, but each of us knows where we are coming from. I like tan girls and not extremely pale ones. That's just what I am attracted to.
What am I supposed to do about that?
Subpar Spatula
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Of course it's hate. It's not KKK hate but it's still micro-hate they have built up over time. There's no reason to not date someone based on their skin color because the only difference is skin color and the rest is reasoning stemmed from racism.
If people wanted to reflect personally, to look into that void we call our soul and write honestly why they would not date someone of another race it would be racist reasons 100% of the time.
Deadly Cyclone
Pride of Iowa State
The point is, not all Asians look the same at all. While you may not be attracted to one specific Asian person, you may be attracted to another.
People saying that about Asian people is even weirder, being that Indian and Japanese are both Asian and look completely different.
#notallasians #notracistdoe
NLCP Gaming
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No its not racist to not want to date someone of a different race. Atleast in my opinion. If a white woman told me she not attracted to black men then I'll just move on and not worry about it. You can't force people to be attracted to someone in a different race
The Futurist
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That's a technicality.
When someone says Asian, the vast majority of times they are not referring to Indians. Indians usually say South Asian.
Source - I am Indian.
Subpar Spatula
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You can't but you could still call them racist.
What reasons are there to not date a black man? Leave this individual's personaility out of it. What reasons are there?
Youre proving his point
Skin color is not the only difference though. Culture can be very different and people also have different physical characteristics.
Ah right.
Subpar Spatula
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All Asians have the same culture? All black people have the same culture?
What fucking culture?
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