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[hawkshockey11]

That's weird Any ideas on why she blocked you to begin with?

My guesses.

-he liked her but she didn't and she was annoyed or something
-she liked him, but he didn't and she was annoyed or something

either way she is crazy

Found someone who she is romantically interested in. The guy feels threatened and wants her to cut contact with you. Later, she and guy break up, she wants you back in her life since the guy is no longer there.

Just one theory - you won't know unless you ask her, which I don't think is such a bad thing.

or this

 

[stn]

Hahah, yeah, she's definitely crazy. I liked her as a friend, had no sexual interest at all. Just figured I'd throw it out there for discussion here since its very recent. And seems to happen to me often.

EDIT: No idea why she blocked me at first. Things were going very normal, mood swing happened suddenly.

 

[Rocket Scientist]

Be friends with girl, things are normal. Suddenly she starts to talk less, blocks me from FB and ignores me. I ignore back. Many many months later and I receive a friend request again on FB.

I already took the liberty of rejecting her friend request and blocking her, but lol...

/end of rant.

Dude, stop friending 15 year olds! Jk, that's hillarious though. Smh people.

 

[Lafiel]

Be friends with girl, things are normal. Suddenly she starts to talk less, blocks me from FB and ignores me. I ignore back. Many many months later and I receive a friend request again on FB.

I already took the liberty of rejecting her friend request and blocking her, but lol...

/end of rant.

Had a weird experience like this recently. I befriended this girl who works at EB games a few months ago - had a few long-ass conversations on facebook, casually chatted to her whenever I saw her at EB games etc, never really flirted or made any signs that I wanted to be more than just a casual acquaintance - but in the past month or two we hadn't really talked and this christmas she all of sudden defriended me on FB!

It would be funny if she started flat-out ignoring me if I ever run into her again. That shit would feel awkward.:lol

 

[electricshake]

Had a weird experience like this recently. I befriended this girl who works at EB games a few months ago - had a few long-ass conversations on facebook, casually chatted to her whenever I saw her at EB games etc, never really flirted or made any signs that I wanted to be more than just a casual acquaintance - but in the past month or two we hadn't really talked and this christmas she all of sudden defriended me on FB!

It would be funny if she started flat-out ignoring me if I ever run into her again. That shit would feel awkward.:lol

Maybe she was interested in you and when you didn't pursue she deleted you.

I've done something similar in the past, twice, although both times I'd hooked up with the guy before adding. One of them I asked out (via fb chat, not my finest moment) and he declined, saying he was busy. He didn't offer to reschedule so I left it at that. He did't initiate any conversation for two weeks after that so I assumed he wasn't interested and deleted him. I don't need any more friends. The other I tried to engage in conversation (again via fb chat) and he was pretty unresponsive so I just gave up. I deleted him so I wouldn't creep on him.

Alternatively she deleted you because she was doing a clear out of people she doesn't really talk to.

 

[Future PhaZe]

So apparently this chick thinks I don't know the game already

I already know I'm one of her better dates/prospects, but she wants to play the field.

I know this because she's talking about missing me, wanting to get together, etc during the time away from each other during holidays. We were supposed to get together tomorrow, so last night I'm talking about getting things together and she texting tone went to undecisive

strike 1


then today I text her pretty early in the morning saying just reconfirm if you're still up for it. No reply for a while, meanwhile I see her logging in and out of the dating website I frequent. Uh huh. I send a second text before I go saying its cool if tonight doesn't work, just let me know. She texts back immediately saying hey sorry I took so long to reply, tonight works.

I'm like ok...shit happens, lets roll tonight

She replies, oh wait, me and my girl got something going that I forgot about it

I don't reply for a while because thats strike 3 immediately no matter the circumstances for me with almost any chick, no matter how bad, flaking never ends well

she eventually sends another text sayin hey nevermind i pushed the thing with my friend to tomorrow we're still on

I'm like nah I'm good...just going to chill a bit today, have fun with your friend.

Like cmon bruh, do you really think I don't know the game already or that I'm dumb?

So inevitably when she finds out dude she's with tonight (and she will go back and tell him she's suddenly available) isn't half of what I am she's going to hit me back tomorrow asking if I'm mad or why I haven't texted.

she aint about dat life

 

[twilitesparklemotion]

So apparently this chick thinks I don't know the game already

I already know I'm one of her better dates/prospects, but she wants to play the field.

