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[woodypop]

Even as one of the resident Negative Nancys, I'm pretty certain I'll have kids one day. Two girls: Lola and Nieves. They don't need to be biologically mine; my sister has her daughters that can carry on the family bloodlines, and I've got unappealing traits that don't need to be passed down to anyone.

Speaking of interesting names, at work I recently interacted with two women named Arcadia and Uhura.

Uhura. Star Trek association aside, I frickin' love that name. In my fantasy world, I'd have a little daughter named Uhura running around the house.

Spoiler

Never gonna happen.

 

[Cosmic Bus]

Speaking of interesting names, at work I recently interacted with two women named Arcadia and Uhura.

Uhura. Star Trek association aside, I frickin' love that name. In my fantasy world, I'd have a little daughter named Uhura running around the house.

Spoiler

Never gonna happen.

Uhura's a neat name, but there's always going to be a weird stigma attached when your kid's namesake is part of pop culture.

I'm fond of Nieves (nih-vez; means snow or snowfall) because it's Spanish and it's a dream of mine to visit there someday. Plus I first heard the name on a Spanish pasty chef, so it's like a bunch of my favorite things all rolled into one!

 

[Vazra]

I hate kids.

Don't want my own, and I don't want to be around anyone else's

 

[beje]

I hate kids.

Don't want my own, and I don't want to be around anyone else's

Same, the only way I tolerate my nephew is because he's still 3 months old and everything he does is eating and shitting. My sis would better not count on me to take care of him if he becomes a stupid little shit (which will most likely happen). Sorry, but I hate children with a passion.

 

[Phonomezer]

I hate kids.

Don't want my own, and I don't want to be around anyone else's

 

[CHEEZMO™]

Is dat sum Hyoyeon spot colour?

 

[GasProblem]

I'd love to have kids someday.

Some of them can be little shits but most of them aren't.

 

[krypt0nian]

Protip: Kids can easily be trained to get beer out of the fridge at an early age.

They aren't all bad. Just mostly.


I love being around (some of) my younger cousins/nephews in short bursts, but most kids are tiresome and ill behaved. Plus my partner and I enjoy a great life because we aren't spending all our cash on rugrats. We had my 4 year old cousin for two nights for a sleepover and he had no off switch.


Kids are fine for those people that have them and take them home once the day is over.

 

[Phonomezer]

Is dat sum Hyoyeon spot colour?

Naturally

 

[Meicyn]

So the big moment is finished, and I wasn't disowned by my parents. That went a lot better than I expected, and I feel like an asshole for assuming the worst of them, particularly my mom. Though she keeps insisting I go get checked by a doctor, which is just bizarre.

Phone conversation ended with her on the verge of tears though, which makes me sad. But, that's life.

 

[Sagitario]

I do not understand the HATE for kids (just like I don't understard the hate for old people either).

One thing is not wanting to have children, rise one, deal with them, etc... I get that. But hating them? WTF?

 

[Dr. Malik]

So the big moment is finished, and I wasn't disowned by my parents. That went a lot better than I expected, and I feel like an asshole for assuming the worst of them, particularly my mom. Though she keeps insisting I go get checked by a doctor, which is just bizarre.

Phone conversation ended with her on the verge of tears though, which makes me sad. But, that's life.

umm..... I'm just going to assume she doesn't want to completely believe it, but it seems she is accepting.

Congrats!


And Replicant sis, apology accepted

 

[Deleted member 30609]

I do not understand the HATE for kids (just like I don't undestard the hate for old people either).

One thing is not wanting to have children, rise one, deal with them, etc... I get that. But hating them? WTF?

I suspect it may have something to do with being raised without much exposure to either. I was constantly surrounded by people older and younger than me like that growing up, and I've never quite understood it.

 

[Delio]

I know I do want a kid at some point. I pretty much grew up around young and old,have a ton of young friends o kids don't really bother me.

 

[ciD_Vain]

Well I haven't heard from my guy since last night with his brief text convo with me. Who knows maybe he just needs his space?

Anyway my friend just invited me to go see a movie with him so I'm gonna go do so.

Be patient, don't let waiting kill you.

