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[Acid08]

is she a virgin or inexperienced? that might be why.

Neither, she's had sex plenty with past boyfriends. We're not dating though, so maybe that's holding her back? I don't have much interest in being in a relationship with her though. From the way she talks about it she doesn't want a relationship either but wants to get physical with me.

I've done all the things in the post above which she's okay with but any attempted escalation above that and she immediately pushes me away and says no.

 

[Acid08]

I dislike it how my girlfriend were chatting with a random guy on facebook last night and in his message he says she replied him late the night before but there are no messages. Yet, she knows I can read those messages but it's still annoying. It's not because they are chatting about anything (just casual, are u still sleeping? No etc talk). It annoys be because it really feels like it's easy for others to get in touch with her like, I don't understand why she have a need for chatting with a random guy?

Your girlfriend is allowed to have friends, deal with it. Or new dick etc.

 

[Branson]

Yeah I know im over thinking it. It became so bad I didn't even want to go out because I was afraid of running into her with another guy.

Or guys. Fuck.

So I've noticed since ive been single that every good looking girl has a boyfriend. Fuck.

 

[Pachimari]

She have a LOT of friends it's no problem. Just wanted to hear if it's normal that one's gf chat with random guys. Screw it I'm probably just over thinking this shit lol. Besides she's not even interested in meeting him or get new friends as she's leaving the country soon.

 

[Vermillion]

From SimplePickup's Twitter:

"People who say you need to have money and good looks to date a girl are chumps. You have more to offer than superficial shit"

Happy Wednesday, Dating-Age!

 

[NeOak]

It sounds like you completely ignored every piece of advice given to you in this thread and are setting yourself up to go through the same bullshit over and over again. She has learned she can get away with it with "Martin" or whoever she pleases, and the fact you're willing to throw away what you have now for a chance to be hurt again is mind boggling.

Any further occasions where she cheats on your, hurts you, etc is your own fault and honestly, you had/have it coming.

He's an idiot that is too blinded to see the reality of his dilemma. She grinded another dude and everything is "fine"? Pssssh

 

[low-G]

Neither, she's had sex plenty with past boyfriends. We're not dating though, so maybe that's holding her back? I don't have much interest in being in a relationship with her though. From the way she talks about it she doesn't want a relationship either but wants to get physical with me.

I've done all the things in the post above which she's okay with but any attempted escalation above that and she immediately pushes me away and says no.

Are you sure she's into you / that she does want to be physical with you beyond cuddling? And what makes you think that?

I dislike it how my girlfriend were chatting with a random guy on facebook last night and in his message he says she replied him late the night before but there are no messages. Yet, she knows I can read those messages but it's still annoying. It's not because they are chatting about anything (just casual, are u still sleeping? No etc talk). It annoys be because it really feels like it's easy for others to get in touch with her like, I don't understand why she have a need for chatting with a random guy?

That's a bit over controlling. Are you getting the attention & love from her that you want? Because there are times she's going to talk to other humans, some of which are men.

 

[low-G]

She have a LOT of friends it's no problem. Just wanted to hear if it's normal that one's gf chat with random guys. Screw it I'm probably just over thinking this shit lol.

But seriously yeah, that's nothing to worry about. It's up to you to judge when you're getting enough and when a girl is cheating on you, even emotionally.

But I've done a lot of stuff with girls in relationships whatever and there wasn't really anything behind it in many of those cases. You kind of have to play it by ear.

 

[Pachimari]

It's highly likely that I'm just stressed right now
and the experiences she have brought me through that affect me.

And I NEVER EVER tell her she can't talk with others. And she have a LOT of guy friends and she's very social so I don't think I'm being controlling at all.

It was just a thought I had in my head, I never tell her she can't do this or that.

But I don't think it's very nice that she told her ex that she probably still loves him, I dont think it's nice that a guy from a dating site called her while we had sex and she went on to talk with him and I surely don't think it's nice that she didn't wanna leave the bar before she got this one guy's number, so she could call him the next morning and be extremely sweet to him, also telling me I should dress and have the same hairstyle as her last ex. All of that hurt me inside. But it's all in the past now anyway. I probably just miss her, haven't seen her for 3 weeks.