I know this because she's talking about missing me, wanting to get together, etc during the time away from each other during holidays. We were supposed to get together tomorrow, so last night I'm talking about getting things together and she texting tone went to undecisive

strike 1


then today I text her pretty early in the morning saying just reconfirm if you're still up for it. No reply for a while, meanwhile I see her logging in and out of the dating website I frequent. Uh huh. I send a second text before I go saying its cool if tonight doesn't work, just let me know. She texts back immediately saying hey sorry I took so long to reply, tonight works.

I'm like ok...shit happens, lets roll tonight

She replies, oh wait, me and my girl got something going that I forgot about it

I don't reply for a while because thats strike 3 immediately no matter the circumstances for me with almost any chick, no matter how bad, flaking never ends well

she eventually sends another text sayin hey nevermind i pushed the thing with my friend to tomorrow we're still on

I'm like nah I'm good...just going to chill a bit today, have fun with your friend.

Like cmon bruh, do you really think I don't know the game already or that I'm dumb?

So inevitably when she finds out dude she's with tonight (and she will go back and tell him she's suddenly available) isn't half of what I am she's going to hit me back tomorrow asking if I'm mad or why I haven't texted.

she aint about dat life

 

[Rocket Scientist]

she aint about dat life

Now I remember why I used to come into this thread.

 

[Lafiel]

Maybe she was interested in you and when you didn't pursue she deleted you.

Seems unlikely since she has a BF already.. and the above theory wouldn't make sense since her BF still has me on FB.

 

[Bam Bam Baklava]

she aint about dat life

Gotta run up in her mouf do

 

[Future PhaZe]

Gotta run up in her mouf do

right

 

[Rocket Scientist]

What was that one famous poster from this thread again, Bdizzle? Is he still around? He was legendary.

 

[mjc]

I've got a second date tonight...I'm actually pretty nervous about it which isn't normal for me. Should be fun though, we're going ice skating.

 

[The_Inquisitor]

Well one of my coffee dates has already escalated from coffee to drinks at a club/bar without even going on the first one. She sent me a photo she took in vegas with one of her dresses. Holy hell...

She's 3 years older than me. First time I have gone with an older woman. Too bad she doesn't come back till January.

 

[kaizoku]

Tonight I saw a really cute girl behind one of the counters at a cinema as I was in the queue and as luck would have it she served me.

I considered asking for her number but then proceeded to screw my order up a bit by giving her a voucher that didn't work, she had to restart the order like 3 times so I didn't bother.

On the way out of the cinema she had finished her shift and was stood at the exit waiting for someone, facing the escalators as I was coming down. I didn't realise who it was at first but I saw this cute girl smile at me, so I looked closer and figured out it was her and attempted a smile back, but by then she had looked away.

Clearly I blew a couple of opportunities here, I was abit spaced out after a couple of drinks and 2 hours watching life of pi which left me stunned.

Anyway does anyone have stories to share of when they hit on someone who was serving them at a till? Successfully or otherwise? Or any general tips you think would be useful in that situation?

And finally I'm actually kinda keen to go back and run into her again to try to make a move, any advice on that idea?

 

[Spinluck]

Officially single.

Me and my gf broke it off on Christmas, been doing long distance for over a year now lol.

We have been texting as "friends" since.

This will be the last time I embark on a ldr ever again. It can work for two people who know what they want. But when there is like back and forth uncertainty that comes and goes. Fuck it. She's a great girl and I hope she finds her someone, she wished the same for me. But this relationship was literally killing me at times, and it just got harder to get on the phone and talk with our conflicting work schedules. I actually thought about getting back on the horse with her again, but thank goodness she instilled in me that we were making the right choice. And that we'd be selfish if we kept going. I will remain friends with her though, she's definitely worth keeping in my life.

Anyways, no more ldr's.

If you're more than 4hrs away, fuck it.

 

[grap3fruitman]

In the end of the day this counts, be yourself and get out of your comfort zone if you really like something.

"Be yourself... but do the complete opposite of what you would normally do." Sound advice!

 

[Minamu]

Opposite George.

 

[Cow Mengde]

So I posted something in the other thread about really sad pathetic profiles online, but it's worth repeating here. It's even more important to ask here since I just watched a few of Brent Smith's videos and I'm even more confused.

