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"No homo" is okay for innuendo like "My hand accidentally grazed this guy's crotch. I liked it. No homo." Most cases it's making fun of yourself and the least offensive.
I'm glad "so gay" is slowly dying out. I cringed every time I heard it when it seemed really popular between 2005-2009. Many more words to choose from instead of gay or retarded: lame, stupid, ghetto, Raven, etc.
"Dyke" is tricky because it's often used to refer to any lesbian without purposely meaning any negative connotations. Not in my vocab anyway.
"Fag/Faggot" is atrocious and any way you use it sounds incredibly hateful.
I'm glad "so gay" is slowly dying out. I cringed every time I heard it when it seemed really popular between 2005-2009. Many more words to choose from instead of gay or retarded: lame, stupid, ghetto, Raven, etc.
"Dyke" is tricky because it's often used to refer to any lesbian without purposely meaning any negative connotations. Not in my vocab anyway.
"Fag/Faggot" is atrocious and any way you use it sounds incredibly hateful.
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kittens
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You're kind of proving my point. If people have to constantly worry about whether they're perceived as queer or not, and face ridicule or violence if perceived as such, then the term is clearly coming from a place of homophobia. Even if it's homophobia for the sake of self-preservation.
The Anti-Monitor
Banned
This is seriously disturbing to read.
I'd never thought of homophobia for the sake of self-preservation.
Usually doesn't mean always.
Serious question though gaf. If you found out that your son/daughter were gay/lesbian, would you not be slightly disappointed at first? I know i would at first, mainly due to the facts that they are most likely going to have a harder time in society and that i won't be getting any grandkids, well i know the whole adoption thing but still..
I guess this post could get some hate so i just want to say i am in no way a homophobe (no homo) infact one of my closest friends is gay and i am often mistaken for a member of the gay community myself, which doesnt bother me.. I would still love that son/daughter all the same, but i would it would take some coming to terms with at first. What say you gaf? Anyone have any first hand experience?
I guess this post could get some hate so i just want to say i am in no way a homophobe (no homo) infact one of my closest friends is gay and i am often mistaken for a member of the gay community myself, which doesnt bother me.. I would still love that son/daughter all the same, but i would it would take some coming to terms with at first. What say you gaf? Anyone have any first hand experience?
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Deleted member 13876
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Kinda wanna see a NoHomophones site that tracks their misuse.
On the lesbian sites I go to (not those kinds of sites! >:|) we use the term dyke and no one's offended. I'm not really sure how that word is viewed and basically only use it with people I know.
Words are confusing and mean different things to different people so if you use a word that offends someone within reason you should apologize and refrain from using it around them.
Words are confusing and mean different things to different people so if you use a word that offends someone within reason you should apologize and refrain from using it around them.
ProfessorLobo
Banned
What if I'm complimenting a gay guy's large pecs?
LOL.
Johnny Cage In The Shower
Member
Last time I heard someone use the term "no homo" went something a little like this:
"I love wrapping my lips around a nice, wet hard cock once in a while, no homo."
Kinda made me chuckle, I donno should I have been offended instead?
"I love wrapping my lips around a nice, wet hard cock once in a while, no homo."
Kinda made me chuckle, I donno should I have been offended instead?
I get the point you're trying to make here, but he comparison falls flat. One (liking fried chicken) is a stereotype, the other (being sexually attracted to someone of the same sex) is the literal definition of the term. To put the two on the same level is insulting in-and-of itself.
That StealthMountain twitter is great.
lol
Pause is the new "no homo." Would "full homo"/"no hetero" fall in with the "no homo" lot?
lol
Pause is the new "no homo." Would "full homo"/"no hetero" fall in with the "no homo" lot?
There was an old Slate article about the "no homo" phenomenon called Does This Purple Mink Make Me Look Gay?:
The rise of no homo and the changing face of hip-hop homophobia that painted it in an optimistic light. I didn't really get it then, and I still don't get it now, but some of you might find it interesting.
To me it seems little more than a token denial that one is gay, and I don't really see how a reflexive denial of being gay because something you did or said might create that misunderstanding is somehow progressive.
The rise of no homo and the changing face of hip-hop homophobia that painted it in an optimistic light. I didn't really get it then, and I still don't get it now, but some of you might find it interesting.
To me it seems little more than a token denial that one is gay, and I don't really see how a reflexive denial of being gay because something you did or said might create that misunderstanding is somehow progressive.
hahahaha
Oh man some of the stuff here, awful.
Enter The 36 Chambers
Member
Pause
Man what's with african americans and homophobia. You think a minority group would sympathize with another minority group. I always heard there was a huge stigma in the black community, but that twitter account really shows it.
metalslimer
Member
The church's integral role in the black community overrides it many times
Stabby McSter
Member
NO HOMO NO HOMO NO HOMO
what a stupid fucking phrase
what a stupid fucking phrase
Deeply Christian, culture of hate and ignorance prevalent in many communities, and not very worldly, generally speaking.
