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Eh. If someone sends me a message asking to meet up and fool around its an instant turn off.

I think MY biggest problem personally is I have picky tastes. I'm not attracted to that many guys (not that im only into picture perfect models, i prefer average); and it doesnt help that effeminate guys really don't do it for me. No offense to anyone.

Yeah, I'm the same... or I was. Are there any gay meeting sites that aren't geared toward hook ups?
 
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Hide your husbands.
 
you have made an habit of coming every once in a while to post your pics, indirectly ask for compliments and then disappear for another couple of weeks. You don't even engage in discussion or topics.

I am sure you are a nice guy but.... WTF. hehe :D

Well I was vacationing so that's why I wasn't around. And I was being sarcastic, I know I need to workout more and was gonna ask for a few tips after I was done with dinner but you ruined everything :/

I have zero arm strength so what should I start with? I've tried bench pressing but that's way too hard for me apparently and one of my shoulders is bigger than the other one and it can't keep up. Guess I'll have to try weights or something?
 
Well I was vacationing so that's why I wasn't around. And I was being sarcastic, I know I need to workout more and was gonna ask for a few tips after I was done with dinner but you ruined everything :/

I have zero arm strength so what should I start with? I've tried bench pressing but that's way too hard for me apparently and one of my shoulders is bigger than the other one and it can't keep up. Guess I'll have to try weights or something?

Deadlifts, squats, and bench press (dumbbell bench press in this case). Deadlifts are good for EVERYTHING- core, back, hamstrings, shoulders, and forearms. Squats will help your core, glutes (gotta have that butt!), and quads. Dumbbell bench press will help your chest, shoulders, biceps, and triceps. Add some pull ups/negative pullups and you'll be on your way in no time!

Nerd Fitness has some really good resources and videos.

Tip 1: Shave your chest.

Don't shave your chest. ;)
 
Deadlifts, squats, and bench press (dumbbell bench press in this case). Deadlifts are good for EVERYTHING- core, back, hamstrings, shoulders, and forearms. Squats will help your core, glutes (gotta have that butt!), and quads. Dumbbell bench press will help your chest, shoulders, biceps, and triceps. Add some pull ups/negative pullups and you'll be on your way in no time!

Nerd Fitness has some really good resources and videos.

I'll check that out :) But do I need to adapt stuff because of my weaker shoulder? Left one can't lift as much as the right one and they already look uneven enough as it is.
 
I'll check that out :) But do I need to adapt stuff because of my weaker shoulder? Left one can't lift as much as the right one and they already look uneven enough as it is.

Nah. Lift the same weight with both arms. It'll probably be too easy for your right and maybe too hard for the left, but keep at it and it'll catch up in no time. I had a similar problem with my left bicep/forearm. It was minor, but did make a difference. Now they're equal after a year of work.
 
Deadlifts, squats, and bench press (dumbbell bench press in this case). Deadlifts are good for EVERYTHING- core, back, hamstrings, shoulders, and forearms. Squats will help your core, glutes (gotta have that butt!), and quads. Dumbbell bench press will help your chest, shoulders, biceps, and triceps. Add some pull ups/negative pullups and you'll be on your way in no time!

Well, since someone brought up the fitness stuff...

I currently don't have access to a chin up bar and I looked all over my apartment for some sort of replacement to no avail. I was wondering what sort of exercises I could do in lieu of that to work my back. I already do these things called 'Heavy Pants' and 'Lawnmowers' (thank you p90x) but I need about three or four more weighted exercises.

I do have a barbell if that makes things easier. I don't have a bench though.
 
Was anyone here ever involved in a long-distance relationship? Any advice? I'm going to Miami next month to visit an ex, and I'm super-nervous... It will probably be a year, at least, before either of us could relocate, so um... yeah... any success stories??
 
Was anyone here ever involved in a long-distance relationship?

Yes

Any advice?

No.


Mine didn't work out so well. Personally, I wouldn't do it again, but I think one thing that would help is having a plan to end the long-distance relationship. It can be something along the lines of "as soon as X finishes his degree he's going to move to Y." That way, there's some goal that you can look forward to other than a nebulous "eventually we'll be together when the stars align."
 