 

[Minamu]

Sounds like you evaded becoming a murder victim lol

That's funny, I gave her my number and said jokingly that she could contact me as long as she wasn't an axe murderer, because then I would've made a terrible mistake and a fool of myself xD Got a text two minutes later...

Anastacio, man this girlfriend is a piece of shit. She acts like she has already broken up with you, but forgot to tell you. A dating site guy called during sex and she talked to him instead of being with you? You gotta be kidding! Why is she on a dating site to begin with?

 

[windz]

But I don't think it's very nice that she told her ex that she probably still loves him, I dont think it's nice that a guy from a dating site called her while we had sex and she went on to talk with him and I surely don't think it's nice that she didn't wanna leave the bar before she got this one guy's number, so she could call him the next morning and be extremely sweet to him. All of that hurt me inside. But it's all in the past now anyway. I probably just miss her, haven't seen her for 3 weeks.

What the fuck? Want to know why you're so paranoid? Cause she has walked all over you in the past and flaunted it right in your face, and now that you aren't able to see what she's doing most of the time, your mind gets to wander and go over all the BS she's pulled thus far. All in the past? Uhhh, obviously it's not and it still hurts, don't kid yourself here - you're still bothered by all the crap she stirs up. Just don't be like "Man, I don't like how you do X" - cause she hates the word man and you might get into a fight over that /rolls eyes.

Have fun while it lasts (it won't).

 

[subversus]

Anyone ever date while not owning your own car? has it ever become an issue with your GF/BF?

hell yes, I can't even drive a car.

I live in a city where it's pointless though.

 

[LosDaddie]

Just wanted to get GAF's opinion on this: Would a lady being a virgin deter you from dating her?

I ask because I've mentioned my 28yo never-had-a-BF sister-in-law in here before, and last week she had a mental breakdown (curled up on her bed, not talking to anyone, etc.) because, among other things, a co-worker told her that nobody on Match.com would want to date her because she's a virgin.

Personally, a lady being a virgin wouldn't scare me off. If I get along with a lady well enough, then I'd date her. But yes, eventually kissing & hand holding woudn't be enough for me.

So, what can I do? I don't like most people, but I want a relationship? How does that work? I feel like forcing/faking interest is lowering my standards.

YOu can start by dropping that shitty attitude of yours, and not thinking you're better than everybody else. I know 2 people like that (especially the whole "lower my standards" bit), and they are both single & miserable like you. Seriously, you need an attitude check. The whole part about people having to "impress" you is laughable.

Unless you're rich and/or a celebrity, ladies aren't going to try to impress you. Get over yourself.

 

[Pachimari]

What the fuck? Want to know why you're so paranoid? Cause she has walked all over you in the past and flaunted it right in your face, and now that you aren't able to see what she's doing most of the time, your mind gets to wander and go over all the BS she's pulled thus far. All in the past? Uhhh, obviously it's not and it still hurts, don't kid yourself here - you're still bothered by all the crap she stirs up. Just don't be like "Man, I don't like how you do X" - cause she hates the word man and you might get into a fight over that /rolls eyes.

Have fun while it lasts (it won't).

Funny read but we really don't get into fights, we are both very calm people in tone. But yeah it still hurts a bit and that's probably why I'm over analyzing the smallest of things while she's away, which I shouldn't do.

 

[Kung Fu Grip]

yeah, I'd look the same way.

I mean you should at least have a mobile phone. Other shit is optional but Facebook wouldn't hurt. Just some basic profile and pics.

Really don't feel like adding another bill to my life. Oh, well. If needs to be done.........

Anyone ever date while not owning your own car? has it ever become an issue with your GF/BF?

This! I want to know this too.

I've had my drivers licence since 2004, but i never owned a car.