See, after a bad break up, I haven't dated in 8 or so years. I personally don't think the bad break up was the reason I've been single for 8 years. For the most part, I just didn't give a shit. In my last trip to the dating thread, I was attracted to a co-worker, but eventually said fuck this because I felt she wasn't worth the trouble. For me to not give a crap is the easiest thing ever. During that time, I thought it's because I didn't give enough of a fuck so I had thought I should change myself -- for the better. After all, self improvement was part of the theme.

Now after the Brent Smith stuff, I'm confused since I have been doing everything he says. I haven't watched all of them, but got the theme of not giving a fuck and being comfortable in your own skin. I should be rolling in pussy right about now, but I'm not. The only thing I don't do is go to bars.

I say this because now I feel like I want to get back into dating, and was worried I'm not giving enough fucks, only for this guy to tell me to not give a fuck. I only watched a handful of them, so maybe there's more to it than what I described, but is it possible to to over do it?

 

[Future PhaZe]

So inevitably when she finds out dude she's with tonight (and she will go back and tell him she's suddenly available) isn't half of what I am she's going to hit me back tomorrow asking if I'm mad or why I haven't texted.

she aint about dat life

so basically I was right, except its coming with a twist

she likes new dude literally "just as much as me" and is confused

And yeah, I think she's a cute girl, and I understand that when you go into the dating scene and you're not locked down, that there's a great possibility that chick is playing the field, which is fine, but this is the first time a chick has actually come at me with that sort of honesty before, and I didn't really know how to react.

She wasn't about that life and said she would sleep on it and I'm doing the same.

I give enough advice to know that I should bail, but it's one of those things that is wayyy easier said than done, and I'm coping with it through GAF. It helps to be realistic about it and put the words to the screen.

On one hand, this shit happens all the time in dating, on the other hand you don't admit it.

Ultimately I'm going to have to let her know hey, good luck with other dude, because there's no way I can hang out with her and know that I'm constantly being judged and compared to, and on the flip side I'll wonder if other dude has gone farther than I have with her.

It's just insane how much honesty changes things.

 

[stn]

Dude, just bail. She can't decide you're her #1 choice. What if she ends up thinking about this other guy even when she chooses you? I always feel that women should make a definitive choice when they like me, I want to be the clear #1 or nothing. I don't know, just me. Follow your gut.

EDIT: Its cool that she's honest. I totally respect that, hence why I'd just let her go in the nicest way possible.

 

[Vermillion]

So I posted something in the other thread about really sad pathetic profiles online, but it's worth repeating here. It's even more important to ask here since I just watched a few of Brent Smith's videos and I'm even more confused.

See, after a bad break up, I haven't dated in 8 or so years. I personally don't think the bad break up was the reason I've been single for 8 years. For the most part, I just didn't give a shit. In my last trip to the dating thread, I was attracted to a co-worker, but eventually said fuck this because I felt she wasn't worth the trouble. For me to not give a crap is the easiest thing ever. During that time, I thought it's because I didn't give enough of a fuck so I had thought I should change myself -- for the better. After all, self improvement was part of the theme.

Now after the Brent Smith stuff, I'm confused since I have been doing everything he says. I haven't watched all of them, but got the theme of not giving a fuck and being comfortable in your own skin. I should be rolling in pussy right about now, but I'm not. The only thing I don't do is go to bars.

I say this because now I feel like I want to get back into dating, and was worried I'm not giving enough fucks, only for this guy to tell me to not give a fuck. I only watched a handful of them, so maybe there's more to it than what I described, but is it possible to to over do it?

There is no formula, varying degrees of success, won't work for everyone.

 

[DominoKid]

Is setteling really going to make you happy or fill a void?

I don't think that's gonna really make you happy. A mod in the girl age topic set it out straight in terms of the reality of that mentality.

I know it's slim pickings due to my hobbies/interests. But I'm just so much happier when I do find someone that's accepting and on the same wavelength.

Ah yes it was Opiate in lady age.

http://www.neogaf.com/forum/showpost.php?p=45309950&postcount=3537

Also: http://www.neogaf.com/forum/showpost.php?p=45311086&postcount=3548

Don't.

I echo the "don'ts". You aren't going to be happy, trust us.

I had chances to settle, but I passed because I know what I want in someone. Then a bit later I did find someone who is making me happy, and that I actually want to be with. I wouldn't have been happy if I settled just for the sake of being in a relationship. And you won't either.

Don't be desperate, man. Just keep trying.

