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Prez said:
To get back on this: I don't have the guts to do it. Something's just not right. Attractive people always ignore me, so it's hard for me to grasp that a hot guy finds me attractive.
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YOU think he is attractive, it's very likely he thinks he is "normal". If he is a nice, kind person, I don't think he is thinking " O.K. I am gorgeous and he's buttugly, but I feel like doing some social service and will let him be with me". Nobody thinks like that. If he is flirting, he likes you, period. Don't sell yourself so short, you deserve any guy out there :)

just go with the flow and see where it takes you.
 
sphinx said:
YOU think he is attractive, it's very likely he thinks he is "normal". If he is a nice, kind person, I don't think he is thinking " O.K. I am gorgeous and he's buttugly, but I feel like doing some social service and will let him be with me". Nobody thinks like that. If he is flirting, he likes you, period. Don't sell yourself so short, you deserve any guy out there :)

just go with the flow and see where it takes you.
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I'm pretty sure everyone would consider him attractive. He wasn't really flirting either. He proposed hooking up right away. Also there are plenty of people on that dating site that are way more attractive than me and who live closer to him. I have no idea why he would choose me.
 
Prez said:
To get back on this: I don't have the guts to do it. Something's just not right. Attractive people always ignore me, so it's hard for me to grasp that a hot guy finds me attractive.
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When faced with this type of interest from someone, many (most?) people tend to convince themselves that they're not up to par; if this guy wants you, then he wants you.

Do you find him attractive? Have you hooked up with guys previously and felt fine with yourself afterwards? As a one-off, it'd probably be fun, and hey, then you've got a hot guy story to tell your friends.
 
Cosmic Bus said:
When faced with this type of interest from someone, many (most?) people tend to convince themselves that they're not up to par; if this guy wants you, then he wants you.

Do you find him attractive? Have you hooked up with guys previously and felt fine with yourself afterwards? As a one-off, it'd probably be fun, and hey, then you've got a hot guy story to tell your friends.
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I have hooked up with guys before but never through a dating site.
 
BlazingDarkness said:
So how's all your love lives going?
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Great, saw him on Friday and we were in my bed hugging, kissing and smiling. Miss his warm body, my cute boyfriend :D.

Can you Gents/Gals help me find out a 90's song. The video consisted of naked hairless :( men sitting on the floor covering their genitals with their legs and the female group just playing their song. It went something like this Bam tarantan bam tarantan wiiuwiiu then a close up of the vocalist lip's singing. Thanks gaygaf.
 
Hey guys I haven't posted in here, so I feel bad for asking for advice like this.

There's this really cute (and incredibly nice) guy at work that I'm interested in, but.. Idk what I should do about it.
I don't know if he's straight or gay. I'm really bad at figuring out if a guy I like is gay :(


I was wondering how I should go about this. Should I become good friends with him (which could take a long time because of work schedules being random), THEN figure out of he's gay, or should I do the whole "do you have a girlfriend" thing (when it's just me and him) and see if he says "no, I like guys" or something lol. I mean I was planning on asking the girlfriend question and then hoping he asked "do you?" then I'd say "no I'm into guys". But THEN if I did that and he reacts in a negative way, it wouldn't be fun working with him anymore...

Ahhh... Forgive me if this post doesn't make any sense or if it's too vague or whatever. It sounded better in my head. Lol

What would you guys do?
 
7echnicolor said:
Hey guys I haven't posted in here, so I feel bad for asking for advice like this.

There's this really cute (and incredibly nice) guy at work that I'm interested in, but.. Idk what I should do about it.
I don't know if he's straight or gay. I'm really bad at figuring out if a guy I like is gay :(


I was wondering how I should go about this. Should I become good friends with him (which could take a long time because of work schedules being random), THEN figure out of he's gay, or should I do the whole "do you have a girlfriend" thing (when it's just me and him) and see if he says "no, I like guys" or something lol. I mean I was planning on asking the girlfriend question and then hoping he asked "do you?" then I'd say "no I'm into guys". But THEN if I did that and he reacts in a negative way, it wouldn't be fun working with him anymore...

Ahhh... Forgive me if this post doesn't make any sense or if it's too vague or whatever. It sounded better in my head. Lol

What would you guys do?
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You said work schedules are random. Do you even work with him or does he just work in the same building and you passed by him in the hallway once?
 
7echnicolor said:
It's a part time job so, sometimes we'll work together, sometimes not. Which makes it kinda hard to get to know him.
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Just try being his friend? It's bound to come up at some point naturally, and it wouldn't hurt to learn more about what you guys have in common before rushing into something.
 
Cosmic Bus said:
Just ask. These secretive games people play when trying to find out information are universally bad decisions.
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I was thinking of doing that too, but everytime I have the chance to that, I never have the balls to go through with it since I'm always afraid of how someone would react. It's kinda sad.. But whatever. Lol I just wish being gay wasn't so taboo in the US, where asking such a simple question could warrant a negative reaction. If he's straight I don't want to offend him.

Trigger said:
Just try being his friend? It's bound to come up at some point naturally, and it wouldn't hurt to learn more about what you guys have in common before rushing into something.
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You're right, this would work too. It's just the whole scheduling thing, I'll just have to hope for working more days with him, then asking him to hang out outside of work or something. Idk I'll just go with the flow I guess. If he ends up being straight, at least he's really nice and would most likely be a good friend.
 
How many Panda-Points do you guys have?

http://www.panda-points.com/

Panda-Points indicate how long it has been since someone had sex. The value of a Panda-Point depends on whether you're a student or not. For students, for each week without sex, one Panda-Point is earned. For others, one month equals one Panda-Point. Having sex resets the points to zero.
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I have 77.
 
I don't know where to start this whole thing is a massive clusterfuck.

