ASD is a conscious or unconscious process that women, especially younger women, go through to avoid the perception of being “slutty” or “too easy.” Women will often go out of their way to portray themselves as “nice girls,” even going so far as to proclaim indifference or even aversion to sex, when in fact the opposite is true. AFCs will often take such proclamations at face value, instead of considering the sub-communication. This leads to frustration for both parties.
Examples of ASD include women emphasizing the romantic aspects of a relationship, while downplaying the sex; underestimating the number of sexual partners they’ve had in the past; or making statements like “I don’t usually do this!” to maintain the image that they are good girls.
Before sex, anti-slut defense often manifests as token resistance put up by the woman to demonstrate that they resisted the sexual advances, which helps absolve them of their guilt of sex, which originates mostly from social programming. Post-sex ASD often involves justifications for the sex act: “It just happened,” “he wouldn’t give up,” “I was really drunk,” etc. PUAs should take this tendency of women into consideration, and make sex as easy for her as possible by taking the lead and responsibility for sex, and providing her with convenient excuses for sleeping with them.
Older and more experienced women (such as cougars) are often more comfortable with their sexuality, and less concerned with others’ perception of them. They will put up less of an ASD facade, although most will maintain some pretense for respectability’s sake.
