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CHEEZMO
Obsidian fan
Bel Marduk
Banned
Prince Albert.. you know.. a dick piercing.
CHEEZMO™;40139286 said:
I've never heard of this before. Crazy.
Edit: And now I just looked it up on Wikipedia. Jesus, why would you do that.
So... yeah. It's confirmed. I know a racist. I don't know how I feel about this.
Yup. That made me laugh.
Yup. That made me laugh.
CHEEZMO
Obsidian fan
My condolences.
In what ways is he racist? The kind of person who believes in stereotypes without knowing it, or the vitriolic, hateful kind (or someone in between)?
Bel Marduk
Banned
Well.. that's no good at all. Is this someone who told a racist joke? I mean, that's usually ok with me because I feel no one or no group of people is above a joke.. but if this is someone who hates or resents a race of people then.. no. Is this person gay? If they are, they should know better.
RatskyWatsky
Hunky Nostradamus
I know tons of racist people. And I'm related to all of them. :/
I'm not really sure of the extent of it. To be fair, he's a friend of a friend. I found out because he dropped a racial epitaph while we were watching community last night. Which really made Pierce's jokes awkward for the rest of the evening. And it wasn't as a joke but just as a way to refer to one of the actors.
Talking with my friend now, turns out he mostly hates Asians though and only moderately everyone else? It's strange, since I've known him since high school though I never really spent much time hanging out with him unless my friend was there as well.
It's just really strange since my friend himself is not. Course, he seems pretty apathetic to this aspect of the guy which I, personally, think is pretty damn abhorrent. So... yeah. Not really sure what to do. I mean, I never had much interest in hanging out with the dude before since he's pretty abrasive in general. But should I say something to my friend or just let this slide?
And no, he's not gay.
This song echoes how I would feel.
I'd call him on it, especially if he said it seriously and wasn't trying to be funny. It would be different if he made a joke in poor taste, but if he used a slur in a completely straightforward manner, he shouldn't get away with it. I've yelled at people (or rather, the same person) for using the terms Jap and nigger, and then completely ignored him when he played it off as me being overly sensitive, so I don't think saying something would be an overreaction. If this guy's not even much of a friend of yours, it's not as if there's a whole lot to lose.
I forgot how good They Might Be Giants are.
Perhaps you should take and show some pictures first before judging where people take their photos.
Edit: Post 4444, my GAF password!
Wow are you trying to win the "being an ass award"?
Can't sleep. Reading anything in OT that tickles my fancy. It's been a while since I was an OT regular.
Of that last sentence, I only know who/what Madonna is, haha.. and I haven't been out to a club in about a decade. Sad, eh?
And you're damn right on the bathroom mirror pics. Way too much potential for something to be, umm, "wrong."
I haven't been clubbing until very recently. After letting myself go at a club in nyc i thought maybe clubbing isn't so bad after all.
Oh I think I found that mashup of the two songs on youtube
Madonna VS LMFAO - Wild Party Music (Robin Skouteris Mashup)
Now I know that DJ was horrible if he is pulling mixes off youtube.
I am so not going to the club today my body feels beaten up after dancing all night. Another added bonus was an old acquaintance pulled me aside and told me i lost a lot of weight.
Well, when he said it I just stared at him in disbelief. He corrected himself by saying, "Oh, sorry. The negro kid."
Basically, this has just cemented my complete disdain for the guy. So I have no interest in talking to him ever again. That said, I don't know if I should tell my friend I'm not going to hang out with him whenever he's with this guy anymore or not. Like, am I overstepping my place by airing my grievance with his friend to him or should I just not bring it up?
I don't think you need to make an announcement to your friend that you don't want to associate with the guy, but if he asks why you don't want to be with his friend (too many friends, they need codenames we can refer to them by), be upfront about it.
So, I went to see Marina and Diamonds last night, and I talked for a little bit with this guy, and had like, the briefest of conversations with him. He just asked my friend and I what we did, and I told him I was a student, studying video game design and production. He asked if he could get in front of me when Marina came on and I politely said "Haha, no, sorry." because fuck that. So thankfully he backed off and didn't try to push his way forward, and ended up being able to give her his gift anyway (which was a shirt, and pretty cool).
So the concert was awesome, and out of boredom while waiting for Marina to come out and sign stuff, I check Grindr, and I see a couple people are like <100 feet away, and I see they have Marina-related things in their profiles so I send a message or three to people that's like "Marina was amazing, wasn't she?" and stuff like that.
2 of the people I messaged are like "Yeah she's perfect/amazing/gorgeous/beautiful/omg", and the response I get from the third person is...well, very interesting.
#dead :lol I didn't even laugh, because I was in shock and I literally didn't realize who this was until I responded much later. What the fuck? lmao
So the concert was awesome, and out of boredom while waiting for Marina to come out and sign stuff, I check Grindr, and I see a couple people are like <100 feet away, and I see they have Marina-related things in their profiles so I send a message or three to people that's like "Marina was amazing, wasn't she?" and stuff like that.
