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Thanks for the well wishes guys, I had an awesome day where work at this conference went really well and then I got completely shit-faced. XD German beer is immense, too bad the whiskey is so expensive here.

Some people were talking about bringing me to the red light district here (apparently it's the largest in Europe) but I just politely explained that I don't think I'm their 'target market'. :P
 
I'm so used to being a lurker on gaf I've had my account for a while and never post but outside advice might be needed.

So from March until August I dated a guy, until I was the one who broke up with him for a multitude of reasons. The two main ones being the distance once I moved back to school that we both used to go to. (Our school is in BFE, the average student is 8 hours away from home.) The other commitment levels; he just graduated and ready to move on in life. Where as I'm still a year in and my life is unpredictable. So in short I ended things.

Then before moving back to my school to start my semester I started to talk to a guy, via grindr (yes I hate myself for this), and we hung out and what not. We got to know each other... if you catch my drift, and really hit things off.

So I was managing this long distance w/e I have with the new guy, until my ex came up for homecoming. After a series of events I ended up making out with him. I feel terrible for being bad to the new guy, having weaker restraint than I though, and still not having told the newer guy of this situation. I'm physically needy in a relationship which makes long distance so hard for me, and the main reason why I caved. Is this a good excuse? No. I just know my weakness.

I just fear telling my new guy of that weakness and him leaving me, even though I know I'm the complete dipstick of this situation.

Basically I'm lost in a sea of emotion and confusion
 
Shy Fingers said:
I'm so used to being a lurker on gaf I've had my account for a while and never post but outside advice might be needed.

So from March until August I dated a guy, until I was the one who broke up with him for a multitude of reasons. The two main ones being the distance once I moved back to school that we both used to go to. (Our school is in BFE, the average student is 8 hours away from home.) The other commitment levels; he just graduated and ready to move on in life. Where as I'm still a year in and my life is unpredictable. So in short I ended things.

Then before moving back to my school to start my semester I started to talk to a guy, via grindr (yes I hate myself for this), and we hung out and what not. We got to know each other... if you catch my drift, and really hit things off.

So I was managing this long distance w/e I have with the new guy, until my ex came up for homecoming. After a series of events I ended up making out with him. I feel terrible for being bad to the new guy, having weaker restraint than I though, and still not having told the newer guy of this situation. I'm physically needy in a relationship which makes long distance so hard for me, and the main reason why I caved. Is this a good excuse? No. I just know my weakness.

I just fear telling my new guy of that weakness and him leaving me, even though I know I'm the complete dipstick of this situation.

Basically I'm lost in a sea of emotion and confusion
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Did you two become boyfriends? (You and the new guy). Would you consider it "dating?" Did you two ever talk about exclusivity? You seem to be concerned about this, so I suggest talking it over with him and probably being truthful about what you've done just to kinda put it all on the table and clear things up in terms of what this relationship actually is and how exclusive you two should be.
 
Well if it was me I wouldn't care. You have relationships with other people and even if things are over, patterns remain from them (even if feelings don't). A kiss is not a big deal to me.

But then I'm not everyone. I guess monogamy is not that big of a deal to me. You see someone cute and want to consummate something with them. If you make it so they can't do something with them, those feelings could turn into more than infatuation and become a real threat to the relationship. If it became a regular thing I'd have a problem with it.

For me emotional loyalty is the important thing.
 
_Isaac said:
Did you two become boyfriends? (You and the new guy). Would you consider it "dating?" Did you two ever talk about exclusivity? You seem to be concerned about this, so I suggest talking it over with him and probably being truthful about what you've done just to kinda put it all on the table and clear things up in terms of what this relationship actually is and how exclusive you two should be.
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We are considered dating each other, even though he's still closeted, which makes things awkward at times.

I just don't want to lose him due to a stupid, some what intoxicated, display of emotional weakness.
 
Jealous. I wouldn't have thought twice about Dance Central a week ago but one of my roommates brought a Kinect with DC1 to the house and it's become a guilty pleasure.
 
Mr. F said:
I've been very, very subtly dropping hints to try to sell my roomie on picking them up, as it's not my Kinect. Times like these I wish Blockbuster was still around.
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I miss Blockbusters so much. I swear I finished more games back then when I knew I had a week to return them.
 
SpaceBridge said:
I miss Blockbusters so much. I swear I finished more games back then when I knew I had a week to return them.
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Oh, Definitely. Although that incentive briefly went out the window when late fees disappeared for a short while. I wonder if there's any good mail game rental services in Canada/if they're worth it?
 
Henchmen21 said:
So how we all doing today?
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Absolutely knackered from my time in Germany, but at least I've made it to the airport in one piece. I can't wait to be back home with my man... and my PS3. :P

_Isaac, for some reason I can see a notification for your b-day message, but when I click it it doesn't load. Oh and btw, who knew you were such a cutie!
 
