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Sorry you're having a rough time of it Mr. Yaceka. I guess im quite fortunate my family never questioned me going to art school at all. And having 5 siblings means there's always someone else screwing up more than me that can take the criticism off me. I hope you get to follow your dreams. Tell Dad he's being an ass and to step back and realize how his words are affecting you.
 
So my brother came back from his internship today. My brother's first words to me when he came into the house was "this place is disgusting". I'm sorry we don't have maids cleaning up like you did when you were on your internship. So fucking rude; especially because I have been working full time to pay off loans (and trying to get a second job) and am always exhausted when I get home. After bitching about the house he ganged up on me with my dad about me trying to get into art school. They both said the chances of me (emphasis on the me) getting in would be near zero, and I would be "wasting my time like I've been doing all-summer". Then when I said "well I don't know what else to do!" he told me that it was my problem and he wouldn't help. He said I should have had something planned a long time ago. Excuse me for not planning my future out when I was going to kill myself. He's changed for the worse since I've last time I've seen him. Just because you have a boyfriend and a stable career already doesn't mean you can scoff at me and say rude shit to my face. Ugh.

Oh yeah, and my dad said he was kicking me out if I tried to get an art program because he doesn't "believe it will work out". I hate my family so much right now. Oh, and once again I'm sorry for ranting in here. I don't really have anywhere else to post this and I don't think I can bottle up all my pent up anger. Also, try to ignore any typos because I'm typing this on my phone because I don't have a working computer anymore.

Have you tried sitting down with him and having a heart-to-heart?
 
Uh, Sagitario, what are you doing? There isn't enough room for two people with Kalas avatars in this thread.
We're totally avatar buddies.
 
high-five everyone with Baten Kaitos avatars!

anyone else watched the olympic wrestling event?? it was really fun

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Lol nice.

I have both Baiten Kaitos games, but haven't played then yet.

I would be disqualified with the ammount of erections I'd show while fighting another guy with those muscles and in lycra.. lol

BK games are nice RPGs but play them when you can devote serious time to them so you can enjoy them, I'd say origins is shorter.

I dunno. Can I skip the original? Everyone says that BKO is much better.

definitely DO NOT do that, BKO has a more refined intricate battle system and better voice acting, but both things are noticeable only after playing the first, which has in itself a great battle system.
 
I dunno. Can I skip the original? Everyone says that BKO is much better.
I'm five hours into Baten Kaitos, so I can't tell you, but I was going to skip the original too, until somebody told me that I needed to play the first game as well, as if I have nothing better to do than play video games. So play the original! I'm playing slowly enough that if you start next week you can probably catch up to me in two days and this thread can become a hub of Baten Kaitos talk.

definitely DO NOT do that, BKO has a more refined intricate battle system and better voice acting, but both things are noticeable only after playing the first, which has in itself a great battle system.
Stating that it has better voice acting isn't saying much. I finally just caved in and turned off the voice acting. I like all the characters so much more now.

Everyone needs to stop posting those Daly gifs. Kills me every time :)
There are plenty of other reasons why people need to stop posting Tom Daley gifs.
 
I dunno. Can I skip the original? Everyone says that BKO is much better.
You can, but I wouldn't recommend it, mainly because playing the original makes BKO that much better. Like any prequel, you can play it just fine, but you'll miss out on all the little touches--some of which are small but kind of huge at the same time.

There's also some revelations in BKO that won't make as big an impact on you if you didn't play the original.
 
So my brother came back from his internship today. My brother's first words to me when he came into the house was "this place is disgusting". I'm sorry we don't have maids cleaning up like you did when you were on your internship. So fucking rude; especially because I have been working full time to pay off loans (and trying to get a second job) and am always exhausted when I get home. After bitching about the house he ganged up on me with my dad about me trying to get into art school. They both said the chances of me (emphasis on the me) getting in would be near zero, and I would be "wasting my time like I've been doing all-summer". Then when I said "well I don't know what else to do!" he told me that it was my problem and he wouldn't help. He said I should have had something planned a long time ago. Excuse me for not planning my future out when I was going to kill myself. He's changed for the worse since I've last time I've seen him. Just because you have a boyfriend and a stable career already doesn't mean you can scoff at me and say rude shit to my face. Ugh.

