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[TindalosPup]

I'm starting this thread because tonight I'm going to be spending the night away from home for the first time in about 3 years to help my cousin clean out and redecorate my step-grandmothers bedroom to surprise her while she's off having fun with her girlfriend (yes, my grandma is gay). Normally I wouldn't make a huge deal of it, but the last times I slept away from home I was with someone with whom I was very much in love (so they felt like home, they made me feel a lot safer) and it didn't seem to cause me as much anxiety as the idea is now. I know I'm not going to sleep well, I live in the sticks and my cousin lives in the inner city, so much so that people in the neighborhood cut through her dinky yard, sometimes multiple times a night. I think it's important to mention it's a VERY high crime area and has been for decades, there's gang violence, robberies, and shootings quite frequently. I've been having problems sleeping at home as it is, not even melatonin has helped, so I'm thinking the only way to get myself to sleep tonight is to drink and smoke until I pass out with headphones in (thankfully won't be a problem with my cousin, we planned to do that stuff anyway), hoping nothing too loud happens that'll wake me up (like the tri weekly gunshots my cousin constantly complains of). If this doesn't work, I'm looking at an all nighter after 4 hours of choppy sleep last night.

Anyone have any tips for situations like these? Or maybe some similar experiences?

Trying to find a way to relax about it, hoping talking on here might help

 

[Slings and Arrows]

Relax, bang your cousin.

All's well that ends well.

 

[AV]

You already solved it with the drinking/smoking/headphones, but let's not gloss over this.

You haven't slept outside of your own bed in 3 years? You haven't been on a single overnight visit somewhere, no holidays, no visits, no festivals, no conventions or events, absolutely nothing? Jesus.

 

[haxan7]

If you absolutely can't sleep, OTC sleeping pills will knock you out. May want to have some on hand in case. I personally only take them as a last resort because I always feel like garbage the entire day afterward.

 

[TindalosPup]

You already solved it with the drinking/smoking/headphones, but let's not gloss over this.

You haven't slept outside of your own bed in 3 years? You haven't been on a single overnight visit somewhere, no holidays, no visits, no festivals, no conventions or events, absolutely nothing? Jesus.

I'm not proud of it, but I've been pretty reclusive. My steady boyfriend from 2014-18 was the center of my world for a long time, he wasn't super into going out like that, trips I planned seemed to stress him out, so I never really bothered. His parents house was the last overnight I had.

That's stuff also costs money, I've been trying to save and build credit to get a house with the same guy, which failed miserably when I switched to a seasonal job, family financial problems happened, and issues made that coveted relationship difficult in the last year

This trip is actually me trying to break the pattern. I honestly don't want to go, but it seems healthier to fight the urge to stay in

 

[AV]

I'm not proud of it, but I've been pretty reclusive. My steady boyfriend from 2014-18 was the center of my world for a long time, he wasn't super into going out like that, trips I planned seemed to stress him out, so I never really bothered. His parents house was the last overnight I had.

That's stuff also costs money, I've been trying to save and build credit to get a house with the same guy, which failed miserably when I switched to a seasonal job, family financial problems happened, and issues made that coveted relationship impossible in the last year

This trip is actually me trying to break the pattern. I honestly don't want to go, but it seems healthier to fight the urge to stay in

Fair enough dude. Hope it goes well for you. It cannot be good for your mental health to sleep in the same bed/room for a thousand days without pause.

 

[TindalosPup]

Relax, bang your cousin.

All's well that ends well.

She's not my type (women generally aren't my type). Plus, her boyfriend would kick my ass

 

[TindalosPup]

Fair enough dude. Hope it goes well for you. It cannot be good for your mental health to sleep in the same bed/room for a thousand days without pause.

That was exactly my thinking on it. I don't wanna go full nutcase (pretty sure I'm at least 1/4th of the way there by now), not yet anyway

 

[Slings and Arrows]

She's not my type (women generally aren't my type). Plus, her boyfriend would kick my ass

...annnnnnd more importantly, she's your cousin

 

[haxan7]

...annnnnnd more importantly, she's your cousin

being forbidden just makes it hotter

 

[Slings and Arrows]

being forbidden just makes it hotter

Quick, someone post the picture of the dog in clothes pretending to be a fuckable sister.

 

[TindalosPup]

...annnnnnd more importantly, she's your cousin

Surprisingly, in my state it's legal to marry a first cousin

Honestly, though, none of my cousins are hot enough to want to bang, anyway

 

[Slings and Arrows]

Surprisingly, in my state it's legal to marry a first cousin

Honestly, though, none of my cousins are hot enough to want to bang, anyway

That's mental!

I was only ribbing you. Think of this thread tonight while you're trying to sleep

 

[bucyou]

Quick, someone post the picture of the dog in clothes pretending to be a fuckable sister.

one better

 

[Prison Mike]

Relax, bang your cousin.

All's well that ends well.

First Post wins

 

[Hinedorf]

Sounds like you need to incorporate some daily regular exercise into your routine. As a lifelong insomniac I've discovered that's the only true thing that can help me shut off at night is to physically wear myself down.

 

[Elektro Demon]

I was gonna tell you to bang your cousin, but people already said that. So I'll say it again.
Bang your cousin brah, that should relax you.

 

[TindalosPup]

Sounds like you need to incorporate some daily regular exercise into your routine. As a lifelong insomniac I've discovered that's the only true thing that can help me shut off at night is to physically wear myself down.

This sort of works, I've had problems sleeping for close to a year now. My job is physically demanding; moving around 8-15 90-350 lb trees, digging holes, smashing concrete, chopping roots, etc for 8 hours 5 days a week. The work was physically exhausting, but didn't help me sleep, I still got a Max of 5 hours, and it wasn't restful. I work out 4-5 times a week in the off season now (kinda have to to keep up with the job). My problem is my brain doesn't shut off. When I do sleep it's really shallow and I dream constantly.

I should probably go in for sleep tests to see wth is wrong with me

 

[Hinedorf]

This sort of works, I've had problems sleeping for close to a year now. My job is physically demanding; moving around 8-15 90-350 lb trees, digging holes, smashing concrete, chopping roots, etc for 8 hours 5 days a week. The work was physically exhausting, but didn't help me sleep, I still got a Max of 5 hours, and it wasn't restful. I work out 4-5 times a week in the off season now (kinda have to to keep up with the job). My problem is my brain doesn't shut off. When I do sleep it's really shallow and I dream constantly.

I should probably go in for sleep tests to see wth is wrong with me

Damn you're a tough one, if you're doing that much physical exertion then it's definitely more of a mental thing. I have found that I actually fall asleep faster when there's something on television I actually want to watch. I watched Season 1 of Daredevil for 6 months straight because I'd put it on and fall asleep 10 minutes later. Maybe that'll work for you?

And hell, like some of the others said maybe get laid or jerk off before bed?

 

[TindalosPup]

Okay so I survived the night, sort of. It was garbage sleep, but I managed, collectively, to get around 6 hours. I can live with that.

Thinking on what this discussion lead to I'm honestly thinking my sleep issues are linked to my mental health. I've had issues like this before, but they usually resolve within a few months. Gonna have to try to get to the doctor about it

I appreciate everyone's suggestions, even the ones I probably wouldn't use. I thank you all for them

Also, I think it's important to point out I am lady. While I'd love to have taken the get laid and jerk off advice (I haven't been laid in over a year now) I couldn't. Rn I'm voluntarily celibate, if you read one of the replies I made on the thread I mentioned a long time boyfriend and things not going great. I promised to wait for him (I plan to keep that promise). Self maintenance is usually a tactic I use at home, but it's awkward in family's houses.