Hey Gay-GAF. I posted this in the "taking a break" relationship thread, but I thought I'd put it here too to see if anyone had any thoughts. Anyone ever take a break in a relationship and have it work out with the the two of you back together.
Here's my re-posted story:
So, last January, I got out of a relationship that had lasted a little over a year. It was a rough breakup and I was celibate for a few months then started dating and having sex again around May. At the end of June I met a dude just for a hook up. But we got along great and started getting together regularly and that slowly turned into dating-- him making dinner, concerts, trips to the beach, road trips, movies, and all the while A+ sex like I've never had in my life.
It turns out that he also got dumped around the same time that I did and to make matters worse, his mom died that following February. So, I decided to try to keep things casual (no titles, no daily communication, hanging out once or twice a week), but then started to really develop strong feelings for him. I asked him at one point if I should back off a little considering our circumstances and he said emphatically no that he didn't want me to back off.
Then around November, I mentioned that it was getting harder for me to feel pretend that I felt really casually about things. He seemed to take it well and we had a good conversation about the state of things and capped it off with some of the best sex we'd had yet. But soon after, I started to notice him becoming distant-- less engaged communication, kind of "gone" when we'd hang out. I got sick and ended up in the ER on Thanksgiving and he turned his car around when he was already an hour outside of town on the way to his family to come and be with me at the hospital. That reassured me and I thought we were good.
But the distance got to be more and more and I finally brought it up in the middle of December. That resulted in him admitting that he started pulling away after that early November conversation. Now, after a bunch of talks, we're officially "taking a break." I don't want it, but it was his idea. When we were saying goodbye before the break, kept saying how much he was going to miss me and that he loved me, hell we were even cracking jokes (we always make each other laugh) and making out through this goodbye.
It's been almost a month since I've last seen him and I feel fucking awful. I dream about him about every night, tried hooking up with some dude and just thought of him. It sucks. I sent him his xmas gifts a few weeks ago and he seemed to love them and he texted a nice note back. I really want to reach out, but I think it's a bad idea.
So what I'm wondering GAF is: do I just wait it out and try to move on? Wait a while and contact him? I know the anniversary of him mom's death is coming up and I'm kinda worried about him-- sort of wanted him to know that he has me if he needs me around then, but also think it's better to leave him alone.
So confused =/
(sorry for this long ass post)