Oh yeah, and my dad said he was kicking me out if I tried to get an art program because he doesn't "believe it will work out". I hate my family so much right now. Oh, and once again I'm sorry for ranting in here. I don't really have anywhere else to post this and I don't think I can bottle up all my pent up anger. Also, try to ignore any typos because I'm typing this on my phone because I don't have a working computer anymore.

Hey, that's what GAF is for! I know you've said before that you don't want to leave home but it really seems to be making you miserable. It might be the best thing to ever happen to you if you do it. If these people are dragging you down, then you really should consider it. I know lots of people get way way into debt with student loans, but its been a viable option for me at least..
 
I never understood how to meditate.
Neither do I. I did some meditation in elementary school and the idea of being forced to meditate ended up making me feel more stressful because I was afraid I wasn't going to meditate correctly. I find taking walks helps me clear my head.
 
Neither do I. I did some meditation in elementary school and the idea of being forced to meditate ended up making me feel more stressful because I was afraid I wasn't going to meditate correctly. I find taking walks helps me clear my head.

Everyone always says "Just clear your mind" or "Engage in a state of mindfulness" or some shit, and it's like, I don't know what that is or how to do it.
 
Everyone always says "Just clear your mind" or "Engage in a state of mindfulness" or some shit, and it's like, I don't know what that is or how to do it.

Well, its probably different for everyone, but for me, it was trying to focus on a single thing. If you try to imagine sediment flowing through a river for a long period of time, not allowing any thoughts to stray from sediment.. flowing through the Mississippi river.. forming the alluvial plane. Or something like that.
 
Have you tried sitting down with him and having a heart-to-heart?

That sounds like the best advice. The brother sounds like hes just coming off a high horse... and needs to be brought down with some serious 1on1 discussion. Let him know youre hurting and not in a good place, hopefully he will see the light.
 
That sounds like the best advice. The brother sounds like hes just coming off a high horse... and needs to be brought down with some serious 1on1 discussion. Let him know youre hurting and not in a good place, hopefully he will see the light.

but people react so differently to that.. A lot of people do the whole "tough love" thing, which is effective sometimes but ignores very serious problems like depression and anxiety. But maybe in their minds, the brother and father are being supportive.
 
I love you.
But you're fucking crazy. <3
This is by far the worst this shit's ever been. It's laughably bad. (Season 5)
/opinion
I stopped reading after that
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Honestly, though... well, I have enjoyed it for what it is: a soup opera that shouldn't be taken [too] seriously. Plus, Kwanten and Skarsgård
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They have been naked in less occasions this season :(, but that Alcide scene makes it up for it (I guess).



Uh, Sagitario, what are you doing? There isn't enough room for two people with Kalas avatars in this thread.
We're totally avatar buddies.

I guess we are
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Like I told you in the other thread:
dat influential fakexican bitch!
Apparently people didn't like my Thor avatar and I couldn't find my Penguindrum+Zelda one :(
 
but people react so differently to that.. A lot of people do the whole "tough love" thing, which is effective sometimes but ignores very serious problems like depression and anxiety. But maybe in their minds, the brother and father are being supportive.

Much like Yaceka; I had an older sister who moved away and became really successful as a Nurse. Then when she visited she started to harp and preach on me how I wasn't doing the right things in life. Took a good stern talking to her but she eventually came through it. Some people get this way set in their head that "if i did this, everyone else can/should" mentality, when everyone isnt the same. Some people can see the error in that thinking, thankfully my sister saw what she was doing.

yeah his bro might not react well, but its better than sitting there taking his judgmental attitude right?
 
but people react so differently to that.. A lot of people do the whole "tough love" thing, which is effective sometimes but ignores very serious problems like depression and anxiety. But maybe in their minds, the brother and father are being supportive.

His father probably feels like he's helping by not letting him get into art school. My dad thinks like that, and while he eventually agreed to support me, he still thinks it was a bad decision. It doesn't help that I'm unemployed...

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I guess we are
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Like I told you in the other thread:
dat influential fakexican bitch!
Apparently people didn't like my Thor avatar and I couldn't find my Penguindrum+Zelda one :(
That handshake gif is really freaking me out.

I'm totally playing it of my own volition. I can stop anytime I want to. 8)

I liked your Thor avatar, although I'm perfectly okay with the change.
 
Tom Daley is so gross. Ugh.

Well, its probably different for everyone, but for me, it was trying to focus on a single thing. If you try to imagine sediment flowing through a river for a long period of time, not allowing any thoughts to stray from sediment.. flowing through the Mississippi river.. forming the alluvial plane. Or something like that.