2 of the people I messaged are like "Yeah she's perfect/amazing/gorgeous/beautiful/omg", and the response I get from the third person is...well, very interesting.
#dead :lol I didn't even laugh, because I was in shock and I literally didn't realize who this was until I responded much later. What the fuck? lmao
Sounds like a pretty awkward situation... If I was you I would just casually bring it up in a conversation with your friend just to get a feel for what your friend feels about a situation like this. Then after that you can always decide to have a serious talk about it or decide another route (although I have no idea what route... I mean, where it comes to my own believes, maybe I sound like an asshole, but I cannot respect someone who is a racist, I just cannot. I know, freedom of speech and all but racism? In this day and age? Note done imo).
To me, the situation of specificially this guy, isn't worth losing a friend over so this racist guy shouldn't get between you and your friend and the friendship you have imo.
@Sai-kun - He called you "rude" for not letting him go in front of you? Talk about "self entitlement" :lol
If you're not feeling comfortable being around the racial guy you should definitely talk to your friend. Otherwise expect lots of awkward situations when either you or your friend will have to choose who to hang out with. I doubt you can convince your friend to stop hanging out with the racial guy, especially since, as you've said, he feels apathetic to the issue, but maybe he can convince him to at least suppress his racism talk when you're around.
And I really can't understand how can you hate someone just because of race. I can (well, sort of) understand why people may dislike LGBT people (Bible, religion, disgust, feeling uncomfortably, thinking it's weird etc.), but race? In this day and age? C'mon.
If you're not feeling comfortable being around the racial guy you should definitely talk to your friend. Otherwise expect lots of awkward situations when either you or your friend will have to choose who to hang out with. I doubt you can convince your friend to stop hanging out with the racial guy, especially since, as you've said, he feels apathetic to the issue, but maybe he can convince him to at least suppress his racism talk when you're around.
And I really can't understand how can you hate someone just because of race. I can (well, sort of) understand why people may dislike LGBT people (Bible, religion, disgust, feeling uncomfortably, thinking it's weird etc.), but race? In this day and age? C'mon.
excelforward
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Eh, pretty much the same reasons as anyone would want to pierce anything: because they like the way it looks and/or just want to. Those piercings come with the added bonus of adding some sensitivity (generally) when you wank or have sex.
More power to those people, but just looking at the pictures was painful enough.
Dead Prince
Banned
idk why i read that as 5 year old talking to you llol.
xxczx
Member
to catch a predator, 2012 grindr come back
He's one of "those people."
Ever since he had it installed it has given him this miraculous ability to detect when conversations about piercings in places that should not be given extra holes arise and instantly appear there.
Oh, I see. I don't even know what to say.
excelforward
Member
Don't diss The Gift! Just because I comment on them to provide education doesn't mean I seek them out. I'm just good at finding them.
BeesEight, that situation sounds dreadful. I had something rather similar happen recently with a family member:
I learned recently that my uncle was racist. Well, let's amend that. More racist than I already knew. He was jabbering on about white people having paid their debt to black people (His logic: We brought them over, and then we enslaved them And that was a mistake. Yes, "a mistake." And then we let them go. And now they are here in America, and America is so awesome that we're square.) Did I mention that he thinks that the only reason rich people are rich is because they "dream bigger dreams"? He also thinks that his inability to make a White People for Romney group is evidence of discrimination against white people. And he's convinced that The Muslims are out to get him.
It's so weird seeing an otherwise well-adjusted person become a complete and utter fuckwit because they lack any critical thinking faculties to allow them differentiate between "This chain e-mail is probably bullshit" and "This chain e-mail is definitely bullshit" because there is no other kind.
It does seem sort of weird in your situation. I just argue with him, but he's a friend of a friend and it doesn't really seem like the thing to bring up. Now that you know this about him, I suppose the best you could do is be prepared to push back on it and make it clear that you don't find it acceptable?
None of us did, lunch.
I learned recently that my uncle was racist. Well, let's amend that. More racist than I already knew. He was jabbering on about white people having paid their debt to black people (His logic: We brought them over, and then we enslaved them And that was a mistake. Yes, "a mistake." And then we let them go. And now they are here in America, and America is so awesome that we're square.) Did I mention that he thinks that the only reason rich people are rich is because they "dream bigger dreams"? He also thinks that his inability to make a White People for Romney group is evidence of discrimination against white people. And he's convinced that The Muslims are out to get him.
It's so weird seeing an otherwise well-adjusted person become a complete and utter fuckwit because they lack any critical thinking faculties to allow them differentiate between "This chain e-mail is probably bullshit" and "This chain e-mail is definitely bullshit" because there is no other kind.
It does seem sort of weird in your situation. I just argue with him, but he's a friend of a friend and it doesn't really seem like the thing to bring up. Now that you know this about him, I suppose the best you could do is be prepared to push back on it and make it clear that you don't find it acceptable?
None of us did, lunch.