 

[subversus]

But I don't think it's very nice that she told her ex that she probably still loves him, I dont think it's nice that a guy from a dating site called her while we had sex and she went on to talk with him and I surely don't think it's nice that she didn't wanna leave the bar before she got this one guy's number, so she could call him the next morning and be extremely sweet to him, also telling me I should dress and have the same hairstyle as her last ex. All of that hurt me inside. But it's all in the past now anyway. I probably just miss her, haven't seen her for 3 weeks.

lol, I remember that.

bail out, dude

 

[windz]

Funny read but we really don't get into fights, we are both very calm people in tone. But yeah it still hurts a bit and that's probably why I'm over analyzing the smallest of things while she's away, which I shouldn't do.

Glad I could make you laugh. In time either you will simply have to trust her or continue to be paranoid/over analyzing things. It's tough making that transition if you've had bad experiences in the past. Takes time to build trust either way.

 

[Minamu]

No car, no license, no problems.

I would probably not date a virgin. Not that there's anything wrong with it but I remember how crazy and stupid I became out of "love" for this woman that I wouldn't want to deal with the off chance of the reverse happening to me.

 

[subversus]

About a virgin - I would date a virgin if I like her but she should tell me about this right before we have sex. Because I may act rationally in the opposite case.

 

[Cubsfan23]

But I don't think it's very nice that she told her ex that she probably still loves him, I dont think it's nice that a guy from a dating site called her while we had sex and she went on to talk with him and I surely don't think it's nice that she didn't wanna leave the bar before she got this one guy's number, so she could call him the next morning and be extremely sweet to him, also telling me I should dress and have the same hairstyle as her last ex. All of that hurt me inside. But it's all in the past now anyway. I probably just miss her, haven't seen her for 3 weeks.

how you can you type stuff like this and look in the mirror? This is mindblowing to me.

 

[low-G]

Just wanted to get GAF's opinion on this: Would a lady being a virgin deter you from dating her?

I ask because I've mentioned my 28yo never-had-a-BF sister-in-law in here before, and last week she had a mental breakdown (curled up on her bed, not talking to anyone, etc.) because, among other things, a co-worker told her that nobody on Match.com would want to date her because she's a virgin.

Personally, a lady being a virgin wouldn't scare me off. If I get along with a lady well enough, then I'd date her. But yes, eventually kissing & hand holding woudn't be enough for me.

Regarding dating, as long as she was willing to move on from being a virgin, which she may or may not ever be, and it's not necessarily the job of any guy to do that for her. She may have to do it herself or she may not want to move on or she might not be able to do it without real help (beyond a boyfriend).

But not only do I need sex, I may want kids...

bad stuff

Holy crap dude, I didn't know she's broken your trust. I don't feel up to giving advice in this area but of course small things will hurt you, it's the same girl that hurt you before...

 

[Pachimari]

Glad I could make you laugh. In time either you will simply have to trust her or continue to be paranoid/over analyzing things. It's tough making that transition if you've had bad experiences in the past. Takes time to build trust either way.

Just so there's no misunderstanding, my laugh were not because I disagree with you at all and I really shouldn't over analyze.

She DID break up with me 1.5 month ago cause she didn't want to be the one who get hurt, only to come running back. I cried for myself that night and then she told me the next day that we are of course together still. That hurt as well and I lost some trust in her which I'm rebuilding but it really takes time. Maybe it won't work out but I'm the one in love so I could be blinded to some degree but for now I miss and love her dearly, I just also have to dust some bad experiences off my shoulder.

 

[LosDaddie]

Anyone ever date while not owning your own car? has it ever become an issue with your GF/BF?

Yes, while in college, and living in the dorms. Having a car wasn't necessary back then. But now? Owning a car is essential. (USA here)

Where do you live? How's the public transit there? Those are the most important questions here.

And she have a LOT of guy friends and she's very social so I don't think I'm being controlling at all.

But I don't think it's very nice that she told her ex that she probably still loves him, I dont think it's nice that a guy from a dating site called her while we had sex and she went on to talk with him and I surely don't think it's nice that she didn't wanna leave the bar before she got this one guy's number, so she could call him the next morning and be extremely sweet to him, also telling me I should dress and have the same hairstyle as her last ex. All of that hurt me inside. But it's all in the past now anyway. I probably just miss her, haven't seen her for 3 weeks.