 

[Ollie Pooch]

Well I haven't heard from my guy since last night with his brief text convo with me. Who knows maybe he just needs his space?

Anyway my friend just invited me to go see a movie with him so I'm gonna go do so.

Just remember the golden rule : be patient, and NEVER send two texts in a row.

 

[krypt0nian]

I do not understand the HATE for kids (just like I don't understard the hate for old people either).

One thing is not wanting to have children, rise one, deal with them, etc... I get that. But hating them? WTF?

I don't hate kids. Seriously dislike the bad ones, and then want to punch their horrible parents for making them that way, but never hate. It's not their fault they are mewling spoiled brats.

 

[anaron]

I don't hate kids. Seriously dislike the bad ones, and then want to punch their horrible parents for making them that way, but never hate. It's not their fault they are mewling spoiled brats.

Yeah, this is basically where I stand.

 

[King Endymion]

So, this guy contacted me like an hour ago on a dating site, I replied and we started having this convo, he said I was cute and blablabla, he gave me his msn, that's where I saw what he looked like, not ugly, but not really my type either, he told me he just got out of a 4-year relationship, and after a while, he asked me if I wanted to meet him tomorrow.
Wtf, maybe it's just me, but I think it's way too early, I'm a really shy and selfconcious guy, and since I don't feel the immediate attraction, I can't put my heart into it to even try.
He lives in the same small city I spend most of my days in, so I can't think of any reason to tell him I can't meet him, I just don't have the heart to turn him down.

Damn, why do I have to be so picky?

 

[Replicant]

So, this guy contacted me like an hour ago on a dating site, I replied and we started having this convo, he said I was cute and blablabla, he gave me his msn, that's where I saw what he looked like, not ugly, but not really my type either, he told me he just got out of a 4-year relationship, and after a while, he asked me if I wanted to meet him tomorrow.
Wtf, maybe it's just me, but I think it's way too early, I'm a really shy and selfconcious guy, and since I don't feel the immediate attraction, I can't put my heart into it to even try.
He lives in the same small city I spend most of my days in, so I can't think of any reason to tell him I can't meet him, I just don't have the heart to turn him down.

Damn, why do I have to be so picky?

If that's you in your avatar, I'm surprised you said the bolded words. I'd think guys like you would have all of the confidence in the world.

Anyway, with dating site, that seems to be the usual procedure, if someone is good-looking enough, he will be asked by many if he wants to go out immediately. If you're not comfortable, just tell him that you'd prefer to get to know him from online correspondence first before meeting face to face. And if you still think you're not interested in him then you may as well be honest and tell him that you don't think it'd work.

 

[lenovox1]

So, this guy contacted me like an hour ago on a dating site, I replied and we started having this convo, he said I was cute and blablabla, he gave me his msn, that's where I saw what he looked like, not ugly, but not really my type either, he told me he just got out of a 4-year relationship, and after a while, he asked me if I wanted to meet him tomorrow.
Wtf, maybe it's just me, but I think it's way too early, I'm a really shy and selfconcious guy, and since I don't feel the immediate attraction, I can't put my heart into it to even try.
He lives in the same small city I spend most of my days in, so I can't think of any reason to tell him I can't meet him, I just don't have the heart to turn him down.

Damn, why do I have to be so picky?

Have you turned him down yet? If not, just tell him what you wrote here. That he's cute, but not your type. And I always thank guys I'm not super interested in for contacting me, I don't why.

And if you think he's friend material (because he lives so close to your work), tell him that, and tell him that you don't like meeting people in person that you just met online so soon.

You're sweet for trying to avoid a conflict, but being as clear & direct as possible in the world of dating is the only way to go. If you know you don't want something, don't force yourself to want it.

ETA: Don't feel bad about being "picky." It's good to have a sense of what you want and like before going into a serious relationship, if that's what you want.

 

[Mr_Zombie]

I do not understand the HATE for kids (just like I don't understard the hate for old people either).

One thing is not wanting to have children, rise one, deal with them, etc... I get that. But hating them? WTF?

