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Teh Hamburglar said:
Picturing the Navy staging a search for the elusive "Dorothy" is freaking hilarious. I hope it is true.
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It definitely seems to be true.

http://dymsum.wordpress.com/2009/05/03/no63/

In gay bars known to attract military personnel… NIS agents were asking pointed questions about someone named Dorothy. When one unfortunate sailor acknowledged he was gay in order to get out of the Navy, NIS agents sat him down and told him that they knew all about Dorothy. What they wanted to know from him was how to find her. The sailor, who was too young to know the code, was baffled.
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I'm thinking about going to a new gay bar by myself tonight. Never gone anywhere like that by myself but I thought I could maybe meet some people that way. It's apparently a very classy bar.

Any pointers? I don't exactly know what the etiquette here is. I'm just going to hopefully meet a new person or two :)
 
Pyrokai said:
I'm thinking about going to a new gay bar by myself tonight. Never gone anywhere like that by myself but I thought I could maybe meet some people that way. It's apparently a very classy bar.

Any pointers? I don't exactly know what the etiquette here is. I'm just going to hopefully meet a new person or two :)
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I doubt there is such a thing as a classy gay bar.
 
Pyrokai said:
I'm thinking about going to a new gay bar by myself tonight. Never gone anywhere like that by myself but I thought I could maybe meet some people that way. It's apparently a very classy bar.

Any pointers? I don't exactly know what the etiquette here is. I'm just going to hopefully meet a new person or two :)
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are you planning to go alone?
 
Prez said:
I doubt there is such a thing as a classy gay bar.
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Sad but seemingly true. The nicest places I've been to all turn into a meat market once a few handfuls of people begin to shuffle in.

I think "classy gay bar" is really just "classy indeterminate-orientation bar" where you happen to take a date.
 
Sai-kun said:
Drink a lot, really fast.

That's what I always do.
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Wellll.....it's far enough away that I have to drive. About a 25 minute drive in a neighboring city. So can't do that :p

PowderedToast said:
are you planning to go alone?
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Yes :p

Cosmic Bus said:
Sad but seemingly true. The nicest places I've been to all turn into a meat market once a few handfuls of people begin to shuffle in.

I think "classy gay bar" is really just "classy indeterminate-orientation bar" where you happen to take a date.
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Shit, this statement has me a little worried. I'm pretty naive and give people the benefit of the doubt, and I'm a total wimp. I don't want to get date-raped :\

Perhaps I should just stay in tonight and be lame. I wish I had more gay friends.
 
Pyrokai said:
Shit, this statement has me a little worried. I'm pretty naive and give people the benefit of the doubt, and I'm a total wimp. I don't want to get date-raped :\
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You're not going to get raped. I'm just sayin' that after a certain point, it's unlikely that you'll be having any meaningful conversations -- or even be able to hear one in the first place.
 
umop_3pisdn said:
That seems kind of natural though, I can't really imagine a "straight bar" that wouldn't be centered on hooking up either.
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Are you for real? You don't go to straight bars often, do you?

These days if I go out I go to straight bars and most of them are not centered on hooking up. It's a night and day difference, I can tell you that. The whole gay scene is rotten to its core.
 
Prez said:
Are you for real? You don't go to straight bars often, do you?

These days if I go out I go to straight bars and most of them are not centered on hooking up. It's a night and day difference, I can tell you that. The whole gay scene is rotten to its core.
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I'm drawing an arbitrary and probably imaginary distinction between "straight bars" and just "bars" :p I don't think that a bar simply not being a gay bar is enough to qualify it as a "straight bar".
 
Cosmic Bus said:
You're not going to get raped. I'm just sayin' that after a certain point, it's unlikely that you'll be having any meaningful conversations -- or even be able to hear one in the first place.
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I was mostly kidding about the rape thing, but not so much about being a wimp. I should just suck it up and go out. Probably will because I really do want to go, I just don't have anyone to go with.

Prez said:
Are you for real? You don't go to straight bars often, do you?

