I shower almost every day! Long showers = the best, most relaxing thing ever
Also yeah, my gif is of Lana Del Rey, the Video Games girl. She's boring as hell but she's got some good gif material!
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I shower almost every day! Long showers = the best, most relaxing thing ever
Also yeah, my gif is of Lana Del Rey, the Video Games girl. She's boring as hell but she's got some good gif material!
Jeffdell91
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Jeffdell91
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But some days I skip cause I do get busy or I am tired.I take a shower everyday usually. Its a great way to start or end a day.
Why would you stink after one day?
I shower every other day. I remember a health teacher in high school telling our class that it was technically best to shower every other day, not every day, as it's healthier for your hair.
The only time I break from that schedule is on days when I exercise or for sex (which is just another form of exercise, really).
Lol, my above comment doesn't mean I don't try taking a shower every day. I just won't die if I forget to take one because I run out of time or I am just too tired. I hate the idea of smelling bad though so that doesn't happen to often.
I have worked with people before that clearly didn't take showers that often and it was very hard to work next to them.
Every single day, often twice because I shower in the morning before going to work and then after my workout.
Protip: you can shower and not wet your hair (or not use shampoo). I'm sorry but I don't smelly armpits and balls are just no.
And I said smelly, not musky.
SpaceBridge
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MMMmmm, man musk. Love that scent in the space between the inside of the thigh and crotch.
MyAbsolution
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Especially after they havent showered for a few days
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I kinda understand Stabbie's plight about not getting messages back on guy's hes attracted to.. but, c'est la vie. Thats the shitty part of attraction. I think we all do it right? We dont respond to someone who we think "hmm, i have zero attraction to them, so why bother replying?"
If a dude messages me with one word or one sentence, I MIGHT overlook it if they are attractive to me (doubtful); but usually they end up being super boring anyways so its pointless. I also hate it when I feel like im forcing a conversation and asking questions and only get one word responses. Turn off!
I think its easier to talk to ya'll here since a lot of us have similar interests: as most of us are geeks
SpaceBridge
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Especially after they havent showered for a few days
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I kinda understand Stabbie's plight about not getting messages back on guy's hes attracted to.. but, c'est la vie. Thats the shitty part of attraction. I think we all do it right? We dont respond to someone who we think "hmm, i have zero attraction to them, so why bother replying?"
If a dude messages me with one word or one sentence, I MIGHT overlook it if they are attractive to me (doubtful); but usually they end up being super boring anyways so its pointless. I also hate it when I feel like im forcing a conversation and asking questions and only get one word responses. Turn off!
I think its easier to talk to ya'll here since a lot of us have similar interests: as most of us are geeks
Shower please.
Phonomezer
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I shower twice a day, at the morning and at night. I just assumed most people did, but judging from the responses ITT....ew.
Meanwhile, I have tonsillitis, presumably from the last guy I fucked a few days ago (I still have a rash just below my lips from his beard *.*).
MyAbsolution
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Yea I need to take a shower everyday... I hate feeling greasy/oily which I can get after one day.
Tonsillitis is pretty easy to catch. Is it your first time? If so, now you'll be more prone to getting it again in the future.
Phonomezer
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Yeah, first time. It's okay though, just sitting in bed all day eating ice cream
Also totally agree with not wanting to be greasy/oily. A vile feeling. Also, haven't people here gotten a whiff of the crotch of a man who hasn't showered for a day or two? Especially in a warm climate, like where I live. Gross.
Dead Prince
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i always wonder why people take showers in the morning if they take one the night before. morning you could just wash your face?
lol. whatev. i shower morning and night because i hate that dirty feeling sometimes.
I'm actually surprised so many people don't. I was warned about this, in my country everyone showers daily, in hot cities two showers a day are not uncommon, it's the first thing I do after waking up, I can't even have breakfast without having a shower first. Everyone who has been abroad tells you about all those filthy foreigners but I thought it was just an urban legend
This is a pretty important distinction. I shower after exercising because the feeling of all that sweat afterwards is pretty gross (and one presumes would smell if you left it). If I lived anywhere hot where sweat was something I dealt with every day, I'd be showering more than every other day.
As it is, I live in New England and can't remember the last time I sweat due to hot weather.
Just came out to the rest of my family (grandparents, uncles, aunts, cousins, etc) after coming out to my immediate family and close friends a couple months ago. Everyone, and I mean everyone, has been overwhelmingly positive, loving, and supportive.
I also just clicked the confirmation on Facebook and its "official" between my Boyfriend and I. Just 4 months ago, I was in the closet and felt uncomfortable holding hands with the one I Love. Now I couldn't be happier
I also just clicked the confirmation on Facebook and its "official" between my Boyfriend and I. Just 4 months ago, I was in the closet and felt uncomfortable holding hands with the one I Love. Now I couldn't be happier
MyAbsolution
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Yeah, first time. It's okay though, just sitting in bed all day eating ice cream
Also totally agree with not wanting to be greasy/oily. A vile feeling. Also, haven't people here gotten a whiff of the crotch of a man who hasn't showered for a day or two? Especially in a warm climate, like where I live. Gross.
