How to approach this girl that I like?

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It's very awkward situation. We work at the same place, but she is night shit I am day shift. So when I arrive early in the morning she has one hour left before she gets to go home. Now that would be enough if we worked at the same section, but we don't. So basically I pass her every morning on my way to my section or I see her going on a break with her co workers.
I know she is a summer worker because she worked here even last summer, actually we had same "introduction day" and even then she caught my interest. Of course this is only based on psychical attraction. I think she gives me a look (you know that a few seconds longer look then it should be type of a look) like maybe she also finds me interesting( I would like to think that) when we sometimes cross roads but really we never spoke to each other so it might mean nothing.
So basically I don't have time to get close to her, and when I see her on break she is with other woman most of the time.
I am afraid that she doesn't have much left on her contract when it comes to this summer, and she might not come back next summer, you never know.

So what should I do? Approach her like some freak while she works and ask if she is single and for her phone number? She might find it creepy, all of a sudden like some stalker.

That's the problem I have no one to ask about her. If she is single or not. She might be married for all I know. It might end up being really bad if I did something rash like that. Worst of all she works with other woman and I still have to get back there and work in the future. I don't want to get rep as some weirdo.
It's so annoying. What should I do?
O and btw if it isn't clear I suck at this.
 
"Hi, I'm <name>. I've seen you around and would like to get to know you better. Here's my number, give me a call when you get the chance. We can go for coffee and talk."

Done.
 
Just simply stepping towards a woman rates you as a weirdo? How did you come by that conclusion? A lot of women like confidence so if you approach her in a confident and normal manner you would have won her over for 50% already.
 
Look for something that binds you two that isn't related to work. Or you can use work (like finding out what she actually does), but you're gonna need to take a leap of faith and ask her out earlier than you'd probably be comfortable with else you'll fall into that lame work oriented small talk loop. Fuckin' hate that shit.
 
Slip a piece of paper with 'Read this' and the url of this thread on it into her bag. The next time you see her you won't have to approach her, as she'll approach you.
 
Look for something that binds you two that isn't related to work. Or you can use work (like finding out what she actually does), but you're gonna need to take a leap of faith and ask her out earlier than you'd probably be comfortable with else you'll fall into that lame work oriented small talk loop. Fuckin' hate that shit.

Indeed. Thanks for one of the few serious comments.
 
Strike up an interesting and engaging conversation with no hidden agenda so that you can get to know her. If you can't hold up a decent conversation let her go.
 
Yeah you don't want to approach her in front of the other woman, that might be embarrassing. Just take the day off when you know she's working and hang around in the alley out back.
 
Make small talk, get a laugh from her, ask her if she wants to go for coffee or something. If you get politely turned down you won't shatter into a million pieces.
 
If you happen to run into her while working say hi and tell her you should have coffee break together, even if you work at different shifts.

And then yes, you have to ask her out after normal conversation (tell her you've seen her around last summer, ask her if she is a student, get to know her a little etc.).

EDIT: something soft; like coffee, so you can talk. Don't go overboard asking her to go out for dinner.
 
So what should I do? Approach her like some freak while she works and ask if she is single and for her phone number? She might find it creepy, all of a sudden like some stalker.

You wouldn't be a freak if you ask her if she's single and what her phone number was. Unless you breathe through your mouth and don't wash yourself properly. I can't tell from here.

Normally I'd say don't shit where you eat but since you work different shifts its very simple: Ask her out. Tell her you find her attractive and interesting. Human beings love flattery. The worst she can do is say "No". Unless she's fucking crazy and then stabs you with a letter opener. But I don't know what your tastes in women are.
 
You wouldn't be a freak if you ask her if she's single and what her phone number was. Unless you breath through your mouth and don't wash yourself properly. I can't tell from here.

Normally I'd say don't shit where you eat but since you work different shifts its very simple: Ask her out. Tell her you find her attractive and interesting. Human beings love flattery. The worst she can do is say "No". Unless she's fucking crazy and then stabs you with a letter opener. But I don't know what your tastes in women are.
Hahahahahahahaha, I can see that happening.. Why a letter opener? Hahahahaha, funny shit..
 
listen
there are a billion and one ways to approach women

just fucking say HI........

dammit!!

or you can post about all those missed chances here on gaf and cry about it all night long

or get this

you could be balls deep in her by the time you finished reading this post

your fucking choice my friend

NOW GO
 
Dude, don't ask her out the first second you see her like everybody here is claiming. It'll be super awkward, especially for her since you have no idea if she even notices you or knows of your existence.

Start things off slow. Introduce yourself to her, chat for a little bit. Go to work. Do this for a few days and then ask her out for coffee or something.
 
Sneeze on her and say you have a deadly contagious virus and the only way to cure it is to stay in constant communication.
 
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