Well, have you ever spent your entire day with a [slightly spoiled] 5-year-old?
I love my nephew, but sometimes I really "hate" him at the same time. Kids can be really tiresome. Of course I'm sure that if you're with one 7/24 you get used to taking care of him/her (i.e. basically not having free time); but for someone who just spent time with a kid once in a while, the experience can vary from "great" to "I wanna kill myself" .

 

[runlikehell]

You found that out before your first official date?

I like your style.

Well we started out as just a friends with benefits kinda thing, and it kinda got more serious over time with us developing feelings for each other... tonight went great.

 

[King Endymion]

If that's you in your avatar, I'm surprised you said the bolded words. I'd think guys like you would have all of the confidence in the world.

Yeah, that's me in my avatar, guys like me? I've had no confidence at all since I was like 12, around the time I figured out I was bi, maybe somehow connected. My weight has always gone up and down affecting my confidence. ^^

And I have not turned him down yet, he had to go to bed and said "talk to you tomorrow", he asked me if he could phone me, but I said no, since I am the most boring person on the phone (seriously). I have to do it, since he already has plans for us meeting up, and later on he wants me to teach him how to play videogames. :s

I dunno, I guess I like to hunt more than being hunted...

 

[ciD_Vain]

So, this guy contacted me like an hour ago on a dating site, I replied and we started having this convo, he said I was cute and blablabla, he gave me his msn, that's where I saw what he looked like, not ugly, but not really my type either, he told me he just got out of a 4-year relationship, and after a while, he asked me if I wanted to meet him tomorrow.
Wtf, maybe it's just me, but I think it's way too early, I'm a really shy and selfconcious guy, and since I don't feel the immediate attraction, I can't put my heart into it to even try.
He lives in the same small city I spend most of my days in, so I can't think of any reason to tell him I can't meet him, I just don't have the heart to turn him down.

Damn, why do I have to be so picky?

Your reason can be that you just don't find him attractive. You don't have to feel obligated to hang out with him If your heart feels it won't work out, then don't force it just because you feel bad...it'll just be awkward for the both of you.

 

[King Endymion]

Your reason can be that you just don't find him attractive. You don't have to feel obligated to hang out with him If your heart feels it won't work out, then don't force it just because you feel bad.

Thanks, I guess I feel kind of bad because he was interesting before I got to see a picture of him, I feel really shallow, but I want to find that little something that catches your attention or something.

 

[Mr_Zombie]

I have to do it, since he already has plans for us meeting up, and later on he wants me to teach him how to play videogames. :s

I'm without the experience but this looks like you either turn him down now or you will be stuck with him for a while. And shouldn't face-to-face meetings/date happen much later than just after few hours of Internet conversation?

If you find him interesting (just not atractive) maybe try meeting him but tell him right away that you're not interested in relationship.

 

[Dr. Malik]

Thanks, I guess I feel kind of bad because he was interesting before I got to see a picture of him, I feel really shallow, but I want to find that little something that catches your attention or something.

You can avoid this by stating "no pic, no reply"

 

[King Endymion]

I'm without the experience but this looks like you either turn him down now or you will be stuck with him for a while. And shouldn't face-to-face meetings/date happen much later than just after few hours of Internet conversation?

That's what I'm thinking too, I've never had a relationship with a guy, so I'm a little bit more nervous and cautious about meeting someone because of that, but it takes more than that for me to want to meet up. He asked me out for a "fika", basically coffee and a bun (no good English word for it), it's usually a pre-date... :/
I already turned town two girls from the same site because they wanted to meet me right away for one of those, it feels really uncomfortable for me.

 

[King Endymion]

You can avoid this by stating "no pic, no reply"

I knooow, I thought about it, but his first message was basically saying "I want to upload a picture of me, but I registered today and can't understand how.", I explained how, and then it said the picture was being "reviewed", so I though I would just talk to him until the picture was viewable, but it was extra slow today and still hasn't been uploaded. Since I was curious, I added him on msn, my mistake I guess...

 

[ciD_Vain]

Thanks, I guess I feel kind of bad because he was interesting before I got to see a picture of him, I feel really shallow, but I want to find that little something that catches your attention or something.

People can tell you that it's shallow, but honestly i wouldn't care. Don't settle if that's not what you're looking for; have fun with what you want. If you're looking for just friends then i guess it wouldn't hurt to meet him as long as you tell him exactly that you're not interested in dating him.