He's on his way here now. I don't even know what to say to him. But I know that I feel my life is pretty much worthless.

The last 3 amazing years have been a big lie.
 
needlejuice said:
I don't know where to start this whole thing is a massive clusterfuck.

He's on his way here now. I don't even know what to say to him. But I know that I feel my life is pretty much worthless.

The last 3 amazing years have been a big lie.
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Tell him everything you feel. Don't argue, it will probably make things worse.
 
Prez said:
I have no idea why he would choose me.
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I know of one reason. ;}

needlejuice said:
He's on his way here now. I don't even know what to say to him. But I know that I feel my life is pretty much worthless.
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For what purpose? Did you invite him over or did he want to talk to you? Just keep calm and tell him how you feel.

If that doesn't work smash him over the head with a vase and tie him up and force him to listen to audiobooks/lectures about the harms/ineffectuality of those types of "therapies".
 
Replicant said:
After a long break, I finally fired up ME3 again so I can complete the Leviathan of Dis DLC. I have forgotten how hot/good-looking my Shepard is. I can't concentrate on the gameplay because I kept re-loading the cut scene prior to the sea descent so I can stare at his handsome face. This is not normal, right?

I hope I can import his face to the upcoming ME trilogy thing coming to PS3. It'd be nice to play ME1 with this face tech ME3 has.
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Mr_Zombie said:
Nope, but I've been guilty of this myself. I remember installing EVE Online just so I can play with the character creator and stare at my characters
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Dany M said:
My Shepard is better. Wait, I think someone in this thread recommended me a face to play as...hmm.
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Never change, GAF.



Prez said:
How many Panda-Points do you guys have?

http://www.panda-points.com/

I have 77.
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Therefore, Panda-Points remind us of the consequences of having too few sex: extinction.
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Whut? Yeah, 7 billion people, surely extinction is imminent.


What is sex?

Sex is defined any sexual activity received from, or applied to any person but yourself. Base two or three should be achieved: masturbation, penetration, or oral.
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O.o
 
BlazingDarkness said:
So how's all your love lives going?
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Going well, it's going to be 4 months since I started dating my current bf and so far so good :) We fight sometimes (mostly when we're really drunk) and he's a rather jealous person (which I usually can't stand) but he worked on it and I could see us being together for a while :)

Anyway my panda score is 0 >.>
 
Prez said:
Are you a student? Students get 1 point per week, non-students 1 per month.
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But I'm a middle-aged student ;)

It seems odd that there's such a discrepancy between point distribution for students and non. Is it really assumed if you're in college that you just get laid constantly?
 
Cosmic Bus said:
But I'm a middle-aged student ;)

It seems odd that there's such a discrepancy between point distribution for students and non. Is it really assumed if you're in college that you just get laid constantly?
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The panda-point game was invented by college students so it doesn't surprise me.

How long has it been for you?
 
Cosmic Bus said:
Huh, I got 11 also.
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Well after laying it on the line, it made no difference. His mind is made up and he's going to work towards not being gay. My heart is aching, and remaining friends with him will be tough, as I'll always be thinking of one more chance...

He is being compassionate and trying to help me come to terms with this. I guess that's something, but I'm not the kind of guy that can just flick my feelings off with a switch.

I'd imagine this whole episode will have a profound affect on my ability to ever trust another human being again. It's been the worst year of my life, and just when you need someone the most this happens.

I feel like I'll never get over this.
 
needlejuice said:
Well after laying it on the line, it made no difference. His mind is made up and he's going to work towards not being gay. My heart is aching, and remaining friends with him will be tough, as I'll always be thinking of one more chance...

He is being compassionate and trying to help me come to terms with this. I guess that's something, but I'm not the kind of guy that can just flick my feelings off with a switch.

I'd imagine this whole episode will have a profound affect on my ability to ever trust another human being again. It's been the worst year of my life, and just when you need someone the most this happens.

I feel like I'll never get over this.
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It's shitty, but unsurprising, that he decided to go ahead with it. He's in for a long road of misery and suffering, but it's ultimately his choice. The best you can do is incapacitate him and keep him locked up until he comes to his senses be there for him when it all comes crashing down, and try to move on with your own life.

I'm sorry. >:(
 
needlejuice said:
Well after laying it on the line, it made no difference. His mind is made up and he's going to work towards not being gay. My heart is aching, and remaining friends with him will be tough, as I'll always be thinking of one more chance...

He is being compassionate and trying to help me come to terms with this. I guess that's something, but I'm not the kind of guy that can just flick my feelings off with a switch.
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Bullshit. A compassionate man would not dismiss a three year relationship as nothing like this. Him asking you to come to terms with it, as if it's your issue rather than his, is a sick joke, I'm afraid.

You've evidently done your best, and I'm truly, truly sorry that your boyfriend is so committed to ignoring what he actually has to chase a dream.

I'd imagine this whole episode will have a profound affect on my ability to ever trust another human being again. It's been the worst year of my life, and just when you need someone the most this happens.

I feel like I'll never get over this.
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I'm really sorry, and I wish I was more experienced and could give better advice. I daresay others will say it better than me, but you need someone willing to stand by you.

Wish there was something we could do.
 
I've been trying to find answers and coping mechanisms since this news broke.

But there aren't any. I never thought I'd have to go through anything like this. Break-ups are difficult, I've had a few. But this guy made me feel we would be together forever.

This wasn't just something I imagined. We were a fantastic match, imperfect but very compatible.

I did ask if there was someone else, and I believe there isn't. But my fear is there may be someone down the line.

I'm quite vulnerable and not a very strong minded person which makes this all almost too much to bare. I've been having terrible thoughts and agonising with myself over just ending this unbearable sadness that I feel for good.

I've never been faced with such a bleak and empty tomorrow.
 
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