Not everyone is a morning person brah
Dating-Age |OT3| Positivity, Confidence, and Not Being a "Nice" Guy
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Not everyone is a morning person brah
AdventureRacing
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Heh i did night shift last night so i slept until 5 pm today (i don't usually sleep that long but i was more tired than usual and a little sick).
I'm an expert
Formerly worldrevolution. The only reason I am nice to anyone else is to avoid being banned.
I almost always do that on weekends because I need to catch up on sleep that I didn't get during the weekdays, even more so if I have been out thursday and/or friday. And tonight is no different ^^
AdventureRacing
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It's just gotten to 4am here, can't wait until this shift finishes to have another long sleep. It's kinda weird having breakfast when u wake up in the afternoon though
.So last night my girlfriend and I went to a gathering with a bunch of friends to drink and play the new Halo game. She gets drunk as can be, that's fine - but during the whole "party" she must have touched this guy's ass at least five times. The fuck? Also she kept pointing out, obnoxiously "Look at 'John!' Look how funny he is!" - exact quote to me, multiple times (I'm guessing she's trying to get me jealous.) So today, her alarm went off on her phone and I go shut it off and see texts from the dude she was touching last night.
Her: I touched your bum last night.
Him: How was it? Hmm.
It's hard to explain in text, but I laughed it off - made a joke and handed her the phone (But really in my mind I was thinking wtf -_-) Sorry I am so terrible at explaining my issue.
Pfft. And she wonders why I don't like spending time with her friends, and would rather just be one on one with her, playing guitar or playing Assassins Creed III together on a Friday night :lol
I do trust her!
I'm an expert
Formerly worldrevolution. The only reason I am nice to anyone else is to avoid being banned.
Are you even reading what you write..?
AdventureRacing
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She has cheated on you before and is now acting like that? Damn you are a serious pushover. I would be bailing out of there ASAP.
I'm used to itIt's just gotten to 4am here, can't wait until this shift finishes to have another long sleep. It's kinda weird having breakfast when u wake up in the afternoon though
You are one *name quote*.
Lol. I thought this was the simping thread. Seriously, GOOD FUCKING LUCK.
samus i am
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1. Break up
2. Delete Facebook (or just her)
3. Hit the gym
I am being serious in this case.
RedNalgene
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Yeah, I agree with this too. But he needs to realize for himself that he's being a pushover and letting her completely control the relationship. Nobody on this forum can convince him of that, but maybe re-reading his last few posts will start to illuminate some of these points
PflargBlarg
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Man. Your gf grabbing some other guy's ass multiple times and then texting him about it isn't a thing that you laugh off. Especially if she's cheated on you before. It shows a complete lack of respect for you.
He didn't break up with her when she cheated on him. She will continue to cheat on him whether he believes it or not (and she most certainly is). It's probably his first love and thinks the world of her. He's just gonna ride it out till she breaks up with him. No sense in giving him more advice, he knows what he needs to do.
This, depending on the response to all these posts.
Devolution
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So my Ex of three years has been calling, texting and emailing me a lot over the past few days. I've ignored every single one, as I really don't wish to talk to her. Nor do I care to wish her a happy thanksgiving given how she treated me post break-up.
Part of me feels really petty because I still do care about her a lot. However, the other part knows she's likely just doing it to keep tabs on my personal life. I imagine she couldn't care less about my well being. or how my Holiday has been. Does this make me a bad person, GAF? Likewise, should I at least be courtesy and respond in some fashion - hinting I'd rather not talk?
Part of me feels really petty because I still do care about her a lot. However, the other part knows she's likely just doing it to keep tabs on my personal life. I imagine she couldn't care less about my well being. or how my Holiday has been. Does this make me a bad person, GAF? Likewise, should I at least be courtesy and respond in some fashion - hinting I'd rather not talk?
Would you guys personally deal with a girl(20 years old) that has to have an escort during a hang out? She comes to my state every so often so obviously its not serious, nor would I want a long distance relationship. Mentions how shes a guest in her aunt's home and all that jazz. I partly feel like I'm being unreasonable but at the same time shes 20 years old and it just seems odd.
Count Dookkake
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Eff that.
Devolution
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Something happens to her guess whose ass they'll come for first?
Count Dookkake
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Also, "obviously."
Is she royalty or mob or something?
If not then hell no.
If mob then DEFINITELY hell no.
Devolution
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Religious would be my guess. I only hear of escorts in relation to Islam these days.
she comes from a hispanic family. She mentioned its not her house or her rules.
Well, I should point out that I stayed up until 4:30 in the morning.
Not saying that excuses me, but just pointing it out.
Devolution
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Oh. Still wouldn't do it. Too awkward.
PflargBlarg
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She's 20 and her aunt won't let her go see a guy without an escort?
I guess that's something.
I guess that's something.
TacticalFox88
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So, yeah....I think I have strong feelings for my best friends girlfriend. Thing is, I know if the situation came down to it, even if I got the opportunity, I wouldn't have sex with her even though my mind (and lower head,) just screams to want to take her hard and raw. I simply won't due to my loyalty to him.
How do you deal with such feelings that you know for a fact you won't act on? I want to SOOOOOO bad, but at the same time, I'd know the guilt would eat me alive.
