I still don't know what a cocksleave is (or whatever its called) and I'm frightened.
*jumps into your arms*
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I still don't know what a cocksleave is (or whatever its called) and I'm frightened.
*jumps into your arms*
Well, I'm probably saner now that I've got some sleep.
I think the easiest barometer is to judge things by is the golden rule. If you're doing something questionable, you should stop and think whether you would be okay with your boyfriend doing the same. At any rate, it was good that you talked to him and fortunate that he's willing to keep giving it another shot.
And changing up your routines and trying something new sounds like an excellent idea as well. Seems you're on a good wavelength already.
Harsh.
GAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAY
I'm not a huge PDA person. Which was weird because not doing PDA with a boyfriend gives he whole "you're just hiding" vibe than not engaging in PDA with a girl. But I did hold hands a few times. A couple of times it was really nice and a couple of times it was really awkward.
That said, I've been verbally harassed when not even doing PDA so I'm not going to fault anyone else for not wanting to do it.
Coppertracks
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I don't mind PDA, as long as you're sensible about it. I'm happy to generally hold hands and be affectionate but I wouldn't go on for a full make out session in a straight pub during a football match.
Although, a couple of my straight friends will jokingly engage in PDA (usually hand holding) with me in public just to see if we get a reaction XD
Although, a couple of my straight friends will jokingly engage in PDA (usually hand holding) with me in public just to see if we get a reaction XD
With as stretchy as it is you can do it hard or soft. Balls first if soft, cock first hard. If figure for the time being I will put it on during foreplay, or have him put it on me hehe. It's tempting to to leave it on all day, it does feel really good while I'm walking.
michaeltraps
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Long time since posting here, but I need an outlet to vent.
My boyfriend of a year and a half and I broke up on Saturday (I was the one that initiated the end) and it's tearing me up inside. I thoroughly broke his heart (and, in turn, mine) but there were fundamental issues with our attitudes and core values (friends, family) that just didn't mesh.
He's insanely busy with work and school, and free time was always an issue for us. Whenever he was free and I had other plans or obligations (previously mentioned friends, family or work), it always resulted in a fight. I would try and make as much free time for him as possible, but when other things got in the way, he felt I wasn't making enough of an effort to utilize the free time he had finally gotten (weekend not studying, in between semesters, etc). His busy schedule often made him irritable and cranky, but he was far from a bad person.
The thing that got to me the most toward the end of our 4 hour long conversation was that he told me to never change, to never lose my sincerity and to not become like him. He also told me that I was going to make another guy insanely happy someday, and that it killed him inside to think that.
I'm not even 48 hours out now and we still have some loose ends to tie up (I was on his phone plan and he has to initiate taking me off of his account) and I'm constantly second-guessing my decision and thinking that I rushed into it. In reality, it was a long time coming in my head, and that makes me feel even more guilty. We even had a brief, 12 hour breakup a month ago that he initiated which he apologized for and made a list of things that he had to change to keep me. While I saw him improving over the last few weeks, our fights still came and it became too much for me to handle.
I just need help processing some of these feelings. (This was my first relationship and my first breakup) I don't hate him, at all. In fact, I still love him very much and care deeply for him. I'm more concerned with him than I am for myself at this point and me "doing this" to him is eating me up inside.
My boyfriend of a year and a half and I broke up on Saturday (I was the one that initiated the end) and it's tearing me up inside. I thoroughly broke his heart (and, in turn, mine) but there were fundamental issues with our attitudes and core values (friends, family) that just didn't mesh.
He's insanely busy with work and school, and free time was always an issue for us. Whenever he was free and I had other plans or obligations (previously mentioned friends, family or work), it always resulted in a fight. I would try and make as much free time for him as possible, but when other things got in the way, he felt I wasn't making enough of an effort to utilize the free time he had finally gotten (weekend not studying, in between semesters, etc). His busy schedule often made him irritable and cranky, but he was far from a bad person.
The thing that got to me the most toward the end of our 4 hour long conversation was that he told me to never change, to never lose my sincerity and to not become like him. He also told me that I was going to make another guy insanely happy someday, and that it killed him inside to think that.
I'm not even 48 hours out now and we still have some loose ends to tie up (I was on his phone plan and he has to initiate taking me off of his account) and I'm constantly second-guessing my decision and thinking that I rushed into it. In reality, it was a long time coming in my head, and that makes me feel even more guilty. We even had a brief, 12 hour breakup a month ago that he initiated which he apologized for and made a list of things that he had to change to keep me. While I saw him improving over the last few weeks, our fights still came and it became too much for me to handle.
I just need help processing some of these feelings. (This was my first relationship and my first breakup) I don't hate him, at all. In fact, I still love him very much and care deeply for him. I'm more concerned with him than I am for myself at this point and me "doing this" to him is eating me up inside.
Second guessing is normal after any break up. Even if you think you did the wrong thing by breaking up, wait a week or two.