 

[King Endymion]

People can tell you that it's shallow, but honestly i wouldn't care. Don't settle if that's not what you're looking for; have fun with what you want. If you're looking for just friends then i guess it wouldn't hurt to meet him as long as you tell him exactly that you're not interested in dating him.

Thanks, I guess you're right. I do need more friends though, I don'w even have any gay friends. ^^ I did say I was extremely picky to him almost right away, so I hope he doesn't have too high hopes.

"Thankfully", I have a really bad infection in my arm, so that had to be my excuse for not coming into town tomorrow.

 

[lenovox1]

That's what I'm thinking too, I've never had a relationship with a guy, so I'm a little bit more nervous and cautious about meeting someone because of that, but it takes more than that for me to want to meet up. He asked me out for a "fika", basically coffee and a bun (no good English word for it), it's usually a pre-date... :/
I already turned town two girls from the same site because they wanted to meet me right away for one of those, it feels really uncomfortable for me.

Well, I guess you can think about it this way: This guy just got out of a 4 year long relationship, and is obviously looking to jump back in the game full bore (with either a casual thing or something more). As he told you, he's done this before, and wouldn't like to have felt pulled along by someone who hated to say no. By saying, "No, thank you," to his coffee date (fika) idea, you're keeping him from wasting his time as much as you're keeping yourself from wasting yours.

But at the end of the day, aren't you on a dating website because you wanted to find someone for you?

ETA: Yeah, ciD_Vain covered it.

 

[King Endymion]

Well, I guess you can think about it this way: This guy just got out of a 4 year long relationship, and is obviously looking to jump back in the game full bore (with either a casual thing or something more). As he told you, he's done this before, and wouldn't like to have felt pulled along by someone hated to say no. By saying him, "No, thank you," to his coffee date (fika) idea, you're keeping him from wasting his time as much as you're keeping yourself from wasting yours.

But at the end of the day, aren't you on a dating website because you wanted to find someone for you?

Didn't really think of it this way, but you're right, not fair to any of us to string him along because I'm a wimp, I'll have to tell him tomorrow then.

Of course I want to find someone for me, I thought I did, but something happened between us and ended before it got serious, I'm having a hard time finding someone new.

 

[fernoca]

I do not understand the HATE for kids (just like I don't understard the hate for old people either).

One thing is not wanting to have children, rise one, deal with them, etc... I get that. But hating them? WTF?

Nah, if anything I see it as the same as the gaming side, were some say "OMG [insert game here] is the worst game ever"...twice per day.

Hyperbole, internet speak.. more than anything; not actual "hate"...I hope.

 

[SpaceBridge]

Didn't really think of it this way, but you're right, not fair to any of us to string him along because I'm a wimp, I'll have to tell him tomorrow then.

Of course I want to find someone for me, I thought I did, but something happened between us and ended before it got serious, I'm having a hard time finding someone new.

Just be honest and upfront. If he's not your type, then let him know. If he's a cool dude, and friend zone worthy then why not....but that probably wont work anyways. It's all good though, better to be honest to him and yourself and move on. Life is too short to play games or beat around the bush.

And damn son, those eyes...I can swim in those...in thight speedos...

 

[Replicant]

Yeah, that's me in my avatar, guys like me? I've had no confidence at all since I was like 12, around the time I figured out I was bi, maybe somehow connected. My weight has always gone up and down affecting my confidence. ^^

"Guys like you" = Good-looking guys. I guess it's hard for many people to realize that even good-looking guys may have their own self-confidence issues.

 

[SpaceBridge]

"Guys like you" = Good-looking guys. I guess it's hard for many people to realize that even good-looking guys may have their own self-confidence issues.

I find alot of "good looking" gay guys especially have esteem and confidence issues. Like alot. Not all but many....anecdotal ofcourse.

BTW: What is up with that "Im not gay if I do a dude" thread? Steering clear of that one.

 

[Dr. Malik]

BTW: What is up with that "Im not gay if I do a dude" thread? Steering clear of that one.