I guess that sort of makes sense. I'm going to try it sometime. When is a good time to do it?
 
I guess we are
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Like I told you in the other thread:
dat influential fakexican bitch!
Apparently people didn't like my Thor avatar and I couldn't find my Penguindrum+Zelda one :(

count me in, I found a Kalas design I really love and I am gonna use it for a while.

Gaf communities always have their memes (the coolios, the killzones, etc..) and we gay gaf have never had any of that, who's in?

wouldn't it be fun to find members around that all of a sudden have a kalas avatar that never post in this thread and figure out they are gay? XD

I feel the same way. He might be a perfectly swell person, but every picture I've seen of him makes him look completely obnoxious and I don't find him remotely attractive.

I found TD to be the justin bieber of the sports' world.... nice face, barely legal, all over the place, not manly or femenine, just there. I'll stay in the wrestlers' camp, thank you.
 
I feel the same way. He might be a perfectly swell person, but every picture I've seen of him makes him look completely obnoxious and I don't find him remotely attractive.

Same here. His body is nice and fit, but I'm not attracted to his face. Not one bit.
 
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Also: I suggested the heart-to-heart because usually it relieves the tension between fueding members in a household (in my experience).
 
That handshake gif is really freaking me out.

I'm totally playing it of my own volition. I can stop anytime I want to. 8)

I liked your Thor avatar, although I'm perfectly okay with the change.
Why is it freaking you out? D:
Well, Kalas will stay for a few days. Perhaps I will change to a Sagi one (from BKO) later.




count me in, I found a Kalas design I really love and I am gonna use it for a while.

Gaf communities always have their memes (the coolios, the killzones, etc..) and we gay gaf have never had any of that, who's in?

wouldn't it be fun to find members around that all of a sudden have a kalas avatar that never post in this thread and figure out they are gay? XD

Actually, there was one already. With logo and everything (rainbow + double "G") and it worked exactly that way. I think kyon still used it with his Spears avatar until recently.

We are just using BK(O) avatars cause we are playing it or we like the game(s) a lot... NO HOMO!
 
Everyone always says "Just clear your mind" or "Engage in a state of mindfulness" or some shit, and it's like, I don't know what that is or how to do it.

Neither do I. I did some meditation in elementary school and the idea of being forced to meditate ended up making me feel more stressful because I was afraid I wasn't going to meditate correctly. I find taking walks helps me clear my head.

Just read Mindfulness in Plain English. I've read it like seventeen times, it's a really good book and the first one I'd recommend to beginners.

As Bel Marduk said, it's not about 'clearing your head'. Or at least, that's not something you just do. The closest thing to that which you will be doing is adopting an attitude of renunciation. Meditation is giving things away until you're left with nothing but awareness of the present moment. It's not a 'doing', or if it is it's a kind of 'doing by non-doing'. You just let go, let go of your expectations, or looking for signs of progress, all of your daily concerns, even your sense of identity, all of these things are just concepts. Your aim is to look past the concepts that normally rule our lives to see the bare awareness underneath them, this non-conceptual awareness is 'mindfulness'. In every moment we experience there is some portion of mindfulness (and attention) but in the case of meditation we're working to exercise these faculties.

You will get distracted by thoughts a lot. The other aspect of mindfulness is 'remembering', essentially remembering your intention to cultivate bare awareness. Mindfulness will alert you to when you're getting distracted, and bring you back when you've gone off track. But you can (and ideally should) be mindful of everything. Mindfulness is like a mirror, it impartially reflects everything you put in front of it while it is there, and holds on to none of these things when they leave. Mindfulness is the most helpful tool in defeating all of the obstacles a meditator faces. Say if you just can't get your mind to calm down, it seems to be running everywhere and you're getting frustrated, then just watch your mind run to and fro, and watch your frustration. With that these things might suddenly go away, or they might stick around for many years, but regardless you will be gradually loosening the grip that these things have on you from observing directly their causes and conditions, causing the mind to naturally become disenchanted with them and see past them.

The other aspect is concentration, or essentially narrowing your awareness on one item. But this isn't done by striving, rather the development of tranquility causes this to happen almost effortlessly. With deeper concentration you will naturally be distracted less, this is also the faculty that lends intensity to meditation. You can equate concentration to light waves focused by a magnifying glass. Ordinarily an amount of sunlight might fall on a piece of paper and only heat it slightly, but if the same amount of light is brought together to one point, the paper bursts into flames. All meditation employs both mindfulness and concentration to some degree, only one or the other might be emphasized at different times.