Well, since someone brought up the fitness stuff...

I currently don't have access to a chin up bar and I looked all over my apartment for some sort of replacement to no avail. I was wondering what sort of exercises I could do in lieu of that to work my back. I already do these things called 'Heavy Pants' and 'Lawnmowers' (thank you p90x) but I need about three or four more weighted exercises.

I do have a barbell if that makes things easier. I don't have a bench though.

Deadlifts. Deadlifts, deadlifts, deadlifts. They're seriously the best exercise you can do.

If you're talking upper back (i.e. shoulders, lats, and delts), then I say cleans, inverted rows, or holding a weight in front of you for as long as you can hold it straight.
 
Deadlifts. Deadlifts, deadlifts, deadlifts. They're seriously the best exercise you can do.

If you're talking upper back (i.e. shoulders, lats, and delts), then I say cleans, inverted rows, or holding a weight in front of you for as long as you can hold it straight.

I need to start doing this.
 
Deadlifts. Deadlifts, deadlifts, deadlifts. They're seriously the best exercise you can do.

If you're talking upper back (i.e. shoulders, lats, and delts), then I say cleans, inverted rows, or holding a weight in front of you for as long as you can hold it straight.

Yeah, I'm looking for upper back.

Clean is where you pick it up and fling it on your chest right? Those always worry me. I'll give the weight holding one a go though.
 
Was anyone here ever involved in a long-distance relationship? Any advice? I'm going to Miami next month to visit an ex, and I'm super-nervous... It will probably be a year, at least, before either of us could relocate, so um... yeah... any success stories??
Here.

Met my partner in December 1996 in college. We were both students at Ole Miss (one hour south of Memphis). He was one year ahead of me in terms of when we'd be getting our degrees. In December 1999, after much debate and discussion about where we'd want to live after school was over, he moved to Austin (a fourteen-hour drive) while I stayed behind to finish my degree. I would not be done until December 1999.

We didn't do much video chat, but did the phone call thing several times per week, and emails all the time. We'd visit each other on average every other month. Sometimes we'd each drive seven hours and just meet for a night or two in a crappy north-Texas hotel. He knew no one in Austin but the dog (our beloved Jake-Jake!), my grades suffered a bit, and there were moments of doubt, but I guess it worked. We're homebodies, as we're both of that possibly-politically-incorrect mindset that "the scene = drama = trouble," so I think that this helped tremendously.

But we swore to never do anything of the sort ever again, hehe..
 
Deadlifts really are an awesome exercise. I prefer to do the sumo variant though, where your leg stance is wider and your hands are between them to grip the barbell. Regular deadlifts would wreak havoc on my shins.
 
So I just sort of started flirting with someone in front of the ex :$
I was dropping him at a club where he was invited to some sort of party. I pulled up so he would get out of the car. Then I noticed this guy I know was sort of waiting outside the club. I called him, he didn't seem to recognize me at first, then we started chatting.

After a bit my ex told me he was getting off the car, I was like "OK, bye" and continued talking to him... I know it sounds terrible but I just didn't really notice it after it all happened.

Some details on the guy: I first met him around 3 years ago I think, he was friends with my boss's wife and was always hanging out at the office. I always found him extremely hot and had some sort of crush on him. He's friends with some other (not so close) friends of mine. We've never REALLY talked to each other, except some random DMs on twitter and the occasional small talk

Also every time I meet him, I don't know why but greeting him is the most awkward situation ever. I'm never sure if I should hug him or just shake hands (I usually hug people unless it's someone I just met). So we always end up with some sort of weird handshake/hug, it's very awkward and I've never really figured out why so.

I did some freelance work a couple of months ago for the office he works at so we used to see each other a couple of times a week, so I just sort of wanted to catch up.

I believe he just ended a relationship too, according to his posts on tumblr/twitter. He was sort of surprised that I was not staying at the club, he asked why but I didn't want to tell him that we broke up, I felt it would have been slightly out of place.