Drinking water can get annoying, feels like you've got golf balls dangling in your throat.
But yes keep eating that Ice Cream!
Just came out to the rest of my family (grandparents, uncles, aunts, cousins, etc) after coming out to my immediate family and close friends a couple months ago. Everyone, and I mean everyone, has been overwhelmingly positive, loving, and supportive.
I also just clicked the confirmation on Facebook and its "official" between my Boyfriend and I. Just 4 months ago, I was in the closet and felt uncomfortable holding hands with the one I Love. Now I couldn't be happier
Good job! Feels good huh?
Facebook Official, therefore you are now legit.
I'm actually surprised so many people don't. I was warned about this, in my country everyone showers daily, in hot cities two showers a day are not uncommon, it's the first thing I do after waking up, I can't even have breakfast without having a shower first. Everyone who has been abroad tells you about all those filthy foreigners but I thought it was just an urban legend
That's a good point that your climate would definitely change your attitude towards showering daily.
It's not that humid here but definitely hot enough to sweat in the summer where I would have to take a shower just because I don't like feeling sweaty. I can see it being the opposite where it's extremely cold since it's never fun to get out of the shower and be freezing.
MyAbsolution
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lol @ another circumcision thread. Shit gets ugly so fast over dicks.
Mystic Theurge
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Nope, OKCupid is awesome.
dragonlife
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I'm actually about to watch the last two episodes right now.
EDIT: Oh, they're not online yet...
you'd probably be surprised. people make all sorts of silly decisions just from your appearance alone.
regardless, shave it and post pics
I would be okay with this.
seems you're banned now, but in case you browse.
Didn't you say you didn't have anything really written in your profile? That to me was always a flag for someone just looking for sex.
Regarding the self-image thing. Disclaimer: this is just generic observations I've seen from a fair number of people around me over many years.
It seems to happen a lot where the people are afraid of being associated with the gay community or gay stereotypes. They'll offer any number of reasons but it almost always has something to do with masculinity. The idea of being associated with people who are typically perceived as more feminine or have more typical interests challenges the self-image they've built for themselves.
In some cases, it seems that the people have spent a significant amount of time trying to avoid being gay, so they've built up they've tried to build up self-images almost as a defense against being detected as gay. In other cases, it was forced on them by parents or other important people trying to direct their behavior.
There's a million possible influences, but it comes down to one basic thing. The person has spent so much time on this image that having it challenged is scary. What will my friends think? How will that change? How will they see me? Will I change?
Often times, these changes seem like a loss instead of a gain, which is somewhat odd since broadening your horizons and being happy is hard to see as anything but a gain.
SpaceBridge
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This. The day I got over my preconceptions about what gay was, and didnt feel threatened by perceived femininity by insulting gay mainstream, or over compensated by pretending to be this uber straight-acting dude was liberating. It was part of the coming out process.
Nothing more fun than kiki-ing it up on the dace floor.
Phonomezer
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I knew a few of you guys have talked about Political Animals here, so I'll just say this since I just finished it. The show is/was alright, but it wasn't great until the two or three last episodes. (Basically half the series.) All in all, the characters were alright and so was the plot. I also noticed that one of the episodes was introduced as, "This season on Political Animals" although there is only one season.
Also, James Wolk is cute.
Also, James Wolk is cute.
Bel Marduk
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Especially after they havent showered for a few days
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I kinda understand Stabbie's plight about not getting messages back on guy's hes attracted to.. but, c'est la vie. Thats the shitty part of attraction. I think we all do it right? We dont respond to someone who we think "hmm, i have zero attraction to them, so why bother replying?"
If a dude messages me with one word or one sentence, I MIGHT overlook it if they are attractive to me (doubtful); but usually they end up being super boring anyways so its pointless. I also hate it when I feel like im forcing a conversation and asking questions and only get one word responses. Turn off!
I think its easier to talk to ya'll here since a lot of us have similar interests: as most of us are geeks
When I moved to a new city I would always do this.. Even if you don't find someone attractive then you could at least make friends.. although they may think you're leading them on.. I don't know, I always thought it was very rude not to respond to a pm.
dragonlife
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OMG, yes!
Go back to your Johnases!
I suppose everybody's entitled to their opinions, but he's seriously one of the more generic actors I've seen in a while. There's literally nothing about him that registers.
dragonlife
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I'll take a bit of everything.
MyAbsolution
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I understand its potentially rude to not respond but at the same time I feel strongly that I don't wanna lead someone on when I really have no attraction. I choose the lesser of two evils in this case. To ignore someone is less harsh than leading someone on and having their feelings get hurt in the long run.
