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I've seen Shelter from those you listed. That one often gets praise because it is feel-good instead of the typical AIDS AND DIE theme lots of gay movies have, haha. .

I'm going to sound really dumb here, I know, but is AIDS even an issue if you don't do anal with everyone without protection and are careful that your partner doesn't have aids? It isn't something you jus catch is it?
 
Met a guy for the first time through a dating site yesterday, he knew I only wanted to meet as friends, and I knew he was interested in more, but respected my decision since I'm currently interested in someone else.
It was an interesting day, considering I have never ever hung out with a gay guy before, and I have to say I have never felt so relaxed and more like myself in all of my life. <3
Didn't start out well though, he picked me up in his car, 5 minutes later, we got into a fender-bender, but the rest of the day was awesome, we hung out for 7 hours, he took me to a movie and paid for me (I refused, but he wasn't listening, but I didn't want it to be any kind of date :(), I guess since I was so comfortable with him, I kinda sent out the wrong signals, and he started to play with my fingers during the movie, and I let him. :/

He was awesome though, and I want us to be great friends, so does he, and he invited me over next weekend since he has the house to himself, kinda cautious about doing it, even if I want to. :/

Meh, there is my drama, sorry if I'm too annoying, haha. :)
Don't think too much about it! Just remind him that you are only interested in him as a friend (maybe before he invites you to his house next weekend, so he doesn't get his hopes up). Some people think that if you say you're just looking for friendship, they can do something to change that and win you as a partner, I assume that's what he thought anyway.

Hope everything is well, and remember that you don't owe him anything! If he wanted to be a gentleman after you insisted in wanting to pay, it was his decision. And if he develops something further than friendship, well, you don't owe him anything for that either.

Best of luck!
 
Yes. You can catch it just from looking at someone with AIDS. But only if you look directly into their eyes.

Don't get too coy. The first time I slept with zack, the condom broke and he was -terrified- even though both of us were virgins. He went to catholic school and was legitamately convinced that you could get HIV from sex with someone who doesn't have HIV. I had to show him documentation showing that it didn't just form from a man's ass every time you had unprotected sex. >.>
 
Don't get too coy. The first time I slept with zack, the condom broke and he was -terrified- even though both of us were virgins. He went to catholic school and was legitamately convinced that you could get HIV from sex with someone who doesn't have HIV. I had to show him documentation showing that it didn't just form from a man's ass every time you had unprotected sex. >.>

lol

When I was around 10 or 11, I thought I could catch an STI from masturbating. By myself.
 
Don't get too coy. The first time I slept with zack, the condom broke and he was -terrified- even though both of us were virgins. He went to catholic school and was legitamately convinced that you could get HIV from sex with someone who doesn't have HIV. I had to show him documentation showing that it didn't just form from a man's ass every time you had unprotected sex. >.>
Uh, I went to a really catholic school (opus dei stuff) and I don't blame him. I was scared of it and thanks to curiosity and willing to learn stuff, I've broken free from those repressive chains~ You'd be pretty shocked of the shit you have to listen in these schools, pathetic.
 
Don't get too coy. The first time I slept with zack, the condom broke and he was -terrified- even though both of us were virgins. He went to catholic school and was legitamately convinced that you could get HIV from sex with someone who doesn't have HIV. I had to show him documentation showing that it didn't just form from a man's ass every time you had unprotected sex. >.>

Do they really teach those things in catholic schools in America?

I went to two and in one of them they just avoided the topic like the plague and the other was surprisingly tolerant.
 
Do they really teach those things in catholic schools in America?

I went to two and in one of them they just avoided the topic like the plague and the other was surprisingly tolerant.

I shadowed at zack's high school for a trial period, since I was out of school thanks to... Eh, I don't want to talk about my high school experience >.> (fully scholarshiped at a top engineering school now, everything turned out fine.)

Basically, they didn't teach any sex ed aside from "hey kids, here's your abstinence rings, don't fuck okay?"

Pathetic =\
 
lol, same here, but they were anything but tolerant.

I had to hear shit like "Next you'll hear they will want people marrying dogs" and the like. From a priest no less! This was the same one that was eager to ask you if you had masturbated. So fucking disgusting.

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That's about what my sex ed amounted to. :/
I'm sorry =\
 
lol, same here, but they were anything but tolerant.

I had to hear shit like "Next you'll hear they will want people marrying dogs" and the like. From a priest no less! This was the same one that was eager to ask you if you had masturbated. So fucking disgusting.
Oh, really?

