RatskyWatsky
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Maybe you could find activities that interest both of you? Discover something together!
How did you two meet? You must have had something in common to start talking, right? Unless it was a blind date or something.
I feel like I have a billion interests and hobbies already and don't feel like cultivating even more. I know how lazy and awful that sounds, but I'm just being honest. It'd be awesome to find someone who might share those already, right? In years past, I actually found myself jealous of even the most socially awkward or unpleasant couples at conventions or other nerdy events merely because they got to share that with each other.
Online, dating site. And I gotta admit, there's a whole lotta chemistry and the more I think about it, the more I'm really happy with it and seeing where it goes.
he's special alright.RatskyWatsky
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Sure, but if you want to make it work, you gotta put in the effort!
That's my point; is it worth putting effort in with so little to build on already? As far as common interests go
I keep having these dreams about guys in my life that I find attractive.Strangely they don't involve sex which is usually the case. In my dream last night a good friend of mine was talking to me as we were walking down the street and I felt him kind of grab onto my hand, and I thought that was strange, but I just went with it. Then he was clearly holding my hand and I said "You're holding my hand?" and he said "I know" and then I just smiled and the dream ended.
It was the sweetest dream ever. WHY MUST IT END?
Ugh happens to me all the time. My best one was still about this kid in one of my classes. Totally straight I think and even my dream had him
getting a bj
I need to investigate lucid dreaming.
Eh, go with it. If the chemistry is still there you've got nothing to lose. You can talk to us about nerdy hobbies.
And you never know, the two of you may discover something that you do share.
That's probably the worst case of straight crush I've read.
Also, I've found that lucid dreaming doesn't usually work for those *ahem* kind of dreams.
RatskyWatsky
Hunky Nostradamus
That's for you to decide! :O
Is that a James Baldwin avatar? You're my favorite person.
Ya it was very weird. To make it weirder the girl doing it was actually my cousin and I honestly have no idea why. I barely even talk or think about her (but she goes here too and was in a frat like he was which is why I guess). I try to forget that part out of pure grossness.
I would say the relationship is worth it to still pursue if you are still interested in each other. Common interests help greatly in a relationship but they wouldn't necessarily be required. Maybe share your interests with each other and maybe both of you will learn to like some them.
chronos4590
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Indeed it is. I changed my avatar among other things to reinvigorate myself. I planned on [and hopefully still] going to do some changes to the way my life is this week[some small some major, some necessary imo], I ended up tumbling down a bit and now i'm trying to regain my self back.I'm trying. So I have his avatar to keep reminding myself about the person I always wish and hope I could become in so many ways.
MyAbsolution
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I keep having these dreams about guys in my life that I find attractive.
It was the sweetest dream ever. WHY MUST IT END?
You're all about the hand holding eh? Yeah I have those dreams too
chronos4590
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Thinking of the subject of lucid dreaming. it always seems to back fire on me in my dream. Or once I'm too self aware [if that makes sense] things stop working and i end up bitching about it mid dream. If i ever began to learn how to control those it makes me wonder if I'd ever want to wake up. I'm sure people do feel that way once they gain control over them
The closest thing i've gotten to anything sexual in lucid dreaming is some dude I couldn't stand at school poking me with his cock. Woke up with the biggest wtf face. Couldn't even stand to look at the kid the following morning. I guess my brain likes to troll while I'm dreaming.
The closest thing i've gotten to anything sexual in lucid dreaming is some dude I couldn't stand at school poking me with his cock. Woke up with the biggest wtf face. Couldn't even stand to look at the kid the following morning. I guess my brain likes to troll while I'm dreaming.
Haha, well..all that plus some other (nice) feelings.
So ignore the threadlines that you aren't interested in and discuss the ones you are. It's what I do in this thread. *gasp!*
hehe people think lucid dreaming is being The One on the Matrix, is not. You require a huge amount of mind control and self knowledge to even try to pull a Neo in your dream, it's very common that when you try to fly you can only lift a few centimeters form the ground, imagining guys is also never what you actually expect, and experiences like yours are very common, hooking up with guys you couldn't even imagine when trying to fulfill a sexual fantasy, usually the guy I'm looking for morphs into another guy, is terrible, is like you can't maintain it. The lucid dream also begins to break fast, whenever I enter lucid dreaming the dream world begins to collapse.
I guess with a lot of meditation, or dream analysis, or therapy, I don't know, you could really control your lucid dreams, but you are in your subconscious realm, and it often gets the best of you. If anything it gives lots of food for thought. Like, for example, what was really your deal with this guy you couldn't stand in school?
Personally, a semy-lucid dream I had recently really helped me solved some conflicts I had, it was an exhausting but incredible rewarding experience, I woke up crying, ok not even crying, sobbing about my dad, and I couldn't stop, but I solved some big issues, it was pretty amazing.
