I don't know if I'm crazy, but I prefer someone who I can have a great conversation with than a pretty face.
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I don't know if I'm crazy, but I prefer someone who I can have a great conversation with than a pretty face.
DR2K
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That's what I kept telling myself.
you're not crazy. This isn't uncommon at all.
I have to have the conversation part or there's 0 chance of anything lasting more than a few dates. I've also dated people I'm not really physically attracted to before. The other forms of attraction are far more important to me.
Charles Foster Kane
Rosebud
I rather be alone than with someone just for something sexual. I'd never allow myself to do that. It'd just make me feel emptier.
The last time I actually liked someone... let's just say he wasn't pretty, but he had a great personality, we got along well, and that's what matters to me.
umop_3pisdn
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In terms of romance I find that I've only been swayed by 'love at first sight', where trying to characterize a distinction between physical and mental attractiveness becomes meaningless or in some way inapplicable. I don't know if that has to do with me being somewhat romantically disinterested and so that is all that catches my notice, or because I generally make important decisions in all areas of my life based on instinct or my immediate feelings so that kind of response sort of speaks my language, but apart from the obvious impracticalities of this approach I thought it worked well. You can't really doubt how you feel about someone when it happens that way, but I guess it can make you vulnerable too.
I've said it before, sexual attraction is far more flexible than people think, it has happened to me that I start to see someone more attractive if I like their personality, and someone insanely hot starts to get uglier when he is really not that great of a person.
With that said, there is an obvious initial threshold, and I really think there needs to be that initial physical attraction to make things go, however is not that high, the guy doesn't need to look like a model at all.
With that said, there is an obvious initial threshold, and I really think there needs to be that initial physical attraction to make things go, however is not that high, the guy doesn't need to look like a model at all.
Mystic Theurge
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If I had to chose between someone I was physically attracted to but socially incompatible with and someone who was the opposite, I think I would choose neither. Physical attraction and social compatibility are both important things to me.
Though saying that, a part of me feels that my mind would change my perception, and I would eventually start considering the unattractive but socially compatible guy hot.
Does anyone else feel that way?
Edit:
At least another person does.
Though saying that, a part of me feels that my mind would change my perception, and I would eventually start considering the unattractive but socially compatible guy hot.
Does anyone else feel that way?
Edit:
At least another person does.
Charles Foster Kane
Rosebud
I feel it is flexible and can also change a little over time. I've known guys who I didn't find attractive that I later liked a lot.
Definitely it has happened to me as well.
My least favorite thing is awkward silences. I enjoy comfortable silences, and have definitely met some people where we were comfortable just relaxing and not saying much, just enjoying each others company, but damn I could never DATE a 10/10 person and have to put up with awkward silences all the time.
Well. Maybe. If they're like ridiculously hot. Maybe.
Well. Maybe. If they're like ridiculously hot. Maybe.
I'm one of those D:
Yeah I'm the same, that's pretty much what happened with my current bf.
Don't be ludicrous..Great personality or great body?
Escape Goat
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why cant we control our boners
Great personality or great body?
What is this originally from. I love it.
Charles Foster Kane
Rosebud
It's really hard!
Taco commercial.
Fantastical
Death Prophet
I agree with the girl. Having both is great. Who wants to be a shallow forever alone?
Dead Prince
Banned
Sup. It's almost christmas break. everyone paired off to make out under the mistletoe?
I'd be fine with an okay looking guy if I love his personality. But if he's so unattractive to me that I don't want to hug him, well, we'd have a problem. Both are very, very important, as crappy as it is that looks matter so much. I think I'd have an easier time with guys if I'd evolve from skinny to athletic.
I like being skinny, though. I'd like looking like this:
I like being skinny, though. I'd like looking like this:
SpaceBridge
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You are a fresh tadpole in a pool of sharks. You'll get a lot of messages and responses. Fresh meat will bring out the weirdos and creeps looking to tap
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I'd be fine with an okay looking guy if I love his personality. But if he's so unattractive to me that I don't want to hug him, well, we'd have a problem. Both are very, very important, as crappy as it is that looks matter so much. I think I'd have an easier time with guys if I'd evolve from skinny to athletic.
I like being skinny, though. I'd like looking like this:
My goal is to be just slightly bulkier than this. Then I will have achieved personal perfection. Delicious.
I was hit up on Grindr (lol, I leave it there for curiosity's sake) by someone who it turned out had done a lot of porn. He was very complimentary though I obviously didn't take him up on it.
I'd be fine with an okay looking guy if I love his personality. But if he's so unattractive to me that I don't want to hug him, well, we'd have a problem. Both are very, very important, as crappy as it is that looks matter so much. I think I'd have an easier time with guys if I'd evolve from skinny to athletic.
I like being skinny, though. I'd like looking like this:
I'd like to look like that, but I'm too lazy to work out.
On an unrelated note, I'd forgotten how good Muse used to be. I was ready to watch Homeland but I can't stop listening to this album, it's fucking perfect.
Clean your body of me
Erase all the memories
How can a song be so good?!?
Mystic Theurge
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Good luck!
i_am_ben
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WhaaaaHe may not have had sex that day, but he clearly hit rock bottom
PowderedToast
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who needs a partner when you have bryan ferry to help you wallow in your beautiful melancholic misery
Good luck! But aren't you in Brazil?
You guys think cowboys dancing to country music is hot and sexy or weird and more of a turn off?
I keep watching them and can't decide, the country outfit is hot but then I remember Brokeback Mountain, a movie I didn't like very much and I like it a bit less...
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=003_ulzGw4I
I keep watching them and can't decide, the country outfit is hot but then I remember Brokeback Mountain, a movie I didn't like very much and I like it a bit less...
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=003_ulzGw4I
He may not have had sex that day, but he clearly hit rock bottom
lol.
It really was a terrible movie.
Bel Marduk
Banned
Yeah, I didn't really see why everyone liked that movie, it was very boring. Gay cinema has been lacking for a few years now.
You do know they get internet down here right?
I had some time to kill and had been meaning to make a profile/ran out of excuses for myself.
RatskyWatsky
Hunky Nostradamus
Pffft you people and your terrible taste, can't appreciate an art film of that caliber.
Yes, I like Asian cinema that goes nowhere and where nothing happens, except extreme anguish that no one vocalizes.
Every freaking drama from Asia is like that, from "In the mood for love" to "happy together". Hell, if "crouching tiger hidden dragon" had no cool fights it would be the same despair and impossible love. No surprise there that Brokeback was directed by the same guy.
Would be interesting to see something different from the continent but I don't think it exists.
Would be interesting to see something different from the continent but I don't think it exists.
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