He apparently wants to love you.
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He apparently wants to love you.
Ha!
Don't worry, it's only for the holidays. Consider it my gift to Gaf (because I'm sure as hell not actually buying you guys anything).
Henchmen21
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Take a nap for a few hours and suddenly everyone's talking about 3rd cousins lol.
RatskyWatsky
Hunky Nostradamus
Even if he is only distantly related, a relation is a relation. And I will never have relations with a relation.
Henchmen21
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Lol that was almost Seuss-ian.
How new-agey of you.
Dead Prince
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a bottle of alcohol and you'll be balls deep.
PowderedToast
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has anybody read any james baldwin? he was a black, gay author who wrote about homosexuality and racism in the 1950's. i'm reading 'giovanni's room' right now and i'm enraptured. the prose is at times breathtaking.
I read it a couple of months ago, it's really good, specially the last half. I think it was lunch the one who told me to read it.
RatskyWatsky
Hunky Nostradamus
Dead Prince
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Taking notes.
Yep, I recommended it when Never Let Me Go was brought up; I'm glad you ended up reading and enjoying it Nlroh. His first novel, Go Tell it on the Mountain, is also excellent and worth reading if you enjoyed Giovanni's Room. Likely because of the fact that he was both gay and black, a lot of his writing on racial identity shares themes with his writing on sexuality, "Stranger in the Village" being a good example, so even though Giovanni's Room is his most explicit work of gay fiction, sexuality's a constant motif in his novels.
So yeah, long story short, glad to see other people finding the book and loving it. James Baldwin is my favorite author.
RatskyWatsky
Hunky Nostradamus
I implore you to share your experiences with the group.
DR2K
Banned
It's not 3 guys at once, lol.
RatskyWatsky
Hunky Nostradamus
That's okay, I don't mind.
I thought that I should read it... then I went to wikipedia and read that it "examines the role of the Christian Church..." That thing irks me. Maybe I'll try to read it later, but religion, god, I can't, can't, can't, can't read something like that. >_<
#applause
One of my best buds just got dumped three months ago. 14-year relationship. Fourteen. Kid's still an emotional wreck. But damn. Every time I see him, there's another story about a hookup or a date. He's getting so, so much. lol.
Meanwhile, I'm agonizing over a third date with a guy and already worried about all the ways I'm going to screw up.
RatskyWatsky
Hunky Nostradamus
Is he straight? Why do you think he's getting so much? Is he hot?
RatskyWatsky
Hunky Nostradamus
Not tiny. Just smaller than a bear.
The book definitely delves into the church as the main character's father is a pastor (like, if I'm remembering correctly, Baldwin's own father), but the book has flashbacks into the lives of the other characters and what brought them to the church, and it's much more about race than religion. It certainly doesn't paint religion in the best light, but I wouldn't go so far as to say that the entire book is just a critique on religion, so much as it's a story about people who use the church as a crutch. It's a fantastic book. Read it.
Necromanti
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Anyone got any experiences with libido suppressants? Perhaps an anti-depressant, or finasteride? I fear that I am at a point where it is interfering with my daily life, threatening my sanity. Seems like it could be an embarrassing thing to bring up to a doctor.
It may be embarrassing, but bring it up with a doctor.
First SFW google result:
Posts like this depress me so much.
Just to warn you (I have a neuroscience background btw but not a doctor), that whilst many antidepressants have 'sexual dysfunction' side effects, it's not an exact measure. So for some people it may make them less interested in sex, whereas for other people it may just delay their onset of orgasm. It can also affect orgasm quality or result in a condition known as ejaculatory anhedonia - wouldn't you feel worse if you were horny all the time but when you reached orgasm you didn't really feel anything? For some people these side effects remain even when the medication is halted, sometimes for a few years.
This applies specifically to a type of antidepressants called SSRIs or SSREs, if you're looking for more information. It is most likely that this is the type of antidepressant that would be prescribed due to their effects on sexual function.
I would also advice against finasteride, as messing with your hormone levels when you don't have a endocrine problem is dangerous, at least in my opinion. Of course I realise it's your body and you can do what you want, but these drugs can have far reaching side effects into later life. At low doses you might be fine regarding such side effects, but it could still effect your energy levels, motivation and risk of feeling depressed.