Dude...WTF :lol :lol

Have some damn respect for yourself. She's walking ALL OVER YOU, and you're taking it with a smile on your face. No wonder she doesn't respect you.

Also, in my dating experience, a lady having A LOT of guy friends was always a red flag. The kind of red flags you posted above. I don't mind my lady chatting with guys when we go out, but her WAITING to get a guy's number? Fuck that. But hey, at least be happy you're getting to smang.

 

[windz]

how you can you type stuff like this and look in the mirror? This is mindblowing to me.

Yeah, some of it is mindblowing to say the least. Better to just not think about it/try to rationalize it. As subversus mentioned - bail out - but we all know that isn't going to happen.

 

[Count Dookkake]

Anastacio, I hate to put it so bluntly, but you probably have had second-hand load in your mouth.

If that does not bother you, please, keep doing what you are doing.

 

[Pachimari]

Of course it's not gonna happen because I'm wearing my love glasses and when I do so, it's very hard to punch those glasses off me, and it probably is no good for me. I'm likely the blind guy here, I probably can admit it. So for now I love her, she also have a very good side to her, which is the part I love. But she have really tried showing me she loves me since she broke up.

 

[LosDaddie]

Anastacio, I hate to put it so bluntly, but you probably have had second-hand load in your mouth.

If that does not bother you, please, keep doing what you are doing.

And please continue posting updates for us.

 

[low-G]

Of course it's not gonna happen because I'm wearing my love glasses and when I do so, it's very hard to punch those glasses off me, and it probably is no good for me. I'm likely the blind guy here, I probably can admit it. So for now I love her.

I know you're not the only person that does dumb shit like that though. It's easier for outsiders to see these things clearly. Again, not up to giving you advice but I personally know some people that are in the same boat as you or much worse and they're struggling letting go, even with help.

 

[subversus]

Of course it's not gonna happen because I'm wearing my love glasses and when I do so, it's very hard to punch those glasses off me, and it probably is no good for me. I'm likely the blind guy here, I probably can admit it. So for now I love her.

 

[stn]

Having no car is a problem only if you make it one. If you see her home safely through other means then I don't see any issue. At that point she just has her own material needs.

Anastacio - My friend, you are being completely whipped. I remember giving you advice and reading your story months ago. Nothing has changed. You are getting trampled over and have no respect for yourself. Let me ask one simple question: why would you love a woman who DOES NOT love you? She's trying to control and manipulate you. You are not doing yourself any favors, my friend. Please re-consider your situation and act on the advice I and others are giving you!

 

[Pachimari]

I know you're not the only person that does dumb shit like that though. It's easier for outsiders to see these things clearly. Again, not up to giving you advice but I personally know some people that are in the same boat as you or much worse and they're struggling letting go, even with help.

Yeah. I can totally see were you guys are coming from. That I'm highly likely getting stamped on numerous times. Maybe I should do a list of what she have done that have hurt me and then look it through objectively. But I really do love her and I have seen major improvements the last month, were I tell her NO and I tell her what I don't think is okay and she have not been pressuring me. But she tend to go back to some of her old "tricks" (like changing plans and telling me I'm rude when I don't do what she thinks is the right thing to do) sometimes which worries me.

 

[Hypereides]

That's funny, I gave her my number and said jokingly that she could contact me as long as she wasn't an axe murderer, because then I would've made a terrible mistake and a fool of myself xD Got a text two minutes later...

Anastacio, man this girlfriend is a piece of shit. She acts like she has already broken up with you, but forgot to tell you. A dating site guy called during sex and she talked to him instead of being with you? You gotta be kidding! Why is she on a dating site to begin with?

I would've taken/thrown the phone away from her and told her that it was an unnecesary distraction.

Or/and just proceeded with the sex. She ought to forget about that phone call quickly after that.

She also sounds more like a fuck buddy to me rather than a girlfriend in a sense.

Young love has to always be treated carefully & cautiously.

Just wanted to get GAF's opinion on this: Would a lady being a virgin deter you from dating her?

Nope.

