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_Isaac: Dude wants to go the theater with me to see the Avengers since I found out they have caption glasses there now. I dunno how I feel about that. :/
Whaaa...? I've never heard of that. How do they work?

I'm too embarrassed. I'll just jog on the treadmill instead.
Treadmill is great. I lost most of my weight by running on a treadmill on the highest incline. It made my legs awesome.
 
_Isaac: Dude wants to go the theater with me to see the Avengers since I found out they have caption glasses there now. I dunno how I feel about that. :/
I'd also like to know how those work. Dude, you should totally go. Just relax and have fun. Is it that same guy?
 
I'd also like to know how those work. Dude, you should totally go. Just relax and have fun. Is it that same guy?

Yes. Which wouldn't be bad because he'd probably pay. But he keeps going "I hope I'm not forcing you into anything or whatever" to me and I'm like "dude, you aren't. You're just five towns over so that kinda puts a kink in things and I'm not really wanting a relationship. I don't mind hanging out with you" so I mean, I wouldn't mind going to see the Avengers now that I know about these glasses with him but I'm sure he'll want to jump my bones while there and that's kinda a not a good time thing for me.
 
Yes. Which wouldn't be bad because he'd probably pay. But he keeps going "I hope I'm not forcing you into anything or whatever" to me and I'm like "dude, you aren't. You're just five towns over so that kinda puts a kink in things and I'm not really wanting a relationship. I don't mind hanging out with you" so I mean, I wouldn't mind going to see the Avengers now that I know about these glasses with him but I'm sure he'll want to jump my bones while there and that's kinda a not a good time thing for me.

As long as you're explicit about it, and he understands that then it's on him if he gets offended during the hangout.
 
I don't want muscles! I just want less fat!
To be fair, they got muscular because I always had a lot of protein (aka chicken) throughout the day/after running. If you don't intake as much protein, you should be fine. Also, remember, a higher incline makes it more of a challenge.
 
As long as you're explicit about it, and he understands that then it's on him if he gets offended during the hangout.

Well, that's just private conversations. I don't think he'd get offended and I don't think he'd do it, it's just a worry. I don't mind hanging out with him but yeah...
 
Sounds hot. Were they hot? I want friends like that.

They were. No you don't. Seriously. It's like dangling a carrot in front of a rabbit. You want it but you know you can't have it. And it's not like I could say "Don't do that" because on some level, I enjoyed the groping/flashing. /ineedtherapy
 
Oui, that guy sounds familiar. Hrm.

So when someone says "I'm not looking for a relationship" but still wants to talk almost every day, and looks "forward to seeing you" (which sounds like an invitation to casual sex) but then turns around and criticizes the culture's stereotypes including, but not limited to, promiscuity... what does that mean? I'm trying to figure someone out.

That they like attention.
 
dragonlife: I know. But he wants me to bang bang bang him again. And while I'm not one to turn that down... he 1) misadvertised being next town over when he's three-four towns over so five towns away from me normally and 2) kinda pushy about wanting to fuck again despite the fact I told him "well, I mean I wouldn't mind that but it's a bit of a drive... so I dunno when I can do that. But I wouldn't mind hanging out with you sometime" again.

I Also found the glasses on the BBC. I can't find a Sony page about the specifics but Sony and Regal are rolling them out and the local Regal has three of them. You have to leave your license (so you can't steal them, obviously) at the managers box to get one but a deaf friend of mine went with their sibling to the Avengers and was apparently impressed.

I haven't been to the theater since like 2003 so I'm nervous to go again and not understand a film. The theaters here never had a capable system and like that BBC video states they show CC films at like noon on Wednesdays which isn't too good for the majority because people have to be assholes and not go to CC films on Fridays. So Sony's glasses seem really cool from that perspective and kick the asses of the previous CC systems that were basically desks to use.

@Jin: I dunno what you're talking about. D: That said, I don't mind the casual sex with him just logistic issues. :/
 
Oui, that guy sounds familiar. Hrm.

So when someone says "I'm not looking for a relationship" but still wants to talk almost every day, and looks "forward to seeing you" (which sounded like an invitation to casual sex at first) but then turns around and criticizes the culture's stereotypes including, but not limited to, promiscuity... what does that mean? I'm trying to figure someone out.
That they like you in a friendship-only sort of way? That's what I get, honestly. Sometimes it's easy to assume the worst because the worst usually comes to pass; but sometimes they're just genuinely interested in someone platonically.

Regardless, it's all a minefield. Have fun!
 
http://prospect.org/article/my-so-called-ex-gay-life

This is an extraordinarily insightful piece. I'll be thinking about this for some time yet.

And I've just finished this.

