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Anyone else feel lonely during the holidays?

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Sometimes I do but this year I feel especially alone because the girl I was seeing is no longer talking to me after almost a year. Having that constant communication with someone for more than half a year be shut off has really left a whole in me. I can hardly play a video game with any enjoyment lately. I just had a family Christmas party and while it was nice I still felt lonely around all my family.

How dose GAF feel about the holidays?
 
Yes, I think it's pretty common because it's easy to compare your life to what you see in holiday movies, songs, ads and what you assume happy other couples and families are up to and if your life isn't the same easy to feel like shit. Kind of like scrolling through a Facebook feed where it seems everyone else has their life and shit together but you (at least that's how I felt when I had Facebook and also how I feel at holidays sometimes.)
 
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I live alone overseas. I don't even get to see my family for Christmas. I think you should enjoy what you got OP.
 
Serenityinaz12 said:
Yes, I think it's pretty common because it's easy to compare your life to what you see in holiday movies, songs, ads and what you assume happy other couples and families are up to and if your life isn't the same easy to feel like shit. Kind of like scrolling through a Facebook feed where it seems everyone else has their life and shit together but you (at least that's how I felt when I had Facebook and also how I feel at holidays sometimes.)
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I'm not one to measure myself against any idea of what "should" be, so I'm generally not prone to feeling that way. And I'm also just generally content, with or without others around. But sometimes I can feel lonely. After my divorce, I haven't focused much on socializing.I think it's normal to have shifting moods and feelings though. They come and they go.
 
The Son extends mercy and reconciliation to humanity. Out of gratitude, we extend peace and goodwill toward others during this season, that is the message of Christmas. So instead of feeling down about broken relationships, reach out to repair the ones you have and reach out to make new ones. Plenty of lonely people during the holidays could find comfort if they just reached out.
 
I wish. This is that time of year where no excuse can get me out of visiting tons of family members.

There's nothing quite like that cousin on government assistance with 4 kids telling you that you that you need to grow up when you say you don't have kids because you don't feel like it would be fiscally responsible at the moment.
 
I prefer being alone at Christmas. Who needs family, gifts, lavish food and cherished memories when you can spend it alone in the dark eating a microwave meal over the kitchen sink?
 
Sakura said:
I live alone overseas. I don't even get to see my family for Christmas. I think you should enjoy what you got OP.
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you poor little coconut buttercream

edit: that wasnt sarcasm :< I hope everyone here has a wonderful christmas alone or with people - your all loved.
 
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With work, kids and just the crazy build up, it moves way too fast to be lonely. When I was younger, maybe. There was a year or 2 in the late 90's where I was single and I recall a quasi melancholy.
 
I'm sorry man. Christmas is depressing. Just dont watch Charlie Brown Christmas Special alone. That will mess you up for weeks.

I would be the same way without my girlfriend. Most of my friends and family have drifted apart. Guys are especially at risk for depression I think. They hold on less friends than women typically.

If you have brothers or sisters I'd try to arrange something to do. Better to reach out and explain how you feel than be depressed.
 
If holidays depress you then I think you are already at risk for depressive disorder in general. Its a catalyst that agitates what is already there.

Also I think getting older helps. Less angst. Less giving a fuck about others (in a good way, not an asshole way)
 
brap said:
Yep
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I am application developer and on weekends or holidays I feel really bored but when I work i just work .

also here can anyone please guide me that when I can make post on neogaf , i am still not allowed friends to create post .
 
Yeah, sometimes it stinks .. but I have gotten used to it over the years.. Working as a Chef I work most major holidays so my family has gotten to expect me not around. At least I still have brap brap
 
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Chris. said:
I prefer being alone at Christmas. Who needs family, gifts, lavish food and cherished memories when you can spend it alone in the dark eating a microwave meal over the kitchen sink?
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All you need for a wonderful Christmas meal over the kitchen sink.
 
I'm fortunate that I've got an amazing wife and we have been able to move back to be closer to family, and both our work situations are such that we have the holidays off, etc. And our child is old enough this year to probably understand opening gifts and such. Further, my parents just retired and live close by too now, and my other siblings are coming from out of state...I'm more exhausted from hosting everyone so often.

