I'm not sure how to tell who is right and who is on the wrong track. Are multiple options right? None?
What's the problem exactly? One side is so clearly wrong it's hard to fathom how anyone can be confused.
Their hypocrisy and flawed argumentation has been disproved and refuted again and again. Once they realise this they call you a pedophile, misogynist or racist to sidetrack you and garner sympathy and support from people who don't really care and are unwilling to even think about the facts and consequences.
They are so afraid of discussion/confrontation they try their hardest to revoke your right to speak wherever possible (because they are very insecure and fear/know they don't have any logical arguments..)
If nothing works to shut you up, they just start to make stuff up and lie about you (sometimes they also do this from the get go) or pretend you were discussing something else entirely.
Suddenly you have not been defending legal games, but child porn and hardcore pornography.
Suddenly you have not been arguing to keep well known and loved characters the way they have always been, but against all female/POC/Trans/whatever characters ever and not because you love the character they are talking about, but because you absolutly hate all those other people and are the worst person ever...
Suddenly, you have not advocated equality and fairness, but violence against women and minorities.
Suddenly talk about fiction is switched to reality and obviously you are an asshole because how could you do/say/enjoy that?
Suddenly, enjoying games is "elitism" and "gating", even though gamers have always been one of the most inclusive groups, the ones you go to when no one else wants to hang out with you. You don't even need any hardware, just visiting a friend and watching and only occasionally playing yourself is enough. Being included is as easy as asking to hang out and play that new game.
Hilariously, these accusations are coming from the most exclusive and gated community on the globe. North Korea has more freedoms than resetera.
and so on..
Edit: Forgot an important part. Instead of supporting and creating media they like, they embrace fascism and try to stop/destroy/change/censor everything they don't agree with, out of pure spitefulness. They like dressing themselves with roses so people have a hard time reeking the abhorrent stench that is behind what they are saying. Fortunately you only have to really think about it a bit to see through it.