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As I said, the movie is rather meh. It's like a C-grade "romantic comedy", but without the charm and appeal of actual romantic comedy. But hey, at least there are few bears there ;)

I gotta be honest here, I would've never watched that movie for the story, but I guess that's already pretty obvious now haha :)

Sure I can go to a bar or a party, but what if I meet a guy I like and actually hit it of, what then, should I say, "Let's wait untill after my surgery and everything is healed before we go any further, okay?". It's making me really insecure cause I'm ashamed of it and it makes we want to just stay in. Sigh, it's just frustrating and it's getting me down pretty bad.

/end rant.

Really, don't be insecure and ashamed. I used to be ashamed of some operations I had for my intestines and anus which posed similar problems for me, and told people I had "stomach pains". But once I got over that shame I just told people what I had and found out it was only a problem in my head. Of course, my situation may be lots different than yours but at least, don't deprive yourself of going out and meeting people. :)
And of course, good luck with the surgery!
 
The guy was considering the operation because he had a hard time finding a job for a long time (well, people judge you by your look after all). Health issues were also mentioned at some point IIRC. So I still think his boyfriend was just a selfish asshole ("You want to change your look in order to improve your currently miserable life? But what about me?!").

Oh I see, I guess I did not remember the exact circumstances. And don't get me wrong, I also thinks the boyfriend is an ass for not supporting his boyfriend who obviously has self-esteem issues. Just thought that maybe he had a good reason to oppose this, ha.

Got back from a holiday in France, all chilled out, well, kind of.

Now it's time to make a doctors appointment and get a surgery planned. Hope it
pilonidal sinus, don't google picture it
heals this time. Already got surgery for it once, came back, getting more extensive surgery this time. I've been out of the closet for a couple of months now, nothing is holding me back to actually start dating except for this shit and it's driving me crazy. Sure I can go to a bar or a party, but what if I meet a guy I like and actually hit it of, what then, should I say, "Let's wait untill after my surgery and everything is healed before we go any further, okay?". It's making me really insecure cause I'm ashamed of it and it makes we want to just stay in. Sigh, it's just frustrating and it's getting me down pretty bad.

/end rant.

The weather has been pretty nice though.

IMO that's a completely normal reaction. Hopefully you'll get the surgery soon and will get better so you can launch yourself in the dating world. All the best with this.
 
Now it's time to make a doctors appointment and get a surgery planned. Hope it
pilonidal sinus, don't google picture it
heals this time. Already got surgery for it once, came back, getting more extensive surgery this time. I've been out of the closet for a couple of months now, nothing is holding me back to actually start dating except for this shit and it's driving me crazy. Sure I can go to a bar or a party, but what if I meet a guy I like and actually hit it of, what then, should I say, "Let's wait untill after my surgery and everything is healed before we go any further, okay?". It's making me really insecure cause I'm ashamed of it and it makes we want to just stay in. Sigh, it's just frustrating and it's getting me down pretty bad.

I have (had?) this. Got some cream and pills to take care of it. I'm not entirely sure if it's gone. Most of the symptoms have seemed to disappeared though there was like... one day while I was in Italy where it seemed to come back. But I could just be crazy and it could have just not been fully healed.

Speaking of which, I should really shave that area again to try and prevent it from returning.

But as for impacting the sex, can't you just say "not there for now?"
I'm a top so it doesn't really affect me for that sort of fun.
 
Got back from a holiday in France, all chilled out, well, kind of.

Now it's time to make a doctors appointment and get a surgery planned. Hope it
pilonidal sinus, don't google picture it
heals this time. Already got surgery for it once, came back, getting more extensive surgery this time. I've been out of the closet for a couple of months now, nothing is holding me back to actually start dating except for this shit and it's driving me crazy. Sure I can go to a bar or a party, but what if I meet a guy I like and actually hit it of, what then, should I say, "Let's wait untill after my surgery and everything is healed before we go any further, okay?". It's making me really insecure cause I'm ashamed of it and it makes we want to just stay in. Sigh, it's just frustrating and it's getting me down pretty bad.

