How to approach this girl that I like?

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EulaCapra said:
Step 1: Murder her.

Step 2: Call me.

Step 3: We should see other people.
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Half and half said:
Woah! Yeah, GAF should stick to the jokes.
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God knows why I'm doing this, but I'll bite: tell me what was wrong with what I said, and why? If it's the "tell" you're going to object to, that was there primarily to indicate that being all indecisive and unsure about the invite will be picked up on by the girl, whereas assertiveness will be taken more positively.
 
xxracerxx said:
Don't be that person, OP.
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So you're telling me that you shouldn't ever approach a woman you don't know and ask her out because she might be married? I'm not suggesting he be a fucking homewrecker - he hasn't even talked to her.


Stop freaking out over everything. She's a person. You're a person. Stop putting her on a fucking pedestal and worshiping her because she's a girl you're attracted to. You don't know her, just talk to her.
 
dLMN8R said:
So you're telling me that you shouldn't ever approach a woman you don't know and ask her out because she might be married? I'm not suggesting he be a fucking homewrecker - he hasn't even talked to her.


Stop freaking out over everything. She's a person. You're a person. Stop putting her on a fucking pedestal and worshiping her because she's a girl you're attracted to. You don't know her, just talk to her.
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I thought you were telling him to still pursue her even if she was married and all I was saying is the OP should not pursue a married woman.

All the OP needs to do is start talking to her and see how it goes from there.
 
Rivyn said:
Just simply stepping towards a woman rates you as a weirdo? How did you come by that conclusion? A lot of women like confidence so if you approach her in a confident and normal manner you would have won her over for 50% already.
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How do you know that she thinks that the guy approaching her is acting confident?. You may act confident but others may not see it that way
 
If she is single or not. She might be married for all I know.
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Step 1: Type her name on Google

Step 2: Find her facebook.

Step 3: her profile picture will probably tell you if she is married/dating someone ...

I know it's maybe a little creepy, but you'll have your answer in 30 seconds XD

Of course you need to know her name, and the easiest way will be to talk to her, but if you know she is single before engaging a conversation maybe you will be more confident.
 
Just walk up and talk to her. If she rejects you, it's a part of life. The world won't come to and end.

Edit: Also, check the left ring finger. If it's open, move in for the kill. If it isn't open, fuck it. Just because there's a goalie doesn't mean you can't score.
 
blahblah...blah said:
God knows why I'm doing this, but I'll bite: tell me what was wrong with what I said, and why? If it's the "tell" you're going to object to, that was there primarily to indicate that being all indecisive and unsure about the invite will be picked up on by the girl, whereas assertiveness will be taken more positively.
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Because assertive in the face of incongruency will do the opposite of what you describe. It's kind of funny that you go boasting big, but it seems like you're a 'canned openers' kind of guy.
 
I'm not good at these things either, but just say hello and have a conversation. You don't have to ask her out right away, and why would you?

If you talk to her for a few minutes you might find out that you wouldn't really want to spend a few hours talking to her. On the other hand, maybe you would find a common interest or activity that you could do together.
 
Wander off to where she works and talk to her every once in a while. Workplace is an easy topic to start on. Just ask why she's working there or what she does or how she likes it and then relate to her. Make some jokes and smile. When you feel comfortable, it doesn't need to be the first time you talk to her, ask if you wanna meet up for lunch/coffee whatever, and get her number.
 
Pizarro said:
Make small talk, get a laugh from her, ask her if she wants to go for coffee or something. If you get politely turned down you won't shatter into a million pieces.
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That's pretty much what I did to hook up with my wife. She was working at a pizza hut and some buddies of mine and I took a break from LANning and went there to eat. I actually had met her before at work in passing while she was a temp but never really saw each other much, just in passing. I had forgotten about her until then but thought she was cute so I told her i'd like to get to get to know her better. I said, let's grab some coffee some time and gave her my number and told her call me some time. For me it's a whole lot easier to give my number than ask for hers. It probably puts her a bit at ease too. She called me later that night and we talked on the phone for hours and hit it off, meeting later at Denny's for more face to face time.

Long story short, tell her you'd like to get to know her better and give her your number and see what she says. Easypeasy

Edit: the first time you talk for more than smalltalk tell her its nice to meat her.
 
you lay that shit down on her.

You go talk to her. she's on top. she's asking you the questions, calling the shots. you answer some questions ... then you start asking her the questions, and you flip it. Now she's trying to impress you.

Topsy-turvy that motherfucker
 
Also, I've found that those first conversations can become akward if carried on for too long. Have an exit plan like "well I better get back to work" and then do the invite thing. You want to bail out before it gets to the akward stage. Talking over the phone or while chilling out at a coffee shop might be much easier than face to face until you get some good topics going on. Or facebook or whatever. By the time you get more face time it'll feel natural and you'll have plenty to talk about.
 
Half and half said:
See, Javaman above sound like he's got game. Nothing too complicated, just did his thing.
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Hell, I'm just a big'o'geek and talking to new people makes me nervous. Less so these days but back then I had real confidance problems. Just remember she know in the first couple of seconds if she wants to jump your bones too. Don't blow it by getting bogged down in a nervous conversation. Bail out but leave a trail of crumbs before it gets weird. Or you might just hit it off right off the bat.
Best of luck to you OP.
 
I quickly learned that simply talking and not being afraid is the best way to get to know a girl, or anybody.

My very first time talking to a girl in 3rd grade. I walk up to her and hand her my number during lunch. I quickly walk away. I NEVER talked with her before this. She calls me that same day and this is how the conversation went:

Me: "Hello?"

Her: "Hi, you wanted me to call you?"

Me: "Yeah, I was wondering if you like me"

Her: "Well...yeah as a friend"

Me: "Ok bye"

Her: "Oh...ok...see you tomorrow at school..."