One of the worst days so far. A lot of people messing with me while my mood isn't exactly the best lately and seriously my mind set isnt on the right way of thinking. I'm getting tired of everything and my self hate is high today. Really what a great day for what might be the worst week judging by my poor decision making skills.
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You're all about the hand holding eh? Yeah I have those dreams too
It's weird though. Most of my dreams involving people I find attractive involve us having sex.
It's a nice change.MyAbsolution
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It's weird though. Most of my dreams involving people I find attractive involve us having sex.
Well most of mine are about that too but yes its a refreshing change. You seem to have had hand holding on your mind in your last bunch of posts so no wonder it came up when you were asleep. And did you ever see that cute gay pizza boy again
?Necromanti
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It's strange. Whenever I've dreamt about someone I've liked, I think my dreams have been more innocent. You'd think one's chances would be improved in a dream. But no, rarely sexual ones, and if it trended towards that, my dream fizzled. I guess I can't dream about something intangible. :d
Great choice for inspiration. Insofar as I have heroes, James Baldwin would definitely be one of them, and he's certainly somebody I aspire to be. Hope those changes work out well for you.
As somebody whose dreams consist mostly of incredibly uncomfortable situations, reading about other people's sex dreams is so weird.It's weird though. Most of my dreams involving people I find attractive involve us having sex.
Exactly. I don't think anything vaguely romantic or sexual has happened in any of my dreams, and if it begins to steer in that direction, my brain blanks and the dream ends.
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umop_3pisdn
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Go all hardcore and take up Tibetan Dream Yoga. Skilled practitioners apparently recall dozens of dreams in a single night, have near absolute control over them, and their dreams are actually more vivid and clear than even waking reality (!) But you basically have to maintain constant mindfulness all day which is hard.
Me too, usually. I don't really dream about people I know, either, if I fall for someone in a dream it's basically always some character created within that dream. Innocent dream romances are fun, though, especially since I never really fall for anyone in real life.
That's pretty cool. Have you ever tried it?
umop_3pisdn
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Admittedly no, it's a little beyond my depth. My mindfulness isn't stable enough to do what's essentially a constant reality check (in lucid dreaming terms). The tradition I follow is more Theravada than Tibetan and that is offering me enough to work on. I have played around with the standard lucid dream induction methods and I do find that meditation has a positive effect on my dream vividness and recall, etc, but the LD thing hasn't really been a priority for me since I began to really get interested in Buddhism. It's something I plan to cultivate later on to maintain awareness during the various stages of sleep, but I expect that that will be a ways off. I do own the book and it's an interesting read, though.
MidnightScott
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There was so much drama today between me and Enrique and my friends. Taking sides gets you no where. -_-;
Anyway, pic of me, mom, and brother at Benihana on my birthday on Tuesday:
http://sphotos-b.xx.fbcdn.net/hphotos-prn1/534646_10150926085716646_901876481_n.jpg
I look so damn cocky in that pic it's unbelievable. xD
Anyway, pic of me, mom, and brother at Benihana on my birthday on Tuesday:
http://sphotos-b.xx.fbcdn.net/hphotos-prn1/534646_10150926085716646_901876481_n.jpg
I look so damn cocky in that pic it's unbelievable. xD
excelforward
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Oh, that's my usual go-to. We just tend to get several conversations going on at once (which I think is awesome) that makes it a bit dense to get through sometimes. Again, not that I'm complaining as it makes me glad to see so much activity going on in this thread.
Also, condescending much?
VICTORsaurio
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I've been feeling pretty crappy since yesterday. As I said before, last friday I talked to my crush (who, if you haven't been following, is in a relationship) and we agreed to stop texting each other so frequently (almost everyday), try to keep things under control and be "regular friends".
Then I texted him on monday, chatted for a bit about random stuff, ended up feeling like crap so I haven't really talked to him again, even though I really miss it/him. I don't know how he feels but I hate thinking that I'm here being all miserable thinking about him while he just goes on with his life. I like to believe that he does miss talking to me but I guess it doesn't really matter.
Back when I confessed him my feelings for him and I was having a rough time facing this situation he told me a couple of times something like it didn't matter how he feels and he didn't really want to talk about that because it would make things even more complicated than they already are. He just wanted me to get over the fact that we can't be together.
So I think it's best for me not to text him anymore, it's pretty pointless and the last time I did I ended up feeling worse than I felt before. Not sure if I will actually be able to do it for long. I guess he might eventually reach me after not hearing from me for a while. Or maybe not.
I believe he's just probably trying to figure out how to deal with all this information, since apparently he didn't have a clue about me having feelings for him. It's only been a little more than 3 weeks since I told him.
Also it makes me feel very guilty that my ex is probably going through the same thing with me :'(
And I hate that I've become this needy/whiny person. Someone shoot me!
Then I texted him on monday, chatted for a bit about random stuff, ended up feeling like crap so I haven't really talked to him again, even though I really miss it/him. I don't know how he feels but I hate thinking that I'm here being all miserable thinking about him while he just goes on with his life. I like to believe that he does miss talking to me but I guess it doesn't really matter.