Like I said I expected a lot of don'ts so I'm not surprised. At this point, I'm not even concerned about being happy. Other than my love life (or lack thereof) my I'm pretty happy. I just feel like I've wasted a ton of time so far going for things that are clearly out of my reach based on my experiences. So I'm not trying to waste anymore.

So if that's settling, then I guess I'm settling for now.

I know everyone said don't, so I'll be the only one on the "Do It!" side. Every man has a right to bang women, don't sit around for years waiting for that perfect 10, if your standards are too high or at a level where you're not meeting women, lower them. It's that simple.

It doesn't mean stop improving yourself, but it's easier to improve yourself WHILE you're dating women. It helps you learn what works and what doesn't AND get real-time feedback, instead of waiting forever to try out your new tricks on someone that never comes. Nothing wrong with working yourself up, otherwise you might end up being that lonely, bitter guy who says he's single and has been for the last 20 years because he's "picky". To that guy I always think: Get over yourself, dude.

Basically this is where I'm at with it. What I'm doing hasn't been working, so I guess I have to dial it back. It's not like I've been out there looking for "the one". I'm pretty much looking for "any" at this point. At this point any success would be better than the constant failures I've endured so far. So if I get a pitch high and fast, even if its from a chick I wouldn't normally go for, as long as its not something ridiculous.

I admit it's not the best way to go about it, but it beats being "picky"

 

[Cow Mengde]

There is no formula, varying degrees of success, won't work for everyone.

Of course, there's no magic formula. Just that it seems Minamu is really hung up on the concept and I thought I'd take a look. After seeing it, I'm thinking I might already be doing just that, but much more extreme. At the very least, I want to find a good balance of caring and not being creepy versus not giving a shit to extremely not giving a shit.

I'm not too concerned with getting anyone right now, and more about getting into the right mind set. I do want to find someone. I figured, what the hell, right? Why waste away by myself when I can have fun with someone.

 

[Future PhaZe]

2013 = the year of lowered standards.

it's not like my standards were ever high or unrealistic, but since going after the girls i want clearly hasn't been working, i'm just gonna take what comes my way for the most part even if it's not what i want. you know, get in where you fit in.

i wish i could say i'm thrilled about it but i'm not. and i know yall will probably (definitely) say i'm not doing it right. but it just seems necessary at this point.

Have you dated enough to know what you want? Because the idea of what I wanted at one point and what I found that TRULY made me happy were so completely different that I'm still pretty shocked about it.

Some of the hottest chicks I've been with have just been so HEARTCRUSHING. Some of the girls who had almost my EXACT same interests and likes just didn't work out. Turned out the girl that was so dissimilar to me in almost every way turned out to be a real gem. And while the looks were good enough, they weren't quite up to my standards, but the quality of life between us was never in doubt.

Dude, just bail. She can't decide you're her #1 choice. What if she ends up thinking about this other guy even when she chooses you? I always feel that women should make a definitive choice when they like me, I want to be the clear #1 or nothing. I don't know, just me. Follow your gut.

EDIT: Its cool that she's honest. I totally respect that, hence why I'd just let her go in the nicest way possible.

Absolutely, which is why I'm not freaking out about it and had a calm discussion with her. It's just helpful to be experienced enough at this point to not take the bait like most young guys would do and drag this shit out to a bitter end.

Shits got me real bent though I can't even front. As much advice as I dish out on the random on GAF and elsewhere, I'm not immune to the anxiety that comes with a failed conquest.

And I was fully prepared also. Went into it like hey, if shit don't work, fuck it. But feelings are feelings.

Whatever, shake it off and on to the next one.

 

[DominoKid]

Have you dated enough to know what you want? Because the idea of what I wanted at one point and what I found that TRULY made me happy were so completely different that I'm still pretty shocked about it.

Some of the hottest chicks I've been with have just been so HEARTCRUSHING. Turned out the girl that was so dissimilar to me in almost every way turned out to be a real gem.

Nope and that's part of the problem. Haven't really had the opportunities to do so.
I know what I don't want for sure. But I haven't figured out specifically what I do want.

 

[Arksy]

How would you guys go about getting over love-shyness or difficulties in making a physical move? It's long been a wall for me. Unfortunately I hate to admit it but most of my successes have been from the girl making the first move. It's not really a sustainable method of escalation.