Christ that probably would make me crack up if that happened in person, after the initial bewildered look as I processed what was said.
Most usage of no homo I've heard are when people say things that could be totally taken as gay, but weren't actually. Like "Yo B, you were so nice out there on the court tonight man, shit was tight. no homo." I usually heard it from out of towners from up north like NY or PA, etc. Homo was never taken to be an innately negative word, though. Not like the others.
I love rainbows, glitter, the color purple and lavender, and I like skipping on flowery meadows like some Sound of Music shit, and I'm not gay. We need to take all of that shit back. I'll be glad when all of this is far over. We've been carefully taught, and we'll have to carefully undo years of behavior that we once thought was perfectly ok. I mean, 'you're not gay, right? Gay is this conceptual thing that we know exists, but no one knows anyone who's actually gay, right?' That used to be reality, and the shit has changed in the last 20 years. People are uncomfortable with change, but everyone can deal with it eventually, if approached from the right angle. I believe it, anyway.
I think some out reach would help. More prominent gays in society, people feeling safe enough to come out. We'll discover we've been living with homosexuality for years, we just didn't know it. Or we refused to acknowledge it in our 'public' minds. Can we call that mass hysterical cognitive dissonance? Someone, the most rabid, antigay, hate crime waiting to happen, probably knows an openly gay person who is perfectly ok and nice and probably a much better person than they are, but they'll still allow for that unknown X factor, imaginary if necessary. They'll still see homosexuals as pedophiles or deviants and worse, all because of an expectation from friends and trusted authorities, that they accept it as true because of morality and tradition and shared fear. Some of them are gay themselves, and they'll be the most horrid and self-hating homophobes out there. And they don't even have to be rabid. Perfectly mild, and still just willing to believe the worst about a person, without any proof, based on admitted rumors and known lies. It's all really just an excuse to fear, and to exclude because of fear, because it's easier to do that than it is to change and deal with the unfamiliar.
Church, music, education all play a role in this.
Part of the reason I love the Ganstalicious episodes of the Boondocks so much.
"Homies over hos, homies over hos."
polyh3dron
Banned
seriously, they could just be referring to the very site that's tracking them
BrLvgThrChmstry
Banned
I clicked on said link expecting a flood ignorant comments primarily from the African American community and was pleasantly surprised to see that wasn't ...the case. Seems to really showcase a very diverse variety of ignorance. I guess, as minorities, they are expected to have a built in sympathy meter or sympathy period for anyone who faces discrimination of any sort.
Enter The 36 Chambers
Member
Ehhhh???
hah, full homo when they're really pushing the envelope with the joke.
You know, the whole "no negro" thing might actually work if they like, leaned to the side and mentioned in a hushed tone, "I'm not actually black." Full on nebbish-mode, I think it could do it.
LQX
Member
Why would that be a pleasant surprise? Has America change that much where hatred is only expected from a small group? Whats surprising is how many here are pointing fingers when the proof is in front of them. Look at the rainbow of faces in those tweets.
"Damn I could go for some newports, no negro"
XANDER CAGE
Member
I think "pause" has been around longer than "no homo".
cutmeamango
Banned
I ate some watermelons today and they were fantastic, no african or japanese.
Reminds me of this joke a friend told me. "So last night I was fucking this guy in the ass, and all of sudden as I'm plowing him, he turns around and tries to kiss me. I'm like dude are you gay?"
It is what it is. Usually low income. I had that attribute included in my post to begin with, I don't know why I took it out.
BrLvgThrChmstry
Banned
Well, lame and stupid are ableist and ghetto has some pretty shitty implications. Raven I can get down with.
ThoseDeafMutes
Member
50 years from now, young people will be saying things like "Did you know that gay used to refer to homosexuals?"
Listen, there is no black convention or meetings where we all agree or disagree on shit as a collective. I wish people would remember that.
"Now let's go back to ignoring those narfburngles across the street. Filthy narfs."
So I assume that you don't have ESP either. Darn...
Eggplant Wizard
Member
"Over 200,000 people tweeted faggot last week! Clearly I need to nitpick and discredit the site that told me that so I can keep saying 'no homo.'" Fucking hell.
Fantastical
Death Prophet
Alternatively I can call everyone that uses the phrase "no homo" a homophobe.
Parallax Scroll
Banned
I saw "no homo" as similar to "that's what she said" in that it's a way to add sexual meaning to a statement that wasn't meant to be sexual. I got a month ban for using it in a casual joke here though, so no one repeat my mistake.
Vermillion
Banned
I laughed
Eggplant Wizard
Member
All 9,891 of them?
BrLvgThrChmstry
Banned
Well... I can get behind that. But I always felt like the general sentiment of gay/lesbian community was that blacks or a more political correct term, African Americans (specifically the ones capable of voting), are seen as a hindrance to their cause (as I read and seen via various news outlets earlier this year concerning prop 8 was it?) regarding equality. You'll have to excuse me, I really behind the times of this type of stuff ( I live in my own little bubble). Is this still the case? I'm wondering if they actually still or ever believed that...
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