Back when I confessed him my feelings for him and I was having a rough time facing this situation he told me a couple of times something like it didn't matter how he feels and he didn't really want to talk about that because it would make things even more complicated than they already are. He just wanted me to get over the fact that we can't be together.
So I think it's best for me not to text him anymore, it's pretty pointless and the last time I did I ended up feeling worse than I felt before. Not sure if I will actually be able to do it for long. I guess he might eventually reach me after not hearing from me for a while. Or maybe not.
I believe he's just probably trying to figure out how to deal with all this information, since apparently he didn't have a clue about me having feelings for him. It's only been a little more than 3 weeks since I told him.
Also it makes me feel very guilty that my ex is probably going through the same thing with me :'(
And I hate that I've become this needy/whiny person. Someone shoot me!
This image was too cute not to post
Yeah I've been in a similar situation and it definitely blows. Hate to say it but you just have to cut the guy out of your life (as painful as it is) in order to move on. Talking to him will only remind you of what you don't have and will make you feel even worse. But I think you already know that based on what you posted. Try to move on and focus on yourself for a while
michaeltraps
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On the topic of dreams, I had a huge dream sequence this morning.
There were like four dreams, each slightly different from the previous. I woke up during some of them, went back to bed and continued the dream. This happens to me once in a while. Also, I don't feel like waking up because I want to continue the dream.
There were like four dreams, each slightly different from the previous. I woke up during some of them, went back to bed and continued the dream. This happens to me once in a while. Also, I don't feel like waking up because I want to continue the dream.
This image was too cute not to post
This is exactly why I feel like finding someone with common interests is important. Too adorable
On the topic of dreams, I had a huge dream sequence this morning.
There were like four dreams, each slightly different from the previous. I woke up during some of them, went back to bed and continued the dream. This happens to me once in a while. Also, I don't feel like waking up because I want to continue the dream.
*LeoInceptionSquint.jpg*
We need to go deeper, hateradio.
I have dreams of the love of my life occasionally and it makes me feel terrible.
I'm condescending because it's such a weird complaint. "We have too many topics going on a community thread! It's like being at a bar!"
"...Uh... isn't that the point of the community thread?"
"YEAH! BUT TOO MANY CONVERSATIONS! D:"
"..."
This image was too cute not to post
At least they're doing it right.
So this guy doesn't like games of the video variety?
Who's the love of your life?*LeoInceptionSquint.jpg*
We need to go deeper, hateradio.
I have dreams of the love of my life occasionally and it makes me feel terrible.
My dreams weren't within each other, just a sequence.
I've had a lot of lucid dreams and I always fly. I think to have a successful flying dream you need to flap your arms it seems to work for me
I actually don't know why I have so many lucid dreams, I think it's because I suffer from sleep paralysis. What drama? don't your friends like your new guy.
P.s cute pic Scott
umop_3pisdn
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I've had a lot of lucid dreams and I always fly. I think to have a successful flying dream you need to flap your arms it seems to work for me
I've never really had trouble flying in lucid dreams. Sometimes you just have to 'trick' yourself into finding it plausible, as dreams basically proceed according to our expectations. One time I just imagined that I was riding some kind of invisible, flying motorcycle, and then it became really easy
I've had a lot of lucid dreams and I always fly. I think to have a successful flying dream you need to flap your arms it seems to work for me
Flapping my arms has never worked. You need to propel yourself more like Ironman or Superman.
Necromanti
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Ever considered that your bed might be an Animus?On the topic of dreams, I had a huge dream sequence this morning.
There were like four dreams, each slightly different from the previous. I woke up during some of them, went back to bed and continued the dream. This happens to me once in a while. Also, I don't feel like waking up because I want to continue the dream.
But truthfully, it would be cool to have some sort of lucid-dream machine hooked up to my bed. Gaming of the future.Oh my, the innuendo.This image was too cute not to post
Manifesting powers within a dream has always been difficult for me. In my Animorph dreams from the distant past, I recall conjuring up efforts not dissimilar from trying to push out a stubborn bowel movement. Just glad I haven't had any accidents in my sleep.
I've become such an addicted shipper lately that I even ship people who I know in real life. It's a plague. Help.
I've been fucked while being sucked before. While I was on my back. What position is that called again? I'm not good with names.
excelforward
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T'was never meant to be a complaint. My intent was for humor, not that I actually mind all the conversations going on. Sorry if it came off as such.
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whore.
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VICTORsaurio
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Oh God!!! he just texted me!!!! what do I do??
***acts like a teenage girl***
***acts like a teenage girl***
Ah yes, the whore position. Who can forget that one.
I think you mean missionary, homes.
Weren't you cutting this guy from your life?
VICTORsaurio
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I know that's what I should do, I just wish I didn't have to do it.
I said that I wasn't going to reach for him anymore, I guess I'll just talk it out with him, I don't want to be an ass and just ignore him.
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