These days if I go out I go to straight bars and most of them are not centered on hooking up. It's a night and day difference, I can tell you that. The whole gay scene is rotten to its core.
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This is really unfortunate, honestly. I hate going to gay bars/clubs and it ends up being trashy. I was hoping--based on word of mouth--that this bar I may go to tonight isn't like this. I would like to go to a gay bar that isn't about hooking up and is more akin to the average straight bar. Bahhh...whatever.

Question, though: What if someone approaches me while I'm at the bar alone and I don't like him and want him to go away so I can talk to someone else/have someone else approach me? This is about the only scenario I would be clueless on how to get out of since I don't have a posse "that's looking for me" as an excuse to leave.

Likewise, what if I approach someone and realize they don't have any interest in me? What's the kindest way to leave that person alone and sort-of apologize when giving him back his space?
 
Pyrokai said:
This is really unfortunate, honestly. I hate going to gay bars/clubs and it ends up being trashy. I was hoping--based on word of mouth--that this bar I may go to tonight isn't like this. I would like to go to a gay bar that isn't about hooking up and is more akin to the average straight bar. Bahhh...whatever.

Question, though: What if someone approaches me while I'm at the bar alone and I don't like him and want him to go away so I can talk to someone else/have someone else approach me? This is about the only scenario I would be clueless on how to get out of since I don't have a posse "that's looking for me" as an excuse to leave.

Likewise, what if I approach someone and realize they don't have any interest in me? What's the kindest way to leave that person alone and sort-of apologize when giving him back his space?
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Most people hitting on you will be dirtbags so no need to be nice. Just tell them to leave. Don't waste your energy on lies, honesty is always important.
 
just come from a gay disco, first time ever since I am here in Germany...

it's sad to come back home alone after so many eye contacts.... -_-
 
Prez said:
Did you talk to anyone?
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the guy that was smiling at me all the time approached me and my friend, with whom I went to this disco...

and began talking TO HIM!! ..... but my friend didn't like him and told him politely "no thanks"... everything gone wrong, I'd have taken that guy to my place that very instant...

-_- *sigh
 
So guys I'm at the bar now and feel incredibly awkward as you can tell from my posting haha. Wish I didn't have to drive home otherwise I'd just drink tons. I'll loosin' up. Just reporting in!!
 
lunch said:
That's what I figure they're all like. Every person I hear talking about going to gay bars is female.
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There were a lot of females there. I'm sure they could've been gay, but there wasn't really a lot of "gay guy" stuff going on, which is what I expected based on stories I've read here and the media. Ah well. It was still fun.
 
_Isaac said:
There were a lot of females there. I'm sure they could've been gay, but there wasn't really a lot of "gay guy" stuff going on, which is what I expected based on stories I've read here and the media. Ah well. It was still fun.
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There wasn't an orgy happenin, guys weren't taking ectasy? For shame.
 
So it's a pretty good second date that ends with the guy buying you breakfast, right?

#cloudnine

This is it. The best I've ever clicked with anyone in my life. It's only happened twice before, and both times, nowhere near as strongly as this.

Thanks to those that shot some advice my way this week! Things are going very well. :)
 
Magnus said:
So it's a pretty good second date that ends with the guy buying you breakfast, right?

#cloudnine

This is it. The best I've ever clicked with anyone in my life. It's only happened twice before, and both times, nowhere near as strongly as this.

Thanks to those that shot some advice my way this week! Things are going very well. :)
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Well now I'm envious. Congrats on finding such a great guy Magnus.
 
MyAbsolution said:
Turning 21 in Americuh is the equivalent of the Canadian 18-19.
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Unless you're like me, in that turning 19 was like any other year :O
I don't really drink.

Magnus said:
So it's a pretty good second date that ends with the guy buying you breakfast, right?

#cloudnine

This is it. The best I've ever clicked with anyone in my life. It's only happened twice before, and both times, nowhere near as strongly as this.

Thanks to those that shot some advice my way this week! Things are going very well. :)
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Glad to hear it all went well, seeing him again soon?
 
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