I never talked to her again after that. Learn from my 3rd grade mistake OP. Be you and talk with this girl like you would anyone else.
 
"Hey, my name's Globox_82, want to have lunch sometime?"

You should get your name changed first though.

EDIT: Incidentally I just watched the movie Broadcast News and learned this line: "You are a ball of energy, and I want to be inside that ball of energy." Seriously, try it. At least she'll remember you.
 
There is good advice in being yourself and not over-thinking this, even the note has a nostalgia that might be well-received; however, why not just throw caution to the wind? Stage something epic. Fake a kidnapping and it becomes you versus Stockholm Syndrome. Extreme events bring people together, if I learned anything from the movie “Speed,” this was it. All you need is half a dozen rent-a-brutes, stock innocent bystanders, and a bus or some confined space to be trapped in. You could post a video of this on youtube that could become -quite possibly- the most precious artifact of your future love or an advertisement for one of the most crazy-romantic bachelors online!
 
Be confident, approach her with a smile and make a comment about work or some sort of inside joke between coworkers (every workplace has these). Always helps to break the ice. And just before the awkward silence starts settling in, ask "Hey, I was wondering if you'd be interested in *insert activity here*". If she says no or it gets too awkward, big whoop man, you barely see each other anyway and this'll be a valuable learning experience for you. Good luck!
 
If you're attractive, just go ahead and talk to her.

If you're ugly, don't bother. She'll just turn you down - she'll try to do it nicely if you're lucky, but you'll still hear the outright disgust in her voice; if you're unlucky... well, I won't even get into that - and then you'll feel like shit for the rest of the day, week, probably month, and it'll be at least a year before you try to approach another girl and repeat the process again.

...Not that I'm talking from experience or anything.
 
KevinCow said:
If you're attractive, just go ahead and talk to her.

If you're ugly, don't bother. She'll just turn you down - she'll try to do it nicely if you're lucky, but you'll still hear the outright disgust in her voice; if you're unlucky... well, I won't even get into that - and then you'll feel like shit for the rest of the day, week, probably month, and it'll be at least a year before you try to approach another girl and repeat the process again.

...Not that I'm talking from experience or anything.
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I don't know. I can feel the pain in that post.
 
KevinCow said:
If you're attractive, just go ahead and talk to her.

If you're ugly, don't bother. She'll just turn you down - she'll try to do it nicely if you're lucky, but you'll still hear the outright disgust in her voice; if you're unlucky... well, I won't even get into that - and then you'll feel like shit for the rest of the day, week, probably month, and it'll be at least a year before you try to approach another girl and repeat the process again.

...Not that I'm talking from experience or anything.
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Just talk to her. The absolute worst thing that could happen is her saying she's not interested, if so than that's that. Unless stalking's your thing :)

But seriously, she might have seen you and thought you were kinda cute. Try to think of that when you talk to her, might give you a little confidence which is always good.
 
KevinCow said:
If you're attractive, just go ahead and talk to her.

If you're ugly, don't bother. She'll just turn you down - she'll try to do it nicely if you're lucky, but you'll still hear the outright disgust in her voice; if you're unlucky... well, I won't even get into that - and then you'll feel like shit for the rest of the day, week, probably month, and it'll be at least a year before you try to approach another girl and repeat the process again.

...Not that I'm talking from experience or anything.
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Dat self-pity.
 
Javaman said:
That's pretty much what I did to hook up with my wife. She was working at a pizza hut and some buddies of mine and I took a break from LANning and went there to eat. I actually had met her before at work in passing while she was a temp but never really saw each other much, just in passing. I had forgotten about her until then but thought she was cute so I told her i'd like to get to get to know her better. I said, let's grab some coffee some time and gave her my number and told her call me some time. For me it's a whole lot easier to give my number than ask for hers. It probably puts her a bit at ease too. She called me later that night and we talked on the phone for hours and hit it off, meeting later at Denny's for more face to face time.

Long story short, tell her you'd like to get to know her better and give her your number and see what she says. Easypeasy

Edit: the first time you talk for more than smalltalk tell her its nice to meat her.
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I have a longterm girlfriend, so I hopefully never have to go through the motions again, but I've always been curious about this. How do you go about giving her your number without seeming awkward? Do you pre-write it? Do you conveniently have a strip of paper on hand to write it down? Do you say it to her while she types it in her phone? Not directed at you, but you reminded me that I've always been curious about this. Always asked for numbers, never gave them.
 
Lumination said:
I have a longterm girlfriend, so I hopefully never have to go through the motions again, but I've always been curious about this. How do you go about giving her your number without seeming awkward? Do you pre-write it? Do you conveniently have a strip of paper on hand to write it down? Do you say it to her while she types it in her phone? Not directed at you, but you reminded me that I've always been curious about this. Always asked for numbers, never gave them.
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Offer it. Just say it out and let them type it.
 
I had a guy come up to me out of the blue like that recently. Basically said "Hey - my name is -----, I've seen you in here a few times before and if you were interested I'd like to get to know you better." I told him that I was sorry, but that I had a boyfriend. He said, "Well you can't blame a guy for trying. Have a good one!", smiled and walked away. It was about as positive as an interaction could be when you're turning someone down. Try aiming for something like that if you're worried about her status.
 
RandomDancing said:
I had a guy come up to me out of the blue like that recently. Basically said "Hey - my name is -----, I've seen you in here a few times before and if you were interested I'd like to get to know you better." I told him that I was sorry, but that I had a boyfriend. He said, "Well you can't blame a guy for trying. Have a good one!", smiled and walked away. It was about as positive as an interaction could be when you're turning someone down. Try aiming for something like that if you're worried about her status.
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Poor guy probably smiled in your face and bawled his eyes out later.
 
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