/end rant.

The weather has been pretty nice though.

You just have to postpone that kind of stuff until you get better. Don't worry you'll get there. It really sucks that you have to have surgery for it AGAIN. Why did it come back? Did they give a reason? Is that too personal of a question?
 
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face is clearing up finally. i hate summer weather. ruins it D:

started P90x again.


i'm 220lbs at the moment. thighs are like super big so meh.
 
face is clearing up finally. i hate summer weather. ruins it D:

started P90x again.



i'm 220lbs at the moment. thighs are like super big so meh.

Ah, so you are the one I added to FB! I wasn't sure who you were here. Nice pictures. =D

Just spent the last two hours making edamame lo mein and realized why I never cook since it takes too long. Also just spent too much money on a seriously awesome Final Fantasy art book by Yoshitaka Amano that is coming out in October.
 
Coming out to my parents in a couple of hours :S
Good luck man. I just came out to my family for the first time last month. If you need someone to talk to, feel free to reach out to me. Be strong and know that what you are doing is very courageous, and although we have never met, you have my full support :)
 
Thanks guys. It didnt go badly. I never thought it would be particularly dramatic or anything, as I know my parents love me know matter what. But I wasnt prepared for the akwardness I think. My Dad said maybe 2 sentences the whole time. I had a counsiller with us who I had been seeing and he made it a lot more easier.
My parents are quite conservative Christians (well, IMO) when it comes to being gay. So. while they said it was a suprise, they havent or dont ever feel like disowning me, still love me ect. But I think they would feel that following through and having romantic gay relationships is not acceptable.
Anyway, first step done.

:)
 
Thanks guys. It didnt go badly. I never thought it would be particularly dramatic or anything, as I know my parents love me know matter what. But I wasnt prepared for the akwardness I think. My Dad said maybe 2 sentences the whole time. I had a counsiller with us who I had been seeing and he made it a lot more easier.
My parents are quite conservative Christians (well, IMO) when it comes to being gay. So. while they said it was a suprise, they havent or dont ever feel like disowning me, still love me ect. But I think they would feel that following through and having romantic gay relationships is not acceptable.
Anyway, first step done.

:)

I'm glad it went well. How old are you? Do you still live with them? That was an interesting idea to bring a counselor along.
 
Thanks guys. It didnt go badly. I never thought it would be particularly dramatic or anything, as I know my parents love me know matter what. But I wasnt prepared for the akwardness I think. My Dad said maybe 2 sentences the whole time. I had a counsiller with us who I had been seeing and he made it a lot more easier.
My parents are quite conservative Christians (well, IMO) when it comes to being gay. So. while they said it was a suprise, they havent or dont ever feel like disowning me, still love me ect. But I think they would feel that following through and having romantic gay relationships is not acceptable.
Anyway, first step done.

:)

My parents are also conservative Christians. I think they might react similar to yours, though I don't feel ready to tell them yet. I'm glad things went well for you
 
My Dad said maybe 2 sentences the whole time.

My parents are quite conservative Christians (well, IMO) when it comes to being gay. So. while they said it was a suprise, they havent or dont ever feel like disowning me, still love me ect. But I think they would feel that following through and having romantic gay relationships is not acceptable.

Pretty similar to the way my Christian parents took it (weird to think this was only six years ago -- and I'm in my mid-30s!). Glad things went well for you, and if they're anything like mine, they'll get over that whole issue with following through on sinful urges eventually once it sinks in that this ties quite significantly into their son actually living a happy life.
 
Congrats, Thorndyke! That's a huge event!

I don't get scared of many things at all anymore, but coming out to my parents was one of the scariest things as an adult. Fear of being rejected by two people whom I adore? Ouch. But when he found-out about HylianGreg, Dad was glad to get "another son" who likes talking about house projects, firearms, and football, haha..

And Mom - she kinda knew. It seems like a lot of Moms know, eh? Now she wants to go see Magic Mike, hehe..
 