I think the weirdest thing that happened was when we came out of the photobooth and these two guys were waiting to take some snaps themselves. Your pics of course are previewed on the screen outside. WELL we had our heads on each other and we were near a kiss in one of the pics. The two guys just looked at us and made a beeline away from the booth.
It's because you left some of the gay virus in the photo booth of course.
I'm not big on PDAs and it's not because I'm afraid that the straights will beat me up. I wouldn't do PDAs in a gay bar either.
I just believe that you should be a lady on the streets but a freak in the sheets
It's because you left some of the gay virus in the photo booth of course.
I'm not big on PDAs and it's not because I'm afraid that the straights will beat me up. I wouldn't do PDAs in a gay bar either.
I just believe that you should be a lady on the streets but a freak in the sheets
If they think the virus was in the booth they should stay clear from the movies. Me and him pretty much dueled with our tongues for half the movie.
FallingEdge
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Dragonlife, you're coming to PS3 in two weeks right?
ora ora ora!
Words to live by. :3I just believe that you should be a lady on the streets but a freak in the sheets
Gosh, that's kind of extreme. I'm 26 and I'm not out to my family yet (although I don't live with them anymore since I moved to another city) but every case is different. I also don't care too much about PDA but that's because I just don't like to be the center of attention in any situation and I'm not a very affectionate guy in general :/
Oh and this thread is really hard to follow now :lol
The most important thing to do right after a breakup is distraction, distraction, distraction. Call up some friends, go out and do some things with people and generally try to busy yourself so that you don't have time to think on it.
Being around others is always good. Also, you can tell them what happened and often be able to milk some free food from them which is always a plus. But yeah, try and put some distance between yourself and the situation.
Probably not what you want to hear, but a year later and I still feel a little guilty over my break-up. So... yeah.
I'm not big on PDAs and it's not because I'm afraid that the straights will beat me up. I wouldn't do PDAs in a gay bar either.
I just believe that you should be a lady on the streets but a freak in the sheets
Can't I be a gentleman on the street?
Like I've said, I'm not a huge PDA person in the first place but I can understand holding back even without worrying that you're going to get beat up. It's really easy to get anonymous shouts from people which can put a damper on the evening. Also, I was dating someone who was bullied and while I know I can take care of myself you can't be certain how your partner will take it when you're in those early stages of a relationship.
I love PDA, both giving and receiving. Then again I'm a very touchy feely kind of guy when given the opportunity. My BF doesn't mind it most of the time.
I think my problem is that the affection feels like its going one way sometimes. What I mean is that I initiate the kiss most of the time, I'm the one cuddling/spooning rather than being cuddled etc (barring this thing we do on the couch where I lay my head in his lap and hug on one of his legs while he rubs my head and shoulders, mmm).
We've already talked about it. Apparently he has a hard time showing affection due to being burned by past relationships although I'm slowly opening him up again. He also inherently really enjoys me being more assertive, both in general affection and in the sheets. That's all fine and dandy, but I also like being on the receiving end of being loved on (stems from my infatuation with older men who usually play a more dominant position from my experience).
He's working on it though which makes me very happy
I think my problem is that the affection feels like its going one way sometimes. What I mean is that I initiate the kiss most of the time, I'm the one cuddling/spooning rather than being cuddled etc (barring this thing we do on the couch where I lay my head in his lap and hug on one of his legs while he rubs my head and shoulders, mmm).
We've already talked about it. Apparently he has a hard time showing affection due to being burned by past relationships although I'm slowly opening him up again. He also inherently really enjoys me being more assertive, both in general affection and in the sheets. That's all fine and dandy, but I also like being on the receiving end of being loved on (stems from my infatuation with older men who usually play a more dominant position from my experience).
He's working on it though which makes me very happy
Yes it is
While we are on the subject of freak in the sheets. Do any of you lot have any weird and wonderful fetishes you would like to share.No gurl
michaeltraps
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Thanks for the help. I've already gotten some free BBQ from one of my friends who helped coached me through this process so that works!
Yeah, it's funny that toward the end, I found myself burying my time in video games, probably as a distraction from my true feelings on the matter. I started up my Guild Wars account again and pre-purchased GW2. I'll have plenty of distraction in that regard at least, but it's those quiet times of the day like driving to and from work or right before bed (when we would always talk) that are the hardest to get through.
THE BRAD SHOW.
Yes it is
I like dudes.
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May I recommend Diablo?
Yeah, those moments it's hard to not think about he situation. I can promise you'll think less of it as time goes on though. So that's a plus.
Oh shit, FallingEdge reads these threads?!
Hehhhhh harsh, but preach it. My ex was the same way and we were dating for 3 years. Never dating a closet case again. N e v e r.
What, a good pair of pecs isn't enough for you?
I heard you like gals too. Damn bisexuals you disgust me
But is that freaky?
... actually, yes it is.
But in the name of furthering discussion, I'm pretty vanilla when it comes to between the sheets. Probably the freakiest thing I'd really like to do is a mixed threesome. I guess I could be open to some things but most fetishes really, really don't do anything for me.