It's... remarkable some of the crap people have gone through. It makes my complaints seem really petty and insignificant. And yet, it's also surprising that this stuff is still going on.

I remember back in my second year of university, I had a short article to write on this ex-gay movement. I didn't have much of an interest in it, generally avoiding all that stuff as much as I could, but also couldn't help myself from choosing to do my report on it anyway. Anyway, I basically wrote a criticism on one of the studies that Narth had released that supported the ex-gay therapy's success rate. I didn't think much of it at the time but ended up having an interesting conversation with my T.A. about it afterwards.

It seems really weird to think that all this was only a couple of years ago.
 
Woah, didn't realize there was so much disdain for body hair up in here. Good thing I ain't dating none of you.

(goes off to manicure my lovely chest field)
 
Woah, didn't realize there was so much disdain for body hair up in here. Good thing I ain't dating none of you.

(goes off to manicure my lovely chest field)

Oh, for you babe I'd make a slight exception. But you'd have to wax wax wax a bit of it. ;)
 
@Jin: I dunno what you're talking about. D: That said, I don't mind the casual sex with him just logistic issues. :/
I'll PM you instead. I can go into detail, as a bonus we can talk about what we *really* think about everyone here.
 
Oui, that guy sounds familiar. Hrm.

So when someone says "I'm not looking for a relationship" but still wants to talk almost every day, and looks "forward to seeing you" (which sounded like an invitation to casual sex at first) but then turns around and criticizes the culture's stereotypes including, but not limited to, promiscuity... what does that mean? I'm trying to figure someone out.
Sounds like he or she has decided that at that particular point in time they're not looking for a relationship (being boy/girl friend). However, sometimes people say things even though they don't mean them. Sometimes when we say we don't want something, we actually really do.

Sounds like the person probably likes being in a relationship, you should ask them that. Ask them if they've been in a random/casual encounter, if you want to know more.
 
dragonlife: I know. But he wants me to bang bang bang him again. And while I'm not one to turn that down... he 1) misadvertised being next town over when he's three-four towns over so five towns away from me normally and 2) kinda pushy about wanting to fuck again despite the fact I told him "well, I mean I wouldn't mind that but it's a bit of a drive... so I dunno when I can do that. But I wouldn't mind hanging out with you sometime" again.

I Also found the glasses on the BBC. I can't find a Sony page about the specifics but Sony and Regal are rolling them out and the local Regal has three of them. You have to leave your license (so you can't steal them, obviously) at the managers box to get one but a deaf friend of mine went with their sibling to the Avengers and was apparently impressed.

I haven't been to the theater since like 2003 so I'm nervous to go again and not understand a film. The theaters here never had a capable system and like that BBC video states they show CC films at like noon on Wednesdays which isn't too good for the majority because people have to be assholes and not go to CC films on Fridays. So Sony's glasses seem really cool from that perspective and kick the asses of the previous CC systems that were basically desks to use.

@Jin: I dunno what you're talking about. D: That said, I don't mind the casual sex with him just logistic issues. :/

If the sub glasses aren't too weird, then that's absolutely amazing. I've been to a CC film, and it wasn't on a Wednesday. It was Horrible Bosses on a Saturday morning, which is my regular time for going to the movies. I actually didn't even know it was subbed until the movie started.
 
That they like you in a friendship-only sort of way? That's what I get, honestly. Sometimes it's easy to assume the worst because the worst usually comes to pass; but sometimes they're just genuinely interested in someone platonically.

Regardless, it's all a minefield. Have fun!

Sounds like he or she has decided that at that particular point in time they're not looking for a relationship (being boy/girl friend). However, sometimes people say things even though they don't mean them. Sometimes when we say we don't want something, we actually really do.

Sounds like the person probably likes being in a relationship, you should ask them that. Ask them if they've been in a random/casual encounter, if you want to know more.
I'm dreading the former and hoping for the latter.
 
Seks, those glasses seem really cool. Let me know how they work out for you when you go. Hopefully they do a good job with the subtitles. I'm kind of curious how the technology works now... like how the glasses know what to display at what time and how they know what movie is playing.

I'm dreading the former and hoping for the latter.
Oh, so you want them to like you, hm? :P
 
I'm dreading the former and hoping for the latter.
So you like this person? Well, if he or she's not interested in you in that way, but finds you to be a close friend, you should prepare yourself to feel a little crushed. Friendzoning sounds really harsh.
 
They were. No you don't. Seriously. It's like dangling a carrot in front of a rabbit. You want it but you know you can't have it. And it's not like I could say "Don't do that" because on some level, I enjoyed the groping/flashing. /ineedtherapy

No, I do. Seriously. Friends like that would be so much fun. Even if I couldn't touch. ^__^ Btw, did you ever see them naked? And where did they grope you?/dirty
 
They were. No you don't. Seriously. It's like dangling a carrot in front of a rabbit. You want it but you know you can't have it. And it's not like I could say "Don't do that" because on some level, I enjoyed the groping/flashing. /ineedtherapy

This thread would not have been complete without your stories and awkward situations.
 