Medication seems like taking a sledgehammer to crack a nut. I would suggest something less drastic like seeing a counsellor or a psychiatrist about this rather than a GP. Either that or just have a wank 4 times a day?
Change your diet drastically. Red meat increases testosterone levels, so stop eating that. You can keep eating unhealthy though, because fried foods can lower your libido.
Also check out this list of foods that lower libido. Some of it sounds like bs though and it seems that you'd have to eat those foods in very large quantities to notice a difference. I'm also not sure if those will help much if you keep eating red meat and other libido enhancing foods. Gotta make some sacrifices.
As for SSRIs, they never affected my sex drive, but they did improve my sex life. Zoloft greatly increased my stamina and gave me amazing orgasms.
DR2K
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Well I got stood up last Friday, we made plans to meet, no response. . . we had a dat on Saturday. but no show. Whatever. Guy begs me to not give up on him then stands me up.
Went on a date with another guy, we watched the shitty Lincoln movie. Been chatting ever since.
Then there was another guy who lives a minute away from me, Aerobics instructer, very fun stuff there.
Then there's the guy that might end up being my boss, we're just chatting, but he wants more and he's hot so there's that.
I don't understand how I went from barely getting to know 1 guy to taking it easy and getting 3. . . odd.
Damon Bennet
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wrong with you is that you use the XD emoticon. you just dont use that if you are over 13 and mentally stable!
I'm sorry. Congratulations and
I hate you.
If I'm not mistaken, these side effects are an oft cited reason for people going off their meds. Which, when you're treating something like depression or schizoid personality disorder (I think that's one, right?) it can be a bit of an issue.
Comes and goes in waves.
Gay. And I mean, yeah, very hot.
excelforward
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...hook a brother up?
FB brother
Hmm, I've never thought about gay bachelor parties. I guess they would? The idea of a bachelor party IMO, is to celebrate one last night as if you were single.
DR2K
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I would imagine a big threesome with the stripper. . . but that's just my opinion.
Heh this makes no sense, they can do that if they wanted after getting married.
All couples spend less time with their friends after they get very serious, so a bachelor party should be hanging with your friends doing typical stuff you used to do... I guess.
Makes sense I guess. They kind of have separate groups of friends, I know my friend from college. So I have a feeling he's going to have some sort of college bro batchelor party seperate from his fiancé. Being straight I had just never really thought about this until he told me they were engaged and I was curious how it usually works.
RatskyWatsky
Hunky Nostradamus
Just chatting? :/
Good. You should always sleep with your (potential) boss if the opportunity arises. He might even give you a raise!
Maybe because you're a nice person?
:O
Very, very hot? I wonder what that second very represents? ;p
Are you seeing double? There's only one.
Cosmic Bus
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I'm extending the metaphor to specify that some of you live on the beaches of Oahu and the rest of us live in the Mojave desert.
PowderedToast
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i'm beginning to notice that as long as you're living on this planet things will only ever get more complex, they will never regress and become simpler. i don't mean in the traditional sense of social responsibilities and pressures, rather i'm talking about people and your personal relationships with them.
the amount of conflicting emotions i feel when i'm greeted with a picture of my recent ex-girlfriend of four years..well i'm not eloquent enough to express that emotional response in words. it just builds, and then builds.
so then i imagine that in another 20 years time, those responses will become even more indecipherable. or perhaps this is a trait of being young? boy i hope to have gained more clarity and wisdom by then.
apologies for being banal, it's late and i seem to be dazed and confused
the amount of conflicting emotions i feel when i'm greeted with a picture of my recent ex-girlfriend of four years..well i'm not eloquent enough to express that emotional response in words. it just builds, and then builds.
so then i imagine that in another 20 years time, those responses will become even more indecipherable. or perhaps this is a trait of being young? boy i hope to have gained more clarity and wisdom by then.
apologies for being banal, it's late and i seem to be dazed and confused
D:
How about I buy you a plane ticket
Could you buy me one to Washinton?
kitchenmotors
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D:
How about I buy you a plane ticket
Then Patrick is going to come stay with me. He still owes me some baked goods.
I think he owes you some buns.
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