 

[Future PhaZe]

Nope and that's part of the problem. Haven't really had the opportunities to do so.
I know what I don't want for sure. But I haven't figured out specifically what I do want.

One thing you should know is that its going to be almost impossible to find a chick who's almost perfect for you.

Like the girl I was talking about earlier...she really wasn't my type looks wise. In fact I thought she was going to break it off with me because she thought we'd be better off as friends than lovers, but that wasn't the case. She was everything you'd want out of a perfect wife -- attractive, attentive, loyal, calming, good career. That's when I found out that I like a woman with more zest and fire....and was maybe more attractive.

But you can't get ALL of it, there are going to be things that a special someone is missing, but that's when your own self control has to come into play and you have to realize the value of what she does right is. Don't know what you had till its gone, etc, etc.

Sometimes it's the right person but the wrong time also though. If you're dick is at a point where it wants to fuck everything that lives, then it's not going to much matter if you date rich supermodels one after the other or not, you're just at that phase.

It's a complicated gig.

How would you guys go about getting over love-shyness or difficulties in making a physical move? It's long been a wall for me. Unfortunately I hate to admit it but most of my successes have been from the girl making the first move. It's not really a sustainable method of escalation.

In my youth I'd get close, put my fingers to sweep away her hair and if she was okay with that then I'd kiss her. If she reacted a bit weird I'd say "sorry, that was dumb of me" and back off. Sometimes I'd read her wrong and she says, "no, it's fine" and then I can go back in there.

So just try that out.

 

[Minamu]

Cow: He has videos addressing your concern about overdoing it and no, that's practically impossible. In fact, since you mentioned that you should be drowning in pussy by now, that tells me that you still do care too much, not the other way around If you actually were carefree about it, it wouldn't be a problem and you wouldn't have brought it up. If this is used as yet another technique to get women, it won't work as intended. Keep looking, it's rare to have a question go unanswered by some older video to be honest.

 

[Vermillion]

Cow: He has videos addressing your concern about overdoing it and no, that's practically impossible. In fact, since you mentioned that you should be drowning in pussy by now, that tells me that you still do care too much, not the other way around If you actually were carefree about it, it wouldn't be a problem and you wouldn't have brought it up. If this is used as yet another technique to get women, it won't work as intended. Keep looking, it's rare to have a question go unanswered by some older video to be honest.

I was going to say this, but just because he cares now doesn't mean that he cared then.

 

[Cow Mengde]

Cow: He has videos addressing your concern about overdoing it and no, that's practically impossible. In fact, since you mentioned that you should be drowning in pussy by now, that tells me that you still do care too much, not the other way around If you actually were carefree about it, it wouldn't be a problem and you wouldn't have brought it up. If this is used as yet another technique to get women, it won't work as intended. Keep looking, it's rare to have a question go unanswered by some older video to be honest.

I only said that because the video says to not care and women will come to you. I thought that was amusing cause the thought never entered my mind. I went through 8 years without giving this any thought. It's only recently that I've been coming into the Dating threads that, yes, I did care. In that, you are absolutely right. Those 8 years of nothing are gone, and not something I'd dwell on. I figured I might be too extreme.

 

[Minamu]

I only said that because the video says to not care and women will come to you. I thought that was amusing cause the thought never entered my mind. I went through 8 years without giving this any thought. It's only recently that I've been coming into the Dating threads that, yes, I did care. In that, you are absolutely right. Those 8 years of nothing are gone, and not something I'd dwell on. I figured I might be too extreme.

Well alright There's only been a couple of weeks for you with this stuff so that things are going slow is not unexpected. I've had at least 8 years wasted too and I've been following this line of thought since summer 2011 or so. I'm not rolling in pussy either and progress is slow, my subconscious apparently wants it that way. I'm struggling to figure out why and I could probably do a short essay here on why that is. I find it kinda hard too to not care about not sleeping with a new woman every weekend (for example) but I'm also accepting it all and finding pleasure in the journey itself. I like this stuff because prior to it all, I saw no progress being made in life whatsoever and now I do regularly. It might be slow for some obscure reason but it's steady for once.