Some people just fit the mold, but I can't find none of these little boxes that suit me.

Too old to be a cub, not hairy enough to be a bear, too thin to be a chub but too fat to be an otter... Augh... Also I don't have a single grey hair yet, so the daddy term is awkward too.

And I thought the bear community was the solution to my self-estime problems.

Labels are both in good fun and a problem. It's a hard reminder of how the bear community can and will be more superficial compared to any other clique among gay men.

When I first started going out to ATL I was really self conscious about it. Honestly I thought I was a chub, but my naive self actually asked a couple of guys who all disagreed completely. So now according to the community I'm somewhere between Bear and Cub which suprises me completely.

Anywho, COCKSLING IMPRESSIONS!!!

I wish I was more of a shower than a grower, because then I'd be pressed to wear it for more than just sex. Outside of that I love it. Fits firmly around the shaft and since it tugs the balls outward your balls get extra attention during thrusts. MUCH better than a cock ring for me.
 
Anywho, COCKSLING IMPRESSIONS!!!

I wish I was more of a shower than a grower, because then I'd be pressed to wear it for more than just sex. Outside of that I love it. Fits firmly around the shaft and since it tugs the balls outward your balls get extra attention during thrusts. MUCH better than a cock ring for me.

If you're a grower, then how does it stay on? Won't it just slip off?
 
I'll PM you instead. I can go into detail, as a bonus we can talk about what we *really* think about everyone here.

Here or there? It doesn't really matter I'll get it eventually if you want to go that route.

If the sub glasses aren't too weird, then that's absolutely amazing. I've been to a CC film, and it wasn't on a Wednesday. It was Horrible Bosses on a Saturday morning, which is my regular time for going to the movies. I actually didn't even know it was subbed until the movie started.

Yeah, they don't really advertise the fact they're CC'd in newspapers or online. In fact it's a huge issue for the community in addition to the poor forms of captioning. Like a decade ago like I said, there was a "desk" set up and the captions were projected in reverse to where the desk "caught" the projection and made it right-side-up in the captions. I could see that being annoying for other patrons but yeah... not the best.

Seks, those glasses seem really cool. Let me know how they work out for you when you go. Hopefully they do a good job with the subtitles. I'm kind of curious how the technology works now... like how the glasses know what to display at what time and how they know what movie is playing.

Wireless like Google's "Interactive Transcript" I wager.

I mean that's all CC'd files basically are: Timed-stamped transcripts for the software to know when to "throw up" on the screen. But with these glasses the file is ran remotely and a wireless receiver picks it up to beam on the glasses.

If you're a grower, then how does it stay on? Won't it just slip off?

Snaps on, I would take it.
 
If you're a grower, then how does it stay on? Won't it just slip off?

If i'm flaccid my dick will pop out of the shaft portion when I walk. Of course the sling doesnt go anywhere because its also on your balls.

edit - there are no snaps, its one big piece of rubber.
 
No, I do. Seriously. Friends like that would be so much fun. Even if I couldn't touch. ^__^ Btw, did you ever see them naked? And where did they grope you?/dirty

Naked, nope.

Groping, one guy that I met in Japan always liked to grope me in the nuts. His excuse was "that's how guys play with each other in Switzerland", which earned eye-rolling from other Switzerland people I met while I was there. One girl actually told me to be careful with him, which made me grin and asked "Why?". It's not like he's gonna rape me or anything and he was dating a girl back then.

Another guy, this is back in Australia, is an amateur rugby player. I think I've told this story many times now. He likes to demonstrate how he tackles his opponents in his game. And for some reason, he always likes to use my body to do so. He'd put his arms around my waist and push me to the floor (or almost to the floor before he catched me). Other time, he'd told me to push his chest and he'd grab my arm and pulled me close towards him before tackling me down. The most homoerotic stuff I've done with straight guys. At least with the guy above it was more like juvenile joke. This one was borderline embarrassing at times because sometimes he'd do it slowly and it looks more like a hug instead. Funnily enough, he never did this with his other friends, who he actually knows better.

This thread would not have been complete without your stories and awkward situations.

See above. I aim to please.
 
If i'm flaccid my dick will pop out of the shaft portion when I walk. Of course the sling doesnt go anywhere because its also on your balls.

edit - there are no snaps, its one big piece of rubber.

Oh, you can't explain it like that and run off. Now I'm probably going to have to make a trip to Atlanta to see this...
 
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