I love to teach people new stuff, and at the same time learn something about myself and my techniques.

I lost my virginity at the age of 16 to a woman that was 5 years older than me at a wedding. She didnt mind... funny story though, I met her 4 years later after she came back from a long time stay in Italy and she had become quite a maneater/she-wolf. I guess thats why Ive become so corrupted.

From SimplePickup's Twitter:

"People who say you need to have money and good looks to date a girl are chumps. You have more to offer than superficial shit"

Happy Wednesday, Dating-Age!

Church!

 

[Pachimari]

Nah, she's by far not a fuck body. I feel connected and equal love while having sex, and we respect each others wishes and when we don't feel like it. I love just hugging her, sex is by no means the most important thing, spending time with her is. And I love when we are taking it easy and are just chilling, driving around, surprising each other with small things like flowers or candy or going to the cinema and we can be excited about stuff together. There's a whole lot of good things so much that I feel the love while writing this post, but there's just these bad experiences I have been through as well that I try to get over.

 

[Hypereides]

Nah, she's by far not a fuck body. I feel connected and equal love while having sex, and we respect each others wishes and when we don't feel like it. I love just hugging her, sex is by no means the most important thing, spending time with her is. And I love when we are taking it easy and are just chilling, driving around, surprising each other with small things like flowers or candy or going to the cinema and we can be excited about stuff together. There's a whole lot of good things so much that I feel the love while writing this post, but there's just these bad experiences I have been through as well that I try to get over.

Friends with benefits or physical friendships do those things too. Just sayin' mang

 

[MVP]

I date women who are bitches to any other guy, or who become bitches to every other guy when they're with me, so it's incredible the amount of acceptance of flirting and talking to random guys that I see here.

If your woman respects you and likes you, she doesn't WANT to talk to anyone, she doesn't want to see any other guy, and will brush off any loser that crosses her path. There really are no exceptions. "But but but it's all about confidence man, some women are flirty, no need to be insecure". NO. Just...no. You shouldn't control anyone, you just shouldn't be with them if they still want all the male attention.

Ask anyone on this board in a long-term healthy relationship, and there is no way the woman chats around with random guys, and even if they have male friends in the beginning, they will slowly fade away because now YOU have become their male friend and lover. Every other guy in their life just became disposable.

 

[MVP]

Yeah. I can totally see were you guys are coming from. That I'm highly likely getting stamped on numerous times. Maybe I should do a list of what she have done that have hurt me and then look it through objectively. But I really do love her and I have seen major improvements the last month, were I tell her NO and I tell her what I don't think is okay and she have not been pressuring me. But she tend to go back to some of her old "tricks" (like changing plans and telling me I'm rude when I don't do what she thinks is the right thing to do) sometimes which worries me.

You're obviously a doormat and she has zero respect for you, but you're a masochist and there are tons of guys like you who are just happy to be there. Just happy to have a girl that likes them. Enjoy it and don't try to fix it, it's just your personality and no matter what anyone says to help you, you'll keep doing what you want to do.

 

[Pachimari]

It's not so much her that has been the "problem" the last month. It's more that I need (which I reject) to spend time with her friends every single time. I don't want to hang out with one who smokes hash (I don't have anything against them, I just don't feel comfortable around stuff like that), with boys who keep wanting to touch me everywhere and with girls who get into fight with door guards - those are the types I don't like hanging out with cause I'm not used to it and thankfully I have been able to listen 95% of the time to myself in the last month. But no, she's not a friend with benefits either. There's true love here from my part at least but sometimes I just need to hear opinions on the things that have hurt me too.

You're obviously a doormat and she has zero respect for you, but you're a masochist and there are tons of guys like you who are just happy to be there. Just happy to have a girl that likes them. Enjoy it and don't try to fix it, it's just your personality and no matter what anyone says to help you, you'll keep doing what you want to do.

I were perfectly happy being single for 2 years working hard on my projects beforehand.

Anyway, you can help some other guys now. I got the feedback and it's something I'm gonna read through again and think about, cause somewhere I have a feeling i'm being a doormat too.

Thanks to all of you.