 

[Protein]

excuse the sloppy writing and possible bad grammar but I've been up for 20 hours straight (work-related crap)


but I've actually met a DECENT girl for a change and it's been a long time. I've tangled with enough promiscuous/crazy women and it's time for something serious. I need someone to e-slap me. Normally I'm a confident guy but the moment I meet this amazing, gorgeous, liberal, educated girl and while I'm in the process of getting to know/date her, I get anxious at times when I go long periods without talking to her, fear of it failing to go anywhere I guess. Then insecurity sets in, ugh. She's the type of girl that likes to take it tremendously slow, takes time to get to know a guy very well, a great thing by all means. Insecurity only hits me when I meet a great girl. I don't consider her out of my league, I think we're a great match for each other by all means, it's just that I need to rid myself of this insecurity, and while I have no good reason to be insecure my jerk brain tends to work against my best interests. I have the bad habit of not being able to follow my own advice, so I must consult someone that can push me in the right direction before I screw this up.

 

[DominoKid]

One thing you should know is that its going to be almost impossible to find a chick who's almost perfect for you.

Like the girl I was talking about earlier...she really wasn't my type looks wise. In fact I thought she was going to break it off with me because she thought we'd be better off as friends than lovers, but that wasn't the case. She was everything you'd want out of a perfect wife -- attractive, attentive, loyal, calming, good career. That's when I found out that I like a woman with more zest and fire....and was maybe more attractive.

But you can't get ALL of it, there are going to be things that a special someone is missing, but that's when your own self control has to come into play and you have to realize the value of what she does right is. Don't know what you had till its gone, etc, etc.

Sometimes it's the right person but the wrong time also though. If you're dick is at a point where it wants to fuck everything that lives, then it's not going to much matter if you date rich supermodels one after the other or not, you're just at that phase.

It's a complicated gig.

I'm too cynical to expect perfection
Plus I know I'm not perfect. Life has taught me that in it's own special way. So I don't expect perfection out of anybody else.
I do think I'm a pretty flexible person as far as personality goes so that should help.

 

[stn]

Cow -

I think the issue is you're viewing Brent Smith's videos as a formula for success. Such a thing does not exist. What you should take from his videos is to adopt a mindset that allows you to achieve fulfillment out of life that goes beyond dating and relationships. That's essentially what he is saying. If you meet girls, for example, he's saying that you should seek to enrich their lives rather than just immediately want to date. He wants people to come to a point where they don't want anything. And I can see the power in that.

I know you know this already but I wanted to say it anyway. So, continue being carefree and don't worry! Things come with time and patience, there's no timeline for this. You could meet someone tomorrow or in twenty years. In the meantime, don't even think about it. Go out and do other things you enjoy doing.

 

[Vermillion]

You know... am I the only one who feels like "don't care" is a very cop-out-y piece of advice? If it works, hey, great, advice worked. If it doesn't? Well clearly you still care. Either way the person can't come back and say it doesn't work.

It's a claim that can only be falsified by a third-party.

 

[AdventureRacing]

Brent Smith gives out pretty much no useful advice and the stuff that is useful is buried under a mountain of irrelevant information.

It seems like most of his advice boils down to just focusing on yourself and having confidence. It would be a lot better if he just got straight to that and specific advice about things you can do instead going on long rants.

 

[NeOak]

Brent Smith gives out pretty much no useful advice and the stuff that is useful is buried under a mountain of irrelevant information.

It seems like most of his advice boils down to just focusing on yourself and having confidence. It would be a lot better if he just got straight to that and specific advice about things you can do instead going on long rants.

No one listens when told that straight up.

 

[Aesius]

How do you guys feel about dating a girl with a history of cheating?

 

[NeOak]

How do you guys feel about dating a girl with a history of cheating?

Expect her to cheat again.

 

[Count Dookkake]

How do you guys feel about dating a girl with a history of cheating?

How do you feel about second-hand load?

 

[Flying Toaster]

How do you guys feel about dating a girl with a history of cheating?

She is going to cheat again. You answered your own question with "history" of cheating.

 

[Anticitizen One]

I'm 28, loosing my hair, have no job and am currently living with my parents. How am I living in the golden years??

 

[Count Dookkake]

I'm 28, loosing my hair, have no job and am currently living with my parents. How am I living in the golden years??

In 10 years you will have less hair and your parents may be dead.

 

[Flying Toaster]

In 10 years you will have less hair and your parents may be dead.

And if they are nice then you will have your own house!

 

[Aesius]

She is going to cheat again. You answered your own question with "history" of cheating.

She cheated in college. We are both mid-20s and have been together for about a year and a half.