Well, maybe I shouldn't be surprised. The first school was very backwards, but every time homosexuality would be mentioned they'd back off. I think they were afraid someone would actually be able to shut them up. Our religion teacher in the second one was a pretty cool bro and pretty supportive. Then again, I simply stopped listening to the nuns and priests after I was like 14 so they might have been like that.
 
I remember being taught about anal sex in middle school. They just mentioned that some people did it and that you should wear a condom if you did. Then they showed us how to put a condom on a banana.
 
Did any of you guys with Catholic upbringings ever talk about your gay feelings during confession? I did so, but I can't remember the advice the priest gave me.
 
As far as I know "gay feelings" aren't considered sin (or at least not that great). It's homosexual sex that is frowned upon by religion (and priests). Basically, from what I've heard, as long as you restrain your desires and don't have gay sex, you're even free to take communion.
 
I remember being taught about anal sex in middle school. They just mentioned that some people did it and that you should wear a condom if you did. Then they showed us how to put a condom on a banana.

Wow, middle school??? Lucky!

It wasn't until college that I got the "all the creative ways to put on a condom!" lectures.

until then all I knew was the boring "roll it down to the base and leave room at the tip...with your hands" technique.
 
Wow, middle school??? Lucky!

It wasn't until college that I got the "all the creative ways to put on a condom!" lectures.

until then all I knew was the boring "roll it down to the base and leave room at the tip...with your hands" technique.

Colleges give those? D:

I have never attended a sex-ed lecture that did that, and my college assumes we got it in high school.... Which I dropped out of.

I mean, I learned enough on my own, but.... It would've been nice to learn a few condom methods, I keep breaking the fucking things >.> I started buying magnums just because I know I won't snap it putting it on myself. Or having it be too tight to take off afterwards, thanks for that durex =\

Tl;dr I am college-aged and have no clue how to use a condom properly.




Also, why don't condoms have size recommendations on the back? Is it because everyone mismeasures? I am almost certainly too small for magnums, but certain brands of durex or trojan are fucking painful, and I really don't want to have to try everything to get a perfect fit X.X
 
Did any of you guys with Catholic upbringings ever talk about your gay feelings during confession? I did so, but I can't remember the advice the priest gave me.

Bi girl, never had those confessions. Then again by the time I was starting to get sexually active I didn't give a fuck about them anymore.

And wow, surprised to see so many people were given "how to put condoms on" talks. All I had were comments from friends and the Internet. Luckily the first time I did that was with a friend so I could practice.
 
Colleges give those? D:

I have never attended a sex-ed lecture that did that, and my college assumes we got it in high school.... Which I dropped out of.

I mean, I learned enough on my own, but.... It would've been nice to learn a few condom methods, I keep breaking the fucking things >.> I started buying magnums just because I know I won't snap it putting it on myself. Or having it be too tight to take off afterwards, thanks for that durex =\

Tl;dr I am college-aged and have no clue how to use a condom properly.




Also, why don't condoms have size recommendations on the back? Is it because everyone mismeasures? I am almost certainly too small for magnums, but certain brands of durex or trojan are fucking painful, and I really don't want to have to try everything to get a perfect fit X.X

I got two of them in college. The first was during a mandatory floor meeting in my dorm freshman year. Then I joined the Rainbow Alliance where we gave demonstrations on proper condom usage at least once a semester. Sometimes right in the cafeteria in the student union building. Good times. lol

And there really isn't much to using a condom properly. Easier than it looks. Just always remember:

a) The side coated in lube goes on the outside.

b) leave room at the tip.

Follow those two rules and you're golden. :)

And I suppose there really aren't size guidelines on condoms because condoms are surprisingly durable when used correctly. At the demonstration in my dorm, the woman giving the lecture demonstrated this by putting a regular-sized condom over her forearm.

Magnums and the like are really just for added comfort
and egos...
 
As far as I know "gay feelings" aren't considered sin (or at least not that great). It's homosexual sex that is frowned upon by religion (and priests). Basically, from what I've heard, as long as you restrain your desires and don't have gay sex, you're even free to take communion.

Well masturbating to gay porn isn't considered restraining my desires, and he certainly looked down on that. I rarely ever took communion because of that.

Bi girl, never had those confessions. Then again by the time I was starting to get sexually active I didn't give a fuck about them anymore.

And wow, surprised to see so many people were given "how to put condoms on" talks. All I had were comments from friends and the Internet. Luckily the first time I did that was with a friend so I could practice.

Seriously. I have never once had a "how to put a condom on" lecture. I pretty much just made use of the internet and the instructions on the box.
 