 

[subversus]

I'm not sure if he is not trolling.

 

[low-G]

I date women who are bitches to any other guy, or who become bitches to every other guy when they're with me, so it's incredible the amount of acceptance of flirting and talking to random guys that I see here.

If your woman respects you and likes you, she doesn't WANT to talk to anyone, she doesn't want to see any other guy, and will brush off any loser that crosses her path. There really are no exceptions. "But but but it's all about confidence man, some women are flirty, no need to be insecure". NO. Just...no. You shouldn't control anyone, you just shouldn't be with them if they still want all the male attention.

Ask anyone on this board in a long-term healthy relationship, and there is no way the woman chats around with random guys, and even if they have male friends in the beginning, they will slowly fade away because now YOU have become their male friend and lover. Every other guy in their life just became disposable.

Lol, you live in your own crazy world on the opposite side of Anastacio. Flirting is one thing, but talking? lol, you really think those girls you're with don't talk to any other guys?

 

[Count Dookkake]

I date women who are bitches to any other guy, or who become bitches to every other guy when they're with me, so it's incredible the amount of acceptance of flirting and talking to random guys that I see here.

If your woman respects you and likes you, she doesn't WANT to talk to anyone, she doesn't want to see any other guy, and will brush off any loser that crosses her path. There really are no exceptions. "But but but it's all about confidence man, some women are flirty, no need to be insecure". NO. Just...no. You shouldn't control anyone, you just shouldn't be with them if they still want all the male attention.

Ask anyone on this board in a long-term healthy relationship, and there is no way the woman chats around with random guys, and even if they have male friends in the beginning, they will slowly fade away because now YOU have become their male friend and lover. Every other guy in their life just became disposable.

lol.

 

[Jhoan]

But i thought it felt like warm apply pie? =o


Is a phone really needed if your trying to meet someone or just being more social? People at my job look at me like crazy when i tell them i don't have a phone, Facebook or Twitter.

And for a good reason; a phone is a must for communicating in this day and age. Facebook and Twitter not so much other than to keep up with what your friends and family are up to as well as to chat with them. There are plenty of prepaid phone plans that come with unlimited calling and text for a reasonable price.

I would recommend either Boost Mobile (which I have) or Metro PCS. Although I suppose you can always use Skype as a means of communicating as well as IM clients (who uses AIM these days though?), a land line phone, e-mail, and a pay phone.

 

[Hypereides]

It's not so much her that has been the "problem" the last month. It's more that I need (which I reject) to spend time with her friends every single time. I don't want to hang out with one who smokes hash (I don't have anything against them, I just don't feel comfortable around stuff like that), with boys who keep wanting to touch me everywhere and with girls who get into fight with door guards - those are the types I don't like hanging out with cause I'm not used to it and thankfully I have been able to listen 95% of the time to myself in the last month. But no, she's not a friend with benefits either. There's true love here from my part at least but sometimes I just need to hear opinions on the things that have hurt me too.

I dont see good things coming your way if you keep believing that.

This will have the same outcome/consequences as the insane ex girlfriend you spoke of some months ago.

Brace for impact is all Im gonna say bro, brace for impact...

 

[MVP]

Lol, you live in your own crazy world on the opposite side of Anastacio. Flirting is one thing, but talking? lol, you really think those girls you're with don't talk to any other guys?

By "talking" I mean just chatting up, flirting, or holding conversations with random guys that obviously are hitting on them, and yes, I know for a fact they don't. Normal women in a relationship they are happy with and with a man they respect don't. Those women that you've approached before in your life that brushed you off and you thought they were bitches, or were having a bad day, etc. They don't either. It's not that weird. Happy taken women have nothing to say to guys trying to hit on them. There's no excuse to lead them on.

 

[LosDaddie]

Ask anyone on this board in a long-term healthy relationship, and there is no way the woman chats around with random guys, and even if they have male friends in the beginning, they will slowly fade away because now YOU have become their male friend and lover. Every other guy in their life just became disposable.