I ask because there's a good chance I will be moving across the country with her in six months or so, which I would love to do. Our relationship is great. But that fear of her cheating on me becomes seriously magnified when I think of it happening when I'm thousands of miles from home with no real support structure.

 

[MetalGuardian]

excuse the sloppy writing and possible bad grammar but I've been up for 20 hours straight (work-related crap)


but I've actually met a DECENT girl for a change and it's been a long time. I've tangled with enough promiscuous/crazy women and it's time for something serious. I need someone to e-slap me. Normally I'm a confident guy but the moment I meet this amazing, gorgeous, liberal, educated girl and while I'm in the process of getting to know/date her, I get anxious at times when I go long periods without talking to her, fear of it failing to go anywhere I guess. Then insecurity sets in, ugh. She's the type of girl that likes to take it tremendously slow, takes time to get to know a guy very well, a great thing by all means. Insecurity only hits me when I meet a great girl. I don't consider her out of my league, I think we're a great match for each other by all means, it's just that I need to rid myself of this insecurity, and while I have no good reason to be insecure my jerk brain tends to work against my best interests. I have the bad habit of not being able to follow my own advice, so I must consult someone that can push me in the right direction before I screw this up.

*MOTHERFUCKING E-SLAP!*

I would assume anyone who says they never feel any insecurities whatsoever when it comes to dating and the potential for a new relationship is delusional. It's a natural human emotion, and if you never feel it you've probably crossed the line from "Confident" to "Arrogant and Narcissistic Bastard".

Of course, it ISN'T a bad idea to have defense mechanisms in place early on. Not getting emotionally invested too soon due to the uncertainty of anything happening is how I tend to play it. It is much easier to strategically socialize and maximize the attractiveness you convey if you are more detached from the situation.

Don't over-text her because you are desperate to hear from her. Waiting on texts from the ladies that give you further insight into how she feels about you is difficult, I know. "Why has she not responded yet to the text I sent four hours ago? Why is she texting me less frequently today than she was yesterday? Did I say something that put her off?" All of those thoughts run through my mind in those types of situations, but they don't accomplish anything. I just accept that those lines of thinking are ones I have to deal with, but the logical side of me knows that acting on them will only serve to work to my detriment.

There are of course a myriad of ways to communicate well with a potential lady-friend over text, but that doesn't seem to be the point here. It's not that you don't know what to say, but rather that you are having a difficult time getting a read on her reactions, right?

I don't know the time-frame of how long you two have been talking, and there IS an expiration date where I always speak up and get her intentions clarified if it hasn't been going anywhere for a while, but as of now I would suggest you bide your time and don't convey to her in any way that you are worried she's losing interest.

 

[Flying Toaster]

She cheated in college. We are both mid-20s and have been together for about a year and a half.

I ask because there's a good chance I will be moving across the country with her in six months or so, which I would love to do. Our relationship is great. But that fear of her cheating on me becomes seriously magnified when I think of it happening when I'm thousands of miles from home with no real support structure.

I guess I don't understand, how it will be magnified without a support structure but it is fine now.

You have been together for a year an a half and it seems to not be a problem now. By the time you move it will have been 2 years in on the relationship that is a really long time. If you feel secure enough to move with her then you shouldn't really feel insecure about her cheating on you.

 

[Jhoan]

It's not really related to dating and I wasn't sure where to ask, but a couple of months ago I received a text from a stranger who is presumably a woman. I asked her who it was and never got a reply back.

Fast forward 2.5 months later to today and I received yet another text from this stranger (who keeps calling me "Veeramosu") whose name I don't recognize telling me to add her on Yahoo "so we can talk a bit."

I've tried doing some detective work by searching for the number but no results come out. I feel like I might be getting trolled. Should I play along or tell the person that "she" has the wrong number?

 

[cametall]

It's not really related to dating and I wasn't sure where to ask, but a couple of months ago I received a text from a stranger who is presumably a woman. I asked her who it was and never got a reply back.

Fast forward 2.5 months later to today and I received yet another text from this stranger (who keeps calling me "Veeramosu") whose name I don't recognize telling me to add her on Yahoo "so we can talk a bit."

I've tried doing some detective work by searching for the number but no results come out. I feel like I might be getting trolled. Should I play along or tell the person that "she" has the wrong number?

I got a text like this but referring to me by name, asking me to add her to Yah00 messenger "so we can talk a bit".

Number came from Missouri (a state I've never been to).

It's probably spam.