Gaf trying to understand how the mind works, idk

 

[CornBurrito]

BTW: What is up with that "Im not gay if I do a dude" thread? Steering clear of that one.

The OP in that thread doesn't get how sex can be a purely physical thing without any emotional attachment.

 

[King Endymion]

Just be honest and upfront. If he's not your type, then let him know. If he's a cool dude, and friend zone worthy then why not....but that probably wont work anyways. It's all good though, better to be honest to him and yourself and move on. Life is too short to play games or beat around the bush.

And damn son, those eyes...I can swim in those...in thight speedos...

Yeah, I'll take all of your guys advice and be honest with him tomorrow. I immediately move away when someone is pushy, maybe something I have to work on, but what the hell. Thanks guys.

If your referring to me about the eyes, haha, thank you so much, second time tonight I heard that, it's funny, because I've always hated my eyes, nose and lips.

"Guys like you" = Good-looking guys. I guess it's hard for many people to realize that even good-looking guys may have their own self-confidence issues

Hehe, thank you. I was bullied for 2 years for just how I looked, so taking in compliments is extremely hard, but it's buildning my confidence a bit getting them. I guess you can't judge a book by its cover and all that. ^^

 

[Replicant]

I find alot of "good looking" gay guys especially have esteem and confidence issues. Like alot. Not all but many....anecdotal ofcourse.

BTW: What is up with that "Im not gay if I do a dude" thread? Steering clear of that one.

It's a pretty good thread actually. Lots of interesting discussion and zero trollage (well, now there is one but it's Jenga, so it's expected). But of course, there are some people who are set in their convictions.

 

[Dr. Malik]

If your referring to me about the eyes, haha, thank you so much, second time tonight I heard that, it's funny, because I've always hated my eyes, nose and lips.

how can you hate your blue eyes? and your dsl lips?

ps. post more pics, maybe I am missing something

 

[ciD_Vain]

I used to be bullied a lot it is not fun, especially when you're a scrawny kid like me.

btw Marius_ and Replicant, your avatars are awesome.

 

[SpaceBridge]

Yeah, I'll take all of your guys advice and be honest with him tomorrow. I immediately move away when someone is pushy, maybe something I have to work on, but what the hell. Thanks guys.

If your referring to me about the eyes, haha, thank you so much, second time tonight I heard that, it's funny, because I've always hated my eyes, nose and lips.


Hehe, thank you. I was bullied for 2 years for just how I looked, so taking in compliments is extremely hard, but it's buildning my confidence a bit getting them. I guess you can't judge a book by its cover and all that. ^^

Thats funny cuz your eyes, nose and lips look good to me. Especially dem lips.

 

[King Endymion]

how can you hate your blue eyes? and your dsl lips?

ps. post more pics, maybe I am missing something

Lol, my eyes are so tiny, and I'm ignoring that last part, good thing you crossed it over.
I posted a pic in the "post a pic of yourself"-thread yesterday I think, black and white though. ^^

 

[SpaceBridge]

Lol, my eyes are so tiny, and I'm ignoring that last part, good thing you crossed it over.
I posted a pic in the "post a pic of yourself"-thread yesterday I think, black and white though. ^^

Damn....

 

[Ollie Pooch]

WOOF. Hot.

OMG Vita y u no out for delivery today. So close yet so far away! *UPS depot down the road*

And as I hit send on that, the UPS guy knocked on the front door.

OH BABY.

 

[Dead Man]

Lol, my eyes are so tiny, and I'm ignoring that last part, good thing you crossed it over.
I posted a pic in the "post a pic of yourself"-thread yesterday I think, black and white though. ^^

You look fine to me. Damn fine.

 

[King Endymion]

I used to be bullied a lot it is not fun, especially when you're a scrawny kid like me.

btw Marius_ and Replicant, your avatars are awesome.

I am was the fatty one, even my teacher bullied me, her remark "You're really starting to get fat." will probably never leave my memory. She spoke the truth, but it's not fun to hear when you're 11.

It's hard to imagine skinny kids being bullied when you're bullied for the exact opposite. t's pretty obvious in the media that that kind of bullying isn't taken seriously, unfortunately.

edit: Haha, thank you, guys, you've made my night, really.