It is possible if you are feeling this way at your age that you either are bisexual and are just now coming to a point in your life where you recognize what feelings you have for boys for what they are, or you are gay and have simply been deeply in denial.

Pffft. Or he can be on and off gay like some of us. :|
 
Thanks guys. It didnt go badly. I never thought it would be particularly dramatic or anything, as I know my parents love me know matter what. But I wasnt prepared for the akwardness I think. My Dad said maybe 2 sentences the whole time. I had a counsiller with us who I had been seeing and he made it a lot more easier.
My parents are quite conservative Christians (well, IMO) when it comes to being gay. So. while they said it was a suprise, they havent or dont ever feel like disowning me, still love me ect. But I think they would feel that following through and having romantic gay relationships is not acceptable.
Anyway, first step done.

:)

Congrats :)
Was the counselor needed?
 
Thanks guys.

You just have to postpone that kind of stuff until you get better. Don't worry you'll get there. It really sucks that you have to have surgery for it AGAIN. Why did it come back? Did they give a reason? Is that too personal of a question?

There's no reason really, it's just that the chance of reoccurence is pretty big. Luck needs to be on your side. And I've read so much horror stories online, of people getting 6 surgeries and it still came back, or the wound taking years to heal. But I guess I shouldn't be reading those stories, all they do is freak me out.

And grats Thorndyke! When I told my mom she said she didn't know, the idea of me being gay didn't even come up in her head. Guess I hid it well, lol.
 
Yea that happens all the time. Are you asking cuz you hope someone you know is gay lol? The straight crush... oh boy.

It was my straight crush. I'm over it now, thing is, when I'm with him (we're still, let's say, "friends") and some friends, sometimes, he has strange behaviors that lead me to believe that something is happening in his head. And the "pieces of the puzzle" point mostly to him being bissexual/gay.
I'm not really hoping for him to be gay, but now that the crush is gone I'm just trying to figure him out.
 
Whoops, didn't see Thorndyke's update. Wonderful news!

And yes, it seems like Moms often know. Or aren't in as deep denial about the possibility, anyway.

Mine didn't/is in denial. Though I haven't told my dad. But since I only see him a total of two times a year, it's not really high on my list of things to do. I am a little curious how he would take it.

And just want to echo everyone else, Thorndyke. Congrats!
 
Whoops, didn't see Thorndyke's update. Wonderful news!

And yes, it seems like Moms often know. Or aren't in as deep denial about the possibility, anyway.

It's funny because I came out after thinking my mom knew since she was dropping hints. However I recently had a discussion with her where she told me she had NO IDEA before I came out and that it took her by surprise.
 
It's funny because I came out after thinking my mom knew since she was dropping hints and I recently had a discussion with her where she told me she had NO IDEA before I came out and that it took her by surprise.

My mom asked me. I didn't even have to tell her which made it easy.

BTW, congrats Thorndyke!
 
So yesterday I went to the doctor because I have pink eye and I thought a urinary tract infection. They did an STD test, it cost $150 for that alone. $25 for the visit, $20 for the urinalysis, and $35 for the medication. I won't know my results of the STD test for a week, I pray I have nothing.
 
So yesterday I went to the doctor because I have pink eye and I thought a urinary tract infection. They did an STD test, it cost $150 for that alone. $25 for the visit, $20 for the urinalysis, and $35 for the medication. I won't know my results of the STD test for a week, I pray I have nothing.

$150 for an STD test?? They don't have free clinics in your area?

Damn, no wonder people don't get tested that often.
 
So yesterday I went to the doctor because I have pink eye and I thought a urinary tract infection. They did an STD test, it cost $150 for that alone. $25 for the visit, $20 for the urinalysis, and $35 for the medication. I won't know my results of the STD test for a week, I pray I have nothing.

The fuck?
 
$150 for an STD test?? They don't have free clinics in your area?

Damn, no wonder people don't get tested that often.