Meditation is essentially just a form of mental exercise where you're attempting to strengthen the faculties of mindfulness and concentration. Both can be considered forms of attention in a sense, just that mindfulness is a broad and inclusive kind limited to phenomenon in the present moment and thus enables us to see insight into phenomenon, and concentration collects awareness on a single point and in the process generates great intensity.
 
Okay I'm not even gay... but wow. :|
oh man there are spies in this thread

Just wondering - how old is everyone in this thread? :P

I'm 17.
I'm 18.

count me in, I found a Kalas design I really love and I am gonna use it for a while.

Gaf communities always have their memes (the coolios, the killzones, etc..) and we gay gaf have never had any of that, who's in?

wouldn't it be fun to find members around that all of a sudden have a kalas avatar that never post in this thread and figure out they are gay? XD
Kalas GAF is the best GAF.

Why is it freaking you out? D:
Well, Kalas will stay for a few days. Perhaps I will change to a Sagi one (from BKO) later.

Actually, there was one already. With logo and everything (rainbow + double "G") and it worked exactly that way. I think kyon still used it with his Spears avatar until recently.

We are just using BK(O) avatars cause we are playing it or we like the game(s) a lot... NO HOMO!
The way the fingers look is just really weird and disconcerting.

A few days? don't betray sphinx and i like that
 
We are just using BK(O) avatars cause we are playing it or we like the game(s) a lot... NO HOMO!

well...it could have worked >_<

but the 4 or 5 BK avatars I have seen through the years all belong to gay members, except one animated avatar refering to BKO doing bad in the NPD thread in 2006, can't remember the name.
 
Just read Mindfulness in Plain English. I've read it like seventeen times, it's a really good book and the first one I'd recommend to beginners.

As Bel Marduk said, it's not about 'clearing your head'. Or at least, that's not something you just do. The closest thing to that which you will be doing is adopting an attitude of renunciation. Meditation is giving things away until you're left with nothing but awareness of the present moment. It's not a 'doing', or if it is it's a kind of 'doing by non-doing'. You just let go, let go of your expectations, or looking for signs of progress, all of your daily concerns, even your sense of identity, all of these things are just concepts. Your aim is to look past the concepts that normally rule our lives to see the bare awareness underneath them, this non-conceptual awareness is 'mindfulness'. In every moment we experience there is some portion of mindfulness (and attention) but in the case of meditation we're working to exercise these faculties.

You will get distracted by thoughts a lot. The other aspect of mindfulness is 'remembering', essentially remembering your intention to cultivate bare awareness. Mindfulness will alert you to when you're getting distracted, and bring you back when you've gone off track. But you can (and ideally should) be mindful of everything. Mindfulness is like a mirror, it impartially reflects everything you put in front of it while it is there, and holds on to none of these things when they leave. Mindfulness is the most helpful tool in defeating all of the obstacles a meditator faces. Say if you just can't get your mind to calm down, it seems to be running everywhere and you're getting frustrated, then just watch your mind run to and fro, and watch your frustration. With that these things might suddenly go away, or they might stick around for many years, but regardless you will be gradually loosening the grip that these things have on you from observing directly their causes and conditions, causing the mind to naturally become disenchanted with them and see past them.

The other aspect is concentration, or essentially narrowing your awareness on one item. But this isn't done by striving, rather the development of tranquility causes this to happen almost effortlessly. With deeper concentration you will naturally be distracted less, this is also the faculty that lends intensity to meditation. You can equate concentration to light waves focused by a magnifying glass. Ordinarily an amount of sunlight might fall on a piece of paper and only heat it slightly, but if the same amount of light is brought together to one point, the paper bursts into flames. All meditation employs both mindfulness and concentration to some degree, only one or the other might be emphasized at different times.

Meditation is essentially just a form of mental exercise where you're attempting to strengthen the faculties of mindfulness and concentration. Both can be considered forms of attention in a sense, just that mindfulness is a broad and inclusive kind limited to phenomenon in the present moment and thus enables us to see insight into phenomenon, and concentration collects awareness on a single point and in the process generates great intensity.
I don't have much to say in response, but I appreciate the post, as it's probably the most detailed and informative piece I've read on the topic. I downloaded the epub version of Mindfulness in Plain English and will check it out. Thanks for the link.
 
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