This is been a problem for me in the past with guys I've dated. Sometimes they just don't have the know how to push the sexual limit or maybe aren't as interested. I often find myself in a position where I need to be challenged in bed because I find it makes the relationship that much better. Hard to get that though.. I definitely think it's worth bringing up with your bf, maybe he has it in him, you never know.
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This is been a problem for me in the past with guys I've dated. Sometimes they just don't have the know how to push the sexual limit or maybe aren't as interested. I often find myself in a position where I need to be challenged in bed because I find it makes the relationship that much better. Hard to get that though.. I definitely think it's worth bringing up with your bf, maybe he has it in him, you never know.
I know that some guys actually find it really cute when the other person doesn't really have sexual experience.
The Abominable Snowman
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Yeah, I'm going to push through it because I do know sometimes I do get "bored easily" and maybe introduce other sexual activities or maybe try "training" him to do what I want him to do. As bad as that sounds (to me).
Oh nah.. I dont want to, its just a fantasy of mine. In my past I have never been able to experiment freely with my sexuality. I've always been a dom top. Never had a threesome. I kind of want to experiment in other ways a bit more. Not that i havent bottomed before, but I want to experience it again, in a more fulfilling manner. And my current BF.. well.. he wouldnt be able to fit that.
Not that I'd ever go that route and cheat on him. It's just a strong longing I have. And it seems that I've been making friends over the past few months that I've just had a prolonging sexual interest in, and over time it just gets worse and worse.
RatskyWatsky
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Essentially the only objects that can be said to exist (in the strictest sense) is the most minute particles (in this case, quantum events). So for example there's no such object as a chair, just objects arranged chair-wise. But then that means that we don't exist either, since we would be objects arranged person-wiseThe idea is just that larger scale 'objects' are labels of convenience reflecting our sensory bias. We have a tendency to create identity for things that on the most minute level are entirely devoid of unique identity within their arrangement or otherwise. It's basically a simpler alternative to essentialism.
...Oh.
How do you "push a sexual limit"? What does that mean?
Small peen?
Let me get this clear: (1) Your BF won't be able to fulfill your "strong longing" (2) Your sexual interest in others just "gets worse and worse."
Tell him.
If he's game to try new stuff with you, you might be content with that. If not, see how he (and you) feel about a sexually open relationship. All else failing, break up. Depends on how much effort you want to put into this. Just don't cheat.
But no pressure, in the end just have a good time.
I posted some "pointers" a few days ago, when it comes to "online sites"; just in case:
Yeah, I read that, along the other stuff in the last couple of pages.
Maybe it had something to do with me taking a step forward finally.
Thanks anyway
Inexperienced 30-something male looking for a man to push his sexual limits. Disappointment guaranteed! How's that?
Cosmic Bus
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Mystic Theurge
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Yeah, I read that, along the other stuff in the last couple of pages.
Maybe it had something to do with me taking a step forward finally.
Thanks anyway
Good luck with your step forward.
I've also started moving froward this year. It hasn't always gone my way, but I learned about myself and tried something new, so I'm glad.
I hope it works out the same or better for you.
CHEEZMO
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The Abominable Snowman
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I will introduce a few things to spice it up, like lubes, other 'sex aides' (no toys). I just never had to resort to it.
Open relationships never work. Even with celebrities. I won't break up with him over sex, i feel like its too small a part of our relationship.
You ever have sex with someone that was so good, you end up exhausted and although you were 110% pleased, you wonder if you pleased them? You know, that sex that makes you orgasm multiple times, with or without cumming more than once? that sex that introduced you to a new technique you never had before, and made the instant decision from then on that you were gonna do that or want that done to you for every future sexual encounter you will ever have?
RatskyWatsky
Hunky Nostradamus
I see. So your bf has never done that for you, but other bf's have?
Sexual compatibility is an important part of a relationship for me. I want to be able to be fulfilled not only emotionally by the person I'm in a relationship with but also sexually/physically.
Sex is beautiful and wonderful and also very intimate, having great sex with your boyfriend is a way to get closer to them and I feel like settling down for something that only partially fulfills you is only going to lead to disaster in the end.
That doesn't mean that if the first time you have sex with someone it's not great you should run, sometimes it takes time to develop into something great as you each get to know each other's body. Being inexperienced is something that can be solved by practice, being incompatible isn't.
Yes. We parted way for some reason, got together again a couple of years later and it was very underwhelming. I wish I had just kept the memory intact, ha.
That's not true. I know a few people who have been in open relationships for a long time now and they're doing great. My boyfriend and I have been in an open relationship for a few years now (though nothing really "open" happened until recently), and we're still in a fantastic relationship.