GothPunk said:
Absolutely knackered from my time in Germany, but at least I've made it to the airport in one piece. I can't wait to be back home with my man... and my PS3. :P

_Isaac, for some reason I can see a notification for your b-day message, but when I click it it doesn't load. Oh and btw, who knew you were such a cutie!
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You should whip him into shape, he was complaining about the Ps3 earlier!
 
I've just noticed that I accidentally gave "+1" to a gay social app on Google Play few months ago. I wonder how many people from my circles on Google+ saw the app in their recommendations because of that :lol
 
Mr_Zombie said:
I've just noticed that I accidentally gave "+1" to a gay social app on Google Play few months ago. I wonder how many people from my circles on Google+ saw the app in their recommendations because of that :lol
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Was it Grindr? :P


I have this guy in my web development class that is (I believe) spanish or south american. Dark hair, eyes and just a good frame. Hes so pretty to look at. I always steal a look but I'm careful not to stare. Not in a "I want to tear his clothes off" but "Damn, he is really good looking. I wish I could be that good looking." kind of way.
 
Teh Hamburglar said:
Was it Grindr? :P
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No, Grindr isn't even that popular in Poland (at least when I tried it for few days there were only few guys from Poland, not one from my area though; the rest were foreigners). It wasn't exactly a pure hookup app, but something rather like, well, a social network (with hookup options :P). Anyway, I haven't used it much, but somehow managed to "+1" it.

Damn you Google and your stupid social network integration :/
 
Teh Hamburglar said:
Was it Grindr? :P


I have this guy in my web development class that is (I believe) spanish or south american. Dark hair, eyes and just a good frame. Hes so pretty to look at. I always steal a look but I'm careful not to stare. Not in a "I want to tear his clothes off" but "Damn, he is really good looking. I wish I could be that good looking." kind of way.
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I think I've seen your pic before, and I'd say you're pretty good looking.
 
Teh Hamburglar said:
Was it Grindr? :P


I have this guy in my web development class that is (I believe) spanish or south american. Dark hair, eyes and just a good frame. Hes so pretty to look at. I always steal a look but I'm careful not to stare. Not in a "I want to tear his clothes off" but "Damn, he is really good looking. I wish I could be that good looking." kind of way.
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I have something like that in the course I'm on at the moment except mine is a 'want to let him use me' way xD he's just so damn handsome and rugged
 
Executive summary of my love life, entitled I Need Help.

Had my longest relationship ever this summer (a whole two months) which I ended because the dude sucked at communicating and we had nothing in common.

I'm rapidly allowing myself to fall in love with a great, close friend who just exited a 14-year relationship with another good friend (met them as a couple). This is horribly bad news, but I can't stop my mind from going there. Don't worry, I ain't gonna do nuffin.

Every other first date I've had this year ends with me being bored out of my fucking mind, or physically, TOTALLY unattracted to the guy across the table.

I'm head over heels for many of my straight friends; I could see myself with half of them, if only they played for my team. Hardly ever seem to be attracted to other gay guys I meet.

And every day, my job puts me face to face with happy fucking couples everywhere I look.

Slowly going crazy.

I'm 28 next week and have never been able to even use the word boyfriend with anyone.

Someone tell me it'll be alright. Lie to me. Lol.
 
Magnus said:
Executive summary of my love life, entitled I Need Help.

Had my longest relationship ever this summer (a whole two months) which I ended because the dude sucked at communicating and we had nothing in common.

I'm rapidly allowing myself to fall in love with a great, close friend who just exited a 14-year relationship with another good friend (met them as a couple). This is horribly bad news, but I can't stop my mind from going there. Don't worry, I ain't gonna do nuffin.

Every other first date I've had this year ends with me being bored out of my fucking mind, or physically, TOTALLY unattracted to the guy across the table.

I'm head over heels for many of my straight friends; I could see myself with half of them, if only they played for my team. Hardly ever seem to be attracted to other gay guys I meet.

And every day, my job puts me face to face with happy fucking couples everywhere I look.

Slowly going crazy.

I'm 28 next week and have never been able to even use the word boyfriend with anyone.

Someone tell me it'll be alright. Lie to me. Lol.
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just accept your fate now.
 
Magnus said:
Executive summary of my love life, entitled I Need Help.

Had my longest relationship ever this summer (a whole two months) which I ended because the dude sucked at communicating and we had nothing in common.

I'm rapidly allowing myself to fall in love with a great, close friend who just exited a 14-year relationship with another good friend (met them as a couple). This is horribly bad news, but I can't stop my mind from going there. Don't worry, I ain't gonna do nuffin.

Every other first date I've had this year ends with me being bored out of my fucking mind, or physically, TOTALLY unattracted to the guy across the table.

I'm head over heels for many of my straight friends; I could see myself with half of them, if only they played for my team. Hardly ever seem to be attracted to other gay guys I meet.

And every day, my job puts me face to face with happy fucking couples everywhere I look.

Slowly going crazy.

I'm 28 next week and have never been able to even use the word boyfriend with anyone.

Someone tell me it'll be alright. Lie to me. Lol.
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Story of my life...except I'm 30 and no boyfriends or dates...ever.

Don't worry, things
won't
get better. :p
 
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