I didn't even think about that... I mean, how the hell does that work without pissong all over yourself? Is there like a special training you receive after getting a PA or something?
Hi there welcome.
Been a lurking non-member for over 6 years
For the most part, anything I've wanted to say, someone here says it better anyway.On the topic of Grindr; yes, it is definitely an app where older guys (40+) will not hesitate to take their chances. (I'm 26 btw, which is apparently old enough that some of the boys on there say "oh it's ok, I'm into older guys!" >_<) But it's not just older guys; some of the younger guys on there are straight-up LIARS about their age. An "18" year old messaged me, and when I told him he looked really young, he says he's 15. 15! WTF are those kids doing on an app like Grindr? That's way more dangerous than a violent video-game...
Welcome. Is that a strip joint or something? Voyeur.
No it's just the after-hours club. Next to Woody's.
I would have went if it was a good strip club.
excelforward
Member
I didn't even think about that... I mean, how the hell does that work without pissong all over yourself? Is there like a special training you receive after getting a PA or something?
Nah, you just quickly realize urinals aren't your friend. I never had a PA, though. I had something a bit else, but ya'll seem a bit weirded out so I won't go into details.
I find this weirdly fascinating, so I want details.
<+)O Robido O(+>
Member
Deets!
excelforward
Member
Alrighty. I had an apadravya (NSFW) piercing. I had it initially gauged at a 10, but went down to a 12 since the 10 was kind of heavy. Getting done was absurdly painful, but within a minute my endorphins kicked in and I was fine. It took me about two weeks to get past the first bits of healing and do anything with it aside from go to the bathroom. It was tender for probably two or so weeks, and then would only occasionally hurt if I did something weird to it.
Otherwise, once it healed it was pretty awesome. I took it out about two years ago for an MRI, but I am going to get a PA done in late August. Once that heals up, I'm going to go back for the full deal again, likely. I kind of miss it, and it made for a great conversation piece. You wouldn't believe the amount of people who tell you to whip it out once they find out you've gotten it done.
If you've got any more questions, feel free to PM me about it.
CHEEZMO
Obsidian fan
I would never get one myself, but it'd be interesting to do it with someone who has one. Although piercings like that (and piercings in general) make me nervous because I'm just afraid of potential damage that could be done if it gets stuck on something, or someone/something pulls too hard or jals;kfja;lksjfakljsf fsaughhhhhhhh ow
Wait you're gay? *Falls over*
What do you have that it could get stuck on?
excelforward
Member
CHEEZMO;40152421 said:
Well, it WAS marked NSFW.
It got caught on my jeans once or twice, which was a weird pulling sensation, but easily fixed. The only real annoyance was laying on my stomach could put it in some weird positions that were uncomfortable. When you top, though, you've gotta be extra careful with your partner (at least initially). Though, from bottoms that I had it with, I've gotten favorable reviews.
So would you actually whip it out when they asked you?
Also are you still with that "Chicago boy?"
excelforward
Member
I have a couple of times, but not that often. And yep, still with him. We're going to be hitting three years in November, and it's still pretty damned awesome. It's kind of weird to realize how long I've been lurking/posting to GAF. It's gotta be going on five years now.
Been a lurking non-member for over 6 years
Yeah, I had the same experience for awhile. And then when I finally decided to register, I learned that the e-mail address I had was not going to cut it.
Well you did take a bit of a vacation, too.
I remember when you were first posting about this in the original topic.
I ALSO remember when you took it out one day and just LEFT IT ON YOUR DESK FOR ME TO PICK UP /scarred for life
Look up a Jacob's Laddder, they are just as bad. I really don't see the appeal of any piercing down there and am honestly a little turned off by them. I personally don't want any sort of needle anywhere close to that area of my body.
So, I went to see Marina and Diamonds last night, and I talked for a little bit with this guy, and had like, the briefest of conversations with him. He just asked my friend and I what we did, and I told him I was a student, studying video game design and production. He asked if he could get in front of me when Marina came on and I politely said "Haha, no, sorry." because fuck that. So thankfully he backed off and didn't try to push his way forward, and ended up being able to give her his gift anyway (which was a shirt, and pretty cool).
So the concert was awesome, and out of boredom while waiting for Marina to come out and sign stuff, I check Grindr, and I see a couple people are like <100 feet away, and I see they have Marina-related things in their profiles so I send a message or three to people that's like "Marina was amazing, wasn't she?" and stuff like that.
2 of the people I messaged are like "Yeah she's perfect/amazing/gorgeous/beautiful/omg", and the response I get from the third person is...well, very interesting.
#dead :lol I didn't even laugh, because I was in shock and I literally didn't realize who this was until I responded much later. What the fuck? lmao
Wow, self entitled much? I can maybe see the guy asking if he could stand next to you or something if you were taller than him but just to blatantly call you rude for not letting him get the better view point just makes him look like an ass. I get to a concert as early as I can to get a better choice of spots in a GA concert, not show up late and then expect people to step aside because I think I am better than someone.
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