Well I went to this low cost place called Ibn Sina Foundation in Houston. My mom said I should've just went to a free clinic for that but I don't know where those are and just want this shit gone whatever it is.
 
So yesterday I went to the doctor because I have pink eye and I thought a urinary tract infection. They did an STD test, it cost $150 for that alone. $25 for the visit, $20 for the urinalysis, and $35 for the medication. I won't know my results of the STD test for a week, I pray I have nothing.

Sweet Thanksgiving gravy, that's an expensive visit.
 
can't wait for the home test kit.
And miss out on an old lady sticking a cotton bud up my arse? nothankyou.jpg :P

I'm going to guess that most European countries have these services for free - here in Ireland I can get a full STI/STD screen for free, as many free condoms and lube sachets as you can fill your pockets with, free vaccination program against Hepatitis A and B and free counselling. All paid for through the public health system under a program called 'The Gay Men's Health Project'.

So it always seems so crazy to me when I hear about American medical bills. Yeouch.
 
And miss out on an old lady sticking a cotton bud up my arse? nothankyou.jpg :P

I'm going to guess that most European countries have these services for free - here in Ireland I can get a full STI/STD screen for free, as many free condoms and lube sachets as you can fill your pockets with, free vaccination program against Hepatitis A and B and free counselling. All paid for through the public health system under a program called 'The Gay Men's Health Project'.

So it always seems so crazy to me when I hear about American medical bills. Yeouch.

Sounds like socialism to me. You dirty commie
 
And miss out on an old lady sticking a cotton bud up my arse? nothankyou.jpg :P

I'm going to guess that most European countries have these services for free - here in Ireland I can get a full STI/STD screen for free, as many free condoms and lube sachets as you can fill your pockets with, free vaccination program against Hepatitis A and B and free counselling. All paid for through the public health system under a program called 'The Gay Men's Health Project'.

So it always seems so crazy to me when I hear about American medical bills. Yeouch.

i see you're into old ladies too. *high five*. does it work if i marry someone who has free health care or is it for citizens only?
 
i see you're into old ladies too. *high five*. does it work if i marry someone who has free health care or is it for citizens only?
I didn't like it so much when she had to stick the cotton bud in *there*...

She just looked so old (I'm talking 80, not the 60-odd she had to have been), it was so cute and hilarious when she starts asking me about the last time I had sex and asks 'What about anal?'. This needs to happen in a rom-com.

I think strictly it would be for EU citizens only but I don't think they'd turn you away. Marriage would get you citizenship anyways after a few years, even for gayboys in civil partnerships.
 
I didn't like it so much when she had to stick the cotton bud in *there*...

She just looked so old (I'm talking 80, not the 60-odd she had to have been), it was so cute and hilarious when she starts asking me about the last time I had sex and asks 'What about anal?'. This needs to happen in a rom-com.

I think strictly it would be for EU citizens only but I don't think they'd turn you away. Marriage would get you citizenship anyways after a few years, even for gayboys in civil partnerships.

i think i know where i'm living ;P
 
I didn't like it so much when she had to stick the cotton bud in *there*...

She just looked so old (I'm talking 80, not the 60-odd she had to have been), it was so cute and hilarious when she starts asking me about the last time I had sex and asks 'What about anal?'. This needs to happen in a rom-com.

Did you tip her when she pulled out?
 
Did you tip her when she pulled out?
Please, I know some folks are into 'sounding' but no. Ouch. She'd have to pay *me* if she wanted to do more than that. :P

A nurse I know once told me that when she used to do STI screens that there are less painful ways to do certain tests, but that for some people they don't go as gently as they could to discourage risky behaviour. I always found that funny, if only because I'm sure it's more likely to discourage going to get tested.
 
Exactly what it means.

If I knew what that meant, I would not have asked. If you weren't going to answer, why are you wasting my time with an obnoxious non-answer?

What you described just sounds like someone who is bisexual, but you said that was not the case. So what are you talking about? How is one on and off gay?
 
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