Diseased Yak
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Greetings, my new friends.
So...
I just came out of the closet last night...
for the first time ever...
to my wife of 17 years.
After only 2 hours of sleep last night, I'm sitting here at work, and of course I publicly out myself now on GAF, because, hey, you all are my friends, and friends should share in momentous occasions, right?
So...
I just came out of the closet last night...
for the first time ever...
to my wife of 17 years.
After only 2 hours of sleep last night, I'm sitting here at work, and of course I publicly out myself now on GAF, because, hey, you all are my friends, and friends should share in momentous occasions, right?
runlikehell
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Whoa dude. Well done!
What happened?
What happened?
Phonomezer
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Holy shit.
First of all, good for you. Second of all, I can't imagine how you're feeling right now. Thirdly, how did your wife react?
Diseased Yak
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Well, that's a lot to type up. Here's the short version, with a little backstory. Basically, we've been having marital troubles for the last 2 years. I could never quite put my finger on what was wrong, and neither could she, but it definitely stemmed from me being dissatisfied with the marriage. I finally realized, hey, you know those thoughts and feelings you've been having since, like, forever? Yeah, those. Turns out, you can't ignore them any longer. You are gay. Face it.
So I did.
She was at first angry, but within 30 minutes had accepted things, and even said "Yeah, I kinda knew..." and such like that. I was raised in a super strict Christian home where I finally moved past things, but for whatever reason kept that part of me buried. I did what I thought I needed to do: date girls, get married, etc. Thank all the gods/devils/etc. that I never had kids! But I did ignore a lot about myself, until now. Until it became too hard to ignore. Getting into my late 30's was enough to make me realize I was wasting not only my time, but hers as well.
We've decided to divorce amicably, and to remain friends.
Dead Prince
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congrats. is your wife fran drescher?
Congrats. It's probably going to be tough at first, but you've made the right decision. I think you can both find happiness now.
Diseased Yak
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I went through something similar to you Diseased Yak around about this time last year. I had been with my ex for nine years, we were engaged and living together for about 3 years. She knew I liked guys and didn't mind me seeing men on occasion, but over time I found myself growing more and more distant from her. I told her I didn't think I was bisexual anymore, that I was gay, but her response was basically 'And?'. I tried to make it work for a few more months but I just couldn't and it was unfair of her to make me try. So it's great to hear that your wife took it well and that you think you'll still be friends.
When you part ways amicably with someone it's natural to want to remain friends, I mean you've spent that long with them there must have something about them that you liked! But having some time apart will be good for both of you I think, to get used to being self sufficient again.
But seriously, well done! I know how hard it must have been to make this step. I'll echo what Trigger said and say that things are going to get much better for you, because they really did for me. It feels so good to finally figure out why things in your life didn't feel right. The hardest thing for me was how my ex handled it all, but if your wife is taking it well that's going to make things much easier. I hope she'll get through this all okay too.
When you part ways amicably with someone it's natural to want to remain friends, I mean you've spent that long with them there must have something about them that you liked! But having some time apart will be good for both of you I think, to get used to being self sufficient again.
But seriously, well done! I know how hard it must have been to make this step. I'll echo what Trigger said and say that things are going to get much better for you, because they really did for me. It feels so good to finally figure out why things in your life didn't feel right. The hardest thing for me was how my ex handled it all, but if your wife is taking it well that's going to make things much easier. I hope she'll get through this all okay too.
Hehe, I should so link that to my ex, I dunno if she'd think it was funny though. I do recall her Mum saying something about us, when she found out we broke up due to my gayness, like "You're like Will and Grace, except you got to sleep with Will" lol.
God damn!
Congrats on the change though. I can only imagine how hard that must be at late thirties. Also very fortunate that there aren't kids involved.
Also, welcome.
NintendoRev
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Wow, that had to be tough D= Congrats though! Like Trigger said, it'l be tough at first but MUCH better in the long run.
Woah, congrats.
I presume it must have been a tough decision for you. May I ask, what pushed you to finally come out? Was there a particular reason, or was that a simple "that's it, I have to do that!" kind of situation?
And welcome
Diseased Yak
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Thanks all, for the kind words.
GothPunk - We're definitely aware that we do need time apart despite agreeing to be friends. I'm sure over time as we get used to our new lives, we'll probably drift further apart and such, which is fine and natural I'm sure. I'm just glad she handled it so well. I told her repeatedly that the way she was behaving was actually beyond my wildest dream scenario when I had envisioned what might happen after I told her about my rampant gayery.
GothPunk - We're definitely aware that we do need time apart despite agreeing to be friends. I'm sure over time as we get used to our new lives, we'll probably drift further apart and such, which is fine and natural I'm sure. I'm just glad she handled it so well. I told her repeatedly that the way she was behaving was actually beyond my wildest dream scenario when I had envisioned what might happen after I told her about my rampant gayery.
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