Of course, open relationships aren't for everyone, and there are different kinds of open relationships at that. My boyfriend and I are in a committed relationship to each other, but we have no problem with fooling around with other guys (preferably together). The main reason why this isn't a problem for us is because our trust in each other is so strong. We know neither one of us is going to leave the other for another guy. I'd say being in an open relationship has actually strengthened our relationship with each other.
But yeah, it's not for everyone. For some people it works great, for others...not so much. But you could say that for any type of relationship, I suppose. I wouldn't recommend it unless you and your partner have absolute trust in each other, but that's just me.
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Naw, it's not just you. I agree. Well said.
Mystic Theurge
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Dead Prince
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60_gig_PS3
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go up to them and act really gay. If they're straight you'll know right away.
CHEEZMO
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dragonlife
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It bugs me. Needs more frames.
I think that's why I find it so difficult to stop watching. That and the lighting changes from frame to frame.
Drop something near them and pretend that you don't notice it. When they tell you that you've dropped something, slowly bend over to pick it up and raise your ass and see if they take the bait or not.
I did something similar (bending over pretending to tie my shoelaces) to a guy in cinema after a Jason Statham movie. The guy actually smiled and winked at me before making his way to toilet but I was too much of a chicken to follow him. Plus, toilet sex doesn't sound that enticing to me.
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SpaceBridge
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Not to be a troll, but how can you refer to your relationship as committed, when by definition its "open". Genuine question.
Also, from my many years, Ive yet to meet a gay couple in a open relationship that lasted. But thats my own anecdotal experience.
Yet another leaked jerk off webcam video from a Brazilian Big Brother participant, this time it's beauty pageant winner Jonas Sulzbach.
Can anyone tell me why do people jerk off on camera? I mean, really... I'd never ever fucking do it. It's like begging for your dick to be exposed all over the internet.
He measures his other instrument on the video and it's 22cm long.
Can anyone tell me why do people jerk off on camera? I mean, really... I'd never ever fucking do it. It's like begging for your dick to be exposed all over the internet.
dragonlife
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red, PM me the vidoe. I don't want to Google it. Save me from my laziness, my friend.
Cosmic Bus
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Well, it's one thing to do it for your own entertainment and then upload it somewhere, and another thing doing it for or with a specific someone else. The former could be seen as narcissistic or foolish (although I don't think it necessarily has to be either of those things) and the latter is often quite fun, erotic, and has its own place in modern forms of intimacy.
Wink to him. Point the bathroom,walk slowly to stall and hope it is the right guy who got the message!
For some people, sex is mostly a physical thing. And (anecdotal evidence time!) people in open relationships seem to be more open with each other about where their relationship is and what the lines and boundaries are.
Absolutely. I'll admit that I did some foolish things with some foolish people in my not so distant high school days. I just thought it was sexy and fun at the time.
:lol
My tricks: Eye contact, cute smirk, and "hi." in your deepest midnight radio hour voice never usually fails. Then take a quick survey. If they seem receptive, pick up what they're doing and talk about it. If they're not doing anything of note, the corny, "I'm sorry, I just saw you across the room and I. . ." isn't a bad way to start.
Erebus
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Yep.
Plus add to #2 that most of this "leaks" are either made for intimacy, but leaked by an ex...
Or lead on by apparently a female user on MSN/chat, but leaked to gay websites.
lordfroakie
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CHEEZMO
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Now where have you been buddy?
He got trapped in one of those elevators when he was trying to take a photo.
I have to ask: how do you define "committed?" I think you're confusing commitment with monogamy.
Not if the terms of your commitment don't include monogamous sex.
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See you guys this time next week for "is it just me or are gay guys SUPER exclusionary" round seventy-four with a side of "why does the gay community hate bi guys" with "do open relationships actually work" for dessert.
SpaceBridge
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I define commitment to include monogamy, so yes, your correct. Didnt realize that definition had changed. Guess Im too old fashioned. This is purely my opinion, but i find open relationships a sham, and used only as a sense of comfort and habit. And before you ask, yes, I believe in true love. Im not so bitter and jaded. And Ill leave it at that, I dont feel like getting into a heated discussion regarding this. Ive had enough of those with my gay friends already.
I believe commitment involves deeper aspects than that, like love, trust, respect, reliability, etc. If I have those things, outside casual sex isn't gonna be a threat to my relationship.
SpaceBridge
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I supppose, if sex is purely a physical thing.
I honestly dont think I could trust my boyfried, if I knew someone else was pounding his hole.
Other than maybe thinking that open relationships are "a sham," your definition is a completely valid definition of a relationship. There's nothing old-fashioned in believing you should only be with one partner, others' definitions of what a relationship is are just different.
Then you call him a whorish dick-pit! lol
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