Ah, you're a big fun pillow type of girl.
Maybe? I need some boobs and REAL thighs.
I hear you sister. Nothing better then a big ole pair of thighs, that leads to a big ole juicy butt, yummy.
Shut up you bogan!
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Nice hairy thighs are real thighs. 8)
Whilst I've never watched any of his work, the idea of someone like Buck Angel is hot to me. Is this what you meant?
This is me. If my partner wants to try something I'm usually very open to trying new things, but the things I do like are pretty normal. I think I make up for that by liking the things I like pretty intensely.
I've had an all guy threesome and a two girl threesome, and I've had sex in some weird places that I'm sure there must be fetishes for - but these things just happened, I didn't plan them. I have a tendency to just go with the flow.
Well, I've got jungle fever.
Whilst I've never watched any of his work, the idea of someone like Buck Angel is hot to me. Is this what you meant?
I don't know what this reference is let me just google tha----- O.O
Go on.
Also, your other half started this topic so there must be something pressing in the household.
I've actually had two offers to be the third wheel of a couple's party, but one offer was through a friend of the couple and seemed a little too pimpish to me and the other one was a friend of mine who told me right before she offered that she had slept with a close friend. And, maybe it's just me, but I really can't see anyone that my friends have slept with in a sexual way.
FallingEdge
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This is the part... where you FALL DOWN!
rofl.
I don't but for some reason, I clicked on it today. I think it is that 6th sense I have for any VF talk.
fuck my roomate, he brought the guy from yesterday back again today AND brought a second friend, also with great arms and super uber mega friendly just like the one from yesterday (who is here again)
they are chatting about men things in the kitchen. I'll go there right now after clikcing "submit reply", drink a glass of water and not given a SINGLE fuck about them being there.
HA!!!
they are chatting about men things in the kitchen. I'll go there right now after clikcing "submit reply", drink a glass of water and not given a SINGLE fuck about them being there.
HA!!!
That'll show them, Sphinx!
Hey, that's cool man. I love Virtual Fighter too. I'm especially fond of the characters and... uhh... the ones that um... punch things. And kick. Yeah. Easily my favourite game of all time.
it did, we didn't give a fuck about each other.
the difference is that they don't know what a great catch they are leaving behind! lol.
They're straight, so how could you ever be a great catch for them?
Shhhh, don't spoil this for him.
Everyone is gay for sphinx.
Speaking of PDA, last weekend was the first time I was genuinely fearful for my safety. My boyfriend is in Alexandria, VA for work, and he refused to allow me to hold his hand or put my arm around him when we walked around town. Gay bashings are apparently common down there, or at least far more common than where we live in NYC. He wouldn't even let me put my hand on his knee in a cab!
On my last night there, we went into downton DC for some shrimp and drinks on the water, and again he wouldn't let me touch him. We met an ex of his at a small bar in Dupont Circle to watch him rehearse for an upcoming show, and afterwards, walking to his ex's apartment (and then onward to a gay bar), his ex would tell us stories of all the gays that got shot in the area, or beaten to death, or beaten severely, jumped, etc. It completely changed my view of DC, and I never felt comfortable there. Once we got to the bar, though, I felt safe, and I got a glimpse of just how bad other gays have it in other cities. To be fearful of your safety walking down the street, but then having this little haven in the form of a bar... It was so different for me. I've definitely had it extremely easy, as a gay man. I've never felt threatened, and I've always been surrounded by positive people and a positive "scene." I now have so much more respect for those who come out in difficult environments and don't back down. <3
On my last night there, we went into downton DC for some shrimp and drinks on the water, and again he wouldn't let me touch him. We met an ex of his at a small bar in Dupont Circle to watch him rehearse for an upcoming show, and afterwards, walking to his ex's apartment (and then onward to a gay bar), his ex would tell us stories of all the gays that got shot in the area, or beaten to death, or beaten severely, jumped, etc. It completely changed my view of DC, and I never felt comfortable there. Once we got to the bar, though, I felt safe, and I got a glimpse of just how bad other gays have it in other cities. To be fearful of your safety walking down the street, but then having this little haven in the form of a bar... It was so different for me. I've definitely had it extremely easy, as a gay man. I've never felt threatened, and I've always been surrounded by positive people and a positive "scene." I now have so much more respect for those who come out in difficult environments and don't back down. <3
Leaving behind? No, gurl, you take them from behind!
AceBandage
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Hmmm, is there a place to vent about a non-traditional relationship that doesn't make it seem like I'm grabbing for attention?
Hi five!!! We need more Black/Asian gay couples in this world.
precisely, by being straight they are forever doomed to not be able to rejoice when I am in their presence. They are unable to admire anything on me while I get to admire their arms and butts, who loses here?
I am joking here, hehe
you should probably change places with me. You being Bi, you could play the straight guy card for a while and then when everyone is with a girl at a bar, you can tell anyone of them " You know, being with such a hot girl right now makes me say weird things, "I wanna suck your cock" for example, kinda weird, huh?."
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