Fuck.
How do you deal with such feelings that you know for a fact you won't act on? I want to SOOOOOO bad, but at the same time, I'd know the guilt would eat me alive.
Fuck.
Vermillion
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I'm not the most self-confident person, so I don't really imagine I could very often.
But when I do, I roll back to the fact that I would not and could not do that to a friend, ever. And you won't - there's too much to lose. Just remind yourself that it isn't worth it, and try to focus on other women.
Vermillion
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I'd just ask more expansive questions dealing with what you already know. Something that could lead to something else.
But I imagine hobbies is a good one.
But I imagine hobbies is a good one.
PflargBlarg
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Well shit guys.
So I was texting the girl that I've been seeing and she drops this after a short little conversation.
Her: I know I should have brought this up sooner but I'm seeing other people. Is that alright?
Me: Well, yeah you should have brought that up sooner.
Me: It's not cool to be left guessing at what's going on.
So I spent like 10 minutes just looking at my phone thinking about how I felt about this. I eventually sent something back about how if she's still interested in seeing me, then ok. But I don't know...I may be rethinking that.
This wouldn't be a huge deal if this had been laid out at the beginning, but it's not at all the impression I've been given over the last several weeks. I mean, it's fair to assume that a desirable girl isn't going to be exclusively going on dates with you at first, but after a while it's a little different.
She hasn't responded yet, so I have no fucking clue.
So I was texting the girl that I've been seeing and she drops this after a short little conversation.
Her: I know I should have brought this up sooner but I'm seeing other people. Is that alright?
Me: Well, yeah you should have brought that up sooner.
Me: It's not cool to be left guessing at what's going on.
So I spent like 10 minutes just looking at my phone thinking about how I felt about this. I eventually sent something back about how if she's still interested in seeing me, then ok. But I don't know...I may be rethinking that.
This wouldn't be a huge deal if this had been laid out at the beginning, but it's not at all the impression I've been given over the last several weeks. I mean, it's fair to assume that a desirable girl isn't going to be exclusively going on dates with you at first, but after a while it's a little different.
She hasn't responded yet, so I have no fucking clue.
grap3fruitman
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First ask yourself this: "Would Ryu Hayabusa be such a little bitch? What would he do in this scenario?"
Anticitizen One
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I might be going to a bar/club this Thursday. Any advice?
Devolution
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Don't get too drunk if you plan to chat some women up.
Vermillion
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Well, you should be going with friends, natch.
Then, be sure to play the area - don't try to talk too much if it's too loud, for example. Don't buy anyone drinks as an attempt to get laid. Make your move very quickly. You wait, and chances are some other guy will come up to her first. Even if she doesn't like them, some guys will talk to her forever and your chance will be ruined. Finally, have fun!
EDIT: What Devo said. I never seem to follow that advice myself because I'm more confident when drunk, but the ups come with the downs. If you want a real conversation, do not get hammered. Because unless you're really lucky (God do I know people like that - my friend blacked out and had sex), it won't work out.
PflargBlarg
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For reals guys. I need advice on that conversation. I don't know what to do.
Vermillion
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Personally, I don't multi-text. If they haven't texted me back, I don't follow up with something else - it looks desperate. So there's not much you can do but wait, imo.
Biff
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Hate to break it to you duder but you're screwed.
She isn't texting back for a reason. She's probably pissed off at you for thinking you can control her, etc etc. It's done.
Seriously the above advice about not multi-texting without a response is 100x more important when it's something as serious as her decision hurting your feelings. But to be honest, if you've been dating for a few weeks and she is still seeing multiple guys.... That's a huge red flag and it wasn't going to work out. I mean... Trying to decide between another guy and you... Okay. Maybe after 3 weeks. But still seeing other "people"? Wtf.
Devolution
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Don't text her back. Don't come off like that needy guy. Just say "fuck you" (not to her but in your mind) and move on.
I'll say this: if she was really into you she'd be exclusive with you. The fact that she isn't OR wants to play games means it's not worth it.
PflargBlarg
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Is that really 'multi-texting'? I replied to the points in her message and then that's it. The time spent was formulating a response.
I wasn't planning on sending her anythign else at this point.
Yeah, you're probably right about that.
Does that really come off as me trying to control her? I think it's just common courtesy to let a guy know wtf is going on.
I wasn't planning on sending her anythign else at this point.
Yeah, you're probably right about that.
Does that really come off as me trying to control her? I think it's just common courtesy to let a guy know wtf is going on.
Devolution
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You're fine just don't send anything more.
Biff
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The first two back-to-back messages do not count. Lots of people text that way.
It was the "I eventually sent something back about how if she's still interested in seeing me, then ok" part that we're talking about (or at least I'm talking about).
Don't overthink it though. The bigger point is that she was still playing games after 3 weeks.
PflargBlarg
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Missed this before.
Yeah, I think it's more the surprise that hit me after 3 weeks, that now she's telling me that it's not exclusive. It's pretty unexpected.
Hmm, explains more clearly why it's been fairly difficult to set dates up with her. All it was to me is that she lives an hour away and has a pretty irregular work schedule.
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