Don't think too much about it! Just remind him that you are only interested in him as a friend (maybe before he invites you to his house next weekend, so he doesn't get his hopes up). Some people think that if you say you're just looking for friendship, they can do something to change that and win you as a partner, I assume that's what he thought anyway.

Hope everything is well, and remember that you don't owe him anything! If he wanted to be a gentleman after you insisted in wanting to pay, it was his decision. And if he develops something further than friendship, well, you don't owe him anything for that either.

Best of luck!
Thank you so much for the advice, I have said yes very vagely now, and will see what happens, he said we will only have fun, play games, watch 3D movies, talk, and go shopping, so I hope that's it. I'm kind of a natural flirt, so I have to tone it down, for both sakes. ^^
 
How do you guys have trouble putting a condom on? This has to be the simplest thing ever.

1) Get it out of the packet (obviously not with your teeth)
2) Put on penis
3) Roll it down to the base
4) ????
5) Profit!!

The only "tricky" part is determining which side you should put it on so you can roll it down. I mean if you can't even manage to do that then maybe you shouldn't have sex.

Just saying.
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How do you guys have trouble putting a condom on? This has to be the simplest thing ever.

1) Get it out of the packet (obviously not with your teeth)
2) Put on penis
3) Roll it down to the base
4) ????
5) Profit!!

The only "tricky" part is determining which side you should put it on so you can roll it down. I mean if you can't even manage to do that then maybe you shouldn't have sex.

Just saying.
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Well...errr...I don't know about anybody else but I'm still confused. I think you should go into more detail about how exactly you put a condom on...*ahem*
 
How do you guys have trouble putting a condom on? This has to be the simplest thing ever.

1) Get it out of the packet (obviously not with your teeth)
2) Put on penis
3) Roll it down to the base
4) ????
5) Profit!!

The only "tricky" part is determining which side you should put it on so you can roll it down. I mean if you can't even manage to do that then maybe you shouldn't have sex.

Just saying.
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Don't you have to pinch the tip?
 
How do you guys have trouble putting a condom on? This has to be the simplest thing ever.

1) Get it out of the packet (obviously not with your teeth)
2) Put on penis
3) Roll it down to the base
4) ????
5) Profit!!

The only "tricky" part is determining which side you should put it on so you can roll it down. I mean if you can't even manage to do that then maybe you shouldn't have sex.

Just saying.
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Well, I dunno, it's harder when you're dealing with someone else's dick. It can rip.

When the condom is small, it is a problem.
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This has happened to me before. Problem with not knowing sizes before buying them...
 
Bi girl, never had those confessions. Then again by the time I was starting to get sexually active I didn't give a fuck about them anymore.

And wow, surprised to see so many people were given "how to put condoms on" talks. All I had were comments from friends and the Internet. Luckily the first time I did that was with a friend so I could practice.

I didn't even know confessions at Catholic schools were a thing. I knew some people who attended them but they never mentioned it.

While our public education system is pretty forthcoming with the information on sex, we never got the condom demonstration. I just bumble through it when the time comes up. Usually when you're at the point of getting the condom out, your partner isn't going to kick you out for not being the suavest individual with a rubber.
 
Plus, there's an Ignore function on this forums and seeing how 90% of GAF uses it on me it seems...

Aren't you a dramatic boy?
First, just because someone doesn't quote you, it doesn't mean they are ignoring you. I see your posts all over GAF (some of them REALLY informative and helpful, which I honestly like), I don't see anyone ignoring you on purpose. Sometimes people read your posts, sometimes they don't. Not everyone can reply to everything.
Second, your self-pity [and your own negativity towards yourself] gets really really tiring. Don't exaggerate, you are usually a nice poster
(except when you are being creepy :P)
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It's understandable: television dramas and romantic comedies have conditioned people to believe that when someone says they don't want to be serious, that it really means they've been hurt in the past and need someone to break through some "shell" so their real desires for love and long-term commitment can come out. In reality, that's really not the case.

I found this funny because I can see the case for it being true :D



Grown up Chandler Massey is cute.
 
This Thursday, I will be getting my week 9 HIV test. Wish me luck!

Yes, I'm still worried about this and won't feel safe until after the 3 month mark, and then again even moreso after 6 months, which is when I will REALLY feel like I'm in the clear.
 
How do you guys have trouble putting a condom on? This has to be the simplest thing ever.

1) Get it out of the packet (obviously not with your teeth)
2) Put on penis
3) Roll it down to the base
4) ????
5) Profit!!

The only "tricky" part is determining which side you should put it on so you can roll it down. I mean if you can't even manage to do that then maybe you shouldn't have sex.

Just saying.
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Welp, this is exactly what I do. ._. I still feel like something's wrong.
 
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