:lol

Been married for 5yrs now, and my lady is just a nice person. Whenever we go out and a guy approachs her (because she's very attractive), she's not a bitch to them and tells them to fuck off. She'll make small talk for a couple minutes and that's it. She, like every woman in a happy relationship, makes sure to bring me up in the convo, and the guy gets the hint very quickly. Either that, or I'll come up to her because I want to talk to my woman.

But the latter part of your post is true. The only guy friends my wife has now are co-workers.

 

[JambiBum]

I date women who are bitches to any other guy, or who become bitches to every other guy when they're with me, so it's incredible the amount of acceptance of flirting and talking to random guys that I see here.

If your woman respects you and likes you, she doesn't WANT to talk to anyone, she doesn't want to see any other guy, and will brush off any loser that crosses her path. There really are no exceptions. "But but but it's all about confidence man, some women are flirty, no need to be insecure". NO. Just...no. You shouldn't control anyone, you just shouldn't be with them if they still want all the male attention.

Ask anyone on this board in a long-term healthy relationship, and there is no way the woman chats around with random guys, and even if they have male friends in the beginning, they will slowly fade away because now YOU have become their male friend and lover. Every other guy in their life just became disposable.

Here's a hint. You date bitches. That's why they don't have any other guy friends. Not because they have some huge amount of respect for you but because no other guy will put up with their crazy asses.

 

[MVP]

:lol

Been married for 5yrs now, and my lady is just a nice person. Whenever we go out and a guy approachs her (because she's very attractive), she's not a bitch to them and tells them to fuck off. She'll make small talk for a couple minutes and that's it. She, like every woman in a happy relationship, makes sure to bring me up in the convo, and the guy gets the hint very quickly. Either that, or I'll come up to her because I want to talk to my woman.

But the latter part of your post is true. The only guy friends my wife has now are co-workers.

That counts as not chatting up guys. Rarely does any guy awkwardly stick around after that for much longer lol

 

[MVP]

Here's a hint. You date bitches. That's why they don't have any other guy friends. Not because they have some huge amount of respect for you but because no other guy will put up with their crazy asses.

Nope, but I'd be fine with that too.

 

[Sarye]

Funny read but we really don't get into fights, we are both very calm people in tone. But yeah it still hurts a bit and that's probably why I'm over analyzing the smallest of things while she's away, which I shouldn't do.

know why you guys don't get into fights? Because you let her walk all over you. You obviously have things bothering you. But you don't speak up. How could there be a fight if one person hides how he's feeling?

you have not given one good reason why you guys are still together. And no, her thinking about you is not a good reason. Everything you've listed earlier are things that should occur in any relationship

She DID break up with me 1.5 month ago cause she didn't want to be the one who get hurt, only to come running back. I cried for myself that night and then she told me the next day that we are of course together still. That hurt as well and I lost some trust in her which I'm rebuilding but it really takes time. Maybe it won't work out but I'm the one in love so I could be blinded to some degree but for now I miss and love her dearly, I just also have to dust some bad experiences off my shoulder.

You're also one who said "I love you" to her a week into the relationship so forgive me if I don't believe you. But being in love is no excuse for continuing a terrible relationship.

 

[Hypereides]

Here's a hint. You date bitches. That's why they don't have any other guy friends. Not because they have some huge amount of respect for you but because no other guy will put up with their crazy asses.

I'd argue that women who are defined as "bitches" are largely misunderstood.

Especially by guys who arent strong enough to handle such a type. but to each his own.

 

[low-G]

By "talking" I mean just chatting up, flirting, or holding conversations with random guys that obviously are hitting on them, and yes, I know for a fact they don't. Normal women in a relationship they are happy with and with a man they respect don't. Those women that you've approached before in your life that brushed you off and you thought they were bitches, or were having a bad day, etc. They don't either. It's not that weird. Happy taken women have nothing to say to guys trying to hit on them. There's no excuse to lead them on.

Fair enough. Hitting on is different than 'talking'. Just don't tell me you believe a man and woman can't just be friends ever.

You're right that a woman in a relationship that she takes seriously and she respects the guy won't give attention to another guy hitting on her and so forth. Same with guys.