So that was that.
 
So I came home to the smell of burning metal. Apparently my dad broke his computer. He says that it was probably my fault because I wasn't taking care of it (I only use it for school). I checked and he placed the fan against the side of a wall. Clearly it overheated.

Afterwards he had used my netbook and dropped it apparently. It fell appart in pieces and I put it back together but it's not really fitting entirely well. With this I got pissed and told him not to break my things. This sort of led to an argument of him telling me that I never do anything with my life and that I don't have any plans for the future. He went on about the fact I'm having a year off school just because I had problems in my first year in university is my fault, even though he threatened to kick me out if I didn't go to it. He also told me that going to learn art is as irresponsible as going to learning music professionally.

I currently am learning vocals and recently piano at my local music store. He literally shat on all of my dreams and kept on rambling about it. After 10 minutes of this shit I stormed to my room. He doesn't even know I'm gay and he'd probably kick me out the moment he finds out. This also happened the moment I came back from a shift where a bunch of my coworkers found it fun to make fun of my stutter (I have social anxiety and was forced on till by them).

I hate myself and everything going on in my life...

All of my friends are gone and I have no one to talk to, so I'm sorry if this is a bit off topic. I just need to vent a little.
 
So I came home to the smell of burning metal. Apparently my dad broke his computer. He says that it was probably my fault because I wasn't taking care of it (I only use it for school). I checked and he placed the fan against the side of a wall. Clearly it overheated.

Afterwards he had used my netbook and dropped it apparently. It fell appart in pieces and I put it back together but it's not really fitting entirely well. With this I got pissed and told him not to break my things. This sort of led to an argument of him telling me that I never do anything with my life and that I don't have any plans for the future. He went on about the fact I'm having a year off school just because I had problems in my first year in university is my fault, even though he threatened to kick me out if I didn't go to it. He also told me that going to learn art is as irresponsible as going to learning music professionally.

I currently am learning vocals and recently piano at my local music store. He literally shat on all of my dreams and kept on rambling about it. After 10 minutes of this shit I stormed to my room. He doesn't even know I'm gay and he'd probably kick me out the moment he finds out. This also happened the moment I came back from a shift where a bunch of my coworkers found it fun to make fun of my stutter (I have social anxiety and was forced on till by them).

I hate myself and everything going on in my life...

All of my friends are gone and I have no one to talk to, so I'm sorry if this is a bit off topic. I just need to vent a little.

It gets better once you move out. My advice: stay and finish school. Try to tolerate your home life until then. But pursue your dream, don't let others lead you astray.
 
So I came home to the smell of burning metal. Apparently my dad broke his computer. He says that it was probably my fault because I wasn't taking care of it (I only use it for school). I checked and he placed the fan against the side of a wall. Clearly it overheated.

Afterwards he had used my netbook and dropped it apparently. It fell appart in pieces and I put it back together but it's not really fitting entirely well. With this I got pissed and told him not to break my things. This sort of led to an argument of him telling me that I never do anything with my life and that I don't have any plans for the future. He went on about the fact I'm having a year off school just because I had problems in my first year in university is my fault, even though he threatened to kick me out if I didn't go to it. He also told me that going to learn art is as irresponsible as going to learning music professionally.

I currently am learning vocals and recently piano at my local music store. He literally shat on all of my dreams and kept on rambling about it. After 10 minutes of this shit I stormed to my room. He doesn't even know I'm gay and he'd probably kick me out the moment he finds out. This also happened the moment I came back from a shift where a bunch of my coworkers found it fun to make fun of my stutter (I have social anxiety and was forced on till by them).

I hate myself and everything going on in my life...

All of my friends are gone and I have no one to talk to, so I'm sorry if this is a bit off topic. I just need to vent a little.
It makes me sad to read that. I've had many of those days where every single thing seems to go wrong. I think life is full of struggles but as we get older we learn to deal with them in the best way possible.