Unfortunately my step father-in-law succumbed to cancer on Christmas Eve last year leaving behind his wife, teenage daughter and two step daughters. I think it's going to be a tough anniversary going forward, this year obviously being really hard on them, but I'm glad we're at least close by again.
 
I welcome some lone time. It's not necessarily a bad word.

Dealing with so many people during the course of a day/year, staying home and relaxing is something I look forward to. I actually make up reasons to be alone and avoid friends/family sometimes..
 
Holidays, special events, and really anything that hits nostalgia is especially tough after a break up/death/etc. It's normal OP. Being active is probably the best way to get over it, though sometimes its tough to do that.
 
Very much.

Had one, if not the worst, year in my life. Burned a lot of bridges because of mental breakdowns and depression and said some pretty terrible things out of anger and frustration. Poor af so I can barely afford anything too.

Even my best friend hasn't been talking to me for some reason.

Overall life has been a nightmare and things don't look like they're going to get better.
 
SLoWMoTIoN said:
No, I feel lonely all year round.
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Darkmakaimura said:
Very much.

Had one, if not the worst, year in my life. Burned a lot of bridges because of mental breakdowns and depression and said some pretty terrible things out of anger and frustration. Poor af so I can barely afford anything too.

Even my best friend hasn't been talking to me for some reason.

Overall life has been a nightmare and things don't look like they're going to get better.
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Damn, hit me up on discord if you guys ever wanna chat, I'm always around to listen.
 
Serenityinaz12 said:
Yes, I think it's pretty common because it's easy to compare your life to what you see in holiday movies, songs, ads and what you assume happy other couples and families are up to and if your life isn't the same easy to feel like shit. Kind of like scrolling through a Facebook feed where it seems everyone else has their life and shit together but you (at least that's how I felt when I had Facebook and also how I feel at holidays sometimes.)
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Until u see this on facebook:

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And this it is in reality:

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Welcome to 2019

Believe me i was stuck in those party's for 3 times in 2 weeks at the end of the year for 5 years long which where god awful. Yet if you watched facebook it looking like the best thing ever. I once bailed on it and never turned went back.

Most of them just showed up for the sake of facebook pictures so they had something to show off. Nobody wanted to be there.
 
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One useful tactic I use for battling feelings of loneliness is to find ways to keep busy. Just do stuff. Anything but sitting around and thinking about being lonely. Even just listening to music or household cleaning. Keeps the mind occupied with other thoughts. Good luck OP :)
 
Christmas can be really rough on some people. Hang in there guys as you get older Christmas becomes more about the kids and it starts feeling great again.

Make sure to check up on your friends and family. This is a great time to come together.
 
I'm happily single and will never want to have children BUT this is the only time of year where I feel a tinge of disappointment in myself for choosing to live my life this way. It's mostly Christmas Eve night when I get home to end the night by my lonesome after spending time with the fam and nieces and nephews and it just feels like something is missing. I'm not compelled to gather with my fellow loser friends either - I just want to wallow, I suppose.
 
In the same boat OP, the person I want to be with for the holidays isn't around, can't talk to them either

I've made a lot of stuff for the holidays just to keep busy and bring some joy to those around me. I got really serious making the gingerbread house this year
 
Sorry to hear about that OP, I lost my dad last year and yeah Christmas in general just isn't the same. Just keep your head up and try to enjoy the good times and be thankful for the small things. It'll get better.
 
Yeah it's been a bit of a crappy month, I've been trying to keep busy with different hobbies and trying to reach out to friends. I don't have my family around or otherwise I'd be partying almost every day.
 
Fwiw I know I've been posting/replying a lot especially in the STAR WARS threads. In a slump and nothing else to do and talking about Star Wars and the Trails games kinda gets my mind off shit.
 
Not really. Solitary like a tiger out in the wild hunting looking for a nice catch. Yes. But lonely in terms of being solitary and also sad that you're solitary? Then no.
 
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