There's still lots of good stuff ahead of you. I know my parents weren't too happy about me studying graphic design but now they're really proud of me and they're very interested in it. They also struggled when they found out I'm gay. I didn't really come out to them, they just found out going through some of my stuff when I was a teenager. There was lots of fighting and disagreements, even with my brother and sister but now we're all good :)
 
So I came home to the smell of burning metal. Apparently my dad broke his computer. He says that it was probably my fault because I wasn't taking care of it (I only use it for school). I checked and he placed the fan against the side of a wall. Clearly it overheated.

Afterwards he had used my netbook and dropped it apparently. It fell appart in pieces and I put it back together but it's not really fitting entirely well. With this I got pissed and told him not to break my things. This sort of led to an argument of him telling me that I never do anything with my life and that I don't have any plans for the future. He went on about the fact I'm having a year off school just because I had problems in my first year in university is my fault, even though he threatened to kick me out if I didn't go to it. He also told me that going to learn art is as irresponsible as going to learning music professionally.

I currently am learning vocals and recently piano at my local music store. He literally shat on all of my dreams and kept on rambling about it. After 10 minutes of this shit I stormed to my room. He doesn't even know I'm gay and he'd probably kick me out the moment he finds out. This also happened the moment I came back from a shift where a bunch of my coworkers found it fun to make fun of my stutter (I have social anxiety and was forced on till by them).

I hate myself and everything going on in my life...

All of my friends are gone and I have no one to talk to, so I'm sorry if this is a bit off topic. I just need to vent a little.

Sorry for your troubles, keep hanging in there.
 
So I came home to the smell of burning metal. Apparently my dad broke his computer. He says that it was probably my fault because I wasn't taking care of it (I only use it for school). I checked and he placed the fan against the side of a wall. Clearly it overheated.

Afterwards he had used my netbook and dropped it apparently. It fell appart in pieces and I put it back together but it's not really fitting entirely well. With this I got pissed and told him not to break my things. This sort of led to an argument of him telling me that I never do anything with my life and that I don't have any plans for the future. He went on about the fact I'm having a year off school just because I had problems in my first year in university is my fault, even though he threatened to kick me out if I didn't go to it. He also told me that going to learn art is as irresponsible as going to learning music professionally.

I currently am learning vocals and recently piano at my local music store. He literally shat on all of my dreams and kept on rambling about it. After 10 minutes of this shit I stormed to my room. He doesn't even know I'm gay and he'd probably kick me out the moment he finds out. This also happened the moment I came back from a shift where a bunch of my coworkers found it fun to make fun of my stutter (I have social anxiety and was forced on till by them).

I hate myself and everything going on in my life...

All of my friends are gone and I have no one to talk to, so I'm sorry if this is a bit off topic. I just need to vent a little.

Damn, thats a really shitty day. Your dad sounds like a total a-hole (no offense)... talk about judgmental. Do you two ever have moments where you get along or he is nice?

Your coworkers are dicks too, I guess ive been very fortunate in my workplaces as ive made loads of friends at them. With your friends gone, maybe try to keep in touch via facebook/skype and play video games with them (are they close friends)? Its what i do, helps me from being lonely.

& Don't hate yourself on account of being surrounded by morons.
 
This sort of led to an argument of him telling me that I never do anything with my life and that I don't have any plans for the future. He went on about the fact I'm having a year off school just because I had problems in my first year in university is my fault, even though he threatened to kick me out if I didn't go to it. He also told me that going to learn art is as irresponsible as going to learning music professionally.

Don't you love supportive parents? :/
As SpaceBridge said, pursue your dreams and don't let others shatter them. It's your life, not your fathers'.

This also happened the moment I came back from a shift where a bunch of my coworkers found it fun to make fun of my stutter (I have social anxiety and was forced on till by them).
Shitty people are shitty. I'm a regular stutterer so I know what you feel - I had to deal with people (mainly during teenage years) making fun of me too. I can only say that it gets better, because adults are more understanding to such things (although it still is annoying when you can't easily say things).

Damn, so many chest hair lovers. What's the world coming to?

Trimmed chest hair are sexy. That's the truth ;)
 
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